Our whole life flows like a fast stream that quickly changes everything in its path. Therefore, often because of a misunderstanding of each other, we quarrel! How bad it gets because you don't know how to get everything back to normal! It becomes especially hard from a quarrel with a person close to you - your soulmate - a guy! This often happens over trifles, but that's okay! You are just starting to get to know each other.

Often the cause of quarrels is disagreements, and no one wants to give in! This adaptation process is very long and difficult. Best of all, when all this happened before the wedding! After all, such surprises are not necessary, only good ones are better.

But if you still quarreled, then how will you reconcile? To do this, use a few tricks:

• Ahi - sighs
  Men really do not like women's tears, sobs. And you create an upset face, let out a tear, make grief - that is, play a small performance (after all, all women know how to do this) - and victory is in your pocket.


• A pleasant surprise
  Any gesture towards a man is welcome. For example, offer to invite his mother to visit (if you live together), because mother is sacred! Just as important for a man are his friends. Therefore, invite them to your place, make a small holiday just like that, for no reason. After that, your favorite will thaw!


• First step
  If you still cannot live without your loved one, time without him just stands still, so take a step towards reconciliation first! And do not remember who was to blame for the quarrel. Perhaps your loved one wanted to do it earlier, but was simply afraid, because often the initiative is punishable. But modern men are accustomed to walking with their heads held high, never admitting that they are to blame.


• Evening for two
  by the most the best option for reconciliation is romantic evening for two. If you do not live together, then invite him to your place, for example, write an SMS. Then he will definitely come, even if he is very offended, just for the sake of interest.
  If you live together, then create a romantic atmosphere, like lighting candles, playing romantic music, decorating the room. Take it with a view of the "five". Then hardly anyone can resist such a temptation.


• long-awaited gift
  Every person dreams of something. If you know what your loved one dreams of, and this dream is material, then make it come true. Maybe he dreamed of a new fishing rod or a gym membership. Why don't you become good fairy that makes gifts. It will only be a small step towards reconciliation, but one that will be recorded for the future. Perhaps, after that, something interesting will be waiting for you, for example, a gift for your finger.


• Just hug
  Sometimes words are not needed. Lovers speak without words. Just come, hug, list what is very important for you: the warmth of your hands, tender words, laughter, conversations in the evenings. Believe that after this there will be no trace of your quarrel.

But if the guy does not make contact?

There can be two reasons: you have greatly offended the guy or he has a heavily hung self-esteem.

Well, if you offended him greatly, then you need to get him back in every possible way: calls, sms, meetings. But in no case can not be very intrusive. Ask for forgiveness. He must understand you that in life there are a lot of different situations, even those in which he himself can get.
And if, nevertheless, the boyfriend has inflated self-esteem, then you should think hard about whether it is worth apologizing to such a complete egoist. After all, you are not obliged to “walk on your toes” before him, because then, over time, he will begin to “wipe his feet on you.”

Is it possible to reconcile with a guy via SMS?

Of course, you can write, but relationships are not phone calls and SMS, but contact between people. Therefore, you can write an SMS with an invitation for a meeting, and talk in person.

An ideal relationship is possible only during the most romantic period of courtship, but it is not easy for two individuals in a couple to get along without mutual claims. Quarrels, alas, happen, and often the parties experience difficulties with reconciliation - someone does not want to give in first, and someone does not know how to pick up Right words. Sometimes the contention is so strong that words alone are not enough.

The quarrel divided the lovers into two warring camps? There are ways and methods of reconciliation!

"Forgive me!" - the easiest way to apologize for an offense

However, he also needs to fulfill two conditions - sincerity and timeliness. Imagine if your feelings were offended, your pride was wounded, and a crushing blow was dealt to your pride, requiring time to lick your wounds. Will the magic words spoken a minute after a quarrel affect you? Most likely, they will only become an occasion for a new flurry of reproaches and accusations of falsehood. Boiling feelings need to be given a little time:

1. The partner must have time to realize that you are dear to him. Otherwise, he will like to continue bickering. After all, adrenaline still excites the blood, preventing the mind from prevailing over emotions.
2. You will need time too. Words of apology uttered automatically will not give the desired result, especially if deep down you continue to believe that you are right. Believe me - your boyfriend will definitely feel your insincerity, which means that in best case, will pretend that he has forgiven, at worst, he will answer with rudeness.

Pride binds the tongue, making it difficult to pronounce simple words? Well - there are dozens of other ways at your disposal - a gentle text message, a touch or a kiss, a card or a touching plush toy bought especially for him. Use your imagination and be guided by the prompts of your heart, there are no hopeless situations!

What to do if a guy stops talking to you?

Beloved decided to declare a real boycott, lay low and suppresses all attempts to make peace with his silence? The situation has gone far and can indicate two things:

• He decided to really teach you a lesson, so that in the future it would be disrespectful to argue.
• The quarrel became a convenient excuse to break off the annoying relationship.

First of all, you need to check how serious everything is. After all, it's one thing to know for sure that he's just offended, as Small child and wants to torment his girlfriend, and quite another if there was a real break.

There is one rule for this:

If he sincerely values ​​you, then he will not be able to play silent for a long time. Everything is simple here - after all, he himself is afraid that the quarrel will not develop into parting, which means that soon his anxiety will break out.

Try to give him some time, get distracted - perhaps in a day he will try to get in touch. Believe me, none loving man can't handle uncertainty. If you are really dear to him, then your silence and endurance can do a good job - he will have to take the first step.

Is it possible to reconcile with a guy using SMS? What to write?

Are you sure that SMS is the best way? Remember how indignant the heroine of "Sex and the City", an experienced heartbreaker Kerry, received a note about the breakup. Use this method only if you are sure that he will not be offended even more by receiving a request for forgiveness via SMS.

You can apologize by SMS when other methods are impossible - he does not answer the phone, avoids personal communication.

At the same time, a lot will depend on the right words. Avoid Template SMS , especially in poetry - what seems touching and sweet can cause irritation. But pouring out your soul, bombing the guy with numerous SMS, is also not worth it - the text of your message should be short. It would be best to write something that you worry about all the time - did you miss it? Don't want to lose it? Are you waiting for his call? Do not get lost - he will not eat you for the truth. Write what you feel - believe me, one phrase is enough, especially if they are waiting for it at the other end.

How to make up with him if he does not want to meet?

Does he diligently avoid meetings and does not answer calls? Passes by at a meeting, with an indifferent look, as if not recognizing his soul mate? So let's start with what you definitely shouldn't do:

• Chase and hunt down
• Grab him by the hand in public places
• Constantly adjust "casual" meetings

Remember that guys can’t stand obsession, and you can forget about pride with such behavior.

A girl who is ignored in front of witnesses does not look very attractive, and your attempts to constantly catch his eye can cause ridicule from both him and outsiders. If you value him so much that you are ready for a desperate, risky act, try to make an appointment with him in a romantic place where there will be no other acquaintances besides you.

Your favorite restaurant or place where you first met is perfect. Write him the time and coordinates - if he loves you, then the thought that you are standing there alone will be unbearable, and he will not be able not to come. In addition, you will kill two birds with one stone with such a bold act: you will achieve a date and immediately show how much you value him. This way of reconciliation is one of the most romantic, and perhaps both of you will remember it all your life.

If the unforeseen happens and he lets you down, know that fate is on your side. A person who can ignore such a call does not treat you sincerely. Agree that it is much better to know that you should not count on him before you need his help?

What's the best way to make up with a guy if I'm at fault?

Misdemeanors are different, and the partner’s readiness for forgiveness will depend on the degree of your guilt. Give yourself time to understand how hurtful it is for your boyfriend. Feelings of guilt can get in the way the right strategy- after all, often, realizing our wrong, we begin to make excuses, trying to involve the offended person in guilt.

If the mistake is thought out and realized, it is worth acknowledging it unconditionally, showing that you sincerely repent.

Is it possible to put up with a guy if it’s not you who is to blame, but he?

On the one hand, it should be easier for a girl - after all, the truth is already on her side. But on the other hand, it is reckless to immediately forgive the one who offended himself, because such kindness cannot prevent the situation from repeating in the future.

If the fault lies with the partner, in no case go to reconciliation first. It would be much more correct to wait for his reaction, to assess the degree and depth of repentance. However, if you see that it is sincere, continuing to pout will be unprofitable for you, because such a girl looks infantile, touchy and unable to forgive. Learn to listen to the opposite side as well - after all, quarrels often occur due to misunderstanding. It is possible that the insult was overblown, and he did not want to hurt so much at all.

What to do if you decide to make up with a guy after breaking up?

The ancient Greeks were absolutely right when they said that you cannot step into the same water twice. Trying to glue what is hopelessly broken is a waste of both time and mental strength. If the idea of ​​parting belonged to both, or the girl decided to leave, realizing that it was pointless to continue the relationship, and therefore “changed her mind” - this is not the best reason to resume the romance.

Before you go to reconciliation or seek meetings, discard emotions and soberly think about the true reason for the breakup. Decided to give him another chance and see that he wants the same? Then take the first step with a simple phrase: “I'm sorry to lose you. Can we try to start all over again?

Often the problem is hidden in ourselves - we do not know how to forgive, we nurture our grievances and walk in a vicious circle, not knowing how to let go of the situation.

Then our reconciliation becomes conditional - having forgiven the partner in words, we continue to carry a stone in our souls.

1. Learn to forgive. Selfishness, inherent in all children, some bring with them and into adult life. But selfishness, elevated to a principle, becomes our enemy - we do not know how and do not want to take the place of a partner, we do not see our mistakes from the outside. But wisdom and growing up are extremely important for the formation of a person - it is not easy to live in society, pursuing only your own interests and not taking into account the needs of other people. Get rid of perfectionism - people are not perfect, and everyone can make mistakes.
2. Let go of the situation. Resentment is one of the worst qualities that prevent you from living a fulfilling life. After all, one who does not want to forgive not only punishes the offender, preparing sweet revenge. Such a person constantly comes back with memories in moments that are unpleasant for him, experiencing them again and again.
3. Admit your mistakes. The ability to analyze and evaluate your own actions brings good results. When we are ready to admit we are wrong, we learn to keep the situation under control, not allowing ourselves to be superfluous. It is much more pleasant not to make mistakes than to constantly correct them.

Questions and answers

In a couple, two separate personalities learn to exist, with their own attitudes, principles and beliefs. And the character and temperament are able to add fuel to the fire, turning the dialogue into a dispute, resentment and quarrel.

Is it possible to avoid quarrels with a loved one and how to quarrel less often?

Small quarrels are even necessary for partners - after all, they indicate that they are definitely not indifferent to each other.

It is only important not to make them a way of coexistence. With experience comes the ability to restrain oneself, to avoid harsh words. Of course, it’s not worth hiding all the feelings and emotions in yourself, you need to learn how to make claims tactfully, trying not to hurt the feelings of your loved one.

How to make peace with a guy according to your zodiac sign?

Not everyone believes in horoscopes, so there is no need to keep it as a reference book and guide to all life situations. However, some basic features really unite people of the same sign. Stubborn Aries and touchy Pisces, silent Virgos and mysterious Scorpios exist, and you can find the keys to them with the help of knowledge.

Check if your boyfriend fits the description of his sign - often horoscopes contain a clue to his behavior.

How and what to write to your boyfriend to make peace in Contact?

Try not to write, but to place a suitable song on his page - sometimes music will say much more than words.

How to reconcile with an ex-boyfriend?

Before taking action, make sure the guy is also interested in reconciliation. Otherwise, you will look pretty stupid if he already has a new girlfriend or even family.

How to reconcile over the phone?

If you decide to have a serious conversation, be open: less affectation and more sincerity. Say what you think and do not try to artificially complicate the situation. Men do not like hints and appreciate directness.

Is it possible to reconcile with the help of magic?

Is everything so bad that you decided to resort to otherworldly forces? There are many conspiracies and love spells, but remember that dark forces love to play tricks on people. Before proceeding with the ritual, think about whether you can separate yourself from the cavalier who has become obsessive, who will be tied to you with the help of a love spell. After all, your attitude towards him may change, and the poor fellow himself will never escape from the clutches of witchcraft.

What to do if we have too frequent quarrels with a guy?

Constant skirmishes and incessant quarrels mean that one of the partners constantly wants to pull the blanket over himself, while the other does not want to put up with it. Try to speak frankly - perhaps the problem lies on the surface, and together you can eliminate it.

What could be worse than a fight with a guy? The fact that then he will be at you, if not angry, then at least angry. And this knowledge, to put it mildly, is not the most pleasant thing that can be - especially if the blame for everything lies mainly with you. However, you can reconcile, do not worry. You just need to choose the right time and place, as well as be honest.

Steps

Part 1

Making up after a fight with a boyfriend

Give him time to calm down. If you just had a fight with a guy, then you may already want to fix it. But the guy, you know, maybe still angry and angry. Of course, you can’t wait forever for it to boil over, but still wait at least a couple of days before you start putting up. If you hurry, even if it is purely out of good intentions, then you can only break new firewood.

• If he completely ignores you or reacts coldly, then he is not yet ready for reconciliation.
• When will he be ready? When he can look into your eyes and talk to you again.

1. Choose the right time and place to talk when the guy is ready for it. So, some time has passed, everyone has calmed down, everyone has boiled over, everyone wants to talk. Accordingly, you need to choose a time and place - and try to choose a time when the guy's neck does not hang with a load and other problems. That way everything will go more smoothly.

   • Tell him that you would like to talk to him - that's right, do not grab his sleeve and start a serious conversation unexpectedly. Even if the guy does not expect you to be the first to put up, let him be better warned.
   • The main thing is that at the moment of the conversation nothing distracts you.

2. Ask for forgiveness and do it sincerely. If you feel that you yourself are to blame for everything, then admit it. And do not try to shift the blame on the guy at this moment - fully accept the responsibility and, accordingly, the blame on yourself. Explain that you understand what you did, and are not very happy about what, by your grace, the guy had to go through. Well, you get the point.

   • Accordingly, if the guy’s actions were to blame for everything, then you should not ask for forgiveness just to make amends for the situation. You should think about whether you need such a person next to you.

3. If the guy wants to speak, listen carefully. If he listened to you and did not interrupt, then do not interrupt him when it is his turn to speak. Perhaps he will tell you something that you did not think about. Don't interrupt him, don't argue with him while he's talking - even if you don't agree with him inside and out. Let him speak.

   • Even if it seems to you that he turns everything upside down, listen to him carefully and silently. It's always good to look at a situation from the outside. When he speaks, you can start discussing the situation in a more constructive way.
   • If you listen carefully to the guy, you will probably understand that he had a much harder and harder time than you imagined.

4. Surround him with love and care. So, you made up with a guy - well done! Now you can move on and try not to repeat your mistakes. Hug, kiss, well, what else do they do in such situations - in general, if only you feel natural. Of course, it is not worth surrounding a person full of anger with love and care, since this will not solve the situation.

   Tell the guy how much he means to you. So, you have embarked on the path to reconciliation, love and understanding. Now, accordingly, you can tell the guy what and how much he means to you, and how bad it was for you when he was bad, and how good you are now that he is next to you again. And at this stage, it’s worth being extremely honest. It will not be superfluous to make a compliment to one or another of his qualities.

   A little romantic gesture wouldn't hurt either. Yes, a fact is a fact - romantic gestures are not the lot of the strong half of humanity. You can make a guy's heart melt after a fight with a little romance. Maybe you should burn him a CD with his favorite songs? Or buy him football tickets? Arrange for him a pleasant surprise? All this will make the guy understand how you want to leave the quarrel in the past.

   • The question is not how much money you spend. The question is how carefully and sincerely you approach the matter.

5. Do something that he himself has long wanted to do. Yes, this is another way to fix a broken relationship. Maybe your boyfriend dreams of going to the climbing wall? About going to the gym? For a football match? So go with him. And by the way, don't complain, don't whine, and don't drag him home right away. In general, surprise the guy and be a good boy.

   For the time being, be careful. Having just reconciled, one should exercise a kind of caution and, in particular, not to touch on all sorts of unpleasant and controversial topics in conversations. Of course, you should not even start arguing about who is to blame for your last quarrel. Of course, you shouldn't try not to be yourself. The main thing here is to think about what you are talking about before you speak.

   • If you really want to further develop the relationship, then wait a bit before saying something like “I love you”, moving in again, and so on.

6. Don't go out of your way to make peace. Of course, it is necessary to put up, but it is also worth remembering the boundaries and limits. If you have almost turned inside out in front of him, and he is still cold and indifferent, like an iceberg in the ocean, then it makes sense to think about whether you need him so close. Better not rush, let time heal your wounds.

   • If he forgave you, but still wants to be on his own - give him time for this.

   Part 2

   Making up after a fight with a friend

   1. Don't gossip about him with other friends. When one of our male friends is angry with us, we are tempted to tell our other friends about everything. Don't do it this way (unless you're looking for advice on how to deal with a situation). If you put a friend in a bad light, then he will find out about it anyway - and, accordingly, even more angry with you.

      • If it comes to that, then only good things should be said about him behind the guy's back - it will be easier for him to forgive you.

   2. Be honest when it comes to fighting. It can be difficult for guys to be honest with each other, but if friendship is dear to you, then know that there is nothing better than honesty. Let him know why everything happened, and also that, if you had the opportunity, you would have acted differently. Honesty and openness are the key to restoring friendship and trust.

   3. Ask for forgiveness and make peace if both of you are ready for it. Say that you are very unpleasant in connection with what happened, that you really do not like being in a quarrel with him, that you value your friendship and cannot imagine your life without it. If you really made a mistake, then it's time to admit it, apologize and move on.

      • Just say something like, “Please forgive me for hurting your feelings. I'm very sorry about that." You need to apologize only sincerely, only sincerely and nothing else.

   4. Hug. So, the quarrels are over, now everything is in order, which means that you can hug - yes, stronger, since you are both glad that the friendship is strong again, and the tomatoes have blossomed. Keep in mind that guys don’t really talk about how they value friendship, so if you are rather modest in this regard, instead of a thousand words, it’s better to hug once.

      • If you have never hugged him before - do not worry, behave as usual.

   5. Be kind and nice to him - perhaps even more than usual. Having established friendship, it's time to surround your friend with warmth and care - but, as it were, gradually, so that he himself does not notice and understand that you want to make amends in this way. Help him with something, give him a pleasant surprise, try to follow your speech to him.

      • If you know that, say, he would like to go to the cinema or to a concert with you, offer it to him yourself.

   6. Try not to repeat the mistakes. If you want to prove that you will not step on the same rake, then behave accordingly. Don't quarrel with him again and, by the way, don't do or say the things you quarreled about last time. Pay more attention to how you behave, learn to read the guy's body language better to know in advance that he is uncomfortable or upset about something, and to prevent a new quarrel from developing.

      • If you keep repeating your own mistakes and quarreling again and again, then you are unlikely to take these friendships seriously. If they were taken seriously, they would have already drawn the appropriate conclusions a long time ago!

   Part 3

   What should never be done

   1. Don't try to ask for forgiveness in person. Calls, SMS, letters, social networks- all this is taboo. Apologize in person and only in person if you are not a coward. No, if there is something about a thousand kilometers between you, and money is short, then, of course, communication means will do. Nevertheless, if a person is worth it, then you must ask for forgiveness personally.

      • If you don't apologize in person, then the person will probably decide that you don't take things very seriously.
      • In addition, if you do not ask for forgiveness in person, then the guy may not answer you.

   2. You don't need to keep asking if the guy is mad at you. This is a failed tactic. Yes, perhaps you are tormented by curiosity - forgave or not?! - but asking about it again and again is a way to worsen the situation. And if you think that a guy, spurred on by your questions, will forgive you faster, then you are mistaken. Everything will be the opposite - you yourself will remind him of what happened.

      • When he stops being angry, you yourself will understand. Questions won't change anything.

   3. No need to make excuses. If you ask for forgiveness just so that he stops being angry at you, then you will ruin everything. Only sincerely excuse save your relationship, whatever it may be! You don't have to ask for forgiveness with the words: "Well ... like ... uh ... I'm sorry, che" - or: "I think I should apologize ... well, I'm sorry." Apologize clearly, distinctly and sincerely! Otherwise ... otherwise you will not achieve anything constructive.

      • Look the guy in the eyes, turn to him, and let him see how painful it is for you to be in a quarrel with him.
      • Do not justify your behavior and your own actions. Take responsibility for them.

   4. Don't choose the wrong time to talk. This should be avoided, which is understandable. If something important is ahead of him, then you should not crawl under his arm at a moment when he is already on his nerves. It is necessary to speak and discuss when everyone is calm and peaceful. Again, you should not make such a conversation public, you only need to apologize in private.

      • If you make a mistake with the choice of time for a conversation, then you can get, as they say, under a hot hand - he will be angry that you could not choose the right time, and, in general, you will not come to anything good.

Valeria Protasova

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Relationship conflicts are natural. and inevitable. As psychologists say, they do not allow you to accumulate negativity, help you emotionally discharge and can even be useful for developing relationships. A how to make peace with a man to get this loud "benefit"? And indeed, are there any original ways so that the truce would be more like a declaration of love and trust rather than an admission of guilt?

How to make peace with your beloved man correctly, if he is to blame for the quarrel - instructions for a wise woman

So, the culprit of the quarrel is a man or a guy for you, but he is in no hurry to go to the world?

Then go you will have to be the first to reconcile with your husband . Believe me, there is no right and wrong even in the most unpleasant situation, do not forget to take an interest in the feelings of a loved one and try to understand them. No one ever does something without prerequisites - even if, in fact, he is the initiator of the quarrel.

Having understood his reasons, feel free to talk about your motives. After all, the easiest way to explain your feelings to your partner is to simply talk about them. No accusations or criticism. Read below for options on how to make peace with a boyfriend or husband.

• Pause. If your partner is one of those people who needs time to rethink the situation - stop. It usually takes 1 to 3 days to cool down and realize the importance of the relationship. Do not rush him and do not begin to suspect the loss of past feelings. It’s just that some people need pauses that allow them to assess reality and prioritize correctly.

• If the partner simply did not care about his fault, you should not arrange a showdown or beg for an apology. Instead, just allocate a certain amount from the family budget, for example, for a dance subscription. It is desirable that this was not a thing, but a long-term event. Such independence, especially associated with the acquisition of new contacts, will worry a frivolous husband, and in a couple of days, expect repentance!

How can I reconcile with my husband or boyfriend, if I am to blame - we are looking for ways to reconcile with a loved one

If you realized they were wrong - Don't hesitate to apologize. The conflict will not be resolved on its own, and a protracted denouement can harm the relationship.

There are enough ways to reconcile with a man to cope with your pride and even pleasantly surprise your loved one.

• Just "I'm sorry" works wonders if you address them in an original way to your loved one with the help of funny surprise, sms, mms, mail, social network.
• Maybe your husband listens to the radio? Then turn to his favorite radio station! Let them suddenly hear your apologies and declarations of love, or they will be voiced by a DJ, but always with your partner's favorite song.
• Prepare his favorite cake or other dish on which write the words of apology. If you don't like to cook, you can book a table in a romantic cafe. Such reconciliation with your loved one will only strengthen your relationship and turn into a passionate night.
• Talk. Only in a few cases does this lead to a deepening of the quarrel, for example, if both parties do not seek to understand each other. In other situations, it helps to permanently eliminate the cause of the conflict and achieve greater openness in relationships.

In a conversation, adhere to the following rules:

1. Accept the fact that your loved one may have other values. And what is insignificant for you may be significant for him. Therefore, do not deny your partner what, in your opinion, does not make sense.
2. Never assume for a spouse or boyfriend. Just ask. And no matter how terrible it is, it is better to know the truth than to live in illusions. After all, fantasies can confuse, for example, exaggerate your guilt.
3. Talk to your partner honestly, to the point, and openly. Don't play guessing game! In order not to feel petty, it is important to understand what is behind those nuances that you do not like and voice them. Only after many years you will learn to recognize each other perfectly.
4. Do not generalize or exaggerate the problem over time. Communicate only what worries you at the moment without unpleasant words like "every time", "always" and "always".

Have there been similar situations in your personal life? And how did you get out of them? Share your stories in the comments below!

Valeria Protasova

Psychologist with more than three years of practical experience in social psychology-pedagogics. Psychology is my life, my work, my hobby and way of life. I write what I know. I believe that human relationships are important in all spheres of our life.

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No matter how ideal relationships are, quarrels in them are inevitable and sometimes you need to step over your self and take the first step so as not to lose your loved one. The question “how to make peace with a guy” is constantly spinning in your head, but you just can’t go for it.

But before you decide on reconciliation, you need to go through several stages of preparation:

• Breathe out yourself. If you go with resentment and a mass of attacking tirades in your head to a meeting for reconciliation, then nothing good will come of it.
• Try to look at the situation from a different angle. When we fight and defend our point of view, we often do not take into account the feelings and circumstances of the other person, and he too.
• Having exhaled and calmed down, in order to stop a quarrel in yourself, you should at least try to consider the situation from the other side.
• In most cases, this consideration makes it clear how stupid it was to quarrel and that it was possible to solve the problem more calmly. In addition, putting up without forgiving is harmful to oneself -

  accumulating resentment, we lose the feeling of love.

• Analyze the quarrel for what was superfluous. As a rule, even if the discussion began because of someone's fault, then it reached elevated tones through the fault of both. Each of you could stop, but in the heat of the moment he could no longer, so no matter how right you are, you will also have to apologize.
• Let the guy calm down too. The psychological behavior of men and women is different - men are not characterized by sudden mood swings, they are more difficult to experience short-term stress, so they need a little more time to set all priorities. If you do not give a man time to think, he will simply build a block wall and not hear. At best, such reconciliation will lead to nothing; at worst, it will aggravate the situation. But it's not worth the hassle.
• And it should also be remembered that each quarrel is a separate special case and there is simply no universal cure for its consequences, you always need to analyze everything that happens.

How to make up with a guy after a big fight

Even strong quarrels happen because of the most elementary little things, so you need to analyze the quarrel and understand whether it really hurt each other's feelings so much, or maybe when you meet in person you will easily smile and forget everything.

Sometimes, if the quarrel was really stormy, then I don’t want to meet,

it seems easier to figure out what to write to a guy to make up.

But correspondence can only smooth and prepare the situation, a personal meeting is required. It is better to meet on neutral territory for you, without third parties who may have participated in this quarrel or caused it. The best place to start a meeting is with an apology. Even if you were not to blame for the cause, there are sure to be a couple of hurtful phrases that you definitely need to apologize for. Don't forget to say that the person is dear to you.

Ideally, if the guy does the same. But if he is still thinking about the situation and there is no response, do not insist. And even if you hear reproaches in response, react calmly, without continuing the quarrel. The person simply has not cooled down yet and cannot adequately accept your position. By calmly going through this step, you are working for yourself, softening his position now.

In no case do not put any conditions now and do not carry out any manipulations, all this will return you to the starting point or aggravate the situation.

How to make up with a guy after a breakup

Putting up after parting, especially long ones, is especially difficult, so it’s best not to bring it to this, but if this happens, then the tactics of action will depend on how and how much you broke up.

If you just packed your things and left for a day or two or a week, but the point that you are not a couple has not yet been set, and there was no conversation, then proceed in the same way as in any other option - make an appointment, apologize for what was said and tell about your feelings for the person, of course, without evaluative negative statements associated with a quarrel.

If the end has been set, but the bridges have not been burned to the ground by you, then first scout the situation, find out if the person needs you and if your boyfriend is ready for reconciliation. Send a random text, accidentally dial the wrong number, or meet in a neutral place unintentionally, but don't do it all the time, once or twice is more than enough. Sometimes time heals and people realize true feelings through separation. A person who is ready to resume relations will certainly go forward and help you build a dialogue on this topic. If there is no response, then it is not worth trying, it will not lead to anything good.

If one of you burned all the bridges, namely, parents, friends were drawn into a quarrel, negative rumors were spread, and the like, then think 10 times and give up such an undertaking.

How to make peace with a guy if he does not make contact

There may be several reasons for such behavior, for example, a very strong resentment, inflated self-esteem, or a person just turned up a reason to put an end to the relationship, yes, this also happens.

If the offense is too strong, then you need to understand which word was superfluous, apologize for it with all sincerity and try to explain to the person that situations are different and no one is immune from them. In such a situation, social networks, and sms, and a telephone conversation, the main thing is to convey to the person that you repent. After that, give a little more time for the person to weigh and realize everything, and only then it will be possible to meet and discuss everything in more detail.

If the reason for everything is his self-esteem, then it’s worth considering how many times this situation will repeat itself and whether you are ready to go through it again and again, or maybe it’s worth putting an end to it now. Ready to go through the situation repeatedly - act in the same way as in the first option, but everything will be more difficult to pass.

Apologizing to the person who turned the situation around in order to break off relations is also worth saying.

So you will regain your peace of mind, but it’s natural to run around and ask for the continuation of the relationship, you may need a long break, and then it will still be possible to return the relationship.

How to reconcile with a guy via SMS

In fact, reconciliation via SMS is not the best way, but only if the quarrel was serious. If the quarrel was small, it is possible to turn everything into a joke by sending the original SMS.

If everything has come to a scandal, then it is better to simply make an appointment or try to find out by the manner of writing whether the partner has gone through the process of thinking about the quarrel. The danger of reconciliation by correspondence lies in the fact that printed words do not convey our emotions, and if a person is still angry at the other end of the messenger, then he may misinterpret the most harmless SMS.

What to say to a guy to make peace

No one except you yourself will be able to choose better specific words of forgiveness, because you know everything that was said and the person himself. You can definitely say only in general terms that you need to apologize for what was said in anger, that all this is not true, and that you regret what happened, and also that the person is dear to you and you are not ready to lose him. But in no case should you now insist on your position, carry out manipulations, make demands for reconciliation and continue to blame your partner.

How to reconcile over the phone

A telephone conversation is a way out when it is really difficult to meet right away, or you realize the whole burden of guilt and understand the need to apologize, but you cannot do it personally now. Just dial the number and say all the things that are worth saying in reconciliation. However, it is best to see the eyes of the interlocutor. And it should also be remembered that apologies through calls and SMS can offend a person, if there were applicants for such insults, take courage and only make an appointment by phone.

What to write to a guy to make peace

VK is not much different from other messengers in terms of the importance of apologies. Of course, if a quarrel was started there and, moreover, in public (on a personal wall or in a group of common interests), then you need to apologize there, but remember that the reader puts emotions and meanings into the text. The best way, again, apologize in person, having agreed on the site only about a meeting, and also do not forget that you should not try to apologize through the messenger if it annoys a person. Also, do not expose your quarrels to the public through statuses and posts on the wall.

How best to make up with a guy if you're at fault

If it is you who is the culprit of the quarrel, then it is especially important to take the first step. Show your companion that you care about him and that in the future you will try to avoid such situations, try to calmly explain to the person your feelings during a quarrel, what guided you in the situation that caused it. But in no case do not carry out the method of inverted resentment or manipulation, such “tricks” often do more harm to subsequent relationships and stimulate the accumulation of resentment in your partner, which is clearly not good for feelings.

Do you put up with a guy when it's not you who is to blame, but he

As mentioned above, even if you are not the culprit of the quarrel, then you probably said too much in the quarrel and you should ask for forgiveness for this. It is difficult for any person to take the first step, and if your partner has a difficult character, and you are ready to live with it, then it is better, of course, to take this step for you. It is possible that he himself really wants reconciliation, but pride does not allow him to do this. But any quarrel is a special case and there are situations when an apology should be made only for your own comfort, but in a relationship with a person you need to put an end to it.

What to do if we have frequent quarrels with a guy

Analyze, analyze and analyze your relationship again. Such situations are most often possible if:

• The partner does not meet your requirements and further relations with him will not suit you until you want to change these requirements.
• You are in a relationship with an unbearable person by nature and there will be no changes in the relationship until the guy wants to change, but when this will happen, and whether it will happen at all, is a huge question.
• It is also worth asking if you are ready to wait for these changes and end up with zero results.
• Perhaps you have already accumulated a lot of grievances, and in order to return to a peaceful course, you need to deal with them.
• You are affected by toxic installations and you need to get rid of them in order to find peace with yourself as well.
• Think about whether there are third parties that influence your quarrels, whether it is possible to completely or partially eliminate them from your life. Often the cause of your quarrels can be "well-wishers" among your acquaintances.

Always filter outside advice, third parties should remain in third place and should not greatly influence the relationship of the two. But this does not mean that you do not need to listen to anything at all, just advice should only be deliberative and passed through a filter, and not be incentives for action.