For eight years, I was a constant witness of a very harmonious relationship: a friend, with the zeal of a conscientious secretary, informed me about how the romance proceeds first, and then family life... Honestly, I was happy for my friend, and even a little envious.

Therefore, everything really developed according to the instructions of beautiful women's love stories: bouquets with or without, cute surprises, love notes, constant gentle hugs and fleeting kisses. Household responsibilities are equally shared, from time to time even morning coffee in bed is served by her husband (and this is after 4 years of marriage and 2 years of the previous registry office life together!). And then, like thunder in the middle of a clear July evening, a friend runs with tears into three streams, she does not look like herself.

In general, the story is banal, everything was good and just wonderful, when the girl suddenly dawned on the fact that romance in their life had become completely dull. Colleagues at work seemed to have arranged a conspiracy of silence: they began to look at each other meaningfully and cut off conversations in the smoking room, as soon as a friend joined them. For some reason, everyone began to pat on the shoulder sympathetically to her spouse (they work in the same company, albeit in different departments) and say, “don’t worry that she left you.”

A friend decided to figure out what's what, and directly asked her beloved what was happening. He left the conversation, but sent a short SMS: "I fell in love with another, but told everyone that you stopped loving me and left herself in order to preserve your pride."

I read the messages, I was outraged by such impudence: I cheated myself, and I also left my wife and child. And she began the standard procedure of consolation, using everything available at home: she gave her friend the opportunity to cry, gave her a bit of strong coffee with chocolate and cream liqueur, and dabbed new streams of tears from her eyes with napkins. And she offered to solve the problem radically: that is, do you need your betrothed after what happened? And if so, let's look for information, how to return a loved one, if he is already with another?

How to return a beloved man

From my past life experience, I knew that The best way to win the attention of any man is to show him that you do not need him at all. Then he automatically turns on the old instinct of a hunter, afraid of losing his prey, and he actively rushes to conquer a woman again. Because, according to the code of male nature, a conquered girl who confesses her love and cooks cheesecakes and scrambled eggs in the morning becomes uninteresting.

There was a lot of information and varied, but of the listed effective means that allow you to act at a distance, prayer seemed to be the most effective for your friend. A friend found an icon (still grandmother's) of Nicholas the Wonderworker at home and asked for help. I even lit candles, though with New Year's decor- there were no others in the house. I methodically surfed online resources in search of recipes for rebuilding relationships.

Within two weeks, a friend tried to "independently return a loved one with the power of thought", for this it was necessary every day for an hour to tell his photographs about his own feelings. Partly she shared her experiences with the photo, but for the most part she spoke out to me personally. Then she performed a ceremony, which is recommended to be carried out after parting, to attract the energy of love into her life: she quartered hearts and paired figurines in the corners of the room, lit scented candles, recited a mantra (she had to come up with it herself, but speak from the heart and about the most cherished) ...

Then, for two days, a friend suffered over a letter to her beloved - according to reviews, very strong remedy, especially if you write by hand, list the most the best moments the former life together and the first meeting, and at the end add a postscript about how much you love your ex ... that is, the departed one and tell you that you cannot live without him. In my opinion, this is a waste of time, but my friend was slightly distracted, scribbling in uneven handwriting (due to worries and long practice) sheet by sheet, scribbling and rewriting. But the correspondence did not take place - the friend did not know the new address of residence, and at work her husband took a month's leave. Under the influence of her creative impulse, I also tried to write poetry with a romantic halo, there were words about chords of love, and about a lonely full moon, and about days, blacker than black soil. A friend read, felt deeply, burst into tears, and I was with her for company.

10 golden simple rules

In my opinion, it doesn't matter what a person does during a period of mental anguish, the main thing is that he is doing something, and not lying prostrate on the sofa. And any action can bring the desired result closer. For example, my friend used the following:

1) I got carried away with constructing my future with the help of Medici Solitaire - there it is necessary to build a chain of certain events in order to get the desired result. The positive thing was that during her solitaire games, she managed to "fold" the gift - and literally a day later she won some kopecks in the lottery. I was inspired, and even went to a beauty salon - for a new hairstyle.

2) I found several online fortune tellers that guarantee quick results, promise an instant love spell and provide their magical services even without prepayment. They did not succeed in bringing her beloved into the family with their help, but her friend really became interested in esotericism, and began to actively educate herself on this score. As a result, in her opinion, she restored her energy balance, tuned in to positive thoughts and began not only to listen to more cheerful songs, but also began to dance to them with pleasure.

3) Then my friend entered the educational era: she purposefully downloaded courses and trainings from torrents on how to return a loved one. " Together we watched three video courses by Viktoria Vlasova, saddened to the recordings of Igor Latyshko, and figured out the causes of depression using the method of Boris Litvak. In fact, a reconsideration of the techniques for the return of men, described in the book "How to return a loved one" by the authors of Oleg Ideal and Alena Volk. The notice was followed by a study of Olga Chikankova's recommendations on how to return a loved one. And for some reason, Irina Mirova's "treatises" on how to get his wife back.

4) According to my feelings, my friend and I could already lecture on this matter ourselves. But she continued to improve in being happy with the help of Mikhail Torsunov's training and to raise her rating on the courses of Pavel Rakov.

5) Then on the new moon we made romantic amulets and performed a ritual to attract personal "female happiness" into life (for this we had to wipe ourselves with cold moon water, and take an air bath, and smear with an aromatic mixture of essential oils under a simple spell like "come to me my love and bring happiness with you").

6) And also participate in two safe and completely harmless rituals: to cleanse the room of unnecessary things, and your life from negative thoughts... And then call ex-spouse by phone and chat on neutral topics.

7) After that, there was a clear breakthrough in the situation, and in one day: the spouse invited a friend to drink coffee in the cafeteria during lunchtime. We must pay tribute to all these magical and psychologically techniques brought a certain result - the friend stopped feeling sorry for herself and complained about her fate, she became fresher, prettier. She began to dance even more actively to folk motives and practice cleansing dousing with cold water every day.

8) After a joint coffee party, the spouse invited his friend to take her home - she tried for a long time to catch him after a working day with heavy bags and finally she succeeded. The knight, in his usual home environment, was offered: his favorite salad with chicken in Greek, tea brewed in a special way and come back.

9) The husband thanked for everything and left thoughtful, and the friend, having thoroughly mastered the technique of Simoron, began to recite cool rhymes of her own composition. Along the way, ask for help from Saint Matronushka. And to learn fortune telling on tarot cards, and for some reason I managed to guess some married betrothed.

10) A friend devoted her next day off to cleansing the house of unnecessary things (she even tried to take out the chair) and filling it with love magic. I don't know what helped, but the moment the chair got stuck in the elevator, her husband returned. He worked as a free loader, did some more male household chores and, since he was very tired, asked to spend the night, they say, and the time is already late (only the beginning of the eleventh night).

What to do to regain trust after a lie (psychology)

I don’t know what helped my friend, she was too complex about her husband’s return. Everything seemed to have returned to its previous circles, but the negative sediment still remained, although her husband apologized and sincerely explained the reason for his act (they say, that girl jumped on him herself, so he lost his head), and swore that it was like that. will not happen again. But now it remains to start believing again and not be paranoid about the past.

But what if a man has lost confidence in you? A simple promise will not get off here. You need to make it clear that his trust is very important to you. Be always sincere and open up to him, telling about secrets that have been inaccessible to anyone until now. This is what will help breathe fresh notes into the old relationship, where there was a place for lies.

And we continue the topic: how to return the guy you love (advice from a psychologist).

The centuries-old method "how to get rid of a rival"

A friend of her husband, of course, believed and forgave, but secretly from him developed a whole strategy to prevent the appearance of new mistresses:

1) forbade herself to be jealous and control her man once and for all.
2) began to "mark" the home territory with the smells of fresh baked goods (her husband simply loves cinnamon rolls), and accidentally sprinkle her beloved's clothes with her perfume.
3) took up self-improvement to look busy, creative, and interesting.
4) she began to voice all the requirements for her husband in the form of a request, and at least once a day pampered him with gratitude, compliments or praise (especially in front of strangers).
5) and, most importantly, began to look at everything with a positive attitude.

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Step # 1
RELEASE A SUPPRESSED STATE AFTER A BREAK

Step # 2
FIND THE REAL CAUSE OF THE RUPTURE AND RETURN YOUR OWN PERSONALITY

Step # 3
ERASE ERRORS AND OFFENSES, AND STOP TAKING ON THE SAME RAKE

Step # 4
CREATE HIM INTEREST IN YOU USING THE CORRECT SMS MESSAGES

Step # 5
HAVE A "FIRST" DATE

How did the parents interfere in the relationship, how did it turn out and what should be done now?
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Introduction

Each of my readers has their own relationship history. You have your own, unlike any other life, full of the most different situations... Especially in relationships. And of course, when they break.
After reading this book, you will have a strategy that will guide you step by step to return your loved one via SMS. You can start tomorrow, without delay. After all, there are no pauses in love!

The goal of this project is to help women build wonderful family relationships and live happily ever after. In the end, you build the relationship you want.

Each of us has our own ideal relationship picture that we strive for. For example, someone wants a man to work, and a woman to sit at home with children, and someone on the contrary. And our project helps to build just such a relationship. The relationship that you really want, not the one that society has imposed on you.

On the site you can see the whole story of my life. In the same book, I will tell you only one fragment that turned my life upside down. It is thanks to this that I became involved in the Lovology project.

The story that changed my life.

I am now 27 years old. And I'm in my second marriage. My first marriage was with a man named Sergei. It lasted 7 years (when we met, I was 18). In our relationship, everything was like everyone else - over time, they only got worse, there were quarrels, conflicts. In the end, we went our separate ways.

Between my first and second marriages, I had a period when I met with various men, looking for my chosen one. During this period, I had a man named Stanislav.

I met him as part of our common business (since 20 years I have been promoting my own projects, opening businesses). I needed a specialist of such a level as Stas was. He soon became my business partner.

Almost immediately, as we met, we felt for each other something more than professional interest. There was a sparkle in both his eyes and me. He couldn't take his eyes off me! And he asked me out on a date.

And I was in a relationship for 7 years, lived with one man, almost all adult life, from 18 years old. I didn't know anything, in my head there was not even a sea, but an ocean of questions:
- what should you say on a date?
- why is he calling me to the restaurant?
- He's up to something!

I could not trust Stas. And I was worried: how should I behave? But my main fear was expressed in just one question:

"What if he doesn't like me?"

Yes, despite his signs of attention, I was very afraid that he would not like me. That after a careless word or action, he will get up from the table in the restaurant and leave, leaving at last the bill with the words "Pay yourself!"

In the end, I still agreed and went on a date with him. And I was surprised that he perceived all my words absolutely adequately. Even in those moments when I myself thought that I had said something stupid, he understood, joked ... From that moment on, our relations began to develop, in principle, rather quickly.

After the first date, we already decided that we would be together. I had no doubts if he was right for me. He's a really amazing person, a strong, interesting personality. Behind him I felt like behind a stone wall.

Gradually, our relationship developed to a certain level, and then stopped. The evenings became monotonous: I came to him, we just watched films and ... that's all. Stas can be called "home", he does not like entertainment outside the apartment.

One fine evening I came to him. It was winter and the apartment was cool. We watched the movie and it was time to go to bed. I lay down on my side and waited that now, as usual, he would turn, embrace me tenderly, kiss me on the neck and say: “ Goodnight, dear ". I was really looking forward to it. But that did not happen. Although he used to do just that every night.

He put his hand under my pillow - I was practically on his shoulder, but he did not hug me, did not touch me and did not even say "Good night." How do you think I felt at that moment? Resentment? Fear? Shock? Doubt?

You're right!

I was in a panic. I thought, “Why? What happened? What changed? How is tonight different from last night? " I felt uncomfortable and cold, and not only on the physical plane, but also mentally. It was as if I was left alone in his cold apartment.

After that evening, I felt that we were moving away from each other. He began to ignore me: if I had written him an SMS before, he would definitely answer me, and we had an SMS dialogue. We could correspond and communicate all day. When he called me, we talked for 4 hours. He always found time for me.

But from that evening, he abruptly moved away from me, began to ignore me so much that I could sit and wait for several hours at work, because he had to tell me where we were meeting. And he could well say: “You know, Ol, I came from training today and I don't want anything. Bye". And at the same time, when he had to rest after training, I saw that he was online (for example, Vkontakte), “like” something, watching a movie, playing. He just ignored me.

It was terrible. It is very painful to see that he is lying and trying to distance himself from me. Feelings overwhelmed me, but my mind said that it was necessary to find out what was the matter.

This went on for about a month, one and a half. At first I put up with it, and then, of course, I tried to get him to talk, talk to him, find out what was going on.

What do you think he answered? I'm sure you heard the same thing in your address. He was silent. Or he answered: "It's okay, we'll talk later." Or "I don't want to talk about it." Or "You are winding yourself up, everything is fine." He did everything to postpone our dialogue. And all this time we talked mostly only about business, and we saw each other only 2 times for 10-15 minutes.

On February 14, I gave him an amazing gift! He served in the airborne troops, and he really liked the symbols of the Airborne Forces. So I ordered a leather phone case self made engraved in the form bat... He dreamed of such a gift! He worked that day, and I came to his work to present him with a gift. He was very happy with the gift, but I still saw that he was far from me. What do you think he gave me in return? Nothing!

A week after that, he left for work. We used to have a very nice habit of constantly texting in ICQ when he is at work. And that evening he was online for a long time, but at the same time he did not write to me and did not even say hello. But I wrote to him all the same. At first, we talked about extraneous topics, and then I smoothly led him to a frank conversation using a special technique, which you can learn by downloading the seminar "How to convince a man to act your way" on the Lovologia website.

I began to ask him questions that had tormented me for a long time. It turned out that he doesn't know if he loves me. And he is bored with me! Despite the fact that it was he who loved to sit at home and watch films, I was to blame. And to say that he was bored, he was afraid so as not to offend me. I replied, “Okay. As soon as you deal with your cockroaches in your head, you can ask me out on a date. MAYBE, I will accept the invitation. "

Bottom line: I break off relations, but the reason was his initiative. Or rather, its absence.

I am leaving for St. Petersburg for a month.

I wanted to free myself from these negative emotions, to learn something. In fact, I went to study, but mentally - to release. But in the end, when I returned, I could think of only one thing - how to get Stas back.
It was a fix idea. And since you are reading this book, you now have such an idea. And it doesn't matter at all how this person offended you before, whether he cheated on you ... At such moments, logic refuses.

Then we had a common project, but it was approaching closure, and the reason to call / write off came to naught. But I began to communicate with him using a certain technology, while I was sure to take care of myself, I looked great. And voila! After 2.5 weeks, we started dating.

Everything began to improve again. He developed an interest in me, and now, when I came to him, we not only watched a movie, but chatted all the time, could not tear ourselves away from each other. I realized that my technology REALLY WORKS!

But there was only one, but a significant minus, from which I was uncomfortable.

We played different games.

I, like many others, believe that a man and a woman should be one team: achieve common goals, support each other in all endeavors, overcome difficulties together.

And Stas believed that partners should be competitors, should compete with each other, even in small things. For example, he proved to me his point of view constantly, even after watching the same film. If I have a different opinion, he tried by hook or by crook to impose his own on me. I had to prove and substantiate each of my points of view. Down to why I want to order pizza today, not rolls.

It turned out that we have the same global goals in life (family, home, children), but we achieve them in different ways. I wasted too much energy and time on competitive relationships with Stas.

Therefore, my business began to collapse. I wanted to change Stas's “game”, but it is too deeply embedded in the subconscious of any person. I could not. And I decided to end our relationship ...

Literally a couple of days later I met Artyom. We had mutual acquaintances, we already saw each other, but never communicated. And when we once again met with friends, we finally began to communicate. And I realized (against the background of my fading relationship with Stas) that I am very easy and comfortable with Artem!

And soon after parting with Stas, I went on the first date with Artyom. And on the same day we simply could not tear ourselves away from each other, we immediately decided to be together! To be honest, I didn't come home for a week after the date ...

After talking with Artem, I realized that if you want to build strong, healthy relationships, you need to know HOW to do it. You cannot let everything take its course or completely submit to the "game" of your partner.

In fact, it was possible to build a relationship with my ex-husband, but then I did not know how to do it. And I felt sorry for the wasted time. This is probably why all the time, starting with the divorce, I studied the psychology of relationships, took business courses that helped me build relationships. Too often, I took technology that was applicable in business and passed it on to relationships. And they worked!

During all this time, I have accumulated so many successful stories, techniques and tools that the project "Lovology - The Science of Love" 2 appeared. Everything that is on this site has been passed and experienced by me personally and by my students.

This is my own story. A part of my life that shows how much you and I are alike. Do you recognize yourself in this story? Seeing familiar behavior? Emotions?

I am now 27 years old. You can be older or younger than me - it doesn't matter. Age doesn't matter when it comes to love and relationships.

So, let's move on to the strategy. Get your notebook and pen ready. Your handwriting is best remembered, don't you agree?

Step # 1
RELEASE A SUPPRESSED STATE AFTER A RUPTURE.

Answer a few questions:
1) Do you feel depressed after breaking up with your loved one?
2) How long are you in this state?
It happens that it seems - did it! But then he puts an avatar with a girl, or you saw him on the street, and it all started again ...
3) How much longer do you want to be in this state?

I will help you get out of this state.
Understand, while you are SUCH, not a single man reacts to you. And even MORE is the one who left you. You must be the girl he once fell in love with again! He admired you, your mischievous sparkle in your eyes, your smile ... Bring it back to yourself!

Actually there is simple technique, which takes any person out of a depressed state quickly, painlessly and, most importantly, without pills and psychotherapists.

If you are currently depressed and you need help, then it will be useful for you to attend the 21-day training "How to return a loved one using simple SMS messages."

At the 21-day training, we pay great attention to this.
And in a few sessions we get out of this state.

In the piggy bank of my students there is a story of a girl whose husband left her for his mistress, while leaving her in a strange city, where she had no one. With a small child in her arms. Imagine what it was like for her? She was depressed because of this situation for six months, and with the help of this technique she got out of the depressed state in just 1 week!

It's time to repeat my question. How much longer do you want to be in this state? It ONLY depends on your decision to get out of this swamp. Remember: the most important thing is to act, not sit still.

How Galina got out of her depression in 1 week!

Galina Ozhigova turned to me for help, and we conducted an online consultation. She said that her husband had left to live and work in another city and, as it turned out, had been playing shura-mura with a work colleague for a long time.

Can you imagine what it would be like to find out that your loved one betrayed you? This is definitely cruel and unethical! After these events, Galina was very upset and depressed. And she was looking for something that would help her get out of this situation. She found me :)

At the consultation, I gave her a tool, which she began to use immediately. Here's what she wrote a couple of days later:

"Hello Olga! We talked on Skype a couple of days ago. Today I did the back one you gave. Before performing, I was in a depressed mood, before that I cried a little. But after completing the task, I got a smile on my face and a positive attitude. Working on *****, at first I was sad and offended, it hurt, but after working it 2 times I felt calm, and a little funny from what happened. It really works, it's magic lists. Thank you!" - Galina Ozhigova.

I cannot give this tool in this book, because you need not only to get this exercise, but also to know why, why and how to do it correctly. Detailed instructions I give at seminars and trainings, because if you write this instruction, you get another rather large book. Therefore, I invite you to my seminars, trainings and free consultations.

Step # 2
FIND THE REAL CAUSE OF THE RUPTURE AND RETURN YOUR OWN PERSONALITY.

So that you can immediately understand what in question, we'll do a little exercise.

Do you have a photo from the time when the person you want to return fell in love with you? Find her and ... start guessing from the photograph. Take paper, pen and your photo.

Look at her carefully. You don't need to think whether you are thick or not, whether your bangs are straight, whether this hair color suits you. Just look at the photo and write WHAT you were then. Whom did your beloved meet then?

What do you look like? Are you sad or cheerful? V fancy dress or in home clothes? Did you go in for sports? Remember your character. Describe yourself. Write 20 points that relate to appearance, demeanor, character, hobbies, etc.

I have developed a special workbook so that any girl can quickly return herself by filling out special tables. You can download this workbook here: http://www.lovology.ru/rtinteres.html

Now stand in front of the mirror. Look at yourself and describe what you saw. What changed? Have you become sad, do not put on makeup, do you smile a little? Write down anything you see that has a change. Especially mark the items that your partner really liked. There is a special box for this in the workbook.

A man often loses attention and interest in you when you change. If at the meeting you were a touchy girl who needed to be conquered, and now you have become soft, helpful, compliant, then here she is, the main change.

Your man fell in love with one girl, and now he sees a completely different one. Look at your previous relationships with men. At first you liked them (for example, giving flowers, courting), and then you stopped admiring them (because most of the men were sitting on the couch and scratching their belly).

Such changes are always happening. Something is constantly changing in our life, and the character, appearance is a response. For example, today you have a great job and you feel great, but tomorrow you got fired and you feel like a wimp who is not capable of anything.

What is happening on the part of the man? On a subconscious level, he begins to feel the difference between the girl he fell in love with and the one you have become. He is NOT aware of this difference, but his interest is slowly fading away. And he switches to other women, in whom he looks for those traits that attract him.

It's not just about looks, although for men, looks are very important. And there is no need to justify your disheveled appearance with the words "I am his wife, he must love me for who I am." In a sense, there is some truth here. But this excuse ALWAYS works to your detriment.

Could you yourself fall in love with Gena Bukin? Could you admire how he uniquely scratches his causal places in front of the TV? Could you fall in love with the unique way of picking "troubles" out of your nose? In short, could you fall in love with an ordinary household man? Of course not! Ugh!

So a man falls in love with a beautiful, elegant, well-groomed girl, who is already doing well and he does not need to worry too much about whether he can make her happy.

The main task at this stage is to get yourself back! Bring back the girl your man fell in love with. So that at the next meeting he would see her - the one with whom he fell in love! And I would say to myself: "Here she is, my beloved!"

They often write to me: “It's sad when you suddenly remember that he is not with me. Everything burns inside constantly, although the light in my eyes is more often than tears, I’m just an optimist, but I can’t forget it. ”

Do you ever have this, you come to a group of friends, one person walks in, and he is in a bad mood. And you see that everyone's mood also starts to deteriorate, because this person says something sad or looks at everyone with sad puppy eyes. And there are other people - they are like a lighter, they light everyone around. They are in a great mood, and everyone else is in a good mood.

Our inner state is transmitted through communication, through a look. Even if we try to hide what we feel bad, in fact, all the people around us feel it.

So get your identity back. When you have done this, proceed to the third step.

Step # 3
ERASE ERRORS AND OFFENSES, AND STOP TURNING ON THE SAME RAINS.

Forget the grudges you had in the relationship. Now you are probably thinking, "Yeah, it's easy to say, but how to do it if he deceived me and offended me very much."

These grievances will interfere with you in any relationship, even with other men. It happens that once a man betrayed you, and in the future you cannot trust others.

Have you ever noticed that your relationship is developing in the same way? It may be several different men, but relations with them followed a very similar scenario. Or some long-term relationship in which you quarrel and disagree, then put up. Rake manifests itself as repeated situations in life. For example, quarrels on the same topic, mistrust of men due to betrayal in the past, etc.

This is because this is how our minds work. Our subconscious mind tries to protect us from potentially dangerous situations. If a man once betrayed you, then when communicating with another man (or in a similar situation), the subconscious mind tries to take us away as soon as possible. That is why we start to get nervous when dealing with new men or in some specific situations, for example, in the dentist's office.

It often happens that because of this we close ourselves off from a loved one, and on this basis a crack grows in the relationship. The bottom line is that there is one puzzle in your mind that makes you make the same mistake over and over again. And the worst thing is that you DO NOT see exactly what the error is.

This mechanism is our integral part, but there is a completely accurate technology for "erasing" such unpleasant moments. "Erase" does not mean forgetting this moment. This means that you just take away from there negative emotions and perceive the moment as a fact, without conjecturing and adding negative emotions.

At the 21-day training, we are just working on this step using a special method. Detailed information about the training here: http://vernut.lovology.ru/21.html

One of my students turned to me and wrote in a letter that she hates all men, that she does not believe a single word, but wants to get married. She wrote that she hasn't been in a good mood for several years. She told stories about how innocent people suffered from her attacks of aggression. Sometimes it even came to assault, once she kicked an unfamiliar woman who was standing in line with her, yelled at a little girl and almost got into a fight with her father. In general, from the letter I realized that she had been burned so many times and made so many mistakes that she simply did not see a way out.

This mechanism was very clearly visible to her. She wrote in her story that her relationship with men followed the same scenario, they either converged, then diverged, then loved each other, then hated.

I could not pass by this girl and decided to work with her individually. We began to erase all the grievances and her mistakes related to men and this is what she wrote to me after 3 weeks:

“My name is Venus, I am 37 years old. I am currently working in trade. I have not developed relationships with men. There are no problems attracting male attention, but I do not know how to build relationships that lead to marriage. At that time, I broke off relations with the MCh, with whom I had been dating for 3.5 years, we never got married.
I was depressed, in a terrible mood. My career and personal relationships did not work out, I earned little, and I was more and more plunged into despair. I considered myself worthless, useless, self-esteem was at zero ... There was a loss of the meaning of life. I didn't even want to go outside, it was a solid gray groundhog day!
In my city, I did not find a specialist who could help me .. I was looking for, I asked for help, but I did not find qualified help .. I hoped to finally get answers to the questions that had tormented me for years on the Internet ..
I accidentally found the project "Lovology: The Science of Love!" I was interested in the title of the training “How to return a loved one using simple SMS”. At that time, it seemed to me that I should go through this training!
I didn’t trust Olga right away. I wrote her a letter in which I described my current situation in detail, and she confidently told me that she knew what to do in my case. We talked for a personal consultation. To be honest, I was just already grabbing at the last straw because I was drowning.
I have been studying for the 3rd week and my mood has noticeably improved, i.e. out of apathy, I went to a good calm level of mood, new opportunities appear. For example, I am now going to do my own thing, I have clients and a team of 2 people. I have already begun to earn more, tempting prospects have appeared that inspire me incredibly, I practically do not worry about the breakup, I have become more tolerant of people, I am happy to watch how my life is changing for the better now !! I gained the strength to live and faith in myself. Life is becoming more and more interesting!
The mood, attitude towards oneself, life, people, and towards the world has changed. Thanks to Olga's leadership and my personal work on myself, thanks to my desire to change my life for the better!
I advise everyone to realize that if you don’t do THIS now, then everything can end very sadly. Then, without hesitation for a long time, you need to start changing your life. Olga has everything necessary tools and knowledge!
We were born to live a rich, bright, happy life! And somehow I don’t want to waste it ... Therefore, you need to work on yourself, grow above your limitations, remove the curtains from your eyes and enjoy life! I've already started))) "Venus I.

Perhaps your situation is not yet so neglected and you still smile sometimes, but imagine what will happen if you leave everything as it is? Most likely, there will be more desperate women.

You must forgive him for everything. Forgive YOURSELF for everything. This is often more difficult to do than to forgive him.

Forgive yourself the mistakes you made when you tried to get it back on your own: wrote tearful SMS, ran after it, depriving yourself of pride ... Situations are different. But whatever you or he does, forgive and let it go.

Once you have gone through the first three steps, you will be able to communicate comfortably with him. You will not be annoyed by changing the avatar on his Vkontakte account, you will not cry when looking at shared photos. You will finally be able to think logically, this is what you need to write the CORRECT SMS messages that he will not leave unanswered, and build communication from scratch.

Only then proceed to the fourth step.

Step # 4
CREATE HIM INTEREST IN YOU USING THE CORRECT SMS MESSAGES.

What SMS have you already written to him? I bet you wrote:
- Forgive me! Come back!
- I will change! I will become what you want!
- Just explain why! Be a man!
- I let you go, thanks for everything, you are free.
- I need you! I can't live without you! Give me another chance!
- Let's meet and discuss everything.

And what did he write in response? There are several options:
- Nothing.
- Messages with rude expressions and requests to leave him alone.
- Messages with statements that everything is over, nothing to return, you are cool, but the reason is not in you, nothing happened once and the second time will not work either.

In fact, it is necessary to send completely different SMS messages and it is very important to strictly maintain the time between correspondence. Moreover, the first 30 days it is categorically impossible to communicate with him. No way. No way.

Immediately you need to take into account that from the first SMS he will not come running and most likely will not even answer.

In the training we use several SMS formulas - correct, SMS - which will arouse his interest in you.

Imagine you have one chance. One chance and only one message. And your loved one will read it for sure. What will you write to him? Write it down in your notebook.

And what do you think he will answer you?
Imagine yourself in his place. Perhaps you already had this. Someone will not write anything (this happens most often). Sometimes men write: "Why are you writing to me, I sent you" or "Get away from me."
Girls sometimes read such SMS to me! So much dirt is poured out there simply because she sent an SMS ...

Because this is the wrong SMS

If you send a couple more of these SMS, then he will definitely ban you and leave to live on the moon, so long as you do not touch him. In no case do not write this to him! But if you have already sent such messages, then this book alone will not help you. You need a training session where you get everything, down to the message templates.

At the training, we use special formulas: a person begins to communicate with you, even in the most neglected situations.

There are three options for replies to SMS:
- positive
- neutral
- negative
And the fourth option is unanswered. If a person does not answer you, then this is even worse than when he writes nasty things. Because in the latter case, he has emotions for you! And if he ignores you, then you will need more time to return him.

At the training, the participants learn to tie an SMS romance. And they do it!

At one of the seminars, Yulia decided to undergo a 21-day training "How to return a loved one using simple SMS messages". I paid for the simplest package and just downloaded all the audio lessons.

She didn't even check her homework. That is, she just listened to my lessons and did everything herself according to the instructions. And here's what she did:

It's really fast! While the rest are sitting at home in the evenings and crying into their pillow at night, such active and courageous girls as Yulia take control and achieve their goals.

Often I am asked to give an example of a correct message, I will say right away that one correct message by itself will not return a person to you. It is necessary to strictly follow the strategy and send messages different levels(in the training we use several different levels of SMS messages that need to be sent at certain moments and periods of time). But for the participants of the training there is a special mini-book "100 templates of CORRECT SMS".

Step # 5
HAVE A "FIRST" DATE.

If now your man calls and asks: “Let's meet today?”, What will you do? Of course, your heart will begin to beat faster, you mentally go through the entire wardrobe and prepare for the meeting. Feelings will overwhelm, but the mind will be indignant. This is a very dangerous moment.

You run the risk of becoming a girl for him "for sex and nothing else." I understand that it is difficult to control yourself, BUT in no case go to a meeting! First you need to reach a certain level of communication so that he understands that this is not just a meeting, but a date. So that he himself wants to go to him, and not just meet and sleep, and then send.

There should be a certain amount of ignorance - sometimes you don't need to pick up the phone, sometimes you don't answer right away, sometimes you just disappear for a few days. Let him know that he needs to get you again!

But the most important thing is the correct SMS. This is the tool with which you can get your man back. To return a person, you need to create communication and a certain game in communication. That is why I have developed a strategy for SMS correspondence. Without correct strategy you will not be able to make him want to conquer you again.

You will receive such a tool during the training. And you:
- erase old grievances and mistakes
- make him want to bring you back and be together again
- make contact without humiliation and obsession on your part

But if you enter the training today, you will not be texting him tomorrow. Only after a while there will be communication between you, and then he himself will write to you “Hello! How are you? What are you doing? ”, Will be interested in your life.

And then you start a NEW relationship with your beloved man, without going back to what happened. Strong, healthy relationships will need to be rebuilt so that they don't break again.

Be sure to read the next chapter, in which I give feedback on real stories relationships and breakups. You will be able to find out exactly what to do in your situation.

REAL STORIES OF BREAKING AND WHAT TO DO IN SUCH SITUATION.

This chapter explores the real stories of the breakup. The chapter is drawn up in the form of my dialogue with the participants of the feedback workshop. Not a single word was removed, and everything I said we added to this book.

How did the parents interfere in the relationship, how did it turn out and what should be done now? The story of Natalia K.

“We met 3 years ago in a contact, immediately started dating, fell in love right away, I had my first marriage, a divorce. But in him I liked that he would be very caring about himself, and he would buy everything for me, repair it, etc. never allowed to pay for anything, i.e. considers himself a breadwinner. Although, on the other hand, he is not sincere, not very sociable, it is difficult for him to talk about feelings, he would better do something to make me smile, but his character is very quick-tempered, so there are mostly quarrels on this basis. And we broke up in April 2013, finally, he packed his things and went to his parents.

Then after 2 weeks they made up, but they did not live together, they began to meet, I became pregnant, I decided to leave the child, he too, but then probably the responsibility scared him, and in July we talked and he said that he was not ready to be a father, but he would to help, I said okay, and we remained friends, but by September we made up again, he came, said that he could not live, that he was not happy about anything, no gulks, no friends. They began to live together again, but in the last month we had a big fight twice, and once my mother got in and kicked him out of the house, I was shocked, he went to his parents.

We talked a couple of days later, he said that he could not return because of my mother, and in general that I was better off without him, because he is quick-tempered, so that I can find myself a better man, but he somehow himself, his other wife will not need to live and work for the sake of the child. I, of course, did a stupid thing, saying that we need him, that I love him, he did not deny, he said, maybe after the birth of a child, in half a year, maybe we'll get back together. But I did not feel relief, all the same, anxiety in my soul, it seems we made up, but how to persuade him to return, I know what he wants, but he is offended inside and proud.

I feel the distance, I want him to realize after the summer that he has a family and we love him and we need him so that he gets bored himself and wants to return. Now I am 8 months pregnant. "

Olga Ch.: This is a very common situation when parents climb into your relationship. Most likely, your mom is slandering you about him. Please write, does she really fit into your relationship not only once?

Does it ever happen that she tells you that "Oh, yeah, well, he's a rag, why do you need him?" Does mom tell you something negative about him?

Natalya K .: Yes, not often, but it fits. Yes, he says we can handle it ourselves.

Olga Ch.: In short, send mom away. I am actually a tough person and I chop off such things right away. See what it is fraught with. In fact, there is such an important, important law that you may not know. The law reads as follows. Write it down for yourself, please, okay?

Print or write in large letters and hang on your refrigerator or somewhere for you to see. This thing really helps to get rid of conflicts tremendously.

The law is as follows: "For a conflict to exist, a third party must be present."

Do you understand? In your situation, mom is a third party. She says something to you, you do not seem to listen to her, but you still drip on a subconscious level. It drips constantly, but conflicts can be rare.

Look, Natalya, in your case, mom, accordingly, something is dripping, you seem to be letting go, but in fact, it affects you on a subconscious level.

Roughly speaking, if you met a man, you liked him - such a cool, handsome, just super-sexy man, and some of your girlfriend says: “Listen, yes, he is, of course, cool, but his nose is so big, so huge nose! Why do you need a man with such a nose? "

You seem to logically understand - well, what's the difference, well, nose and nose. But the next time you meet this person, you will already notice that he has a big nose. Then someone else will tell you that his ears are small and ugly. You will start to notice that his ears are really small and ugly.

Other people direct their attention to things that we really don't give a damn about. But when they direct our attention to these things, we begin to believe in it. Therefore, I am sure that your mother is to blame for your relationship, for all your breaks. "

Natalya K .: This is my apartment, and we have to live with my mother - there is nowhere else to live. I did a stupid thing, said that we need him, that I love him very much.

Olga Ch: I understand, it ended with the fact that you are now in the 8th month of pregnancy, that he is now separately, you seem to be dating, but you want to live with him.

You need - you definitely need to go to the training, because you need to rebuild the correct communication with him.

You need to remove mom nafig altogether. There are 3 options for how to remove mom. We will not kill her, I say right away :) You don’t need to go there and hire a killer, you don’t need to hire Bruce Willis to remove your mother. But there are 2 ways to remove mom.

The first option is to move.

The second option - you need to tell your mom: "Mom, please don't meddle in my relationship!" And every time she comes up to you and says: "Natasha, why did he scatter your socks here, why should he, such a man, is needed!", You say to her: "Mom, I understand your point of view but this is not your husband, this is my husband. I will do whatever I want with my husband. If I want to be with him, I will be with him, and you, please, don't meddle, okay? I don’t meddle in your relationship, and you, please, don’t meddle in mine. ”

That is, you need to protect your mother from relationships with the help of communication. I will give you an example from my own life. In general, my mother and I have a great relationship in the sense that she never interferes in my relationship at all. I trained her. I'm serious, I trained my parents so that they don't get into my life at all. At first they were a little offended, but then it dawned on them that I have my own head on my shoulders and that this head thinks and makes adequate decisions. In general, they believed in me.

And how did I do it? I was tough. That is, when my mother went there with some questions, or to find out something from me - how is he there, what is there - she wanted to somehow influence, I told her: “So, mother, that's it - stop! I'll figure it out myself. " I just harshly ended the conversation on this topic.

See, in your situation it is not necessary to abruptly end the conversation. My mother and I have such a style of communication that I can really be tough to say, I am a tough enough person, I say what I think directly. If I don't like something - I send nafig. Those. I am a straightforward, open person, but without adequate reasons I will not behave harshly.

Therefore, look, if you have a different relationship with your mother, then you can not tell her hard, but you can just talk to her many times - I repeat, many times - to talk to her on this topic. Tell her: “Mom, please don’t meddle in my relationship, I want to be with him, I love him, he is me too, we have a child. I want to live with him, I want him to live here. So, mom, help me get him back. I need your help, Mom. "

And look, Natasha, you need to make your mother apologize to him. I understand that now it seems completely unreal. But if you start talking to her every day right from tomorrow, say: “Mom, listen, I want to be with him, I love him, help me return him. I need you just not to get involved in our relationship, so that you just do not interfere, so that you do not tell me anything about this. "

Natalya K .: He does not call to move to his parents, so it is necessary to train my mother. It's unrealistic for her to apologize.

Olga Ch .: I understand, good. Then make sure that it does not climb at least. You can convey to your man this idea that "My mom - she went too far, and I told her not to meddle in our relationship anymore."

I had a situation with my first husband, Sergei, I had a conflict. Before the wedding, everything is already ready - a week before the wedding, his Native sister declares: “Listen, Seryoga, if there’s your best friend Gosh at the wedding (this is her ex-husband) - I will not come. And if I don’t come, your parents won’t come either, your whole family won’t come. And you will have such an empty wedding - only with Olya's parents, here! " She gave us such an ultimatum.

I told Sergei: “Sergei, well, this is some kind of inappropriate behavior. You yourself choose, if you now allow yourself to be manipulated like this, then these manipulations will be forever. This is my wedding and yours. We ourselves must decide who will be at our wedding. Gosha is your best friend, you are really like a brother with him. Moreover, we invited him a long time ago. " I said; "Go to your parents and talk to them."

He alone went to talk to them. And he came and said, “Listen, do you know what I told them? I told them: guys, if you want me to be a happy person, then you just come to my wedding, because this is just a wedding. And if you, Irina, do not want to come, because Gosha will be there, then you don’t come! ”. He did not allow himself to be manipulated. Although there were such attempts before, even in preparation for the wedding.

As a result, Irina came on the wedding day, and Gosha was there too. But Irina then somehow demonstratively left - she was offended, in short. Well, okay, because all of Sergei's parents and relatives have come.

My point is that in fact parents, despite how tough they are, despite what they say, they want us well. If you convey this idea to them that “I want to be with this person and this is good for me, and help me to do this, you’re my mother” - the person will open up to you and help you.

Therefore, you just need to convey the idea so that it does not get into your relationship, but helps to return it. The training will help you, but you need to settle your mom first. Therefore, I advise you to go to coaching.

Year-Long Depression - What To Do?
The story of Evgeniya E.

Zhenya - she is 31 years old, her husband - 29. When the relationship with her husband began - his name is Sergey - Zhenya found out that her future husband liked her as soon as he saw her. At that time he was 18 years old, and he was, as they say, a boy from the village, i.e. very shy. “It seemed to me that I was trying to achieve it,” writes Zhenya.

They had their first sex after 4 months of relationship, and began to live somewhere else after 3 months. That is, it turns out that after 7 months they began to live together. Zhenya had ex-boyfriend, which haunted her, and she writes that 2 times he tracked down and beat her, can you imagine? After the first time, she turned to the police, but it did not help.

“After the second time, Sergei took me away from my mother,” and Zhenya was afraid to go outside. That is, she moved to live with Sergei, with her boyfriend. They lived like this for 2 years, then Zhenya became pregnant, Sergei, upon learning about the pregnancy, was very nervous. Zhenya writes that she understood him because he was 20 years old, that is, in principle, every person is nervous when pregnancy is still a responsibility, etc. This is a normal reaction.

“When the child was 2 years old, we moved to another city, to my uncle, because I didn’t work and there was no way to pay the rent. There he made friends, to whom he devoted a lot of time, began to smoke weed. With this I fought as best I could. I constantly sawed him, but we did not have any major quarrels. At the end of the decree, we decided that we would go to his grandparents in the village.

He went there with the child, and Zhenya went to refine it for six months. “At first everything was fine, but then my husband acted as if I was not there at all.” Then she tells the story that she arrived on March 8, and he went for a walk with his friends. That is, she came to spend time with him, and he dumped somewhere, threw her.

When Zhenya worked her six months and came to her husband and child in the village, the relationship improved. But they did not live there for long - 2 months. And then Zhenya took the child and went to her mother. That is, she could not find a common language with his relatives. “He stayed there for another six months. When he came to us, accusations began that I was a bad mother and mistress. "

Look, here on, Zhenya writes that criticism has appeared. She went to work, he skipped all this money somewhere. Plus they also rented housing. And he criticized her. She tried to cause jealousy in him, telling how someone else compliments her.

“When I asked if he loved me, he was silent. Then I started telling him to leave. " Well, what's the point - to keep such a relationship? If Zhenya doesn't like the relationship, it's understandable.

Farther. Here I really liked the phrase: “There were no reactions, he was silent, like a fish. It feels like I'm talking to a tree. " I understand you perfectly, Zhenya. I had the same situation with my first husband.
Farther. “In 2012 we are moving to new apartment- agreed on a long lease term. " When school started (the child had already grown up, went to school), Zhenya went to work in a pastry shop. The husband was there, in the same store, as a freight forwarder. Well, they worked together, saw each other every day. Everything seemed to be getting better.

“Once I looked for the phone number of a mutual friend on his phone. In general, I do not have such a habit. And I noticed the correspondence and a bunch of calls. I thought it was crazy. The number was signed as "Neighbor". She knows this girl that she also has a child, who at that time was 2 years old, and she separated from her husband, they lived together for 2 years. And she was a lover of walking and smoking weed.

“When I saw his communication, I naturally made a scandal. He said that he was communicating with her because of the grass. I arranged something for him that had not happened in all 10 years. She said that if he does not start to change, then we have nothing to do together.

It seemed to work, but after a while he began to "stay late at work", he only came home to sleep. When I got tired of it, I told him to leave. He thought for a long time and gave me: “I'm leaving. Found better than you. I found the one with which I want to live my whole life. " Zhenya writes that she had a nervous breakdown.

"My husband said that he would always help me, and he does it." Well, there, about the child helps. Then he began to take the child there (i.e. to that girl). "Then I could no longer be silent - I left and was still dragging my son." Look, there is such an influence on the son. That is, the son begins to say: “I’m going to live with my dad,” and so on.

Well, Zhenya, of course, is taking the right actions - she changed her job so that she could take her son herself, so that the son would spend more time with her. Well, this, of course, is correct, you cannot influence the child. The child must live his own life. He is independent of what kind of "w .." happens there with the parents, he must always make a choice himself.

Farther. Their communication with their ex-husband ends in a quarrel. “No matter how I restrained myself, pain and resentment took their toll. I understand that while I am in this state and cannot control myself, nothing good will come of it. "

You are absolutely right. Remember, step one is to get out of this depressed state. A depressed state - it can be depression when you cannot get out of bed, or it can be anger, specific anger when you see this person and you want to hit him, send him somewhere far away.
Depressed state - I mean a state where you cannot control your emotions. When I saw the avatar - and that's it, you have tears. I saw that he gave a "like" to some other girl - that's it, you have a disaster, that's it, panic.

You are absolutely right that in such a state it is difficult to do something. Then you write here: "We have not seen each other for 3 months." About 3 weeks ago, he called 4 days in a row, but she did not pick up the phone. “I've been living like a zombie for a year now. I know that I need to raise my son to his feet, I want to start my own business, I want to earn money. I want to earn money for an apartment, I know that I can, but I don’t have enough strength, I am constantly frustrated ”.

See what's going on? This state - it changes not only your relationship with him, it affects your earnings, your child, etc. “I dug the entire Internet in search of at least some help, I myself can’t cope.”

Zhen, feedback for you.
You need to put a lot of emphasis on these 2 steps: the first step is to get out of the depressed state, you definitely need to take control of your emotions. Next - step number 3 - to erase the grievances about him. And yet - you and him have different goals. Here he likes weed there - to smoke, relax, etc. That girl - she supports him with this. You see, you forbid him to do this. You are right, you are right to not allow him to smoke. Because it's all bad, really, it's right.

But it turns out that when we try to take care of another person so much, when we try to help him, we push him away. "Yeah, she forbids me, she wants to make me henpecked, wants me to obey her, etc." you need to convey this idea to him. Look, Zhenya, you can establish communication with him, and, in any case, you need to improve relations with him.

Evgeniya E .: I thought it was worth returning or not.

Olga Ch .: Zhen, look, you need to improve relations with him for the sake of your son. But I'm not saying that you need to return it.

Zhenya, I want to invite you to coaching. You have been in this state for a year already, well, how long has it been possible, eh, Zhen? You need to get out of this state, this is the first thing. Secondly, you need to come to a state where you can adequately make a decision whether to return it or not.

I invite you to a 2-month coaching. In 2 months we will get you out of this swamp, in which you have been living for a year. We will create for you the meaning of your life even more. We will establish communication with him, so that you simply communicate with him, so that you are not upset by communication with him, and so that this does not affect your condition.

And only in that state when you will adequately assess the situation when you will have established communication with him, the usual one - about the child, for example, when you have an internal state - only in such a good, calm state, we will make a choice - to return it or not.

That is, now you can go to the training, you will return him - but then you will still part with him, because you will not like his behavior anyway. Because he hasn't changed during this time, do you understand? He also smokes weed there and has fun.

You need to first get to the point where you can weigh the pros and cons adequately, and have no doubts.

Evgeniya E .: “I understand that I will still have to communicate with him.”

Olga Ch.: Of course I have to. In your situation, you'd better go for coaching. I understand that he is not a cheap pleasure, but how much is your happiness? How much is your son's happiness? And how much is a normal, adequate life when you can control any area of ​​life? When you don't have nervous breakdowns, when do you feel good, no matter what the situation is around?

Whatever "w ..." was - and you are still in a good mood, you are acting adequately. It is very important to act adequately, because when emotions overwhelm us, we begin to carry all nonsense, we begin to spoil the situation and aggravate the state of affairs.

Why it is impossible to forgive his betrayal and how to regain trust if she herself has also changed.
The story of Victoria S.

Olga Ch.: Victoria met her man when she was 15. And he was 18. Six months after they met, they got married. Daughter Mashenka was born. And when her daughter was 3 months old, Victoria found out that her husband was cheating on her.

Victoria herself cheated on her husband several times and admitted it. After 3 years, the situation again developed in such a way that Victoria again began to suspect that he had someone. But he was silent, did not say anything about it. Then he gets into trouble at work, and they decide to leave for St. Petersburg to live, and after 4 years she appears.

Victoria was busy with various things, helping relatives, she had no time to think about him. And she writes: "This is where I lost him." One day he did not come home to spend the night, but appearing in the morning, said that he was leaving her. She was shocked. But, it seems, we talked, and decided to start everything from the beginning. Six months later, she realizes that she cannot keep him, and asks to leave.

After 3 days, he comes back again. Further, her mother meets another man and leaves her father. My father has problems there. Then she writes: "Here I began to feel that something was wrong again." They had a conversation, and Victoria asked: "Are you with her again?" And in response she heard that yes, that he was with her, and he was with her all these years. That is, he has a mistress throughout this time, how much they are together.

He said that his mistress was pregnant, that they were doing the child purposefully, but nevertheless, for some reason, he did not leave her. After 1.5 months of such a nightmare, she took his phone and read the correspondence. “In the morning I get up and ask him to pack his things and leave. I thought he would be happy, but he asks for forgiveness and cries. " Doesn't want to leave. But then he freaks out, packs up his bag and leaves. And they parted.

“The first days are difficult, but I am coming to my senses. I called him, we talked calmly. He said that I was very brave, he himself did not dare to call. He comes to us, has dinner or lunch, we go with the children to the cinema, to the cafe. Every time he leaves, he hugs me, kisses me on the cheek. We don't talk about relationships, we just chat in a friendly way. "

5 days ago I asked for a divorce. Victoria did not expect this and then broke loose, began to say that “we are waiting for him,” as she loves him, cried and asked to come back. And Victoria writes that she still feels the connection between them, but does not know how to get him out of this swamp.

Here's a story. So, Victoria, the first thing to do? It is advisable for you to also go to training, ideally, of course, to coaching. Further, here is a very important point that you have your betrayals, and you need to work out these betrayals.

You know, there is such a saying "A thrown stone will return to your garden." That is, what we do in relation to other people is something bad, we then receive it in our address. If you called someone a fool, then you will also be called a fool. If you have stolen 100 rubles from someone, they will also steal from you, and it is not a fact that 100, maybe more.

Victoria, first of all you need to work out your cheating, because you get in your life the things that you have done in relation to other people. Therefore, I want to personally work with you as part of the training, so that we can remove these jambs with you, because even if you return this person, if everything goes well, in any case you will step on the same rake. There are two options for the development of events: either he will continue to change, or you will continue to do the same in relation to him, that is, change him.

This mechanism always works, whether you believe it or not, it is a fact. This mechanism is at a subconscious level, and we do not need to be aware of it in order to act on its lead.

Victoria, another important point - you met him early, at the age of 15. During this time, you have changed enormously as a woman, a large number of time has passed. And you need to bring back the best features of the girl he fell in love with, adjusted for age.

Roughly speaking, if then you were such a cheerful girl, you walked in all pink and wore playful ponytails, now you need to be cheerful too, but of course, no longer walking in pink and without ponytails. That is, you take the best that he liked in the girl with whom he fell in love, you begin to embody it now, but only with an adjustment for age, so that it looks adequate, corresponds to your age.
Victoria S .: Outwardly, it has not changed much.

Olga Ch.: It's not just appearance. Here is your behavior, your manner of communication, your interests, your hobbies, where you work, how much your work ignites you. How much time did you spend with your man before, how much time you spend with him now. There are a lot of different factors, in fact. Appearance is only one tenth of these factors.

At the training I will give a Workbook, where you just fill out the plate and see what has changed.
Initially, your relationship was built with a slight incorrectness. Reading your story, you get the feeling that you can change. Therefore, in your relationship there are slightly incorrect rules of the game.

You see, you forgave him for this, and thus you encouraged such behavior. Plus, you yourself have treason, which he knows about. This is an indicator that you are encouraging this behavior. This, too, must be removed without fail. And this is done with the help of the Family Rules workbook. This workbook helps you figure out all the rules.

Once again, I will summarize:
The first is to work out your betrayals.
The second is to return the Victoria he fell in love with, adjusted for age.
Third - “Family rules” must be worked out, what is possible and what is not. And, ideally, of course, for coaching, but you can sort it out during the training.

If a man loses interest quickly?
Eleanor's story.

Olga Ch.: They met, at the end of May this year, on the Internet. About a month later, at the dacha, he said that he had already walked up and wanted to give his love to only one girl. “At the dacha, he declared his love to me,” writes Eleanor. That is, it was about a month later. Had a good time for about a month and a half.

“Then we planned meetings, and something suddenly happened to him, and he disappeared,” writes Eleanor. Remember my story about Stas? There was also ignorance, some excuses all the time - "I'm busy", "I'm going to the gym" and so on. Eleanor has the same thing. They planned meetings, and suddenly something happened to him, and he seemed to disappear. Then he showed up every other day.

“When we met, at some point he didn’t want to be with me,” she writes. I just gave a lift home, did something - in short, I didn't spend time together. Eleanor insisted on some of her desires and even set a condition: if he does not show up the next morning, then the relationship is not important for him. He, of course, did not show up. She set a condition, but he did not fulfill it.

In late August, Eleanor discovered that he had removed her Vkontakte from his friends list. I sent him an SMS “I can't live without you,” “I felt amazingly good with you,” and “why did you remove me from your friends without even explaining.” He called back the next day and explained that he had allegedly accidentally removed and, in general, he had broken his rib. She hinted at meetings and wanted to visit him, while he was ill, refused, said that they would see each other when he recovered.

“Two more weeks passed, we also called back, but he never invited me to the meeting, he found any reasons not to meet. And now September, October, and only calls and correspondence on the site. At some point, I realized that he was very dear to me, and I was ready to change myself in order to be with him. He is already 44, he has been divorced for six years, two years ago he lived with a girl for two years with whom he wanted Serious relationships". That is, he is a supporter of permanent relationships.

“About two weeks ago, I asked Vkontakte if he still had feelings for me and what he thought about our relationship. He replied that the feelings remained, but friendly, and in a relationship he expects only friendship and sometimes romance. " That is, friendship and flirting sometimes.

It seems to me that your behavior has changed accordingly. By the way, you wrote today that "was inaccessible at the beginning of the relationship." Is it true, huh? I saw that your behavior has changed in relation to what you were at the beginning of your novel itself and what you have become later.

Eleanor: Yes, the behavior has changed.

Olga Ch.: First of all, you need to pay attention to this. You need to take a workbook called "Recovering Interest" and work on it to return the Eleanor he fell in love with.

Girls, if you do not have the opportunity to download the training or sign up for coaching, you can simply download the workbook "Recovering Interest", it will help you restore your personality. Remember when I said that you need to restore your personality? Become the one he fell in love with. So this workbook is designed to make this task easier.

Eleanor: The fact is that for two months I already played him on the phone, and he played me, that is, he liked this move, and even tried to invite me on dates, but this period came to a standstill.

Olga Ch.: You need to take from that Eleanor, with whom he fell in love then, what he liked, and from this game, which you now have with him, also take something. Look, you can not always just joke with him, engage in practical jokes on the phone, and you can leave these jokes on the phone, but sometimes.

Accordingly, you need to paint the perfect picture of Eleanor, one that he will like. In short, download the workbook and fill it out, it contains all the instructions, everything is written in detail. You list all these chips there - and you just can change, for example: today I am like Eleanor, today Eleanor is playing on the phone, for example, next week Eleanor, whom he liked, for example, she did not answer his calls, and he liked to call back, Eleanor is different next week.

That is, the intrigue is created by the fact that you are changing, and you can take this workbook, describe your chips there, as much as you can find, and change. Alternating these chips, then you will be interesting to men.

Eleanor: He's been playing a joke on the phone for two months.

Olga Ch.: Two months. If you did it once last month, once this month, once next month, then this game would not lose its appeal and relevance. And now you need to come up with something new.

Therefore, Eleanor, you need to get your identity back using your workbook. Of course, you can go to the training, and there, of course, I will help you to tighten all these things. If you want to work with me, then take the VIP package, and there will be an opportunity to call me and chat on Skype once a week so that I can help you to tighten up your specific behavior with this person.

How, because of a small mistake, to lose a loved one again.
The story of Julia K.

“The guy's name is Eugene, well, that's where my new story love, behind the bitter experience of a relationship lasting 7 years! And here is a new candidate, 1.5 years younger than me! My dad and his father talked at various meetings and know each other. Lena (dad's wife) has a daughter, and she met with Zhenya for 3 weeks and they broke up. Lena told me so, take it while hot.

I wrote to him on June 1 "Hello!" Not a single sentence was exchanged, a stormy correspondence began. I want to note that the boy is not from a simple family, his parents are wealthy, he is now 24, he graduated from the university and has now entered graduate school for free. He is very cheerful, handsome, knows his own worth, spoiled by female attention!

In general, we began to correspond every day, I really enjoyed communicating with him! Only a week later we decided to meet (June 7). When I saw him for the first time, I immediately realized that it was mine! I thought that he would definitely not like me, he is such a handsome man and I am an ordinary girl.

On the first date, they just walked around our area, I have never walked so much, wandered until the morning, recognized each other. So, almost every day, he said that the diploma would fail because of me. On the 3rd day there was the first kiss, it was only fueled by the feeling that I was playing hard to get.

I often thought that I was just another in his destiny! To my questions about the future, he replied that everything suits him, and he does not plan anything!

He courted flowers, sweets, carried in his arms, and I was in the 7th heaven. And I forgot my ex-husband with Eugene for a week. I just fell in love, sincerely, head over heels! His only drawback at that time was that he very rarely called, only when they went for a walk in the evening, and he often wrote only on the network, referring to the fact that he did not like to write SMS and chat on the phone.

In general, everything went well for a month, I flew in the clouds, blazed with happiness))) We managed to go to the club once, I stayed with him 3 times, but we had nothing, I was adamant. My ex-husband had been trying to get me for a year, so she didn't want to rush things. He was offended, but waited for me to be ready for intimacy. After 3 weeks, he confessed his love to me!

A month after we met, my vacation begins and a trip to the south with my relatives was planned. To which he was upset, but did not prohibit anything. I left for almost 2 weeks. He wrote to me almost every day, dryly, but he tried not to ignore it.

I arrived in the city at the beginning of July and he announced that he now lives in Diveyevo with his parents, works, because the father has his own company. To my question "when will I see you?" answered “I don’t know”. I was very upset, and after 3 days he got out into the city, and we finally met! We missed each other very much, he was beaming all over, I was happy. I stayed with him to spend the night, but there was nothing !!! I held on again!

After 3 days, she rushed to Diveevo for the weekend and spent a wonderful time with him, in general, everything was like in a fairy tale. After we returned to the city together, I again stayed with him to spend the night, and it happened that very first time!

The next day, he again went to Diveevo for work, and I was left to miss here! After all that had happened between us, he abruptly disappeared and did not write for day 3. She herself took courage and wrote to him first, he called back and it seemed like communication had improved again. I understood that he had his own affairs, worries there, the distance between us played a role. I waited for him until September, because he was officially taking a job.

In mid-August I was supposed to come again and, as usual, called me 2 times. To which I did not pick up the phone, since I did not hear. I listened to my friend at that moment and did not call back with the intention of letting her get jealous!

The weekend is coming, he does not call, and I just wrote an SMS "WHERE are you?", To which I did not receive an answer! It was only on Sunday that I mustered up the courage and called again. I remember that he told me that he has a difficult character and if he is not even right he never goes to reconciliation first!

In the end, I called and we met ... He kissed me and said that we had to leave, his feelings were dull, and he would not be able to give me what I want! He has a career in mind, he is constantly doing projects and is busy with work. I am very nice, but he does not see us together in the future! Here!

I didn't show it, I just smiled and even allowed him to walk me home! To which he told me, let's stay friends! I was very worried after this meeting, realizing that I do not need anyone except him! My sister was very supportive at that time! Zhenya wrote to me in the networks already on the 3rd day, asked if I was offended, I answered him no, and actively supported a dialogue with him! He called me, chatted for an hour and to my leading questions, he only answered that we couldn't have anything!

At the end of August he called me with a selfish question to pick up his jacket from me! I was waiting for this meeting and was afraid that I would just give the jacket, and that would be the end of it. He came then with a friend, and I brought him this jacket. They both, one might say, pushed me into the car and the three of us went for a walk on the embankment. Zhenya behaved as if nothing had happened, teasing only with the words "probably already found someone?" I tried to hug on occasion, and if I removed my hands, I was indignant! We walked out until late at night, and I went to Zhenya's house with his friend. We went to bed with him, not spreading the sofa, and just fell asleep in an embrace and he had these words, "I won't let you go anywhere."

We began to communicate again, he began to call, albeit not so often, but this attention was enough for me to understand that he had feelings for me! All this continued for the time being. On weekends we were together, but on weekdays he worked. I tried not to mention that conversation on the embankment, as if it had never happened.

At the end of September, he abruptly disappears, I called him once, he did not even pick up the phone. I wrote 2 times on the network and did not receive an answer!

I was in despair and went to your project "Lovology: The Science of Love!" Received the training "How to return a loved one using simple SMS messages", began to slowly study them and act, of course! Act!

I started with messages "by the way" yes, the first time of course I did not answer! But I also remembered that I needed to keep the dialogue and therefore when he answered me, I followed the strategy from the training. On the same day he called me, I answered the phone, and he wanted to meet! And I gave up, met with him ...

We saw him again after 3 weeks, he came to new car, boasted to me, was lucky to ride ... he said that he was very bored and said that he worked all this time. I only once visited the club, kissed someone, I asked why I was telling all this, I didn’t show it. We did not discuss with him the topic that we are meeting again, and I have some rights. No, I was just silent. He claimed that normal girls very little, hinting at me that I am something completely different, homely, kind, dear!

He looked at me with loving eyes, and we went to his house. We were together again and again in a whirlpool with our heads ... we talked for 2 weeks. Even managed to get jealous of me during this time. All was good. I was afraid that after buying a car she would only become conceited and start looking to the left.

After another weekend, we returned together from Diveyevo, everything was fine, and took me home. I wrote on the net and asked "What are you doing?", I answered him that I was cooking. The next day she wrote to him, "Good evening, my man, how are you there without me?" To which he replied dryly, "I'm going to bed." And after that to this day there is no news from him that I still cannot understand what is happening.

I understand that I made a mistake, having met him even then at his first call. And again silence and uncertainty! I don’t know how to understand it. But I love you very much and really want Olga for you to give me advice! I already completely lost my head with him! Help! Thanks!" Julia K.

Olga Ch.: Dear Julia, well, you yourself know that in no case could you run out on a date at his first call! I told you! Spank and put you in a corner))) At that moment, you lost control over the development of relations. Then he just got what he wanted (communication and sex) and evaporated.

Here's what to do:
1 - Reapply the SMS message system WITHOUT ERRORS to re-generate his interest in you. You have already done this and you know how to repeat it.
2 - Conduct the first meeting, STRICTLY following the rules from the training. Rehearse the lesson on dating.
3 - You need to develop more of your chips. Do you remember the task about desires? Did you do it? Start to realize your desires. Thus, you develop as a person, and it will be even more interesting for men to communicate with you.
4 - Make sure your sex is good. I know of cases when men do not admit that the sex was not very good, and just disappear. If you do not feel sexy, then urgently go to a good photo studio and hold an erotic nude photo session for yourself. The main thing here is to squeeze out your complexes, that is, to relax and do whatever you want, even if you never show these pictures to anyone and never return to this photo studio. You need to come off there to the fullest! The sexier and more erotic the photos are, the better.

So get down to the SMS strategy and follow the rest of the steps. You need to become even more delightful for him. Good luck! You can! You've already done it!

CONCLUSION

In this book, you learned the strategy for returning a loved one, but without practical study, you will not get results. To help you integrate this data into your life, I periodically run gap history feedback seminars.

You can find out about the next seminar here: http://vernut.lovology.ru/os.html.

More details about the project "Lovology: The Science of Love", as well as about the next trainings and seminars can be found here: http://www.lovology.ru/

On my own behalf, I want to add that you should not miss the opportunity to achieve your goals, it is always better to say “I did everything I could” with a clear conscience, than to worry all my life with guesses “What if we were still together? What if ...? "

I wish you happiness in your personal life, and may your love always be mutual!

How to sign up for a training

Registration for the training here: http://air.lovology.ru/vernu.html

There are three options to participate in the training:
1) Economy package
The most inexpensive option. You just download the audio recording, do it yourself.

2) Standard package
You receive an audio recording of the training plus participation in the training itself (checking homework and correcting it). For example, we have a task: to compose ten messages according to a certain formula. You compose and I check. And if something else can be finalized, I am finishing it so that your SMS sounds cool for him, and he will definitely react.
This package also includes workbooks:
- "We restore the partner's interest"
- "Family Rules"
- "20 ways to diversify sex"
- "10 reasons for quarrels and how to prevent them guaranteed."

3) VIP package
This is coaching - individual work with me. I will advise you on any question - how do you need to answer, how to address him, how, in the end, to get his attention and interest?
In this case, I work with each participant individually - we meet on Skype, and I explain how you get out of what is at the moment. This package will suit you in very difficult situations - an ex-husband with another, a loved one hates, despises ... Situations that are difficult to cope with alone.

The training does not take place online, like a webinar, but offline. You download the recordings, listen when it suits you, and then go to the site and perform homework... I check it, we move on. It's very convenient, don't you agree?

In addition, you will not make mistakes (especially those on the Standard and VIP packages), because I will control your every step.

Remember the story of Yulia, who returned her beloved in just 1.5 weeks using the cheapest package. Do you want the same? Do it with training!

You can sign up for a training, go through it and return your loved one, or you can not sign up and live like an amoeba for another year.

Periodically, I raise the price of the training. After all, the more successful experience and feedback I have, the more work I do. I need to hire a team, develop a project, because I want to help everyone! Therefore, prices will continue to rise.

Don't think. Act before he married another!

Bonuses for training participants

1) Individual study of your situation
I will lead you to your goal right by the handle. I'll show you clearly what to do in YOUR situation.

2) Workbook "Restoring partner's interest".
Remember when I said you need to get your original identity back? The workbook will help you regain your partner's original personality and interest.

3) Workbook "20 Ways to Diversify Sex"
All these 20 ways help not only make sex unforgettable once, but find 20 different approaches to it.

4) Workbook "Family Rules".
It happens that we start a relationship, but at the same time we have completely different goals in life. He wants to walk, have fun and periodically have sex with you, and you already want a full-fledged family, children. This workbook helps you prioritize, explain to him what you want out of this relationship, and find out what he wants. Roughly speaking, so that you do not spend 5 years on him, and then find out that he never wants to marry at all - he has a taboo on this.

5) The book "Introspection".
Hard copy book that I am sending to VIP members. This is exactly the book from which I gave the link to the three lists. The book has a much more powerful effect. It will help you to constantly be in a good mood, despite the difficulties in life. You will always be in a positive mood.

6) Book and video course “10 reasons for quarrels in the family. How to prevent them guaranteed? "
I wrote this book so that you can find the real reasons for your quarrels. And then I described ways to get out of the fight, make peace and make sure that such a fight never occurs again.

7) Recording a 12-hour marathon "Reboot Relationships".
In this marathon, I show you how to build relationships brick by brick. So that they are strong and so that you can carry them through the years.
You read the theory in this book. But the practice is more extensive, because everyone has their own situation with a loved one. And you will learn how to practice in my 21-day training.

Wish you Have a good mood, I wish to get out of depression and enjoy life!

Olga Chikankova
Project "Lovology: The Science of Love!"
www.lovology.ru
www.chikankova.ru

Parting with your loved one is always very difficult and painful. There are always different situations in life where you quarrel for various reasons or, much worse, break up. If a loved one is deprived of what he expected from his partner, then after a certain time quarrels and discord begin. As soon as you understand that there are gaps of this kind in your relationship, then immediately begin to remove them, otherwise you will miss the chance to change everything and you yourself understand what this will lead to. It is important to make sure that the person with whom you are in a relationship is really dear and close to you. Otherwise, you should really break up. But if the discord still happened, then the tips below will help you change your thoughts and approaches to solving your problem with your loved one.

Here are the effective and practical advice how to return a loved one
1.Letting go of your love
First you need to completely exclude all contacts with your loved one. You need to let go really, with all your heart, seriously. A loved one is not your property. He doesn't owe you anything.

2.Start to engage in self-development
It's time to take care of yourself, your development, hobbies or other things. It is important that this is useful for your development. After all, you now have much more time and therefore you can go on a trip, take lessons to increase personal efficiency, or something else. The main thing is not to bury yourself in the pillow with tears and wash down your "misfortune", in no case do this. Remember you personality and it is important to let go of the situation, no matter how difficult it is.

3.Consider your reason for breaking up with your loved one.
It will be better if you think it over. Ask yourself this question: what did I do wrong that led to such a result as parting with a loved one?
Perhaps you will get the following answers: These relationships taught me that I was weak in character and at the right time could not show certain qualities of a real man; you need to give the other person more freedom; you can not treat your beloved with your jealousy; his interests must also be taken into account; this repulses and mutual feeling completely disappears, etc.

How you can not act so as not to aggravate the situation upon the return of a loved one

Humiliate, beg;
obsessive trips to a loved one in those places where he is;
manipulation (“I will commit suicide if you don’t return,” “I am so sick, have pity on me,” as well as manipulation through children);
aggressive attacks, including with the help of friends, acquaintances;

Remember! All such methods of returning a loved one simply do not work! They only show you from a very unfavorable point of view, in no case do this.

Video tutorials on the topic "How to return a loved one" from Sasha Angel:

1) How to return a loved one ( step by step guide)

2) Secrets and subtleties of the return of a beloved girl / wife

3) A girl fell out of love or unrequited love, what should I do?

4) How to return a loved one (first steps)