- This is the meaning of our life, the driving force that makes us set goals and reach them. That for which we become better, improving and developing, these are people who love us and whom we love. Why is sometimes the relationship inside the family develop so not easy?

Most likely, the reason is that we, consciously or not, ignore such a concept as a family etiquette. Despite the fact that at school, each of us was the subject of "Family Life Ethics", hardly anyone made something useful for themselves from these funny and "not important" lessons. Only with age and experience you realize that without some moral principles, values \u200b\u200band elementary ethics, it is very difficult to get along in one territory to several people, especially if these people belong to different generations and between them lies the abyss of interpoven misunderstanding. Let's, being in a conscious age, in the right mind and a solid memory will repeat what they perceived as the demagogy of boring teachers, namely, the rules of the family etiquette.

1. In the first place

Without respect, no coexistence of people is impossible. Such simple postulates: respect the opinion of another person, loyally treat habits, take into account the tastes and comply with the personal space of all family members, seem to be unnecessary? If only these few points, conflict situations will become somewhat less. It is so easy to be polite, tactful, attentive and caring with outsiders, but for some reason we forget that all this is, first of all, it is necessary to our households, especially the older generation. For some reason, it comes out of fashion the respect of the elders, obedience to them. We are less and less listening to the elderly, neglecting their life experience and their wisdom. But perhaps, it is one of the main reasons for the increase in the decay of marriages. Cutout, as the most important component of the family etiquette, makes it possible to improve mutual understanding, simplifies the joint residence of all family members. Is not simple rules behavior, and - the experience and wisdom of many generations.

2. Do not bring sorny from

Spouse and spouse are obliged to solve their problems themselves. In no cases should complain to parents. And parents, in turn, should not interfere in the personal life of their children. It should be understood that negative and distrust destroys the family - it brings a lot of pain and suffering to all family members. Also, it is also not appropriate to endure unauthorized persons with purely family questions and problems. In this case, it is necessary to remember that relatives and close sincerely wish you happiness and act only from the best motives.

3. Autonomy young family

Psychologists believe that it is better to educate children if three generations live in one house: grandparents, dads and moms, children. But young parents seek by all means to independently and autonomy, which is not surprising, because the mother-in-law and mother-in-law should be patient and be more restrained in their good intentions and councils. And how often did you meet quiet and modest mother-in-law or anything interfering in anything? This is a rarity, often grandparents are trying to control the life of a young family and involuntarily disturb the harmony of the Union. But this is precisely those women in the family who wiser and more experienced. Wishing the family of happiness and prosperity, they must maintain neutrality, without taking the side of the daughter or the Son. Remember, the happiness of your child's family is his personal happiness and joy.

4. Electric courtesy

Comfort in the family is created by elementary respect and care. We should not forget about the simple words, such as "Thank you", "please", etc. We remember about respect for the elders and constantly express it verbally and in behavior. Do not forget what matters and value for other members of your family, even if it is extremely small for you. Do not break the personal space. After all, for a person it can be very painful and psychologically difficult. The same applies to children. Many parents destroyed and continue to destroy the personal space of the child, believing that they were entitled to act in this way, as they were engaged in their education. But such disrespects can cause many unwanted consequences in the formation of the nature and moral norms of a person.

5. Forbidden - Fight!

No need to discuss other family members, or friends and acquaintances in the presence of children. In no case is unacceptable so that the child witnesses the Sor and the scandals of his loved ones. This is not only a bad example, but also the destruction of fragile nursery psyche. If parents demand something from the child, they themselves must be immaculately executed. Only on your personal example, the child understands the importance and significance of what adults require it.

6. Children's education is self-education

A older people must follow themselves and think about every step and every word, as they serve as an example for younger. Do not think that the obstacle dismounts will remain unnoticed for children's ears. Children like a sponge - they absorb all that they surround them. It is useless to tell them about how to behave. You just need to behave as you want your children. It is not easy, but this is an integral part of the upbringing. We continue to learn and improve throughout your life. And we teach each other exactly. We are teachers, and we are students.

7.The unity

The main rule of the family etiquette is the family of most important. And all decisions that directly or indirectly concern other family members are accepted together. If the family has a problem related to children, for example, financial difficulties that entail a reduction in budget for entertainment or refusal of some circles and sections, it must be discussed in the presence of children. Children should and have the right to know about the difficulties with whom they have to face their parents, so they study sympathy and self-protection. Rise up in your children and in every way to support the idea of \u200b\u200bthe generality and unity of your cell of society. This is a pledge of a strong and happy family.

In the XIX century It was believed that the husband should be the chapter, and the wife is a soul at home. But that this principle also acted currently, it is necessary to know and comply with the basic rules of the family etiquette, and not only wives, but also their husbands, children, as well as respected senior family members: mother-in-law, test, mother-in-law and mother-in-law.

1. Respect the habits and tastes not only of their half, but also the people around you.

2. Do not protrude your "I" and not be neglectful to your loved ones.

3. Do not condemn your friends and acquaintances.

4. Observe the secret of correspondence. This concerns not only spouses. Parents also should not read the letters of children without their consent. If the letter is obtained from relatives or from common acquaintances, then you need to inform all family members.

5. Do not rummage in your pockets, my purse, your portfolio of your loved ones.

6. Do not forget after eating to say "Thank you", and if you need to get up because of the table before others, then ask permission.

7. Touch the closed door of the room in which one you need to contact.

Daughter-in-law and mother-in-law

Where young people live with her husband's parents, the danger of conflicts is always more. A young mistress introduces a different way of doing a household that no mother-in-law. Newlyweds still not everything can, often mistaken and, naturally, very painfully perceives the comments of the experienced hostess. In such a situation, her husband should not be in the position of the arbitration judge (his husband and son himself, he is not suitable for such a role), but always protect his wife, even in cases where he sees that his mother's rights, not a wife. Husband must support her faith in his wife, help her overcome temporary difficulties and inspire a feeling of calm and satisfaction.

No son, even the most independent, is absolutely independent of the mother. He will never tell her exactly that he offends her or hesitated her like a preference to a young wife. But if he certainly falls on the side of his wife, he needs, remaining alone with his mother, explain to her the motives of his behavior.

But the sensible behavior of the husband is not yet a guarantee of solving all possible problems. The success of the case depends in many respects from the daughter-in-law, which, unfortunately, it is often unjust to her husband's mother. She perceives the mother-in-law as an evil and grumpy woman, even if it does not correspond to the truth, while the mother-in-law is primarily an experienced and wise person.

Of course, there are mother-in-law and strict, and jealous, and impatient and unnecessarily nervous. Like all people, they get tired, are irritable, they require attention to themselves, although, as many in old age, do not differ in particular flexibility in behavior.

If a young wife becomes demanding that the mother-in-law fit to her, because she has his own pride, she not only achieves nothing, but also will show an unforgivable nonsense. The wise daughter-in-law should adapt to the mother-in-law, to become her allied, sometimes even against her husband. The path to the heart of the mother-in-law - the ability to reckon with her motherhood instinct. The daughter should be a daughter more attentive and obedient for her than in relation to his own mother.

Each mother-in-law loves to talk and advise, so the wrong bunch is incorporated correctly, which, without waiting for the next lesson, herself comes to the mother-in-law for the advice, asks to teach some kind of thorough and gives her to understand that he highly appreciates his husband's pupil. Any mother is proud that she managed to grow educated children, and mother of sons - especially. The daughter-in-law can say so the mother-in-law even if he believes that the mother fanked her son.

One day, the daughter-in-law will become a mother, her son can be born, and her son will be born in the same way as thousands of mothers before her and after her. And then the time will fly, the son is marrying, and now someone who knows her son just no year-week, declares the daughter-in-law, which turned into the mother-in-law, that it is overlooking her son. Will she be nice to hear such?

It is necessary to learn wisdom based on condescension. The wife can start a "re-education" of the husband only when the mother-in-law will be completely on her side, when the mother already demands from his son so that he listened to his wife in everything.

The daughter-in-law should not see his rival in his mother: such a fight is played in advance and deprived of any meaning. Son's love for mother and love husband to his wife are absolutely different things. The jealousy of two women - daughter-in-law and mother-in-law - does not bring anything other than the bitter feeling of confusion and injustice. Here, it is obliged to give the daughter-in-law just because the life of mother husband is coming to complete, and in the process of aging and overlooking the interests of her love for his son can flare up with a new force. Especially oppressively acts on the mother thought that her "boy" seized someone else's woman and she forever loses him. A young wife must convince the mother-in-law that is not going to deprive her son, that, on the contrary, she also acquired her daughter and will soon receive grandchildren who will continue her genus.

The difficulties arising in the collaboration of two families are easier to be solved when not a daughter-in-law or son-in-law talk with their parents, but their own son and daughter. Parents will understand their children faster, they will rather go to meet and willingly wait for what they never forgive daughter-in-law or son-in-law.

On the other hand, and parents should clearly understand that they are not entitled to interfere in the privacy of newlyweds, what such intervention did not suit them and when they were young and they wanted to be alone with each other, to dream about something, spend time without Alien attention.

If it happened new family, the cohesion should be the first and basic condition for its existence. Cohesion both inside a young family and in relationships with parents. One of the parties should not ignore the other side, nor deny the right of parents to participate in the life of young and solving their problems. In everything you need to keep a sense of measure.

Parents, especially if they are retired, there is something chronically lacking young: time. Grandparents can give grandchildren and granddaughters much more time than young mother and father. In families where parents raise their children in rigor, the softness of the grandmother and grandfather will not hurt, and therefore it should not be fear.

However, when young shift all the responsibility for the upbringing of their children to her grandparents, and the grandmother leads at the same time also a household; They overestimate the forces of the elderly. The requirements for them are no longer corresponding to their age, faster there is a sense of fatigue, and fatigue, in turn, leads to a frequent change of mood, welcoming, and in the end there is a stressful atmosphere of mutual discontent, which becomes unbearable as for young, So for the elderly. The fact that parents did first with joy, it becomes now for them an unbearable burden, from which they want, but can not get rid of. Do not allow such an oppressive situation. We are also ready to repeat once again that conflicts are easier to prevent, the later try to glue what is already hopelessly broken.

Rules for women

Art be daughter-in-law

Several important rules that should be observed by communicating with the "Mamienica Son". Your husband is already enough adult boy to deal with his mom himself.

If you have brewed a pass between husband and mother-in-law, God forbid you to interfere and occupy someone else. It is better to calmly leave the battlefield and do something more useful and interesting.

Do not think that her husband must necessarily remind a hundred times that and how to say his mother. Most likely, he himself understands everything. For most men, their relationship with mother is a closed topic. As a rule, gentlemen in the depths of the soul adore their mother. Therefore, the wise wife is either silent, or speaks about the mother-in-law, keeping a valid tone. If you live with mother-in-law, like on "advanced", and on your "front" change is not foreseen, it is better to remove a separate apartment or room along with my spouse. Read more often that this "Meghera" brought up your favorite person. Pleasure mother-in-law surprises, gifts and their attention. And do not jealous to her husband. Believe me, she's not an opponent!

Never tell your spouse: "You are like your mother" or "Say, finally, your mother, so that it ...", etc. These statements you seem like a husband on the other side of the "barricades".

Art of being wife

What to do:

More often to prepare what husband loves;

Always listen to the advice of your husband (no one obliges them to follow them);

Sometimes make him compliments;

In society, always listen to him with great attention, whatever he says (even if it is a joke "with a beard");

Take guests who are enjoyable both.

What do not do:

Neglect his advice in choosing your outfit;

To carry out an orderly order in his personal belongings;

To give no permission to anyone that your husband considers with his property (for example, cassettes, discs, books);

Criticize your second half and make him comments for strangers

(especially with friends) and in the presence of children;

Put her husband before choosing; or I, or your friends - men do not tolerate ultimatums in principle (you have friends);

Remember the excellent qualities of your former husbandif this is your second marriage; It is even better to refrain from the memories of your former family life.

What should not talk:

Well, as always, you are busy today!

I am still half an hour!

Could then not come at all!

I have enough idiots at work - here you are still with your stupid jokes!

If you do not remove this tie now, I will not go anywhere with you!

Why should I cook dinner all the time?

Work, work ... And I already know nothing, yes? We have not been together for a thousand years now!

And it is better to say so:

It is a pity that you are working late today ... Maybe we go to the movies on Saturday?

Nothing, I just came ... But if you treat me "Margarita", you will be justified finally.

I had a terrible day. Come on, you cook coffee, and I will suggest life, you can?

This tie, of course, nothing, but not for this occasion, do not you think?

Let me prepare dinner today, and you tomorrow. Agreed?

I ordered on the weekend number in the boarding house. Go? Only you turn off your mobile phone!

Rules for husbands

If he is the subject of attacks

"I recently got married and moved to my wife. My mother-in-law, as is customary to say, a business woman, an active fifty-year-old lady. I have already prepared before marriage to the fact that she will be the head of the whole family. However, she stated that now, they say, there is a man in the house (she raised her daughter without his father) and he will lead to everyone and answer everything ...

I was slightly twisted, but the reign of the reign took. But later it turned out that I won't be a quiet life. The mother-in-law constantly pulls me on trifles, as if specifically making me so that I broke the firewood, and if some serious problem arises, it gives me to solve it alone, and then he says for a long time, where and what I miscalculated. What does she really want me? Forces no longer live like that! "

What to say, this mother-in-law chose the original policy. She sufficiently suggests that a man will still qualify for the departments in the family with time, especially if he is the only one in this family. And the most reasonable thing from the very beginning to show him that the role of the head of the family is not so easy and what exactly he does not cope with this role ... in other words, constant twigs and dumping on the "formal leader" of all important and unimportant problems (so that it is finally confused And to make more mistakes) is nothing more than a means to beat off all sorts of excuses to the heading post in the family.

And the mother-in-law, most likely, will be engaged in such a "abstraction" of the son-in-law constantly, so as not to forget his seat. But if a tortured daughter's husband will smell on the chair of the head of the family by hand and say that the mother-in-law herself rules a family life, "if it is so smart," he will not take this formal power. Because in this situation, her aspiration is to bring a young family to a divorce. Like, look, daughter, what Rokhlya you have a husband, and another man is called! By the way, to exhibit the son-in-law in a fool's form before his wife is also one of the moments of such a "rejection."

How to be poor son-in-law? Options are actually a bit. Either leave this "funny family", or divide the spheres of influence: the mother-in-law itself, the young themselves. And each manages its part of family life (if the conditions allow, it is possible and in general to disperse).

But what option from two son-in-law choose depends only on its relationship with his wife. If there are actually little in fact and the wife in the division of the influence will wish to "move" to the mother, it is better to divorce until late. If the spouse wishes to stay on the side of her husband, then there is enough prospects for a happy family life. But in your own family, and not in Leschina.

If he is the subject of attention of his wife's sister

"I am 26 years old, my spouse 21. We recently created a family and live in your wife's parents. I would not have anything, but lately I began to notice that I had the most natural way to build eyes younger sister Wife, Seventeen-year-old Girl. That in open-to-wear bathroom from the bathroom will pop up, it will fly without a knock into the room, where I change clothes, how would it happen to chance me in the kitchen ... this is not counting all sorts of grips, smiles and winkings. And most often it creates such situations when someone is in the house and can see us. And I'm just in confusion. On the one hand, I am a man and I can not calmly look like a woman wants me. And on the other hand, I'm in some way her relative ... How should I contact her not to do nonsense? "

Indeed, your main task in this situation is not to do nonsense. Justice to provocate your young relative, you can easily be in fools ... Because she wants absolutely not you. At least, this is not the main task. Frankly hinting for possible proximity, she wants to compete with his own sister. More precisely, this rivalry will probably continue for ten years, if not more. But now the conditions have changed: the sister has a husband. And if earlier sisters boasted each other, who has a more beautiful dress or more than five, now they are young women. And along the philistine women's logic, to whom of the two ladies a man stretches, that, they say, and better. Therefore, the girl holding you into bed, thereby wishes to declare: here, they say, sister, even your beloved has not resist my charms, because I still better than you! For this, the fact that the younger sister must necessarily require the audience (more precisely, witnesses): After all, someone should see how you preferred it, and otherwise there is no point! Consider and the fact that in such a situation she will certainly put the initiator of the proximity of you - she needs to demonstrate that it was you who wanted it, and not she seduced you. It is fundamentally! And if you allow yourself to provoke how a man then will be difficult for you to prove the opposite.

And one moment. The sister is the younger, and therefore, for sure, all my life was right without demand to use things of the older sister.

In many of our families, it is so accepted: younger must be given in. And now, led by such a sense of permissiveness, she wanted to take her spouse from his sister - to play for a while ...

How to be you? The best tactic is to look at the provocations of this girl with a slight neglect of the older, perceiving it as a person that does not have sex. Of course, it will initially be difficult, especially if the girl is attractive. But you imagine, in which puddle she wants to plant you, and then it will be easier to react to all its "advances" only an ironic smile of an adult or shuffle from her, like an annoying child. A proud girl such a game will quickly bother.

If he is an arbitration judge between his mother and his wife

"I recently led my wife to the house. We live with my parents, and my mother is constantly dissatisfied with the bride: that it will do it - everything is wrong. Moreover, even if it was done on my mother's instruction and recommended by it, it will begin to redo - again it is not so ... And in the end, both of them with all their grinds appeal to me. And I am already beginning to strain these constant small quarrels between them, and I do not know, on whose side, I get up. How to be? "

I will say right away: do not try to solve the argument of moms and wives from the point of view of logic, because it is her in their twigs there is no emotion. But where do these emotions come from, let's figure it out.

Probably, your mother perceives daughter-in-law at the level of unconscious division on his own and strangers: this is our family, our relatives, and she is someone else's, prone and, it means that something hostile to us ... This is a completely illogical conclusion. And it does not mean that your wife provoked such an attitude towards him! And the fact that your wife can not please the mother-in-law, it is quite natural: between us speaking, your mother seeks to not teach the daughter-in-law by some kind of everyday subtleties, but to intimidate it, to beat her head: "You can't get anything! Will you be considered a member of our family? See, son, what kind of imagine to be in my wife! " (Also, therefore, Mom so often calls you to the role of an arbitrary judge.)

And one more point: in large families, the primacy was provided to the eldest until he became quite intimid and did not drive his days on the stove. Then the steering wheel got up from the next generation. And now look at the situation with the eyes of your mom: two mistresses were in the kitchen, and what's time to climb to her stove? No, she is still not old, she still lies! And the daughter-in-law, which "knows nothing," let him know his place ...

But how to be to you? Note at once: Demonstrately give way to mom and eliminate together with his wife from all household cases, "not ashamed", fraught. Mom immediately replaces the tactics and will "cut" you both that you don't love her, everyone docked her ... if finance or conditions are allowed, remove the apartment or run off. But even if you do not physically divide any possibility, do not despair. In such cases, sometimes it is enough to learn to distance themselves from such a mom psychologically, then it will not be necessary to divide the apartment. Personal methods and your wife will tell you a specialist psychologist on individual advice.

If he is Mamienekin Son

"I grew up without my father, so very tied to his mother. I recently got married, and, of course, we began to live with me: I just could not leave my mother alone. But then I regretted that I immediately did not decide to live separately ... The fact is that Mom began to behave very strangely. In particular, she without any knock every morning comes to my room, where I, naturally, I sleep with my wife, and wakes me: "Get up, son, napka. I prepared you breakfast ... "I'm lying in bed with a woman, and she wakes me like a little! And inconvenient, and annoying, and intimate life is all awry (for some reason I like more sex in the morning, and my wife too, and what in There may be sex such a situation?). And mom and hear does not want to have a lock in the door of his room or at least some kind of catch: they say, this is my apartment and I will not let me make a communal from her! I tried to talk to her, It is invariably in response: "But I can not differently, you're my son, I love you and I take care of you ..." But she didn't do anything like that of my marriage! How to be? "

The whole problem is that you are really tied to your mother. More precisely, she tied you to him ...

Most likely, your mother remained lonely, sacrificing the personal life of the "baby". Often there are so women who are difficult to find a common language with potential partners, establish mutual understanding, achieve family happiness ... Therefore, they replace the married life to raise the child.

And, as a rule, it becomes the meaning of their existence at all.

But time goes, and the child grows, becomes an adult ... However, Mom continues to raise him. After all, if it is the meaning of life, then as soon as the child becomes an adult, life ended and life?! This mother's result does not want. Therefore, their main dream, more precisely, the main task so that their child always remains small! That is why your mom humiliates you: puts you in a dependent position and wants you to feel like a child.

She wakes you in the same way as I once raised from a nursery, and she only on the hand, that at this moment you, an adult man, lie in a naked, helpless and defenseless ... And it would be wrong to believe that your mother consciously prevents your mom. A sex life as such: yes, very many believe that, they say, Mothers are jealous of sons to the daughters ... Not at all! Moreover, the mother may well allow his son to sleep with women, as in his childhood she allowed him to sleep with teddy bunnies and bears, because the baby is terrible into the room ... the son's wife for such a mother is just a toy her boy. Yes, and his family life, she perceives as a game: a child will be surrounded, and then he will be bored, he divorced, nothing terrible ... And the fact that she did not have such a "care" to marriage, also explained: at that time she had no need To humiliate you, put in place - then you are most likely, and so were obedient and owned by her son ... And now you are married, and the wife can well say you that you are already an adult. So my mother will remind you that you are still small! And also at the same time convince this and your wife, also therefore it exists "care" about you in front of your spouse.

As for the future of your actions, it is not, as they say, to become a man? Start with a small - cut the castle in the door of your room. Yes, it will be a belling with the mother, yes, it will hurt enough to her, but note that your marriage was also quite painful for her. And then it is necessary to develop a strategy individually, and start with your mother relationship. In general, in this situation, a competent psychoanalyst needs to understand all the nuances and develop tactics, which, not traumating anyone, reconciles all conflict participants.

Several tips for both spouses

Perhaps some of them will help you correctly behave in certain conflict situations, which from time to time arise between a man and a woman.

If your relationship went into a dead end, then it is best to part for a while. Relax from each other, for example, go to visit your girlfriend or spend the evening in the company. Sometimes such a parting is enough to establish relationships.

Sometimes there are situations in which in your and the same interests are best not to know the details that, hanged into memory, will be tormented by insomnia. For example, you learned about betraying your husband (wives), but forgave him (her) and decided to try to start all over again. Try to never remember this episode, since every new discussion will poison your life. Be tolerant, especially when you are annoyed, as in minutes of fatigue you can talk, for which it will be ashamed. Therefore, try to keep yourself in your hands and follow your eloquence.

Remember that not only a rude word, but also a simple awkward remark, as well as annoying, can not be reduced by all the good intentions.

Try not to forget that everyone in the shower can be their little secrets to which there is no access to anyone. Family life without quarrel does not happen. If the circumstances have developed in such a way that you decide - this is the end, then begin the quarrel from the offensive, without giving your opponent to reveal the mouth and splashing all his anger on him. You can all complete this whipping dishes, if not sorry for the service. If you decide to give your half another chance, it is best not to remember old offended and be sure to give an opportunity to speak. Speak, without increasing the tone, specifically about what happened, as you disassemble only the last conflict, and not all the past life. Be extremely valid, since all your further life depends on this. And if you see that a person suffers from the remorse of conscience, but can not take the first step, then it will have to make you, finishing the quarrel by a truce. In no case do not tighten your swelling on weeks. Remember that the family in the family depends on the woman, from her tact, from how she can regulate relationships and forgive.

What is a family etiquette?

Everyone is familiar with the word "etiquette" and its meaning. We all strive to impress people in society with their manners, the ability to negotiate a conversation, lifestyle. We even teach a little bit. But, how often we forget that our family is a small society in which you also need to behave according to the rules.

Often everything happens on the contrary. At home, everything masks flies with a person, and sometimes we see not a courteous, a gallant citizen, and the despot and Tirana. This is a completely wrong position, since family etiquette is the basis of the foundations of all relations, the perception of peace and the environment.

We are formed not society, but a home environment. Children are a reduced copy of the parents, they copy all - manners, speech, gestures. Looking at how a child behaves in kindergarten or at school, you can understand which atmosphere reigns in the baby's family. Therefore, there are the rules of family etiquette that should not be neglected.

How starts family etiquette

It all starts with small. For our words, the Great Power lies, so it is very important to always speak your homework: "Thank you", "please", "pleasant appetite", "good night". These words on the subconscious level are produced in a person positive, and if we talk about the energy, the words are certain "promises" in the universe: what you send, then you return.

The relationship between a man and a woman starts always romantic and unusual, but for some reason, as soon as the couple marries, romanticism disappears. Often a woman stops monitoring himself - she puts on a bathrobe, who removes only when it goes "in people."

For a man either does not rust - he becomes cold and apathetic, and the evening spent by a TV or computer, it seems much more interesting to him than communicating with his wife. This is a completely wrong behavior model.

For example, in the east, a woman walks in a lamp, but at home, for her husband, she dresses beautifully, paints. She is gentle and consistent with him. So the spouses should come, regardless of which country they live in. A woman should please the spouse (men love eyes) neat appearance, friendly. A love has been built on this that, of course, can pass if people in marriage will be negligent to themselves and to their partner.

Rules of family etiquette

Be sure to be family evenings, joint campaigns in the cinema, cafe, exhibitions. Galanament of men in relation to their spouse should be not only "showing", but also in personal communication. So, a man should always serve his lady coat, make compliments, pay attention to a new dress or underwear, make small gifts even without reason, inform a wife about where he goes and when he returns. These elementary signs of attention make family life much brighter and more interesting.

A woman either should not be lagging behind her man. Choosing perfume, you should navigate not only to your taste, but also the taste of my husband, it is more common to pour a man with his favorite dishes, do not interrupt it when he tells something very important. And let you have already heard it, it's not worth a comment. If a man repeats, it means that the topic is important for him, and he wants you to listen to him.

It is impossible to criticize her husband or wife in the presence of children and outsiders. Filming up relationships should be hidden from prying eyes and ears. No need to manitally control your husband - check your pockets, wallet, call him every minute to work. This humiliates male dignity, he will think that you do not trust him.

If your partner does not like the circle of your communication, make it so that with your friends you met on a neutral territory, and that is not too often.

It is very important to appeal to each other. Everyone has cute nicknames: "Bunny, cat, sunshine, etc.", it's nice. But in the presence of foreign people, these appeals, at least weird. Man should be called only by name!

Women have such a habit - in a conversation with girlfriends or acquaintances, to call her husband with her husband, ignoring his name. This is a moveton, so you are displeasing a person who assigns him a civil status "Husband". Yes, he is a husband, but he has a name that you must love if you love your husband.

Etiquette in relations with relatives

The older generation should also be respected, and from the lexicon eliminate such words as the father-in-law, mother-in-law, mother-in-law, mother-in-law. They are parents, they, in the end, grandparents. According to family etiquette, the older generation is customary to call mom, dad, grandmother, grandfather. If a woman cannot call Mama's mother's mother, then you need to contact her by name-patronymic. Also must come and the spouse.

Rules of happy family life

Family relations are simple and even pleasant, because each person is an echo: how to call him, so he will respond. Famous American psychologist Dale Carnegie brought the theory of six rules for a happy family life:

- Do not try to remake your spouse;

- Be each other grateful for happiness;

- always have each other's signs;

Children's etiquette

With regards to children's etiquette, there should also be undeunny attention and patience. It should be remembered that how much a child does not teach, he will still look at a visual example. Therefore, if the parents tell a child that it is bad, and they themselves behave with each other in Hamski, it is unlikely that the child will understand what he was told - he will do as he sees.

Children must be accustomed to the pupils, courtesy in relation to adults and respect for unauthorized people. And you need to train in a game form so that the child does not lose his feeling of childhood.

Etiquette and family happiness

All our happiness and family relationships depend on us and only from us. And everyone wants to be happy. So that your family is happy, and the relationship as if you just met, love and respect your each other. Life is alone, and you need to show your favorite people to the maximum, as you love them and respect. If there is no love and respect in the family, then where else such relationships can be found. Answer, I think, is obvious.

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Family etiquette

In my article I want to tell about the rules of the family etiquette. There is a contradiction between consciousness, as needed to act and established habits.

As a child, one of my acquaintances attended kindergarten. Returning home, he walked into his room, where he shouted, swore Mat and cried. So he expressed his indignation by the fact that in the kindergarten it is impossible to behave like at home. Parents are important patiently and goodly to explain to children the need to comply with the rules of cultural behavior, to teach them to evaluate their actions, distinguish between good and bad habits.

It is very important to teach a child to the culture of communication. Master of communication can be beautiful and ugly. Communication is becoming the norm when meeting with friends, at work, in transport, on the street, in the family ... The habit of consuming mat is a faithful sign of falling culture in society.

It is in the family that you need to instill with children intolerance to mantle words. The foul language of parents adversely affects the behavior of the child. Can a person who uses obscene words, attract people to themselves, cause positive emotions, make someone happy?

A human speech speaks of beauty or deformity of the soul. Using obscene expressions, parents show disrespect for people around them, desecrate their soul and a child's soul. His behavior of the Mount-Parents will never teach children to think about others, appreciate human dignity, feel the beauty of the word.

What do you think there may be a happy family in which no one respects anyone?

Words "Hello!", "Thank you", "Please" should be assisted by children from early childhood.

Your daughter brought order in the kitchen. "What is my wonderful daughter!" - Mom says. IN happy family It is customary to say good words to each other.

Start upbringing a child follows from yourself. The child analyzes our moral performances, adopt our feelings and thoughts from us. In carefulness, maternal love and tenderness needed, and children will need all times.

Today, as many centuries ago, the songs of the maternal heart do not lose their value. They carry positive emotions to the child. It is said that wearing lullaby songs, mother "materializes" the wonderful future of his child, lays the basis of future kindness. The child is born helpless, and the lullaby song connects him with his mother with strong spiritual threads of love and mercy.

I did not possess a beautiful voice, but sang a lullaby to my children from the bottom of my heart. In the lullabies, I told the child about my love and tenderness to him. He sang and stroked his handles, the back, kissed the eyes, breathed the fragrance of his hair, feeling incredible attachment, quiet maternal happiness. To see how your child is pressed to you and sweetly falls asleep - lunizing from the feeling of security that you give him.

Maternal warmth is a feeling of homeland, love, carelessness, childhood. With his smile, with his gaze, we give a touch of a child for a minute of happiness.

Teach a child to deliver joy to others! Having plead to his little gifts: the game is in his favorite game, buying pencils, delicious treats. Your child brought you a small bouquet of flowers, gave you your drawing, shared candies ... Little signs of attention prove the mutual love of children and parents. Warm and sincere attitudes in the family - the key to patriotism, disinterested love for his hometown.

There are life moments of adults, where the presence of children is inappropriate. In children, their surroundings, their own world, they can not be comfortable in a circle of unfamiliar adults. Do not demonstrate your child's talents to your friends and colleagues. Children are not clowns, but small individuals. Only in the family circle, children can be equal participants in the celebration.

Family etiquette is not just a set of rules, this is part of the worldview.

Dear readers, I shared with you my point of view about the concept of "family etiquette". I hope she will ever come in handy!

Etiquette is a kind of code of good manners and rules for the behavior of people at home, at work, in transport adopted in this society. And the rules of etiquette are designed to show the presence of internal ethics and human beauty.

Previously, education in children of good manners and behaviors were engaged in the Cadet Corps, at the institutes of noble maidens. Now these features are almost completely (if you do not have a governess) switched to parents.
What are the basic rules of etiquette to be observed in the family with children?

1. "It is necessary to behave in such a way as not to create others inconvenience, and refer to them as we would like to treat you" - a familiar phrase? Yes, that is, it is necessary to behave and adults, and children not only with other people's people, but also with their homework.

2. No need to try to find out family relationships publicly, especially in the presence of children and at elevated colors. And it is best not to bring the situation to the clarification of these very relations.

3. Do not go to the room of children without a knock. The child is also a person. It is necessary to respect his right to personal space and the opportunity to be alone. Naturally, it does not concern completely small kids, which in no case cannot be left.

4. Do not swear in your personal belongings without his consent. Some parents consider it quite normal to check the baby's briefcase, look into his pockets. Everything seems to be loving, in order to prevent, but the result can be only one. The child will lose confidence in you, will begin to hide something from you.

5. Do not read letters addressed not to you. Even if you know exactly that there is nothing personal in the letter, do not open it. Do not swear in the email of children if they do not ask you to do it.

6. Teach children to behave at the table. Joint dinners or Sunday dinners in a family circle - a wonderful reason to attach such skills. Teach to use the cutting devices, not to speak with the mouth bought, not to swing your hands. There is a whole set of rules of behavior at the table, familiarize yourself with them - literature on this topic is abused.

The ability of children to behave correctly at the table - a big plus. Parents will be confident that in any society and in any situation they do not have to blush for them. Moreover, family dinners in a cafe are becoming increasingly popular in large cities, or just visiting them with children during walks.

7. Confers respect for someone else's work, teach to appreciate the daily work of home.

8. Breaking should be able to listen and hear. It would seem that there is a difficult? But observe how some children behave: they are interrupted without end when adults talk to someone, they require attention to themselves. This applies, above all, kids. If emotions are overwhelmed, they hear and perceive only themselves, considering themselves the center of the universe.

9. Do not criticize children with outsiders. It hurts their pride, especially adolescents.

10. If the child goes somewhere alone, he must say where it goes and how much will come back.

The framework of one publication all the rules of etiquette is impossible to paint, but the beginning is supposed. Master dear Parents, Further, implement and share your experience.

Children on the rules of the family etiquette

Renewal date: 11/03/2017

The house is a place where we relax. Or logically, the house should act relaxing on us. But it depends on how far the relationship between households and which order is established in terms of personal borders and interaction. Standards of etiquette facilitate life in the family and society.

Many rules of behavior in the family are based on respect, confidence, personal borders and politeness. Some of them are so elementary that even talking about them is even uncomfortable. But the experience suggests that once again remember them does not hurt.

So, a set of family etiquette rules:

The point is not even just in the ability to be tactical and mutually polite. Family is a stronghold of stability in our too dynamic world. If during the years people do not learn effective interaction In such a small team, like a family, then what kind of career of the manager can you dream? After all, in any communities, the ability to truck with people and achieve results with the help of collective work.

Where to learn this, how not in the family?

Extracurricular event "Family etiquette"

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Topic: "Family etiquette"

Purpose: to educate the culture of behavior, polite, respectful relationship to all family members and to others; The development of creative original thinking, intelligence, sense of humor, interest in human culture.

Tasks: repeat and consolidate the knowledge of etiquette; find a right solution in various problem situations; Learn about the rules of the family etiquette.

Equipment: Sheet with a file for an individual task, a presentation "Family etiquette".

I. Organizing time Slide 1.

To the music "Hello, the world! Hello my friend!" Children are included in the class. Everyone makes a bow to guests. Music ends. Children sit down.

II. Introduction Slide 2.

Teacher: Good afternoon, dear guests!

We are glad to welcome you at our lesson.

Student: Hello, bowing to each other they said

Although there were quite unfamiliar.

What specials did we say each other?

More after all, we did not say anything.

Why did the sun gain in the world on the droplet?

Why did the world gain in the world on a drip of happiness?

Why did life become joyful on the droplet?

Teacher: The simplest word "Hello" means: "I see you, a man! You are pleasant to me. Know that I respect you and want you to treat me well. "

Teacher: Guys, and you ever thought, what do we want this word "Hello"?

Pupil: We wish good health, peace, happiness.

Teacher: At all times, an uncompatory and disrespect for others was considered, if a person shied out of a greeting or not answered him.

III. Message themes and goals of classes.

Teacher: Guys, and after all greeting - This is one of the most important rules.

And what rules? (How to say in one word when we talk about good manners, about behavior in the theater, in the planetarium ...?)

Pupil: etiquette . Slide 3.

Teacher : Listen to a short poem and tell me what it is?

Family is happiness, love and luck,

Family is a summer trip to the cottage.

Family is a holiday, family dates,

Gifts, shopping, pleasant spending.

Teacher: So what is this poem?

Pupil: About family. Slide 4.

Teacher: So what about ethics we will talk?

Pupil: On family.

Teacher: Now name the subject of classes.

Pupil: Family etiquette . Slide 5.

Teacher: What do we have to find out on this topic?

Student: Find out what "etiquette", the rules of the family etiquette.

Teacher: We will continue the conversation about politeness, and most importantly learn how to give love and joy to your loved ones, will be friendly and good to others.

IY. The origin of the word "etiquette"

Teacher: Knowing the rules of etiquette, you will feel more confident in the family, in society, do not fall asleep, saying or making such that on etiquette is considered disrespectful to the family and others. It is not necessary tooling the rules, it suffices to understand their meaning. Therefore, it is necessary to start talking about them from history.

Pupil: The etiquette rules arose in ancient times as convenient and reasonable forms of communication. They existed and there are an infinite set. ETIQUETTE - This is the French word. At one of the magnificent techniques, the King Louis X IY gave guests with the listing of some mandatory rules of behavior.

Pupil: In French, the card is called " label" - Hence the word " Etiquette" . Over time, the rules of behavior have changed, but many are unchanged with deep antiquity.

Teacher: But what determination to the word "etiquette" gave Sergey Ozhegov in the sensible dictionary.

ETIQUETTE - established, adopted procedure of behavior, forms of passage.

(Diplomatic etiquette. Speech etiquette.)

Teacher: Let's collect the rules of etiquette into one flower. Slide 7.

(We place on the petals: at school, in the theater, visiting, in the store, in transport, in the family, in nature, in the yard.) Teacher: We will look at only one etiquette. What?

Pupil: Etiquette in the family.

Y. Situation for discussion.

Teacher: Every of you guys have people closest and beloved to you. These people fell in love with you when you were only born, and always love you.

Pupil: Parents . Slide 9.

Teacher: And how to say in one word? Dad, Mom, Brother, Sister, Grandma, Grandpa ...

Pupil: Family. Slide 10.

Teacher: The word "family" occurred a long time ago, when a family was considered a real family, which consisted of at least seven people. In some families were 9, 10, 12 children.

- Let's read "Distribution Material (Handout)".

1) Why did they live together in such large families?

(Respected the elders and did not cut the younger. Everything worked. They performed their duties. They knew the rules of behavior in the family and they were performed.)

Teacher: We can find the roots of etiquette in oral folk creativity - these are proverbs. Let's try to finish the proverbs. To do this, fill the table "Distribution material (Handout)".

Being a guest is good, but being at home is better).

Do not need a treasure, (when in the family of the way).

Than rich, (those and glad).

When the family together, (then the soul in place).

My home is my castle).

Output. Read under the table.

Fizminutka Slide 12.

Teacher: Check how well you know polite words.

I will ask you to fulfill the task, but you only need to do it when I call the "magical" word.

- together got up to the warm-up, you are welcome.

- To start, we are with you

Bring head you are welcome.

- turnover and turnover,

And then on the contrary, you are welcome.

- Raise your hands up be kind to

- smoothly omit down, you are welcome.

- turns left - right, please,

It's easy fun.

Sat quickly, deftly.

There is already a snorkel.

— Sorry, And now walking in place,

It is also interesting.

- Ours, children, guys,

Be kind We'd rather again for the parties.

Teacher: Guys, your parents will always love and take care of you. But the time will come when and you have to care for your parents. Let's look at the side of how ugly do some teenagers come with your parents.

Scene 1. Slide 13.

(The girl is going to the disco, trying on the outfits, carelessly throwing not like.)

Mom: Seda, put things in place!

Girl: Mom, leave! You do not see, I hurry!

Mom: When will you come back?

Mom: I'm tired at work today, I wanted to go to bed early. And you lost your key. How do you open the door?

Girl: So you need! Maybe faster I download a new key! Well, okay once for me!

Mom: Goodbye, daughter.

Teacher: Does the girl know the rules of the family etiquette?

Pupil: Does not know.

Teacher: Why do we condemn the girl?

Student: for rudeness, for disrespectful to Mom.

Teacher: What the etiquette rules it needs to be performed.

Pupil: Speak with Mom soft and good.

Send polite words: Sorry, please.

Report Mom as much as it returns.

Respect mom, do not offend.

Scene 2. Slide 14.

(There is a struggle with a friend. The grandmother meets them in the hallway.)

Fight: go, go. You can not heart with her. She has old old old age.

Grandma: (kicked the blouse and correcting the handkerchief, quietly).

- offend to hit, climb - it is necessary to look for the word ...

Friend: And with our grandmother always greets. And their own, and others. She is our main.

Fight: How is it home?

Friend: She is old, grown everyone. It can not be offended. And what are you with your own? Look, father fights!

Fight: does not fight. He himself does not greet her!

Friend: (shaking head) Wonderful! Now the olds are respected! Here, in our yard, an old man has a bad one, so now he is paid to his relatives. Court sentenced. And ashamed as before the neighbors, horror!

Fighting (blusing): Yes, we are not offended by our grandmother. She is fed and healthy.

(The struggle says goodbye to the other, but delays it at the door.)

Fight: grandmother, go here!

Fighting (to a friend): So say goodbye to my grandmother.

Teacher: What did you indulge?

Pupil: Rough attitude of the struggle to his grandmother.

Teacher: What can I say about each other?

Teacher: In which family is the rules of the family etiquette?

Pupil: in a friend's family?

Teacher: influenced the words of a friend in the struggle? Prove.

Pupil: The struggle called the grandmother "grandmother" and invited her for farewell to the other. So accepted by etiquette.

Yi. Family etiquette rules.

Teacher: Read and remember the most basic rules of the family etiquette on with. eleven.

Comfortable home life make words ... Slide 14.

Always report family members ... Slide 15.

For all households are mandatory ... Slide 16.

Sharp and demanding ... Slide 17.

Respect parents ... Slide 18.

7. Game - Competition "Family etiquette rules"

Teacher: You have a file with a table on your desktop. You need to make up the rules of the family etiquette and write them to the table. That couple wins, which will be able in a short time to make as much of the rules of the family etiquette.

1 row is the rules "how to behave at home".

2 row is "rules of behavior and etiquette at the table."

3 row is "the rules of behavior ».

(Light music sounds)

Check. (Children read the rules. Requires the response with slides.)

"How to behave at home" Slide 19.

1) Stone about the order in your room.

2) Never spat a book.

3) Do not draw on wallpaper.

4) Learn to dress correctly.

5) Do not jump from high items.

"Rules of etiquette at the table" Slide 20.

1) Sit at the table calmly.

2) During food it is impossible to talk.

3) blow on hot tea or soup makes no sense.

4) Drink tea, compote need silently, not intense.

5) It is impossible to lick the plate.

6) All that put in a plate need to eat.

Rules of behavior. Slide 21.

1) Do not come to visit without invitation.

2) Do not come before the designated period.

3) Do not be late for the appointed hour.

4) Coming, dispel in the corridor.

5) I will be able to use cutlery.

6) Before sitting at the table with a hand.

7) leaving, thank the owners for the reception.

8) Do not Musori away.

8. The game "Street etiquette".

* How do you tie yourself when meeting on the street with your friends?

A. On the move Krique "Hi!" Or wash your hand.

B. I want to talk, I will stop.

B. After greeting, slowly slow down the step, providing familiar to the opportunity to show the initiative.

1) In the crowd it is better to do without stormy emotions. And even more so it is not recommended to slow down a street movement, stopping in the middle of the sidewalk. By the way, if a familiar overtook you, he must say hello to you.

2) The second option is quite acceptable if you are sure that your acquaintances are also located to the conversation.

3) The third option was chosen the most tactful people. Indeed, let the acquaintances themselves decide to understand or not understand your hint on the opportunity.

Teacher: On what topic we worked in the classroom?

Pupil: Family etiquette.

What was new for myself?

Pupil: I learned what "etiquette".

Teacher: What did you study?

Student: learned to draw up the rules of etiquette.

Teacher: Let's show your mood (smile) with the help of a fairytale, with the help of gestures thank each other for work (applause) and say everything together "Thank you " Slide 22.

Teacher: Your class is a small family. And I want to have always reigned in our family kindness, respect, mutual understanding. Beautiful day to you, solar smiles.

(Music sounds. Children come out of class.)

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The occupation of extracurricular activities on the topic "Family etiquette" complies with state general education standards of the second generation. Dedicated to issues of ethics and etiquette. Actual for children of this age.

During the classes, second-graders continued to talk about the culture of behavior, polite, respectful relations to all family members and to others, repeated and consolidated knowledge of etiquette, learned about the rules of family etiquette, found the right solution in various problematic situations.

Organized entry of children to the music class "Hello, Peace! Hello my friend!" Retrieves the children's team, and the opening of children expresses the ability of children to use the rules of etiquette when meeting. This was confirmed by poems about politeness read by students from the depths of the soul. They managed to convey to the listeners that the simple word "Hello" means: "I see you, a man! You are pleasant! "

3-Glassware know that pronouncing the word "Hello", we wish each other good health, peace, happiness.

Not immediately the guys managed to determine that the words of greetings belong to one of the most important rules. After leading questions, the answer was called that the words of greetings are the rules of etiquette. After listening to the family poem, the children determined that they would talk about family etiquette. The history of the etiques found out from their classmates who prepared the heading "Do you know?". But about the meaning of the word "etiquette" learned from the intelligent dictionary of Sergei Ozhegov.

With a huge delight, the rules of etiquette were collected in one flower "Flower-seven-degree". They learned that there are rules of etiquette not only in the lyceum, in transport, in the theater, in the house, visiting, but also in the clinic, in the store, in nature. Surprise caused the fact that there are rules of etiquette in the entrance and in the yard. We decided that everyone needs to take care of the purity, the order and beauty of the entrance and the courtyard.

The roots of etiquette can be found in oral folk creativity - these are proverbs. These moments of classes brought up in children respectful attitude towards all family members, the most valuable qualities of a person: kindness, responsiveness, modesty, and the ethical qualities of personality and norms of behavior in society were given. How ugly come with their native teenagers and younger schoolchildren, the guys saw during the insignment. They criticized, condemned the behavior of uncompatible children for non-compliance with the rules of the family etiquette. They indicated that with mom, it is necessary to speak softly and kindly, respect, not to offend mom, consuming polite words. The ta story was especially shocked in which they saw the negative appeal of the chief hero to their grandmother. The children convincingly proved that in any family grandmother the most important. She lived long life, a lot of tests withstood. To its advice should be carefully listening. Grandma has an unimportant health, so it does not interfere with it more often to help.

The guys read and remember the most basic rules of the family etiquette on the textbook "Portfolio". Next, the competition "Family etiquette rules" was coming. Now in practice it was necessary to prove which rules of etiquette exist in each family. The first row amounted to the rules of etiquette "how to behave at home", the second row - "rules of behavior and etiquette at the table", the third row - "rules of behavior of the party". Work was in pairs. They tried to make as many of the rules of the family etiquette as possible. There was a stormy discussion. The verification of this game has proven to form a student understanding of the need to fulfill the rules of behavior at the table, visiting, at home, on the formation of self-control in the behavior of children, to raise a benevolent atmosphere in their relationship.

During the summary of the class, children with the help of facial expressions showed their mood (smile), with the help of gestures thanked each other for the work (applause) and said everything together "Thank you."

The etiquette is the rules and norms of behaviors that need to be followed in certain situations and being in certain places. It is important since the infancy to train your child with etiquette, then parents will not fall into awkward situations when they are awkward for their not educated baby. Even on the contrary, parents will hear many complements addressed to their young ladies and gentlemen.

What are the types of etiquette for children and adolescents

Etiquette species, as you know, there is a large amount. But fortunately, children have a little lessrather than adults:

• Guest (how to behave, being visiting)
• Weekend (how to behave in special public places, for example, in the museum, cinema, theater)
• Passenger (how to behave in public transport)
• Family (how to behave in a family circle)
• Speech (how to correct verbal communication)
• Table (how to behave at the table)
• Educational (how to behave in educational institutions)
• Telephone (how to properly talk on the phone and by correspondence)

For parents, it is important to understand that they can correctly raise the child only if they themselves are polite and educated people. The correct example is the best way to instill good qualities for your children.

At what age should begin to teach children etiquette

Someone will surprise it, but from the birth of the baby you can start teaching his etiquette. Newborn should be trained with etiquette soft view, defined words, intonation. For example, before meat, wish you a pleasant appetite, and when the kid will last a daisy, thank him. Be sure to praise the child, if it behaves correctly, as well as with the help of intonation in a voice, show that it behaves not just as it should.

Starting from two years, it is necessary to actively train the child with decent manners and the rules of behavior, explain how to do, and how best is not worth it. Well in learning helps motivation, and, of course, a personal example.

For the perception of the child is best suited gaming forms of training. You can simulate different situations, resort to scene playing It is also worth using different poems and fairy tales on the subject of etiquette.

At the age of four to six years, the child must understand the need for knowledge of the etiquette. It greatly will help him alleviate communication with his peers and adults. At this age, not only parents play an important role in the child's education, but also educators in kindergarten. The school will also be tuned by good manners, but before that age, the child must have a baggage of certain knowledge of etiquette.

How to organize etiquette lessons for children and adolescents

Should teach children a good manner constantly, Use learning in the form of the game, remind, often give examples - this process should be uninterrupted. Frequent discussion different situations, A positive example of adults, will definitely be able to lead the child's teaching to success.

In order for in kindergartens and the school, the training process is not interrupted, special lessons and programs have developed for teachers. If desired, they can also find many free lessons and materials on the Internet.

How to teach a child to a table etiquette

Teach the child with the rules of etiquette at the table must be with early age. It is important for the child to understand that it is possible to take food only in certain places: in the kitchen or in the dining room.

For the smallests, there are the most important rules of etiquette at the table:

• - take food only from plates and special devices;
• - If necessary, use the kitchen cloth.

The older the child becomes, the more rules table etiquette he will know but the main rules should remember early:

How to keep a child or teenager should behave visiting

It is extremely important that the child know how to receive guests, so and decently behave visiting. There are several guests of the guest etiquette:

As a child or teenager should behave in public places

In order for parents to have no awkwardness for their child, even at the exit of the house, he needs to tell about some of the rules of behavior in society. Especially need emphasize the rules of behavior in public transport:

Rules of the output type of etiquette

Very good if the child develops culturally. For this, parents need to drive their child in movies, theaters, museums. But before the campaign, it is necessary to explain to the child what the rules of the output etiquette are. For example, rules of behavior in the theater:

What are the rules for communication between people

There are some rules of behavior in schoolThat all children should know:

Rules of family etiquette

In the family, too, there are the rules of decent behavior:

• With all senior relatives should behave politely and respectful
• You can not argue and raise the voice to relatives
• Before entering parents to the room, you need to knock
• You can not swear, fight and swear with your sisters or brothers
• Need to stick and maintain all the rules and traditions that are installed inside the family

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1. Etiquette is the concept of etiquette .................................................................. .3

2. Mimic and gestures .............................................................................. ..3

3. Etiquette attribute ........................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................ ... 5

4. Marital etiquette ........................................................................... 6

5. Criticism in the family ........................................................................ .7

6. Commandments for spouses ........................................................................ 8

7. The problem of the head of the family ..................................................................... 10

8. Etiquette of a family dispute ...................................................................... ..1.1

9. The confrontation of the "mother-in-law and son-in-law", "mother-in-law and daughter-in-law" ............................ 12

10. Your home .......................................................................................................13

11. Etiquette norms of communication of parents and children .......................................... 15

12. Children ............................................................................................. ... 16

13. Choice of the child name ........................................................................ .16

14. Education of the child ..........................................................................................17

15. The list of references used ...................................................... .20

The term "etiquette" (from French Etiquette) means a form, behavior, courtship and courtesy rules adopted in a particular society. Etiquette is a combination of formal behavior rules in predetermined situations with common sense, the rationality of the content invested in them.

What is the practical value of etiquette? Etiquette allows people without much effort to use already ready forms courtesy, adopted in this society various groups of people and at various levels. The etiquette today (modern etiquette) signs the behavior of people in everyday life, in service, in public places and on the street, visiting and on various kinds of official events - receptions, ceremonies, negotiations.

Scientists allocate the following classification of the subsystem of etiquette:

1. Speech, or verbal etiquette.
2. Speech etiquette determines which verbal formulas it is better to use if necessary: \u200b\u200bto greet, congratulate, thank, to make a guilt, contact someone with a request to invite somewhere, express condolences. The speech etiquette also includes the theory and practice of argument - the art of lead a conversation.

Mimic and gestures .

Many nations have their own special greeting gestures, farewell, consent, denial, surprise. Let's say, the well-known and generally positive gesture, when we raise the big finger, some nations have the same meaning as if we raised not big, but the middle finger. These gestures can have different coloring: neutral, ritual solemn, familiar-vulgar. People also express their attitude towards the interlocutor and the topic of conversations of conversation with the help of facial expressions, smiles, views.

Organization of space in etiquette (or etiquette proxy).

Very large value in the etiquette has the relative position of the interlocutors in space. Everyone heard of the personal space that it depends on many factors: not only from personality and nationality, but also from the area of \u200b\u200bresidence. Let's say, rural residents have much more than citizens. It is necessary to know what place in the house or at the table is considered honorable (it, as a rule, has a host in the person of the head of the family), which postures are permissible in a particular situation.

Etiquette attribute (or the world of things in etiquette).

The etiquette attributes include, first of all, clothes, decorations and headdress, as well as gifts, flowers, business cards. Under the etiquette, usually the totality of the rules of conduct in which, one way or another, manifests the attitude of a person to other people. Etiquette extremely strongly depends on the specific situation. It is from the situation that the selection of our words, consumption of gestures and mimic expressions depends. The fact that we usually speak to friends-colleagues, the boss is not worth hearing (especially if the conversation is just about him), because there is a high probability of being incorrectly interpreted - it is natural and understandable. Ethical situations may be associated with everyday communication, with festive events, with certain rituals or with special circumstances.

The modern world requires a modern person specific behavior and communication skills when it turns out to be in certain situations. Whether he happens abroad, it comes into relations business and personal; Present on diplomatic techniques, presentations or venice goods. Modern man The modern world leads such a life that requires to establish contacts with people speaking other languages \u200b\u200band related to distant, sometimes exotic and incomprehensible, cultures. It forms new behavior and appearance requirements, language. It requires a scrupulous study of not only its, but also other cultures.

Etiquette more reminds not a strict black suit and bow-butterfly james bond, but rules road. For example, if you are in the room alone, you can somehow and anything talk about whether they are all ... "You can shout, do not care, pick in your nose or there is an ovarian hand. The main thing is that you do not surprise anyone and do not hurt, no one will express your opinion to you in response. You did not violate anything, because they acted according to the rules permissible in your personal society. But as soon as another person appears next to you, it is necessary to reckon with his opinion, making this or that action.
It should be noted that a tactful and educated person behaves in accordance with the standards of etiquette not only on official ceremonies, but also at home. Genuine politeness, which is based on benevolence, is determined by the act, a sense of measure, suggesting that it is possible, and which cannot be done with certain circumstances. Such a person will never break the public order, nor a word, no act will offend another, will not insulting his dignity.

Often there are people who have a standard of behavior of behavior: one, at home, the same is the opposite (such splitting behavior is rather low, but, alas, often occurring phenomenon). In the presence of colleagues (at work or corporate party), with acquaintances or those whom they call friends (and even more so with the bosses) such individuals are definitely polite, warning. But but at home, with close people, they are coarse, cruel and hot-tempered like powder (as a rule, according to the most insignificant occasion). This speaks of a low culture of man or, rather, its complete absence and about poor upbringing.

Marital etiquette.

Good manners sometimes just fall in front of the praying of vital difficulties. But the opinion that household comfort determines psychological, perhaps not the truth in the last instance. Without psychological comfort, normal life activity is impossible, normal human labor. And this comfort begins in the family, because compliance with family, marital etiquette should take one of the most important places in the life of each "society cell."

There were erroneous opinions among men that hanale in relation to his own spouse may regard as the weakness of the repeater. As a result, the situation often arises at which the husband is too polite in relation to all familiar women with the exception of his wife, but it is precisely in relation to the closest person we will learn a true man. In addition, respectful attitude towards his wife is a tribute to yourself, because the wife is "half of her husband."

In the "indisputable" duties of her husband, who can be equated to the obligatory regaliaries of diplomatic or courtie ethics, includes:

1. Serve a coat to his wife, both at home and in a public place.
2. Do not read at the dinner table.
3. Even if he is against kissing women's hand, sometimes you can even kiss your wife's hand.
4. On the evening the first dance dance with his wife.
5. Make a wife compliments: Always notice a new wife's dress, say something pleasant about this.
6. Always miss the wife first, passing at the door; Make her small gifts even without reason, from time to time, buying flowers.
7. In her presence, do not look back after other women.
8. Do not use the argument "I earn and demand."
9. Do not walk around the apartment attenna.
10. Going out of the house in a non-working clock, to inform his wife about the goal of care and return time.
11.Fast lunch.
12. Sometimes to ask what the wife did at the time while he was not at home.
In general, talk with my wife, and not limited to the "business" conversation.

Criticism in the family.

There are types of critics. They show their "attention" to his wife, without tired of criticizing her appearance, dress, character traits, friends, tastes, the method of raising children. To live with such a spouse is not very fun. The husband must conscious that sooner or later, such a kind and volume of criticism cools the feelings of a woman in love.

More raid, but there are both wives-criticism. Therefore, some tactical tips for such a wife:

1. Selecting the toilets, take into account the tastes of your husband, and not just our own and friend.
More often to prepare what husband loves.
2. Do not use it "sacred subjects": not to take an electric logger without permission, do not restore order in his box, do not rummage in his portfolio.
3. Without blinking the eye, listen to his stories in society, even if they all have long been known to her. Do not interrupt your husband. Telling a joke, the words "everyone knows it!". Do not question its competence in the conversation.
4. Do not criticize it in the presence of children.
not controlling because control close man It happens especially offensive.
5. Do not object to his natural attachment to the mother.
6. Make him sometimes a compliment, listen to his advice.
7. Do not invite guests whom he does not love, and not accept invitations that they will be unpleasant.
8. A woman who came to marry the second time, better not to remember loud about the merits of his first husband.

Commandments for spouses .

In his best-selling "How to conquer friends and influence people" American writer Dale Carnegie pays special attention to the marital etiquette. The whole chapter is devoted to this issue.

It is the basis of six rules:
1. Do not find fault
2. Do not try to remake your spouse
3. Do not criticize
4. Express your sincere appreciation to each other.
5. Render to each other small signs of attention.
6. Be preventive

With a delayed conflict or often repeated quarrels of each side, you need to think about our own behavior. After all, as a rule, in a quarrel in fact, it is not about a broken plate. A person who is a permanent initiator of the quarrel, after self-analysis often comes to the conclusion that "his nerves do not fit for anything." It often happens that it is possible to realize the true cause of nervousness, and life is being uploaded. Worth trying.

In the case of endlessly and without a visible occasion of the emerging quarrels between spouses, a decisive measure is sometimes operating - the proposal of the divorce. But it should be resorted to it only in extreme cases. Following certain rules in the discussions, you can avoid disasters. Here is some of them.

You should never make your claim with an ironic tone - such a tone insults and causes an instinctive protest. Almost everything that I would like, you can say a heart tone, delusito, politely and calmly. This is the only true tone in the family, because we say in order to get a response. It is not reasonable to an aggressive tone, the intonation of the order. Capricious intonations, irony and sarcasm are poorly perceived. Does not justify yourself and frank compassion, even if you really have a person to regret.

It should also be avoided by prayer, which make mutual understanding make it difficult. It is better not to tire loved ones with constant comments. Note about something worth do once and then friendly tone. The repetition of it and especially louder former does not bring success: it is unlikely that the partner does not remember the comment, if he does not react - it means either does not want or can not do anything.

In the dispute two should never emerge the opinion of third parties. A completely calm and friendly conversation between spouses often turns into a scandal as soon as one of his participants will compare the opinion of his mother or anyone else. In family discussions, a different kind of generalizations should be avoided like "you are always ...". You need to talk about a certain fact or case, and only about them.

Claims kill love. Therefore, it should be resorted to them as less as possible. An instinctive response of the person to whom we impose a claim is the desire to isolate from us. The frequent repetition can really lead to a rupture. Close people can be forgiven their oddities or non-compliance with any rules, because we are not without flaws. The said at all does not mean calling to slave all. Require a lot from yourself, the person has the right to wait for the same and from loved ones. But for such a requirement you need to always find the appropriate form and time.

"Short circuits" in the family cannot be avoided. It is important that they are really short. It follows as soon as possible to bring mutual apologies and restore normal relations. After reconciliation, the reason for the quarrel and the quarrel itself should be completely forgotten. Of course, there are situations when necessary, reconcile, still find out some mutual positions, but if possible, this should be avoided. It is best to sore a quarrel and do not inflate the ashes.

Should not be close to a person in the imaginary lies, catching it on something, strive to comprehend the "whole truth." Sometimes this truth may be an unpleasant surprise for us, the partner prefers not to speak about it, and the "pressed to the wall" sometimes falls out what "about herself". Good family manners require that every partner's statement is made on faith. Of course, the fulfillment of all the above councils is a very difficult task. But they can really help get around if not all, then many reefs in a stormy sea of \u200b\u200bmarried life.

The problem of the head of the family

In modern European society, the issue of hierarchies in family relationships has not been difficult for a long time or an infracted problem. For the month of the twenty-first century, it does not have a fundamental importance, which of the spouses is headed. Equality in marital relations is confirmed by the relatively equal performance of household duties by all family members. It is unlikely that today you can coal something unworthy in the form of a man that prepares lunch for the whole family.

Stereotypes have a tendency to gradually retreat, they are lost, recoding a system of values \u200b\u200bof a modern person.

In families, where the equal rights and mutual support are confirmed, there is always a lot of time to ride and raising children. The exception to the ethical settings of the categories "commander" and "subordinate" is very strengthening the family. Nevertheless, some long enough to be observed some remnants of household inequality of spouses. It mainly concerns the Russian village, brightly marked with the seal of conservative patriarchalness.

Many peasant families still retain the views formed in deep old days on the distribution of domestic duties.

It is difficult to assert with confidence which of the described ethical structures is more fair - that it is quite appropriate in the city, may not fit in the traditionalist mentality of the countryside. Anyway, the hierarchy in family relationships is very often manifested in the issues of managing a family budget. Often, city men who are unrelated in the traditional quality of the "head of the family" lose their independence, including economic.

The husband submorted trusts his spouse to manage material resources, while the woman acquires the "home treasurer" function and the actual host of the house. Apparently, such a situation contradicts the main norms of sex morality, prescribing a woman to be "weak" and not strive to capture the traditional roles of a man.

Family dispute etiquette

Among the reasons that can provoke a family conflict or serve as a divorce, the following negative factors can be distinguished:

Incorrect domestic behavior of one of the spouses;

Disharmony intimate relationships;

Distinction in opinions and tastes;

The inability of one of the spouses is worth holding in the company;

Non-compliance with one of the spouses of personal hygiene rules;

Incorrect family budget planning;

Conflict in relations with the parents of the spouse.

In order to avoid conflict situations, men should not speculate on their social and physical superiorities, and establishing housekeeping on his wife, motivating this decision to rude and crowd with a stereotype of "exclusively female affairs."

A response error of a woman trying to parry Patriarchal Natisk are accusations of a husband, who are raising the latter in household passivity.

It is impossible to see the cause of the conflict in the individual characteristics of the spouse, in its inability or inability to do anything. It is not necessary to provoke a scandal due to small discrepancies in tastes.

We should not forget that in the conflict there are no winners - there are only defeated. Many conflicts can be avoided, finding the strength in itself to restrain in time, do not pronounce rudeness, something to do something, forgive something and, most importantly, adequately assess the situation.

Confrontation "mother-in-law and son-in-law", "mother-in-law and daughter-in-law"

Very often, conflicts and quarrels arise between "old" and "new" family members, that is, between the mother-in-law and the son-in-law, mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.

If newlyweds are going to live together with the parents of one of the spouses, they should be prepared for well-known material and housing difficulties, and perhaps the difficulties associated with communication, mutual understanding.

The nuances mentioned here are able to cause severe conflicts that, ultimately, will lead the family to complete decay.

To avoid negative consequences, every potentially "conflicting" family member must remember the rules below:

Husband and wife must independently deal with their relationship. They may ask for advice from parents, but in no way complain to each other;

In order to win the location of the mother-in-law, the son-in-law should:

a) thank mother-in-law for "beautiful culinary abilities";

b) give flowers to the holiday or when he brought flowers to his wife;

c) share your success at work, ask for advice;

d) help in everything and do not wait when they ask for this; Try to fulfill the most minor request.

In order to win the layout of the mother-in-law, the daughter-in-law must perform most of those requirements that belonged to the son-in-law;

Parents should not interfere in the personal relationship of newlyweds. Suspicion, distrust, hints - all this destroys a young family and causes a lot of suffering;

In the presence of grandchildren, mother-in-law and mother-in-law should never condemn the daughter-in-law or son-in-law, pointing to them for any misses, to reproach in the improper education of children; "Fraging" grandchildren, "parents punished."

Your house .

The interior of your apartment is directly determined by your habits and taste. The main landmark in its creation is the convenience of your and your family members. The house must first reign a benevolent environment and comfort. The latter cannot be created by any ornaments and expensive things.

Replenishness of furniture.

When living room or bedroom equipment should consider one undeniable requirement: furniture should not be too much, the abundance of the situation is always annoying and tired of guests and hosts. In the bedroom, in addition to beds, there are furniture necessary for the toilet: Chiffonier, wardrobe, trumma or mirror with a puff near them. Beds are appropriate bedside tables with desktop lamps for reading in the dark. If the place allows, you can put one or two chairs.

By the way: keep in mind!

Modern apartments do not provide in the bedroom the presence of shell for washing, but in a private house (especially if the size of the bedroom itself is allowed) this subject will not be considered a luxury, moreover, will bring additional amenities in your life. In any case, you will get the opportunity to wash the morning, bring yourself in order and get out of the bedroom to your loved ones at best.

In the hall or living room it is considered a bad tone to put glass cabinets or servants with all sorts of porcelain decorations and baubles. It looks ridiculous here the family photos look - their place in the office or bedroom. Desk, armchairs, sofa, coffee table, Bookcase or Shelves (if there is no library or separate cabinet) in the hall will be in place.

1. Do not overload your apartment things.

2. At the design and decoration of the apartment, pay special attention to the windows. At your request, they can expand the room space or, on the contrary, to narrow it. The window can be turned into a live picture. Or scenicly hide him for drapes ... In any case, try the windows to associate you with the whole world and let in your home as much fresh air.

3. Do not strive to shake the decoration and wealth of your apartment of your acquaintances. The presence of luxury new-fashioned things does not always make the room cozy.

4. On the other hand, do not clutch your apartment too old things. Especially if you do not use them a long time ago. At least once a year, free your home from unnecessary outdated trash.

5. In extreme cleanliness, contain kitchen, bathroom and restroom.

6. Extremely decorate any apartment of flowers. Including freshly cut, beautifully chosen compositions made of dry herbs and colors, a variety of indoor. There are endless opportunities for your fantasy. However, flowers, more than any other thing in your home, require attention, cleanliness and continuous care.

7. Pets - dogs, cats, aquarium fish, birds - not only make a kind, alive and warm your home, but in their own way and decorate it. But it is very unpleasant when animals are inhabited in the house unpleasant odors. When animals and their owners are in constant dirt.

Etiquette norms of communication of parents and children

It should be immediately emphasized that children require special attention from the parent pair during the adolescent crisis, in communicating with which it is important to take into account certain rules. In no case is not allowed the fact of unreasonable criticism or ridicule addressed to the teenager. In addition, it is best not to insist on your (possibly stereotypical) moral views and refrain from the temptation "the choice of suitable friends" for a son or daughter.

Often, the relationship between parents and mature children suffer from tension, which, however, is not completely difficult to remove, following some simple, but extremely important norms of the family etiquette.

First, an educator must understand that parents naturally worries his fate, a teenager should not perceive the parental interest in his personal life as an annoying and idle curiosity.

For their part, parents should understand that impatience, nontactivity, suspicion is not the best way to contact with the child, even matured. It is necessary to talk with a teenager, it is necessary to safely and restrained, by no means offending your child with dirty suspicions.

Children.

The main thing in any apartment is still not a thing (regardless of its value), and man. You yourself, your loved ones, your children. Perhaps you should remember this.

Birth of a child.

In the first days after the birth of a child, you should not apply visits without warning or home or to the hospital. Even family members and close friends should agree on the time of visits in order not to appear all at once. And even better, first negotiate on the phone about the time convenient for the visit. It is possible that this visit will have to postpone for a while. Flowers and gifts are better to bring three or four days later, and already home - in the maternity hospital they are not a place. For those presented on the occasion of the birth of a child, gifts should be honored orally or by mail. This can not be done immediately - it's better late than ever. You should not be offended if the answer to your gift you will not get immediately. With a chest baby, so many worries that you need some time while the family will be able to pay time to other duties.

Choice of the child name

In parallel with those difficulties and experiences that parents pursue in the first days after the child appears to the light, a new one occurs, by no means an easy task - selecting a name for a baby. Do not underestimate this truly stage and responsible moment.

It is necessary to choose reasonable principles that will direct parents in solving the problem of the newborn problem. The most common and very difficult in consequences is the mistake of parents who are fond of fashion trends on certain names, which often turn out to be grotesque elements of newaz or unacceptable borrowing. In the past, many problems relieved the practice of using the so-called soles.

Note

The saints contain monthly calendar, allowing to associate a specific day of the year with a certain religious event. It was customary to impose a baby with the name of the saint, the commemoration of which was for the birthday of this child. That is why there is a tradition that has come to this day to celebrate t. Angel Day (that is, the Day of the Sacred Patron).

To date, the criterion for choosing a name is always situational and the decision entirely on the shoulders of the parents. Obviously, they are guided only by the beauty of the sound of a particular name or the desire to perpetuate the name of any relative not quite appropriate.

We can allocate only some abstract selection criteria.

The main requirement is the person's name should not be "random".

It is unreasonable to choose a too long or difficult-to-name name, it is undesirable to use complex clusters of consonants. The name should be easily remembered both autonomously and in combination with patronymic. Choose a name, harmonious and elegant in form - in the future, it should make its owner as much as possible (here parents are obliged to maximize the possibilities of their own intuition). It is impossible to allow the name to sound dismissively relative to the corresponding surname and patronymic. Agree that Venus Vasilyevna Korovina and Robert Petrovich Rooshov sounds quite ridiculous and ridiculous. Therefore, it is impossible to disagree with Satyric's poet-Satyrika Yu. Blagovyev, who raised the desire of some parents to combine completely incompatible things in the names of their children.

Child education.

Furniture and general decoration of the room in which children are located, should not interfere with normal movements and development ... In the children's room, it should be spacious, the child needs a desktop for classes and games, to store toys should be provided with a specially designated place. Please note: if you do too much comments to your children (do not touch! Do not get enough! Do not run! Etc.), not a child, but an interpreted furniture (or your pedagogical inflating) is to blame.

From an early age, involve the child to maintain order in your room. He must have clearly designated duties around the house, robbery and unfounded. The presence of such domestic affairs disciplines the child, teaching to work and with the skillful leadership by parents, brings it up, develops intelligence, teaches etiquette. After all, participation in domestic affairs together with adults allows a small person to take a look at his familiar face with the eyes of parents, feel like his own efforts in one or another contribute to creating a comfort and beauty in the house.
Cleanliness and tidy type of parents are one of the means to preserve their authority in children. Unmarried father, mother in a dirty bathrobe - children involuntarily celebrate these details. Mother, taking a child, for example, from kindergarten, should take care of its appearance. Children are prone to comparisons. Their observation is significantly sharper than it usually seems to parents.

Parents should not read children's letters without their consent. It offends the younger family members and can shake their confidence in parents. Should they knock on the room of one of the family members? In different families, it is accepted in different ways. In any case, it should be pounded in the morning and in the evening, that is, at a time when a person can undress or dress.

It is not necessary to say: "a pleasant appetite", sitting down for the family table. But after meals you need to say "Thank you" and ask permission to get up from the table when it must be done before others. You should not make comments to other people's children, especially in the presence of their parents or other people.

If the daughter meets with young men, parents should give her a small amount of money for minor expenses: cinema or ice cream. It is not quite convenient to pay a young man every time, who is also at the care of his parents. Another thing, if he is already a working person.

List of used literature

1. Good tone: the collection of rules and councils for all occasions, public and family. Reprint edition. M.: Soviet writer, 1991.

2. All about etiquette. - M.: Veva, 2000.

3. Etiquette. - M.: Citadel-Triad, 1995.

Culturology - This is a science of culture. The subject of cultural studies are the objective patterns of universal and national cultural processes, monuments, phenomena and events of the material and spiritual life of people.

Culturology - Science of many cultures.

Culturology - Science studying the culture, the most common patterns of its development.

Culture - This is a generalizing concept for the forms of human vital activity created and created by us in the process of evolution. Culture is moral, moral and material values, skills, knowledge, customs, traditions.

The diversity of the world's philosophical and scientific definitions Cultures does not allow to refer to this concept as the most obvious designation of the object and the subject of culture and requires a clearer and narrow specification : Culture is understood as ...

• the combination of material and spiritual values \u200b\u200bcreated and created by humanity and components of its spiritual and public being;
• "A historically determined level of development of society and a person, expressed in the types and forms of organizing the lives and activities of people, as well as in the material and spiritual values \u200b\u200bcreated by them" ( BSE);
• "The result of the game-creation of a person aimed at evolution, where, on the one hand, the playground created by the Creator, its conditions, resources and potential, and on the other - the creativity of a person aimed at improving this site and itself on its territory, by Acquisition of experience and knowledge. Thus, the culture is the reason and consequence of the educational game "(Narek Babikyan);
• "The total scope of humanity" ( Daniel Andreev);
• complex, multi-level sign system that is modeled in each socyium the picture of the world and the determining place of a person in it;
• picture of the world ;
• "Product of playing man!" (Y.Hyompy);
• "A combination of genetically non-oveurd of information in the field of human behavior" (Y.Lotman);
• cultivation, processing, improvement, improvement;
• education , education , Development morals , ethics , morality ;
• development spiritual spheres of life, art , creation ;
• creative achievements in some private sphere, limited time, place, or some other common property (culture of ancient Russia , modern culture, pop culture , slavic culture , mass culture , Culture ancient Egypt );
• "All the totality of the oppiochemical manifestations of man" ;