Surely each person has his own list of words and deeds that in no case can be forgiven to anyone. But love and close relationships often force us to reconsider our principles, and sometimes even change them. Being in love sometimes closes a woman's eyes to the ugly male actions of her partner, often forcing her to forgive what, in general, should not be forgiven. So, what actions and words can never be forgiven even to a beloved man?

Treason

On the topic of unforgivable betrayal, the opinions of women and men unanimously agree in their majority - you can’t forgive betrayal! In treason, several negative points are collected - this is the pain of realizing the deception of a loved one, hatred of betrayal, and intolerance from the thought that he was close to another woman, this is the torment of the fact that someone broke into the close world of your relationship with a partner more, soiling and defiling the Temple of your love. Cheating sometimes can not forgive even very the strong man, and the fact of treason can simply trample a weak, sensitive person.

Forgive the changer?

Of course, everyone decides for himself. But remember that to forgive is not to live the rest of your life with a person under the yoke of suspicion, pain and this resentment. To forgive betrayal is to let go of the situation, completely clear your heart of resentment and start life from scratch, never returning to the past. See also: How to respond to his betrayal?

The man raised his hand to the woman

The sad statistics that psychologists provide indicate that the fact of the first case when a man raises his hand to a woman soon becomes part of his rule of communication with a partner. A man by nature is very strong, and he is able to protect his loved ones, as well as refrain from excessive emotionality and aggression. Strong man never allow himself to humiliate a loved one.

The one who raised his hand against a woman is a creature with an unbalanced psyche, who can easily do it for the second and tenth time, each time getting more and more excited and using more and more sophisticated methods of humiliating his wife.

man beating children

Until the debate subsides about whether physical punishment of children is necessary, or it is not permissible, those men who do not have the right to be called men, dissolve their hands in relation to their children, explaining this by paternal love and the desire to raise them good people.

The highest role of a mother is to protect her children from all the cruelties in this world. So is it worth it to forgive a person who regularly tortures your flesh and blood? Is your love for your husband or the habit of living with him together worth all the humiliation, physical and moral pain of your child?

Lie

Whatever it was men's lies- small or large - it can be a serious obstacle to this couple's path to happiness. As a rule, it is a small lie that undermines relationships - every day, bit by bit, suddenly growing into a snowball over time, which can no longer be moved aside. A lie of a man is a serious reason to doubt his feelings and sincerity. Relationships are built on trust, if there is no trust, there will be no love.

Public words of insult against a woman

Dirty words spoken by a man in public should not be forgiven him. If a man suddenly begins to share the intimate secrets of your relationship with friends, criticize you rudely, utter obscene expressions against you - this is a serious reason to reconsider relations with him. In no case should a man forgive such behavior - unless, of course, you want to remain humiliated and insulted all your life, and possibly even beaten, in public.

Disrespectful attitude towards women

“That blonde has a superfigure, and after giving birth you blurred like a cow”, “But where do you care about this woman, you don’t know how to cook”, “My ex kept order, but you always have a mess” - and they continue comparing you with all the women on Earth, of course, is not in your favor. Should this be forgiven?

Over the past ten years, or even several tens of centuries, people have been forcibly invested in the notion that it is better to [ FORGIVE] their offenders, they will be rewarded according to their merits by higher powers for their black deeds.
Today, there are a lot of sick people in the world who have been forgiven, accepted, agreed, based on popular teachings and modern trainings.
And I will now talk to you about the fact that it is impossible to forgive, yes ... in order to maintain your integrity. You may not agree with me and you will be right too.
Did I forgive? Relatives, yes. No others.
My story now does not touch on the topic of a close circle of native people, people related to you by blood. This is another topic. separate for explanation. I will tell you about those cases when you were harmed by strangers (neighbors, colleagues, buddies, “friends”, all kinds of structures), and you swallowed it, accepted it, forgave it ... Without letting go of the offense, but on the contrary, hiding it even deeper in yourself . Why? Let's go in order.


The other day, a girl came to me for an appointment, who was energetically exhausted and depressed. As a result, she is not successful either in her personal life or in other issues that are significant to her. The fact that it had a negative program became clear to me immediately, we began to work. Such a program was not a directed blow, but a bunch of blows that she took upon herself unconditionally and unquestioningly for many years. Did she forgive? Oh yeah! Didn't get angry at the offenders? No, she thought that anger was bad and got rid of it as best she could. But the body remembers everything, and the subconscious mind recorded everything, and deep inside the thought of the desire for a person to answer for everything ... lived in it. After our session, it became easier for her to breathe. But what she said after the meeting instead of gratitude just shocked me! “I’m kind, I don’t want him to return to those who sent him to me, removing the negative from me, I don’t want this for them”
[So this article has matured against the background of this.]
Dear ones, when you forgive your offender, you simplify the situation by making it easier. not in your favor. On an energetic level, it looks like this. The person sent you a stream of negative, destructive energy (in other words, just dirt), and you accepted it safely, thanking for this with your forgiveness, thus removing all obligations from the offender for what he had done, and all causal relationships for practicing this act. Question! Where has the energy gone? Right! It took root in your body, in your subtle body and consciousness and began to grow, and possibly feed on similar “forgiveness.” The energy remains with the one who accepted it. The negative twists like a funnel, violating the integrity of your ethereal field, holes are formed. Subsequently, you attract through them a similar negative from the outside, at the same frequencies, and the most unpleasant thing is that your loved ones who live with you on the same territory indirectly fall into this funnel.
“So I let go of the enemy and the negative!” - you say.
Released where and to whom? Until the address and purpose are indicated, she remains with you. And can hold it cunning guilt.
Have you seen people unpunished? Here, a prime example how they were forgiven by their own victims.
It is sacrifice that is born in people when they hear around that everyone needs to be forgiven ... turn the other side so that they hit harder. They suppress their power and become simple, weak, manageable. This technology is clearly supported by some religions, in which a person is not a SPIRIT, but a victim and carry his cross to him until he dies ...
The victims today are clients of psychologists and psychoanalysts, magicians, priests, night girlfriends ... and you will agree with me that there are quite a few of them ...
Only you have the right to decide whether you are a victim or a winner.
Forgiveness… FORGIVENESS state… Imagine a little Puppy. He is very small and cannot take care of himself. Another thing is an adult dog that runs fast, jumps, it is full of strength and will not attack first, but if you hit it in the face, it is unlikely that it will give you a paw ... Can a person be like that? Yes, if he still believes that he is not a puppy in this world.

Rituals of Forgiveness were very popular at one time. Radical forgiveness even became fashionable study. But, many people with these techniques came to me with a lot of problems and failures in life. You probably already guessed what kind of kickbacks they pulled to themselves when they forgave everyone indiscriminately with a backhand. They read mantras in the pure stream of the Universe, and in response she accepted their messages and removed all the "sins" from those who were truly to blame. (This is not about petty grievances, I write about serious things ... a victim of rapists, criminals, teachers at school who bully children, peers, and others ...)
A person who does not feel guilty is often freed from it by the mercy of his victim, and sometimes by himself denying the fact of his atrocity. Done and forgot. And the person who has forgiven slowly dies from a serious illness or mental illness. And, unfortunately, there are many such cases today. And not all experts understand the full depth of this problem. I personally know only three of them in Russia.
When a person undergoes repentance in the church (sometimes he repents precisely for holding evil against the enemy, thinking about revenge), from now on he takes on everything that he proclaimed before the clergyman or other mediator of forces. He experiences a strong sense of guilt at this moment, which means he accepts the right to be weak. On this thought-form, he attracts to himself all the troubles, problems, constantly solving one thing or another. "He's guilty, which means he deserves it."
People who are in a constant position of all forgiveness and acceptance receive again and again new and new slaps in the face from hard life. Observed?
Retribution is an Illusion that was instilled long ago so that people would let everyone go, and it would be easier to control them. Analyze for yourself, if retribution was based on the fact of your forgiveness, then boomerangs would fly over their heads every single day. But that doesn't happen. Why? (Reread the text above)
But people are told: he will answer for everything after death, in the next life, he will burn in a hyena ... and you?
Tests in the form of blows from others are given to a person not so that he “simplifies” them and agrees with them, but so that he learns how to respond to them correctly, becoming stronger, wiser, happier. This is the school of life. Natural selection.
No one has the right to take yours, to encroach on your territory, life, the life of your loved ones. If you go into someone else's house, you will become a criminal and must answer for your actions. These are the laws of Energy and Causal investigative links. To hold a blow and protect the territory from the enemy was in the blood of your ancestors, and mine too.

Sergey, what to do, what recommendations?
1. Show your emotions boldly and naturally. Don't be ashamed of what you are doing. When you have been hurt, offended, speak up about it, do not keep it to yourself. Do not take anything personally that may interfere with your life, that does not correspond to your values. If you do something you don't really want to do, you are blocking your inner resources. Your own will and natural process of protection. Be honest with yourself!
2. If a negative was directed at you, you realized it, collect it from yourself and send it back to the ill-wisher, even if you do not know who it is. Let him deal with his Karma himself, you have your own business.
3. Any Simplified Negative is garbage in your field. You take out the garbage when the smell has already gone ... Do you feel it? Do it immediately!
4. In order not to receive resentment against a person who supposedly needs to be forgiven later. Do step #2 first.
5. Is it impossible to forgive at all? Can! Only yourself, for wasting time on something that is not worthy of you. And so that you don’t have to do this, read point # 1.
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Surely everyone has a certain list of actions that cannot be forgiven to any person, even if he is the most dear and beloved. It is possible that many do not understand what exactly is included in this list until they encounter it in real life.

This is where the understanding begins to come that, no matter how you fight with yourself, you can’t forgive. Of course, everything largely depends on the person who was guilty - to forgive own child or a close family member is easier, but this often requires titanic work on one's consciousness.

Basically, what is forgiveness? And what does it mean for the person himself, as well as for his offender. Many people think that to forgive means to forget, it is this delusion that prevents them from understanding why they need to forgive. Surely, each person has his own understanding of this phenomenon, but still, there are some common characteristics, right?
So what is forgiveness?

From a philosophical point of view, forgiveness is the refusal to take revenge on the offender, as well as the ability to “understand” the one who caused you pain or damage.

Unfortunately, even the purest and kindest people, after they have suffered the fate of becoming a "victim" of someone's stupidity, thoughts of sweet revenge and revenge creep in. But does that make it any easier? Maybe in the first minutes yes, and then? Any normal person will be overwhelmed with guilt, and besides, you will sink to the level of your offender.

"Why forgive?" - you ask, - "If I'm still not going to have any more business with this person?". Yes, at least for the fact that people who have learned to understand and let go of their grievances suffer from psychological disorders and stress half as much as people who live with their grievances, periodically remembering all the sorrows and hateful feelings for the guilty person.

A person who believes that “such things” cannot be forgiven to any living person is constantly in a state of stress, subconsciously again and again returns to the experienced situation, which continues to traumatize him, causing already chronic symptoms.
What needs to be done to forgive?

Most importantly, you need to immediately understand for yourself that it is possible to forgive, but after that, most likely, you will have to let go of both the offense itself and the person, because there are certain misconducts, after which you will never be able to return to the same stage and the level of relationship that existed before the problem arose. You need to be prepared for this, both mentally and physically.

Become an offender. Not literally, of course, but figuratively. Try to understand what pushed him to such an act, why it happened, and also think, maybe your behavior was far from ideal, which prompted the person to do what he did. There's a great point about this: every villain has their own dramatic story in the trunk. After all, the offender can be very close person, from whom you do not expect this at all, but standing in his place, you realize his motives. Forgiveness is easier when understanding comes.
Let go of resentment. Sometimes it’s easier to forgive when you let go of resentment and pain not only mentally, but also physically, for example, by throwing a stone deep into the sea, or completely burning a candle to the last piece of wax. Such a symbolic act can help not to return to resentment never, not in a day, not in a year.
Honesty. You have been offended, and you have the right to show your feelings, your pain and aggression. Even if you decide to forgive, namely to get rid of internal destructive feelings and thoughts, then it will be quite normal and justified to show your anger. And, if a person who really wants to be forgiven and your emotional state restored, then he simply must endure and do a lot so that you get rid of the heavy baggage of emotions.

What things are not forgiven?

All this, of course, sounds good and beautiful, but to put it into practice, as it seems to many, is not so simple. This is especially true in cases where the offense is really serious. What are these cases and misdeeds that make the heart shrink and ache wildly, and common sense shut down?

To be honest, everyone has their own such list, someone can philosophically look at one problem, but does not accept another at all, and vice versa. There are times when, for example, a woman who is too in love turns a blind eye to too many offenses, which may not be worth doing.

For many, the most important offense that definitely cannot be forgiven to a man is treason. And most men hold absolutely the same opinion about women. Treason is both betrayal, and humiliation, and the pain of deceit, not everyone, even the strongest person, can forgive this, because thoughts always creep in that this can happen more than once, because a person has already crossed the forbidden line. Who knows, maybe so.
If a man raised his hand to a woman. Even in the most difficult life situations, a man is a man to remain him, and not to stoop to the humiliation of the weaker sex. If this happened at least once, then this indicates a person’s mental imbalance and, most likely, he will not be able to resist the next time.
Cruelty to children and relatives. Yes, everyone can be in a bad mood, everyone can be tired and not want to see anyone. Children often make noise, play around, demand attention, but they are his children, so when a man constantly beats children and insults your next of kin, you need to seriously think about whether this is worth forgiving? After all, it is the duty of the mother to protect her offspring, even from the father, if necessary.
Betrayal. Betrayals are different, each person may have his own reasons for committing such a low act, but sometimes even the closest people cannot be forgiven.

In addition to these main points, there are many others, personal, for example, laziness, greed, rudeness, bad habits or selfishness. Ideal people it doesn’t happen and, of course, if you love and appreciate a person, then you learn to ignore something, to forgive something, but you get used to something.

But you need to remember that you can forgive a lot, but forgetting and taking back a person is far from always. Freed from the unnecessary burden of resentment and tears, you can take a healthy look at the situation and determine whether you need all this?

And finally, there is another offender who haunts many people - it's yourself. Learn to forgive yourself, because we are also imperfect, sometimes we do those things for which we are ashamed of ourselves. Get rid of resentment and anger, this will help you build a life based on harmony with yourself.

Each of us has a ready list of deeds and deeds that cannot be forgiven to people under any circumstances. And it's not that we are evil or vindictive, find fault with others. It's just that there are things that ruin someone else's life, break the harmonious picture of the world. The result is broken destinies, lost families and pain. Especially often, women, the elderly and children are subjected to serious insults and blows, both literally and figuratively. Men by their nature belong to the powerful of this world and due to physical strength they can protect themselves. But also, they are able to inflict pain, both direct and figurative, on others, weaker. A woman in love is ready to forgive a lot, which is what spurs her beloved on new "exploits". And why not, because everything goes with impunity. And this is the biggest mistake - to forgive everything unconditionally. Let's take a closer look at what actions a man can never be forgiven for, or at least left unattended.

Protect yourself

No matter what troubles and problems hang over the family, a woman is always “on horseback”. She, wiping her tears and swallowing the pain of resentment, continues to take care of her beloved household and tries to endure the blows of fate. And the main offender continues his cloudless existence and is unlikely to think about changing. After all, she endured - it means she loves! So it will continue to be bullied, and you endure. Is it worth it? What are you afraid of?

Loneliness - you are already alone, only humiliation and insults are added to it. Lack of finances - you will be nervous and endure - you will have to look for money for treatment. Leave children without a father - why do they need such a father?

Think better about their psyche, it will be traumatized from childhood and as a result will lead to serious psychological problems. At a minimum, they will be notorious, as a maximum, by repeating their father. Full-fledged members of society cannot grow up in a family where lies, violence and other negative aspects are present.

Each of us has an internal gradation, according to which we either make another compromise, or silently, pack our things and leave. The latter suggests that there is no longer any hope for a change in circumstances. So, let's begin to study the list of actions that categorically cannot be forgiven by a man, even the most beloved one.

Treason

Quite a controversial topic among modern psychologists. In the old days, when there was no such freedom of action, the woman's answer was always unambiguous - "Get out!". But now the morals are slightly different, and some experts argue that cheating can even strengthen marital relationships. Remember the phrase "Leftist - strengthens marriage!". No and no again! Cheating is not a banal sexual contact with another woman. If the question was reduced only to the physics of the act, then no problem. It's about betrayal. When he entered into an alliance with his girlfriend, and she believed him, the man convinced her of his sincerity. Turns out he was lying. If you try to “step on” your throat and try to forgive, then get ready to remember this for the rest of your life. Pain and resentment will surface every time he repeats "I love you!", "You are my only one." Every time he goes on a business trip, your soul will plunge into a storm of torment and mistrust. And your suffering will not be unfounded.

After all, if you changed it once, who will guarantee that it will not go “to the left” the second, third time. Perhaps further he will think over his exploits in more detail and mask his contacts well. In addition to the fact that such a situation will hurt you, the children will also be in an atmosphere of deception and distrust.

beatings

There is an interesting myth about why Eve was created from Adam's rib. The Lord thus wanted to point out that both man and woman are equal in every way. If he carved it out of his leg - it would be possible to humiliate, from the head - consider it stupid. But the rib located under his strong arm is a symbol of the woman's security. And what actually happens in some cases. With the same hand, he not only beats a woman, but kills a man in her. Of course, only weak, vile and notorious individuals are capable of such acts. Only a weak personality can raise a hand against a woman and a child, as they are not able to show their strength in front of their equals or stronger ones.

The most common mistake women "Beats - it means he loves!". There is no worse excuse for male cruelty. How so? What kind of love can we talk about if it gives him pleasure to hurt, humiliate, “trample” into the dirt? What a masochism! And who is hitting? The one you loved dreamed of a long and happy life next to him, gave birth to children, cook your favorite dishes, wash, court. Yes, he is a banal ungrateful pig, that's who!

We will not now focus on why it occurs. Let it be on the conscience of the parents of your beloved and, of course, on his. Let's talk about what to do in cases where you are being abused by your spouse. And we are talking not only about the physical, but also the moral, psychological form. He can “destroy” you with words, deeds, insult you financially. So do not assume that a woman cannot complain about cruelty if there are no beatings and sexual violence.

Quite often in closed families there is a special kind of violence that is difficult to immediately consider. This includes constant humiliation and insults, coercion to refuse contact with the outside world. Authoritarian husbands forbid going out, communicating with friends, visiting relatives and friends, studying, working, participating in foundations, organizations, etc.

There is also economic humiliation - restriction, control over the expenditure of finances. Quite often, a man concentrates all the money in his hands and does not allow his wife to spend even a penny on himself. And why - still she sits at home. There is something to wear - a million dresses (and there are only two of them, and then, from a girl's life). And what is remarkable, violence is subjected regardless of social status- rich, poor, successful entrepreneurs, etc. About male cruelty, domestic violence in various variations can be found in numerous groups in in social networks. And what is sad, aggression is growing every day. To understand the nature of the phenomenon, you need to study it carefully. There is one serious moment - both aggressors and victims are united by certain patterns.

Here are the main psychological traits of the victim:

• self-doubt;
• low self-esteem;
• anxiety;
• excessive suggestibility.

Most often, an adult victim of domestic violence will always find something to justify his abuser. The most frequent phrase - I myself am to blame, which suggests that a person suppresses his anger, looks for his guilt in everything, confidence in the insecurity and unresolved problem. Some ladies are even sure that domestic violence is the norm for an ordinary family. The conditions in which she was brought up, the relationship of her parents, affect. Such women will judge those who are arrogant to men on TV, show feminism, fight for their rights.

These are people who have also been subjected to cruel treatment, humiliation and insults since childhood.

• they have low self-esteem;
• in all their actions they look for the guilty on the side;
• find excuses for their actions;
• they do not realize the pain they cause to their woman;
• they understand very well that there are people on whom they cannot show their aggression.

Psychological portrait of a domestic tyrant

The tyrant, as a rule, is always in good standing among colleagues and friends. Such characters did not appear in the chronicle of incidents, they were not involved either for debauchery, or for inappropriate behavior, etc. Moreover, in relation to strangers, they are always courteous and well-mannered. No one can imagine that this gallant man is capable of violent acts. But these people are very dangerous. You can't get up and walk away from such a person. You are his property and he has the right to do whatever he wants with you. Thanks to you, he can throw out his weakness, inflicting beatings or moral humiliation.

In order not to be captured by a mentally unbalanced tyrant, think over a plan of action in advance. Of course, if you decide to get rid of it once and for all.

1. Record all his unpleasant actions on video.
2. Do not be afraid that you will leave - it will close the “under” lock and become more cruel.
3. Arrange with someone you trust to prepare a shelter from the tyrant.
4. Gather the necessary things in advance, be sure to make a copy of the keys if necessary.
5. Gather the necessary medicines.
6. You must have cash, if your husband is an influential person, he will track the card.
7. Clear all information about yourself on social networks.
8. Turn off the phone and throw away the old card, insert a new one, unknown to anyone. Dial the numbers of loved ones from memory. Using the card, immediately destroy it.
9. Hide from him in a place completely unfamiliar to everyone. Will be with relatives and friends - will find. At the same time, people dear to you will fall under his “hand”.
10. Do not leave children with him.
11. So that he, as an influential person, does not have the opportunity to turn them against you, deprive him of the rights to their upbringing, present a video and photo of the facts of his cruelty.
12. If you live with a tyrant in an apartment, arrange with your neighbors, let them call the police at your first screams.

Someone will think that we have presented the script for another thriller about an abusive husband and an infrequent victim of his wife. Imagine that in life such situations, unfortunately, are not rare. Don't believe? Scroll through the statistics and see how many women die from domestic violence. And you will understand that this is not even a thriller, but the horrors of our realities.

Any situation involving abuse must end in court. Everything is important here - from your record to the testimony of witnesses, with a medical examination. As soon as you have been beaten, report to the police and consult a doctor. In order not to receive a well-deserved punishment, tyrants go to great lengths to beg forgiveness from the victim. You can't trust them. The statistics are more than depressing. Of the 100% of cases in which the wife forgave her husband for beatings, in 95% the violence was repeated again. And the worst thing is that every time the cruelty of a person only intensifies.

child abuse

When you act as a victim, it's bad, but if the child is simply prohibitive. It is difficult to even write about it, let alone witness such a relationship. Many parents do not understand that our children feel only their own guilt for all the problems in the family. It is not clear for what reasons, but they are always sure that their parents quarrel only because of them. Only as a result of his act or disobedience, the father beats the mother, yells at her, insults, etc. It is difficult to imagine what stress the child's psyche is undergoing at this moment. But when a child is beaten, it is necessary to stop the tyrant for the first time and leave. However, the child does not always admit to the mother that he received the belt from the father. Again, he is afraid that he will cause conflict or aggression of the father against the mother.

As a result, approximately 75% of those subjected to violence in childhood grow up with serious psychological deviations. They have an unstable psyche, increased aggression. And most often, future tyrants grow up from such children, who commit violence already in their family. There is a certain vicious circle and a series of violence transmitted through the dynasty.

The mother should always pay attention to the behavior of the child in the presence of the father and check his body. We saw bruises, abrasions - immediately go to the doctor and write a statement to the police. We decided to forgive this moment - it means that you are the same criminal as your husband is a tyrant.

The fact that the baby is subjected to beatings and screams from the parents "says" his disturbing sleep, restlessness, unstable behavior, beating kittens, puppies. If the suspicions are confirmed by the behavior of the spouse - do not endure. Save your baby and run away from him. The mechanism of action is the same as in the previous case.

Alcoholism, drug addiction and gambling

As medical practice shows, there are no former drug addicts or gamblers. And those stories that pass from mouth to mouth about miraculous healing are an exception to general rule. Understand that this person is no longer able to control his actions and will return to his addiction. Over time, when he does not have enough funds for the next dose or game, he will take the amount out of the house. You will hide - or beat and take away, or sell the right thing. Why should you endure it? Why should his negative habits that kill him fall on your fragile shoulders. He cannot pull himself together - let him be treated, but leave you alone.

Leave and do not turn around, and if there are children, even more so. They should not see a father who goes down and down. His habits can be adopted by your children, and what's in the future? Another lost person to society? Only one way out - "Out of sight - out of mind!".

It all starts with small lies and ends with big lies. Do not tolerate a person who begins to lie over trifles. Such a habit suggests that he is so arranged - he cannot live without lies, and that's it. And the moment will come when he will deceive you in a very serious matter, and you will feel a serious blow. The deceitfulness of men is evidence of their insincerity, a game on your feelings. What kind of family harmony can we talk about if there is no trust. In addition, this habit can be intercepted by children, from which big liars can also grow. And believe me - no one will thank you for them! Leave and do not regret!

disrespect to you

Many psychologists argue that love and respect are slightly different feelings. And each of them should be present in every full-fledged family. If a man loves and whispers at night tender words, and during the day it easily offends and humiliates - think about whether you need such an attitude. Especially if your spouse humiliates you by comparing you with other women: “Look, that blonde hair is styled better than yours,” “My ex cooked better than you,” etc. It's one thing to make a remark, it's another thing to make it so that you feel your insignificance and feel heartache. Yes, he is not only rude, but also cruel. Is it worth it? Let him humiliate and insult the former, the same blonde, but not you! Do not hesitate to forgive!

An insult in front of everyone

Well, there can be no question of continuing to live with such a nonentity. In normal families, everything happens - minor conflicts and quarrels. But as soon as guests cross the threshold of the house or you go to a dinner party, everything should be calm and beautiful. He has no right to raise his voice at you, let alone humiliate and insult you. And if it came to the point that he reveals your intimate secrets to his friends, while accompanying your person with dirty words - throw him out of your life as an unnecessary and vile ballast. And don't try to blame yourself for everything.

If you think that on the other hand, he will behave differently, you are mistaken, and deeply! After all, it's not about you, but about his vile character. He will insult everyone who becomes his wife, otherwise he cannot!

Narcissistic and egocentric

Everything in your home is the result of his achievements. Well-bred children are his job. Excellent repair - well, of course, thanks to his efforts and guidance, the craftsmen did a good job. Naturally, only good people are allowed to go on vacation to the best resort, while you spend the summer in an abandoned village with his grandmother or stay in a stuffy apartment. After all, someone needs to look after the dog. What about shopping? Doesn't it seem strange to you that everything that is most expensive, the best and most beautiful is purchased for him, and you have enough of a cheap blouse in which you can only sell potatoes on the market. This is how you will be in life on the second, and even on the third, fourth plan. Is this love? Will you continue to endure?

lazy husband

Greedy spouse

This feature is generally inherently very ugly. But if a husband now and then presses finances, not allowing his wife to purchase the right thing, then he simply does not appreciate it, does not want to share it. We are not talking about families in which a difficult period has come. But loving husband will always make sure that his beloved looks good. And if he is stingy, it means that he does not love enough. And so it will be all my life - do you want to endure? Decide for yourself.

Insults against your loved ones

Sincere love for a woman provides for a reverent attitude towards everyone who is dear to her. If he speaks badly about your mother, father, brothers and sisters - think about it, does he really love you? If you forgive at least once and try not to exaggerate, keeping silent about his rudeness, it will only get worse. Firstly, find out by what right he speaks of those whom you love and respect. Secondly, ask - what did they do to him? I must say that for people like him there are no good people in the world at all. All are bad, all are greedy, all are evil, only He is good! You should not associate your life with such a person.

We cannot endlessly continue the list of actions that are not subject to "challenge" and forgiveness. Many women, after reading our recommendations, can enter something of their own here. It is important for us that the weaker sex stop tolerating insults, violence, humiliation, lies and insults. We need to stop and remember that we are the same people. And each of us must learn to love ourselves for who we are. Do not look for shortcomings in yourself, and if there are any, then it is up to you to correct them or not. In any case, you can always find more humane ways to deal with problems than to beat, call names or humiliate.

Forgiveness is very important in life. The accumulated small and large grievances poison life, spoil the mood and well-being. Such grievances need to be parted as soon as possible. However, not everything can and should be forgiven. Every woman has her own understanding of prohibitions. If for one betrayal of her husband does not mean anything, then the other will not be able to continue to be with him. Whether this is good or bad, it is impossible to say for sure. But to be happy, stepping on the throat of one's own principles, concepts of honor and conscience, will definitely not work.

Betrayal

The most offensive and serious betrayals occur on the part of close and dear people. After all, they know your weaknesses and those things that can hurt. But still decide to betray. Sometimes it benefits them, sometimes they do it stupidly. The term betrayal can be understood as:

• physical or emotional betrayal of a beloved man;
• “setting up” a colleague at work;
• flirting best friend with your man;
• disclosure of your personal secrets and secrets.

Of course, you can try to forgive the person who betrayed you, continue to communicate with him, but trust will be lost. The one who betrayed you once can easily do it again. Communicating with him further, you will still remember his betrayal. Many women forgive the betrayal of loved ones because of material, moral benefits. They do not want to know and accept the bitter truth. But whether they will then have peace and tranquility in their souls is difficult to answer.
Sincerely forgive or finally break off the relationship - everyone decides for himself, listening to his inner voice.

Cruelty and assault

If you can offend strongly with words inadvertently, then you can behave cruelly or beat you only consciously. For most women, the cruelty of men towards children is absolutely unacceptable, although many of them will forgive rude treatment of themselves.
But this position is wrong. You can not forgive assault, rudeness, humiliation for many reasons:

Why can't you forgive that your loved one hit you? A woman with the psychology of a victim is ready to endure beatings, but this cannot be called normal.

Deception

You can cheat once and. In a relationship with a loved one or friendship, it is important to trust a person, to know that he will always be there. As a rule, everything starts with petty lies. A man keeps silent about his spending, entertainment and other things so as not to “upset you.”
But then it becomes a habit, all communication becomes entangled in a web of lies. You can no longer trust him.

It will not be a problem to deceive you on a large scale. Husbands often take loans, lose all their savings on sweepstakes, sell valuables without the knowledge of their spouses. The property and money that you did not just get are spent on meaningless actions. It is difficult to forgive such deceit. After all, a man demonstrates complete indifference to your needs, interests, desires. If you forgive deceit, you will always be a victim of this attitude towards yourself.

Treason

The attitude to adultery depends on the upbringing, sexual emancipation of the woman. For some, it means nothing. The wife avoids information about her husband's infidelities, pretending to be completely ignorant. But for romantic natures, related to sexual intercourse not only from the physiological side, betrayal can be a real tragedy. It is difficult for such women to forgive her, because they will not be able to live with such and treat a man as before.

• If this is not an isolated case, but a systematic violation of fidelity.
• Love you or In this case, it makes no sense to continue the relationship.
• A man does not perceive betrayal as a betrayal, a bad deed. He does not repent, does not regret what he has done, but, on the contrary, seeks to make you feel guilty. Such a man will definitely change again.
• If a man is loose, obsessed with sex, then he cannot be faithful. Why endure constant betrayal.
• To be able to resist temptations you need to be strong. Learn to resist. If a man does not want to do this, then he will never change.

Cheating is not only a physical act, but also humiliation, deception, betrayal of a partner. Even if you love your man very much, think many times before forgiving him. Is he worth the sacrifice? After all, life with constant distrust and doubt is unlikely to bring joy.

Indifference

Indifference and the complete absence of quarrels is a signal that not everything is going smoothly in a relationship. Such situations lead to family crises and. Indifference to a woman often occurs when a man does not respect her.
After all, respect is the key to a healthy relationship. When he is not there, the man is not interested in the opinion of the woman, criticizes her, does not take her words and requests seriously. He may avoid communication altogether, move away from serious conversations, or just listen to you with a blank look. You should not hope that your love will melt the ice, over time, his disrespect and indifference will only increase, criticism will become tougher. As a result, your self-esteem will decrease, complexes and self-doubt will appear.

To build a harmonious relationship, you need to make efforts from both sides. But in fact, it is the woman who makes sacrifices, adapts to the man. At the same time, a man can behave absolutely indifferently, does not try to give you anything in return. A moral, material, housing factor or other benefit can keep him in a relationship. But if a woman appears on the horizon who can give more, then he will immediately leave. Therefore, indifference and indifference cannot be forgiven.

A man suffering from narcissism or a big egoist often becomes indifferent. He will be narcissistic and take your sacrifices for granted. You will not see gratitude or appreciation from him. As well as support in difficult situations, because he is indifferent to almost everything that happens to you.

Run from such men. After all, life is given to enjoy it, give birth and raise children, feel happy. And by forgiving everything that disgusts you, you will no longer be yourself and cease to be a person.