Parents testing theme. Psychological tests

CARD ROOM:

"QUESTIONS AND TESTS FOR PARENTS".

TRAINER: KABUSTA L.Ya.

MADOUDSKV No. 10

ST. STAROMINSKAYA.

Test: "What kind of parent are you?"

Please mark the phrases that you often use when communicating with children.

Questions	Points
1. How many times should I tell you?
2. Please advise me.
3. I don’t know what I would do without you.
4. And who are you just so ugly ?!
5. What wonderful friends you have!
6. Well, who do you look like?
7. I at your age ...
8. You are my support and helper (tsa).
9. What kind of friends do you have?
10. What are you just thinking about ?!
11. What (what) you are clever!
12. What do you think, sonny (daughter)?
13. Everybody has children, like children, and you ...
14. How smart you are!

The key to the test. Now calculate the total number of points.

5 to 7 points. You live in perfect harmony with your child. You respect the child, and he sincerely loves and respects you. Your relationship builds his personality.

From 8 to 10 points. Some difficulties are outlined in the relationship with the child, misunderstanding of his problems, attempts to transfer the blame for the shortcomings in his development to the child himself.

11 points and above. You are inconsistent with your child. He respects you, although he is not always frank with you. Its development is subject to the influence of random circumstances.

Of course, you understand that this is just a hint of the actual state of affairs, because what kind of parent you are, no one knows better than yourself.

Test to assess the level of anxiety of the child.

Read these statements carefully and rate how they apply to your child. If this manifestation is pronounced, give 2 points; if it occurs periodically - 1 point; if absent - 0 points.

He gets upset easily, worries a lot.
Often cries, whines, cannot calm down for a long time.
Is capricious and annoyed over trifles.
Often he takes offense, sulks, does not tolerate any comments.
There are fits of anger.
Stutters.
She bites her nails.
Sucks on a finger.
Has a poor appetite.
Choosy in food.
Difficulty falling asleep.
He sleeps restlessly.
He gets up reluctantly.
Blinks frequently.

15. Tugs his hand, shoulder, pulls at clothes.

16. Can't concentrate, gets distracted quickly.

17 tries to be quiet.

18. Afraid of the dark.

19 Afraid of loneliness.

20. Afraid of failure, not sure of himself, indecisive.

21. Feels inadequate.

Processing of results

28-42 points - neurosis, a high degree of psychoemotional stress.

20-27 points - neurosis was or will be in the near future.

14-19points - nervous breakdown, medium degree psycho-emotional stress.

7-13 points - a high degree of psycho-emotional stress, the child needs attention.

Less than 7 points - deviations are insignificant and are an expression of age characteristics.

Parents questionnaire

1. In what mood does your daughter (son) go to Kindergarten?

With joyful;

Sometimes he doesn't want to;

Often refuses;

Is naughty;

Your own version (write).

2. What do you see as the reason for the child's reluctance to go to kindergarten?

Difficulties in relations with the teacher;

Difficulty in relationships with peers;

Affection for the mother;

Falling asleep late in the evening;

Your own version.

3. How does your daughter (son) have relationships with adults?

Safely:

With educators;

With an assistant educator;

With a musical director;

With other specialists;

Inappropriate:

Sometimes there are conflicts;

Is offended by adults for being punished, they are not allowed to take toys;

Your own version.

4. With whom of the children of the group does your child communicate most often?

5. Does she talk about her relationship with children at home??

Yes;

Not;

Sometimes.

6 ... Does she complain about her peers?

Yes;

Not;

Sometimes.

7. What is the complaint about?

Children do not take into play;

Offend;

Do not want to be friends;

Take away toys;

They make noise;

Your own version.

8 ... What would you like to change in the relationship between your daughter (son) and peers?

9. Does your child have self-esteem? How does it manifest itself?

10 ... How does your child usually react to aggression from other children, adults (when they yell at him, take away toys, threaten, etc.)?

11. How does your child behave with other children?

Balanced;

Patient;

Sensitive;

Compliant;

Friendly or quick-tempered;

Inclined to command rather than obey;

Your own version.

12. How, in your opinion, does the relationship between children and parents affect the child's communication with peers and adults in kindergarten?

Do they have a direct impact?

Wellbeing family relations- this is a psychological defense, emotional rear of the child, making his life easier in kindergarten;

The essence of family relations is not yet sufficiently clear to the child, therefore ...

QUESTIONNAIRE

"WHAT ARE YOU WAITING FOR FROM KINDERGARTEN THIS YEAR?"

Dear mums and dads, grandmothers and grandfathers!

So you crossed the threshold of our kindergarten. Welcome! We hope that our acquaintance will go to true friendship, and your baby will be comfortable and interesting with us. It is very important for us to know your mood, feelings and expectations from the child's stay in kindergarten. Please answer the following questions:

1. What attracts you the most in our kindergarten (check the one you want)

· Proximity to home;

· Good condition of the territory and material and technical equipment of the groups;

· The presence of a creative, professional teaching staff;

· Good reviews from other parents;

· Interesting programs for the education and development of the child;

· Availability of additional services;

· Good food;

· high level preparation for school;

· What are your answers?

2. What, in your opinion, is the most important thing for the successful adaptation of a child in kindergarten

· good relations educators for the child;

· a large number of toys in a group;

· Good health of the child;

· Observance of the daily routine in kindergarten and at home;

· A unified approach to the adaptation of a child by parents and educators;

· What is your answer?

3. What do you think is important for the educator to know about your child

4. What, in your opinion, should the child learn this year?

5. As parents, what would you like to learn from educators?

7. Do you often draw, play, read at home with your child?

8. What advice on raising and developing a child would you like to receive

9. Which kindergarten activities are you most willing to participate in?

· parenting meetings;

· Expert advice;

· Questioning on various issues;

· Participation in competitions;

· Participation in the preparation of children's parties and entertainment;

· Participation in sports competitions;

· Viewing open classes with children;

· What is your answer?

Thank you for your cooperation!

QUESTIONNAIRE

"BY THE RESULTS OF THE YEAR"

Dear mothers, fathers, grandmothers and grandfathers!

Ended up academic year... The time has come to take stock and make plans for the future. It is very important for us to know your opinion about the work of the kindergarten team with the family in the past year.

1. Are you satisfied with the work of the kindergarten in general?

2. Do the group teachers treat your child well?

3. How does your child attend kindergarten (check the one you want):

· with pleasure;

• attends, but not very willingly;

• does not like going to kindergarten;

· Is often sick, therefore, little attends kindergarten.

4. Did you receive detailed information about the child's life in kindergarten?

5. What activities in kindergarten do you remember the most?

6. What reasons did not allow you to attend all the events?

7. What topics of interest to you have remained untouched by kindergarten teachers this year?

8. What forms of work with your family seemed the most interesting to you (check the one you want):

· Parental meetings;

· Expert advice;

· Questioning;

· open classes;

· Contests;

· Exhibitions;

· Visual information;

· public events;

· Other ____________________________?

9. What would you wish the kindergarten team to improve their work in the future?

Thank you for your answers and look forward to cooperation in the new academic year!

Questionnaire "Features of raising a child in a family,

his inclinations, interests "

At what age does the child attend kindergarten?
What toys, games, materials does the child have?
Who brings up a child more often? ________________________
Does the older generation interfere with education? What do you think about it?_________________________________________________
Does the child (emphasize) have difficulty getting dressed, falling asleep, washing, eating, cleaning toys, and self-service in the toilet? ________
What is the regime in the family (getting up, feeding, walking, sleeping) _________
Are adult family members unanimous in the approach to the child, in what is allowed or prohibited? (unanimous, not always, no), __________________________________________________
What measures of influence are used on the child? (encouragement, punishment, suggestion, reprimand, explanation, reasoning)? ____________________________________________________
Whom does the child obey in the family? (mom, dad, everyone, nobody) ___________________________________________________________
Does the child help around the house? _______________________________
What are the child's favorite games and toys, favorite fairy tales and books, favorite food ____________________________________
What qualities of a child do you especially value? (kindness, sociability, hard work, perseverance, obedience) _________________
Does the child have the following problems: wetting the bed (at night or during the day), biting nails, sucking a finger, etc.? _________________________________________________________
Is religion an important part family traditions? What religion do you follow? ____________________________________________

Revealing the pedagogical culture of parents

Dear _____________________________________________________

Your sincere answers will help you plan your work with parents and establish a system of cooperation. Mark the option that, in your opinion, corresponds to reality.

On the basis of what knowledge do you bring up your child?

A) listen to the teacher on radio and television;

C) use life experience.

What methods in education do you consider the most effective?

a) encouragement;

b) punishment;

c) requirement;

d) coercion.

What types of incentives do you use most often?

a) verbal praise;

b) gifts;

c) affection.

What types of punishment are most effective in education?

a) verbal threat;

b) physical punishment;

c) deprivation of entertainment;

d) the manifestation of your resentment.

Thank you for your cooperation!

Diagnostics of the level of emotional development of the child

Describe the child's normal condition.
Does he cry often?
How long does it stay upset?
What is the child afraid of?
Is it often angry, aggressive?
Does he tire quickly?
Does the child have the following problems: wetting the bed at night, biting his nails, sucking his thumb?
How does the child relate to unfamiliar adults?
How does he relate to children?
How does it feel about animals?
Whom does the child obey in the family?
Does he help around the house?
What qualities of a child do you especially value?
Are adult family members unanimous about the child (what is allowed and what is prohibited)?

Test: "What kind of parent are you?"

It is no secret that the nature of the relationship between parents and a child has a significant impact on his development. Estimate the peculiarities of your communication. Do you often use the following expressions in their meaning?

What a fine fellow you are!
You are capable, you will succeed!
You are unbearable!
All children are like children, but I have….
You are my assistant.
It's always wrong with you.
How many times should I tell you?
How smart you are!
So that I don't see your friends again!
What do you think?
You are completely dismissed!
Introduce me to your friends.
I will definitely help you, don't worry.
I don't care what you want.

Processing of results.If you use expressions 1, 2, 5, 8, 10, 12, 13, then give yourself 1 point. If you use the expressions 3, 4, 6, 7, 9, 11, 14, then you credit yourself 2 points. Count up total amount points.

7-8 points - complete understanding reigns between you and your child. You are not being overly strict.

9-10 points - Your mood in communicating with your child is inconsistent andmore depends on random circumstances.

11-12 points - You are not attentive enough to the child, perhaps often suppress his freedom.

13-14 points - You are too authoritarian. There is often irritation between you and your child. Be more flexible with your child.

Preschool tests
"What do I know about school?"

1.How is the teacher addressed?
2. How to attract attention to yourself if you need to ask about something?
3.What do they say if you need to go to the toilet?
4. What is a lesson?
5. How do you know when to start a lesson?
6. What is change?
7 what is the change for?
8. What is the name of the table at which children write at school?
9. Where does the teacher write when explaining the assignment?
10. What is a mark?
11. Which grades are good and which are bad?
12. What is a school diary?
13. Are children of the same age or different age in the class?
14. What is a vacation?

Answers:

1. By name and patronymic and by you.
2. Silently raise your hand so that you can see it.
3. Raise your hand and say: "Sorry, you can go out"
4. This is the time during which the children learn something new: they listen to the teacher's explanations and the students' answers, do the exercises and do not leave the classroom. Sometimes the word "lesson" is simply called a task.
5. The bell or bell rings, the corridors are empty; children go to classes.
6. A break is a break between lessons.
7. Change is needed so that the children can leave the classroom and rest.
8. Children write at their desks.
9. The teacher writes on the board.
10. A grade is the number by which success is judged - right or wrong, good or bad, the teaching performed the task.
11. A diary is such a notebook where there is a schedule of lessons, children write down the assignment at home, and the teacher puts marks.

"Do I want to go to school?"

1. When I go to school, I will have many new friends.
2. I'm wondering what lessons we will have.
3. Think I'll invite the whole class to my birthday.
4. I would like the lesson to last longer than the break.
5. I wonder what the school offers for lunch?
6. When I go to school, I will study well.
7. The best thing about school life is the vacation.
8.I think there is more fun in school than in kindergarten.
9. I want to go to school, because many children from my house are already studying.
10. If they would have allowed me, I would have gone to study already last year.

Ask your child: "If someone spoke for you, would you agree or not?" - and record his answers. If he agrees with the statement, write down 1 point, if he does not agree - 0 points.

Calculation of results.
1-3 points - The child believes that he lives well without school.
4-8 points - I want to go to school. Let's just clarify. For what? If there are more points in the first five questions, the child basically dreams of new games and friends. If there are more points in the second five questions, then he fully understands the main purpose of the school, and so far it does not arouse disgust.
9-10 points - it's great if your child maintains his attitude towards school for the next 10-11 years.

Parenting tests
"My style of raising a child in a family"

From the three answers for each question, choose the one that is more in line with your parenting behavior.

1. The child is naughty at the table, refuses, eat what he always ate. You:

a) give the child another dish;

b) allow me to leave the table;

c) do not enter from the table until you have eaten everything.

2. Your child, returning from a walk, burst into tears when he found that he had lost his old favorite toy - a teddy bear - in the yard. You:

a) go to the yard and look for a child's toy;

b) be sad with the child about his loss;

c) reassure the child with the words: “do not get upset over trifles”.

3. Your child is watching TV instead of completing the assignment he received in kindergarten. You:

a) without a word, turn off the TV;

b) ask what the child needs to start doing the task;

c) shame the child for lack of assembly.

4. Your child left all toys on the floor without wanting to put them away. You:

a) remove some of the toys in a place inaccessible to the child: “let him get bored without them”;

b) offer your help in cleaning, such as: “I see that you are bored to do it alone ...”, “I have no doubt that your toys obey you ...”;

c) punish the child by depriving them of toys.

5. You came to kindergarten for your child, expecting that he will get dressed quickly, and you will have time to go to the post office, to the pharmacy. But under various pretexts he is distracted from getting home, “wasting” time. You:

a) scold the child, showing your dissatisfaction with his behavior;

b) tell the child that when he behaves this way, you feel irritated and annoyed, perceiving this indifference on his part to your worries, tell him what you expect from him now;

c) you try to dress the child as quickly as possible, somehow distracting from the pranks, not forgetting to be ashamed, so that conscience awakens.

Count which answers are more - a, b, c. Read a summary under each letter.

“B” is a style of upbringing, in which the child's right to personal experience and mistakes is recognized, the emphasis is to teach him to be responsible for himself and his actions.

“B” is the style of upbringing without any special attempts to understand the child, the main methods are censure and punishment.

Test for parents

"Why does your child get sick often?"

Let's try to figure out why your child is so often sick and who should be the first to seek help. You are offered 5 groups of questions (A-D), in each group of 10 questions. For each positive answer, give 1 point, for each negative answer - 0 points.
A.
1. Mom during pregnancy often suffered from acute respiratory infections, she had exacerbations of chronic diseases (pyelonephritis, cystitis, adnexitis, etc.).
2. In the first year of life, the baby was plump, loose.
3. The child began to get sick often even before one year and was under the supervision of a neurologist.
4. The child began to get sick often after he got into the children's collective (nursery, kindergarten, school).
5. The child's lymph nodes often increase in size.
6. The child has a long-term fever (37-37.5 ° C) without signs of acute infectious disease.
7. The child has herpes sores.
8. The child has furunculosis.
9. ARI in a child is often complicated by otitis media, adenoiditis, bronchitis.
10. The child has adenoids, tonsils are enlarged.
B.
1. Some of the child's relatives (mother, father, grandmother, grandfather, brothers, sisters, uncles, aunts) had or have such diseases as bronchial asthma, hay fever (summer cold), atopic dermatitis (neurodermatitis, eczema), signs food and / or drug allergies.
2. During pregnancy and lactation, my mother often consumed honey, nuts, chocolate, oranges, milk and / or took antibiotics.
3. In the first year of life, the baby suffered from exudative-catarrhal diathesis - the skin on his cheeks turned red and peeled.
4. The child sometimes has a rash on the skin (or was earlier).
5. The child has episodes of shortness of breath, attacks of suffocation.
6. The child was repeatedly diagnosed with obstructive bronchitis.
7. The child has a lingering dry paroxysmal cough at night (from 1 to several months).
8. The child is often pale, and black circles appear under the eyes.
9. The child is often sick after the holidays - birthdays, New Years, Easter, etc.
V.
1. The child has adenoids.
2. The child often has sore throats.
3. Acute respiratory illness is usually accompanied by prolonged nasal congestion and runny nose.
4. Acute respiratory infections are sometimes complicated by otitis media (otitis media).
5. The doctor often says that the child has a "loose" throat, enlarged tonsils (even when he is healthy).
6. In the first year of life, the baby was plump, loose.
7. The child's lymph nodes often increase in size.
8. The child has a long-term fever (37-37.5 ° C) without signs of an acute infectious disease.
9. The child has a lingering cough - coughing, mainly during daytime and nighttime sleep.
10. The child has intestinal dysbiosis.
G.
1. Mom had a difficult pregnancy - toxicosis, hypoxia, the threat of termination, various diseases.
2. The mother had a difficult labor - it was too fast or, on the contrary, protracted, an obstetric aid was used (forceps, "squeezing", etc.).
3 The baby did not cry immediately at birth.
4. The child lags behind in his development from peers.
5. The child is too restless, does not sleep well.
6. The child has excessive sweating.
7. A child's skin often changes color - it turns red, turns pale, becomes covered with red spots, blood vessels are clearly visible on it and it resembles marble.
8. His palms and feet are often cold and sometimes bluish.
9. He has high or low blood pressure.
10. A child has a long-term fever (37-37.5 ° C) without signs of an acute infectious disease.
D.
1. You believe that strict discipline develops strong character.
2. You often regret that the child grows and matures, you want him to stay little longer.
3. You consider it your duty to know everything that your child thinks about, and he should not have secrets from his parents.
4. Your child does not have any hobbies (attending circles at the insistence of parents does not count).
5. You always try to help your child and keep away from everyday problems.
6. You think that in order to raise a child as a decent person, he should be kept within strict limits.
7. During illness, you are especially attentive to the child, but the same cannot be said about the time when he is healthy.
8. You consider your child immature, not independent and not very capable.
9. Your child very rarely plays (with toys, peers), rarely draws not according to the teacher's instructions, but according to on their own... You are not happy when he is messing around.
10. You often say the phrase "You are always sick (catching a cold)!"
results .
If you typed from 3 to 10 points answering questions from group A , v frequent illnesses your child's immune system is most likely to blame. Therefore, you will need:

consultation with an immunologist
special study of the immune system - immunogram
if necessary - carrying out immunocorrection

Answering questions group B - your child is prone to allergic reactions. Often, allergic respiratory diseases pass under the guise of "frequent acute respiratory infections". Your child needs:

consultation with an allergist, special regimen and diet, limiting contact with allergens
planned step-by-step treatment of the underlying disease.

If you scored from 3 to 10 points answering questions group B , frequent respiratory diseases of the child may be associated with chronic diseases of the upper respiratory tract (tonsillitis, adenoiditis). This can be both an independent cause of frequent acute respiratory infections, and a consequence of immunological insufficiency, therefore, it is necessary:

consultation of an ENT doctor,
consultation with an immunologist,
treatment of the underlying disease and, if necessary, immunocorrection.

If you dialed from 3 to 10 points answering questions group D , a disease of the nervous system cannot be ruled out in your child. It can often get sick because the nervous and immune systems are very closely related. In addition, children with pathology of the autonomic nervous system are often characterized by increased sweating, which leads to rapid hypothermia and, as a result, colds. Required:

joint supervision of a neurologist and immunologist
rational clothing and adherence to the daily routine
hardening

If you scored from 3 to 10 points answering questions group D , your child most likely has serious psychological problems. Frequent acute respiratory infections can be "beneficial" to the child, for example, by making it possible to receive parental attention, which he is deprived of. Diseases of the baby may also be "needed" by the parents - if they allow them to unite, to get some advantages. Moreover, neither adults nor children are most often unaware of what is happening. The tendency to respiratory diseases can be aggravated by the model of upbringing in the family that is unfavorable for the child's development. Required:

exclusion of diseases of the immune and nervous systems, ENT organs
consultation with a psychologist.

Perhaps you scored 3-10 points in several questionnaires at once. This is not surprising, because most children who are often and for a long time have problems with the immune system, and with the nervous and ENT organs suffer, etc. Therefore, to begin with, select the questionnaire in which the maximum number of points is counted and start with the specialist who, in our opinion, is the "main" in this section. Solve problems gradually and don't try to do everything all at once.
If you scored an equal number of points in several questionnaires, make an appointment with several specialists. Anyway, someone will accept you first, someone will like you more, etc. In any case, choose a leading doctor, because popular wisdom is right: even seven nannies have a child without an eye. There must be a person who makes the most important decisions, directs all actions and directs them in the right direction. By the way, they can be your local pediatrician.

Encouragement and punishment in the upbringing of children.

Dear Parents! We ask you to answer the questions about the use of measures of encouragement and punishment in the upbringing of children. Your sincere answers will help you prepare a meaningful and interesting conversation.

1 Does your child listen to you?

2 Should punishment be used in education ?.

3How do you enforce the order?

4 For what and how do you punish the child?

5 For what and how do you encourage?

6 What punishments and rewards were applied to the child

the last two weeks?

The following points give you the opportunity to answer with the words "yes" and "no".

A) When a child is guilty, I talk to him in private, do not sort things out

in front of strangers.

B) I empathize, sympathize with my child, forgive, believe in him.

C) I never shouted or punished the child.

D) I do not leave any offense unpunished.

D) The only thing that affects my child is severe punishment.

E) If only possible, I try not to punish.

G) I praise the child for every success in private and in front of strangers.

H) If I'm in good mood I can forgive what at another time

would punish.

I) It often happens like this: I will punish, and the husband (wife) is reproached for excessive

Severity is both forgiving and comforting.

K) I make a decision on punishment only after I calm down and

find out the position of the child.

Is your child ready to go to school?

As a rule, parents of future first-graders are concerned about many questions: whether their child will be able to study at school, whether he is sufficiently developed that he should be able to on the eve of entering school.

With this test, you can fairly objectively assess your child's readiness for school. Answer the questions "YES" or "NO".

1. How often does your kid declare his desire to go to school?

2. Is your child more attracted to the attributes of the school (portfolio, books, new "adult" position) than the opportunity to learn more and learn a lot?

3. Do you think that your child is quite assiduous and attentive when performing a task that is not too attractive for him?

4. Is your child sociable with both children and adults?

5. Are you not sure if your baby is able to remember well and carry out a verbal assignment (for example, by phone)?

6. Your child cannot be alone for a minute and do something on his own?

7. Your child's toys and personal belongings are always in disarray and are you tired of reminding him to put them away?

9. Can your child compare numbers and objects?

10. Is your baby able to add and subtract within twenty?

Is your child ready to write?

Teaching a child to write beautifully and correctly is not an easy task. Long before school, parents should engage in the development and training of the child's hand, make it dexterous and confident. The questions in this test will help you assess your child's writing skills.

1. Does your child know well where is left and where is right?

a) always;

b) from time to time;

c) cannot remember in any way.

2. How does your kid feel about the offer to draw?

a) reluctantly, but starting, will get carried away;

b) with great pleasure;

c) with a statement: "I won't succeed" and categorically refuses.

3. Your child's drawings are different:

a) the presence of trembling, broken lines, negligence;

b) originality, some sweepingness;

c) the accuracy and clarity of the lines.

4. When drawing with a ballpoint pen, you notice that the child:

a) holds her like an adult;

b) his hand is tense or trembling, the handle constantly slips out;

c) holds it in an unusual way, draws confidently.

Is your child ready to read?

The sooner a child acquires the ability to read consciously at school, the more successfully he will learn. Learning to read the baby is necessary without coercion. The ability to read does not arise from scratch, it is preceded by a number of other abilities. It is this test that can assess your child's readiness to read.

1. Does your kid love fairy tales and stories?

2. Is the child able to retell them?

3. Does the child have a desire to look at books on their own?

4. Your child is more interested in the content of the fairy tale than in the pictures

in the book?

5. Does your kid know letters, does he ask you to teach him to read?

6. Does he imitate reading aloud like an adult?

7. Are he interested in books of a cognitive nature (about animals, ships, countries)?

8. Is your child attentive during your reading to him?

9. Your child has good vocabulary and is quite successful

does he use it?

11. Does he understand the meaning of most difficult words?

12. Is reading pleasure for him?

13. Having mastered letters and words, he tries to read on his own?

14. Does your baby have speech therapy problems?

15. Is your baby good at distinguishing similar sounds?

16. In conversation, does he operate with detailed, not monosyllabic sentences? 17. Is your child able to retell what he has read or heard?

18. Does your baby know a lot of poems and songs?

If the sum of the points was: 13-18 points, then your child is completely ready to read school. He is interested not only in the ability to read "like adults", but also in the opportunity to learn on his own a lot of useful and entertaining from books. 9-12 points indicate the average ability of your child to read. Perhaps his interest in books is situational, unstable. The child is in no hurry to learn to read. Less than 9 points means it's time to sound the alarm, because your baby is almost at school. Get him interested in interesting books

Test "What kind of parent are you?"

"How do you feel about raising your child?", "Do you have enough patience, attention, desire, time for him?" this is an equally cognitive test for parents.

1. Does your child have a playroom?

Yes - 5 points

2. Do you pay attention to your child every day?

Yes - 5 points

3. Are you patient when he is naughty, does not eat well?

Always - 5 points

Sometimes - 3.

Never -1.

4. Do you know how to forgive your child's pranks?

Yes - 5 points

Sometimes - 3.

Never - 1.

5. Do you use corporal punishment?

Yes, often - 1 point

Sometimes - 3.

Fundamentally no - 5.

6. Would you like your child to share everything with you?

Yes - 5 points

Sometimes - 3.

I don’t want - 5.

7. Is your child obedient?

Always - 5 points

Sometimes - 3.

8. If you prohibit a child, explain to him the reason for the prohibition?

Yes, always - 5 points

Sometimes - 3.

9. Do you require your child to fulfill all the responsibilities that you think he should perform?

Always - 5 points

Sometimes - 1.

10. Do you follow the special pedagogical literature?

Yes - 5 points

Sometimes - 3.

Now, calculate your scores:

10 to 23 points

You are probably raising your children wrong. And the less you scored points, the more it manifests itself. If you do not fundamentally change the methods of your upbringing in the near future, it may well happen that your child will grieve, constantly grieve you, or withdraw into himself.

24 to 37 points

Your views on parenting are mostly correct. However, you probably need to take good care of your baby all the time. Otherwise, you will end up having problems with your children.

38 to 50 points

You deserve a lot of gratitude, recognition as a capable educator. You have enough patience, perseverance and love for the child. Is it so important!

Test "Who does your child think you are?"

The relationship between fathers and children is a perennial problem passed down from generation to generation. Why do some families reign peace and mutual understanding, while in others children and parents do not stop swearing? Who does your child think you are?

Try to figure it out with a test.

1. If a child gets a deuce at school, what are your actions?

Give a good spanking, make you sit at home and cram - 2;

I will help the child understand and learn a lesson - 3;

Got a deuce, and get a three. It's okay - 1;

I'll go to school and give the teachers a hack - 4.

2. If a child takes money without asking and spends everything, what will you do?

I'll skin him off! - 2;

I will have a conversation, I will try to explain everything - 3;

Let him take, for him I work - 4;

My money is not lying around anywhere - 1.

3. How much time per day do you spend with your child?

The required minimum is 2;

Day and night! - 4;

Everything free time! - 3;

I have no extra time for communication - 1.

4. Did you read books to your child in childhood before going to bed?

Systematically - 3;

Occasionally - 1;

Never, read spouse - 0;

There is no need for a child to stuff his head with all sorts of nonsense before going to bed - 2.

5. How does your family spend their summer holidays??

Dad - to the west, mom - to the south, children - to the camp! - one;

We always try together: at home, on hikes, and at sea - 3;

We send children to visit relatives or to a camp - 2;

Where the child wishes, he will go there - 4.

6. How often do you give advice to children?

Every minute - 2;

God forbid to advise. Children themselves know everything - 4;

If necessary - 3;

I advise everyone never to advise anyone - 1.

7. After a quarrel with a child, who is the first to go to reconciliation?

The one who is the first to realize that he is wrong - 3;

Nobody ever - 1;

Of course, a child should, because he is younger - 2;

Always me, sorry for the child! - 4.

8. Does your child trust you with their secrets?

In moments of revelation - yes - 3;

I learn all the secrets from neighbors and acquaintances - 4;

I don't need his secrets - 1;

Will not go anywhere, I will squeeze - like a nice little one will trust - 2.

9. Do you try to fulfill all your child's wishes?

Of course, every single one - 4;

Yes, if funds and time permit - 3;

Desires - yes, whims - no - 2;

Children must fulfill the wishes of their parents - 1.

10. Are you able to transfer your child for a long period (more than a month) for upbringing to a government institution or relatives?

Only if the circumstances force - 3;

This is exactly what I do - 2;

In no case - 4;

Let him live where he wants - 1.

Mark your answers and calculate the total of the points received.

10 to 15

You are Indifferent. You see children as a by-product of your life, an unfortunate makeweight that has fallen out of nowhere. The slogan "I want to live for myself!" is the starting point in building your relationship with your child. You live your life in which there is no place for a child. Your cool attitude towards the child does not create a reciprocal feeling of attachment in him. Every year you move further and further from each other. Everyday meetings do not bring warmth and joy from communication. Material is the only thing that still binds you. After the isolation of this part of life, the final break of the fragile connecting thread will occur, and, presumably, your meetings will become mutually unwanted.

16 to 25

You are a Despot. You are fully confident that you are the head of the family. And therefore, the child must certainly listen to you and unquestioningly fulfill all your requirements. Your judgment is the ultimate truth. The child's opinion, his interests and problems are of little interest to you. You have a clear plan of action for raising and educating your child. The child's resistance to your violent pressure only adds fuel to the fire. Unable to resist, the child tries to move away from the constant conflict, withdrawing into himself and silently listening to the moralizing of the frantic parent. It is possible that in the future, having escaped from your vigilant supervision, the "novice" will do the opposite of what you have tirelessly taught him for many years. Just! In spite ...

26 to 34

You are a Friend. You have a trusting relationship with your child. You are aware of all his little misfortunes and joys. The child considers you to be the closest friend and tries not to upset you with either word or action. But if this happens, then you quickly find ways of reconciliation, and the conflict does not turn into a protracted civil war. You are confident in your child's actions and are able to predict his behavior in a given situation. The child sees in you reliable support and protection. You talk to each other on equal terms, without going over to primitive familiarity. You are demanding and moderately strict with your child. Your relationship is built on mutual respect.

35 to 40. You are a Servant. Your child is overtly pushing you around. At your own request, you entered into his service, indulging from an early age to all his whims. Growing up, he more and more often ceases to reckon with your opinion. In despair, you think: "What happened to my affectionate baby before?" You do not even realize that he simply took the philosophical position of Ptolemy and frankly believes that the whole Universe revolves around him. There is still the moment ahead when Copernicus will come and explain the structure of the universe, turning the consciousness of your pupil from head to foot. Will it only help? Who knows ...

Test "Are you up to the job of caregivers?"

How often do we think about whether we are good parents for our children and whether we are coping with our responsibilities as educators? Test yourself by answering the questions: "yes", "no", "sometimes".

For each answer "yes" 2 points are awarded, for the answer "sometimes" - 1 point and for a negative one - 0.

1. Do you follow magazine articles, TV and radio programs on parenting? Do you read books on this topic from time to time?

2. Your child has committed an offense. Do you wonder if his behavior is the result of your upbringing?

3. Are you and your spouse unanimous in raising children?

4. If the child offers you his help, will you accept it, even if the case may be delayed, or even stop altogether?

5. Do you only use a form of prohibition or order when it is really necessary?

6. Do you think that consistency is one of the main pedagogical principles?

7. Do you realize that the child's environment has a significant impact on him?

8. Do you recognize that sports and physical education are of great importance for the harmonious development of a child?

9. Will you be able not to order, ask your child for something?

10. Is it unpleasant for you to "get rid of" the child with a phrase like: "I don't have time" or "Wait until I finish work"?

Results:

Less than 6 points

You have a rather vague idea of real upbringing. You should take your time to improve your education in this area.

7 to 14 points

You do not make major mistakes in upbringing, but nevertheless you should think about something over yourself and your results in this area. And you can start by devoting the next day off completely to children, forgetting friends and production problems.

More than 15 points

You are doing quite well with your parenting responsibilities. And, nevertheless, will it be possible to improve something else?

Test "Boys and girls?"

A source:"Differential psychophysiology of men and women"

This test reveals some of our prejudices in the approach to parenting boys and girls. Each parent or teacher can use it to check how correct his ideas about upbringing are. The proposed 20 questions must be answered "yes" (if you agree with this statement) or "no" (if you have a different opinion). "

Questionnaire text:

1. Girls are more obedient than boys.

2. Girls have a better relationship with nature.

3. Boys are better able to appreciate a difficult situation and think more logically.

4. Boys are more eager to excel.

5. Boys are more gifted in mathematics.

6. Girls are more sensitive to the atmosphere in which they live, they endure pain and suffering harder.

7. Girls are better at expressing their thoughts.

8. Boys have better visual memory, and girls have better auditory memory.

9. Boys are better oriented in space.

10. Boys are more aggressive.

11. Girls are less active.

12. Girls are more sociable, prefer a large company, rather than a narrow circle of friends.

13. Girls are more affectionate.

14. Girls are more easily influenced by others.

15. Boys are more adventurous.

16. Girls are more cowardly.

17. Girls are more likely to suffer from an inferiority complex.

18. Girls are less likely to compete with each other.

19. It is more important for boys to declare themselves, to demonstrate their abilities.

20. Boys are more prone to creative work, while girls are better at coping with monotonous work.

Right answers:

1.In early childhood girls are really more obedient.

2. So far nothing has been established that would give reason to assert: girls by their nature are more inclined to take care of sick and weak animals and plants. Is that at the age of 6-9 years.

3. It is not. Girls can solve complex problems (problems) as well as boys.

4. Up to 10-12 years old girls develop faster (and therefore sometimes strive to stand out, to differ from their peers). But later girls are more focused, they think more about the future than boys.

5. Girls and boys are equally gifted, it all depends on how we orientate them, although it is believed that in mathematics, boys are better. But when we get rid of this prejudice, we will not notice much difference.

6. On the contrary, boys are more easily influenced by their environment and therefore experience greater separation from their parents. Boys are more sensitive to pain, suffering. They only superficially pretend that they are not in pain, because from the very beginning they are taught that a man should not cry.

7. Up to 10-13 years, the difference is insignificant, then in most cases girls in oral and written form express their thoughts more clearly than boys.

8. Studies have shown that this ability is the same in boys and girls throughout life. If there is a difference, it is only an individual one.

9. Before the onset of puberty, there is no difference, after that boys are better oriented in space. The difference has grown over the years. Exceptions only prove the rules.

10. Boys become aggressive at a very early age, at 2-3 years old, when their personality begins to form.

11. The difference in the activity of boys and girls has not been established. Only in childhood do boys show it more noisily and obviously (in fights, for example). At the same time, the girls are not so noisy, but no less purposeful.

12. On the contrary, girls prefer one or no more than two girlfriends, rather than a large company. This is why it is the boys who gather in larger groups. This situation persists even when they grow up, which is why boys are more inclined to group games.

13. Up to a certain age, there is no difference between boys and girls, and boys at a certain period require affectionate treatment.

14. On the contrary, boys tend to take "on trust" the opinion of the company more likely, and this must be borne in mind when raising them. Girls usually hold their own.

15. In this capacity, up to a certain age, there is no difference between boys and girls. Later, girls become more intelligent and active. And during puberty, they are inferior in this to young men. Perhaps deliberately.

16. Girls are not really as cowardly as many people think. In fact, they can be stronger and more determined than boys, it is easier to overcome fear.

17. No more boys. Girls are better "armed" in relation to difficult everyday situations, they are able to quickly adapt. In most cases, they are more self-reliant.

18. In this respect, no one has an advantage. It all depends on the personality. Both boys and girls can compete and "measure their strength" with each other.

19. No. Boys are easier to obey strong personalities and companies of their peers, while girls are more likely to stand their ground. They are more self-confident.

20. There is no difference between boys and girls. Someone has more creativity, some have less, gender doesn't matter here.

So, after answering the test questions, you determined how much your ideas about the difference between raising girls and boys coincide with the opinion of a psychologist. Probably everyone is convinced that he is right. But consider only that child psychologist for many years of work there was much more opportunity to study the younger generation.

Test: "What kind of parent are you?"

Please mark the phrases that you often use when communicating with children.

Questions
1. How many times should I tell you?
2. Please advise me.
3. I don’t know what I would do without you.
4. And who are you just so ugly ?!
5. What wonderful friends you have!
6. Well, who do you look like?
7. I AM at your age ...
8. You are my support and helper (tsa).
9. What kind of friends do you have?
10. What are you just thinking about ?!
11. What (what) you are clever!
12. What do you think, sonny (daughter)?
13. Everybody has children, like children, and you ...
14. How smart you are!

The key to the test. Now calculate the total number of points.

5 to 7 points. You live in perfect harmony with your child. You respect the child, and he sincerely loves and respects you. Your relationship builds his personality.

From 8 to 10 points. Some difficulties are outlined in the relationship with the child, misunderstanding of his problems, attempts to transfer the blame for the shortcomings in his development to the child himself.

11 points and above. You are inconsistent with your child. He respects you, although he is not always frank with you. Its development is subject to the influence of random circumstances.

Of course, you understand that this is just a hint of the actual state of affairs, because what kind of parent you are, no one knows better than yourself.

Test game: "What kind of parent are you?"

Dear mums and dads! Who doesn't want an answer to the question: "What kind of parent are you?" That is why we offer you a test game. Mark those questions and phrases that you often use when communicating with children.

Evaluation of results

Calculate the total number of points. If you typed5-7 points , which means that you live with your child in perfect harmony. He sincerely loves and respects you, your relationship contributes to the formation of his personality.

Points total from 8 to 10 testifies to the emerging difficulties in the relationship with the child, a lack of understanding of his problems, attempts to transfer the blame for the shortcomings in his development to the child himself.

11 points and above - You are inconsistent in communicating with your child, his development is influenced by random circumstances. It is worth considering this!

Test "Who does your child think you are?"

Try to figure it out with a test.

1. If a child gets a deuce at school, what are your actions?
- give a good spanking, make you sit at home and cram - 2;
- I will help the child understand and learn a lesson - 3;
- got a deuce, will receive a three. It's okay - 1;
- I'll go to school and give the teachers a hack - 4.

2. If a child takes money without asking and spends everything, what will you do?
- I'll skin him off! - 2;
- I will have a conversation, I will try to explain everything - 3;
- let him take, for him and work - 4;
- my money is not lying around - 1.

3. How much time per day do you spend with your child?
- the required minimum is 2;
- day and night! - 4;
- all free time! - 3;
- I have no extra time for communication - 1.

4. Did you read books to your child in childhood before going to bed?
- systematically - 3;
- occasionally - 1;
- never, read spouse - 0;
- there is no need for a child to stuff his head with all sorts of nonsense before going to bed - 2.

5. How does your family spend their summer holidays?
- dad - to the west, mom - to the south, children - to the camp! - one;
- we always try together: at home, and on hikes, and at sea - 3;
- we send children to visit relatives or to a camp - 2;
- where the child wishes, he will go there - 4.

6. How often do you give advice to children?
- every minute - 2;
- God forbid advise. Children themselves know everything - 4;
- if necessary - 3;
- I advise everyone never to advise anyone - 1.

7. After a quarrel with a child, who is the first to go to reconciliation?
- the one who is the first to realize that he is wrong - 3;
- nobody and never - 1;
- of course, the child must, because he is younger - 2;
- always me, sorry for the child! - 4.

8. Does your child trust you with their secrets?
- in moments of revelations - yes - 3;
- I learn all the secrets from neighbors and acquaintances - 4;
- I don't need his secrets - 1;
- will not go anywhere, I will squeeze - how cute will trust - 2.

9. Do you try to fulfill all your child's wishes?
- of course, every single one - 4;
- yes, if money and time allow - 3;
- desires - yes, whims - no - 2;
- children must fulfill the wishes of their parents - 1.

10. Are you able to transfer your child for a long period (more than a month) for upbringing to a government institution or relatives?
- only if the circumstances compel - 3;
- that's exactly what I'm doing - 2;
- in no case - 4;
- let him live where he wants - 1.

Mark your answers and calculate the total of the points received .

10 to 15. You are Indifferent. You see children as a by-product of your life, an unfortunate makeweight that has fallen out of nowhere. The slogan "I want to live for myself!" is the starting point in building your relationship with your child. You live your life in which there is no place for a child. Your cool attitude towards the child does not create a reciprocal feeling of attachment in him. Every year you move further and further from each other. Everyday meetings do not bring warmth and joy from communication. Material is the only thing that still binds you. After the isolation of this part of life, the final break of the fragile connecting thread will occur, and, presumably, your meetings will become mutually unwanted.

16 to 25... You are a Despot. You are fully confident that you are the head of the family. And therefore, the child must certainly listen to you and unquestioningly fulfill all your requirements. Your judgment is the ultimate truth. The child's opinion, interests and problems are of little interest to you. You have a clear plan of action for raising and educating your child. The child's resistance to your violent pressure only adds fuel to the fire. Unable to resist, the child tries to move away from the constant conflict, withdrawing into himself and silently listening to the moralizing of the frantic parent. It is possible that in the future, having escaped from your vigilant supervision, the "novice" will do the opposite of what you have tirelessly taught him for many years. Just! In spite ...

26 to 34. You are a Friend. You have a trusting relationship with your child. You are aware of all his little misfortunes and joys. The child considers you to be the closest friend and tries not to upset you with either word or action. But if this happens, then you quickly find ways of reconciliation, and the conflict does not turn into a protracted civil war. You are confident in your child's actions and are able to predict his behavior in a given situation. The child sees in you reliable support and protection. You talk to each other on equal terms, without going over to primitive familiarity. You are demanding and moderately strict with your child. Your relationship is built on mutual respect.

Test "Boys and girls?"

1. Girls are more obedient than boys.

2. Girls have a better relationship with nature.

3. Boys are better able to appreciate a difficult situation and think more logically.

4. Boys are more eager to excel.

5. Boys are more gifted in mathematics.

6. Girls are more sensitive to the atmosphere in which they live, they endure pain and suffering harder.

7. Girls are better at expressing their thoughts.

8. Boys have better visual memory, and girls have better auditory memory.

9. Boys are better oriented in space.

10. Boys are more aggressive.

11. Girls are less active.

12. Girls are more sociable, prefer a large company, rather than a narrow circle of friends.

13. Girls are more affectionate.

14. Girls are more easily influenced by others.

15. Boys are more adventurous.

16. Girls are more cowardly.

17. Girls are more likely to suffer from an inferiority complex.

18. Girls are less likely to compete with each other.

19. It is more important for boys to declare themselves, to demonstrate their abilities.

20. Boys are more inclined to creative work, while girls are better at coping with monotonous work.

Right answers

1. In early childhood, girls are indeed more obedient.