Each person came across jealousy: in childhood were jealous, if something happened not in our opinion; at school - to pets; In adulthood - we are jealous of our second halves. We are nervous, creating hysterics, complicate the life of our loved ones, put them before an ultimatum. But who will like this, rather it will be the cause of separation and termination of all relations. So what is jealousy and how to deal with it?

Unfortunately, she is able to destroy the strongest relationships. Before getting rid of jealousy, you need to find out the exact reasons so that you yourself share before and could be eradicated.

Types and causes of jealousy and ways to solve them

1. Jealousy to past. Having learned from the familiar piquant details of your lover or seeing heartbreaking photos with him and his former girl, Woman flows into panic. It is difficult to look at a happy couple, which was up to you. Think about whether you can forgive treason, which has been long before you.
   Council: It seems to you that they looked better, but do not think so. Perhaps her figure is more beautiful or legs slimmer, but your man is with you, and not with her. And this for quite understandable reasons - he found in you the qualities and highlights that did not meet before that, he wants to be with you. Do not torment yourself, otherwise you have a degree of self-esteem, begin to comprehensive without reason, and our fellings will annoy your rugs - everyone has a patience, do not go through it.
2. Jealousy due to low self-esteem. I nervously check his phones, sniffed to shirts for the presence of female spirits, check emails, etc. There may be no reason - but it seems to us that it should be something to find. Maybe without reason it seems that we are deceived that we are not worthy of such a guy, he is so golden and not greedy man, and vertihvostki and griming ladies will definitely notice and take it to hand.
   Council: Work on yourself. Become more interesting, attend courses, go out that you can bring pleasure to you. When you get new knowledge, you feel wiser - this is an extra reason to be proud of yourself. And respecting herself, you make you think of others as well as you will be as to an interesting and erudite girlfriend.
3. 

   Initially no confidence. Remember: Build relationships on trust, otherwise, the longer we meet, the harder will trust each other. Otherwise, you will distort yourself guesses and theories, for example, why it is often in a female society, and this may be at work.
   Tip: At such moments, remember the evidence of its devotion. Most likely it is no longer the first check, and you still have been convinced of his prudence last time.

4. Blind faith in treason. More often refers to men. When you are jealous, not what to the post, but to each girlfriend. Associate interrogations, if in the evening it was delayed at 5, attribute a novel at work. You need to ask permission or supposedly advice to go to the hairdresser or shopping for the most necessary. If you decide to visit mom or relatives, then he will definitely say that they gathered to her lover; any change in appearance, even buying new clothes - You decided to change with a new man for change; Everything in this spirit. There will be a lot of reasons, and it is useless to invent hundreds of arguments, as a person absorbed by jealousy will not pay attention to anything. Photo - painful jealousy

   Council: Threaten the whole situation thoroughly, do not rush, weigh in and against. You yourself will choose, or leave everything as it is, or you are a shame that because of all this you do not have friends and friends with whom you can see, you are not the right to choose where to walk what to wear with whom to talk - You are under the closer supervision of a person with obsessive ideas.
   If you have long tried to convince him of my innocence, in what you reproached you, you are tired of the life of the toy, then think you want to continue to be a puppet without the right to vote? Want to be a victim? Or hope that something knocks himself in his head so that he changed with no one? People do not change so much. Think about it, since it is almost useless to fight jealousy in this. It will be necessary to part with the guy correctly, so as not to hurt him and do not have an enemy in his face.
   Many smart women say that if a man is constantly jealous without a reason, that is, the probability that he changed himself. And now he is trying to convince himself, having wedding on you that let him change, but you are the same.

5. Dependency on relationships. More often relates to housewives that have a circle of communication are minimal. And the man acts as practically only personwith which you communicate.
   Council: Do you miss communication and are you afraid to lose the only native soul? We find a hobby, attend courses where you can communicate with people, develop yourself!

Video: Jealousy and distrust. How to deal with jealousy?

Tips are always easier to give than to follow, but I strongly ask, at least try a few, save your relationship.

Each woman early or later faces manifestations male jealousy. In principle, it is completely normal. Any representative of a strong sex has an instinct of the owner who does not allow him to give his beloved to someone else. But how to be in cases where the partner simply does not give a woman to live quietly and, as they say, "jealous to each pillar?" Such behavior leads to constant tensions in relations, quarrels and distrust.

Even worse, if a man does not hold himself in his hands and allows himself to raise his hand on a woman or on a possible opponent. This is already threatening not just his marriage, but also to those surrounding people, as well as the reell itself.

Causes of men's jealousy

A person can be jealous of various reasons. The most frequent of them are:

• dubious behavior of a woman;
• her success for the opposite sex;
• strong;
• no strengthened relationship;
• fear of losing a partner;
• excessive authority;
• imperidity;
• diffidence;
• feeling of their unattractiveness;
• frequent absence of some of the spouses at home;
• own tendency to treason;
• sample father;
• lack of proximity in relationships;
• aggressiveness in relation to the persons of their sex;
• psychopathic warehouse of personality, etc.

Therefore, it is very important to understand what is caused by jealousy. It may be strong love And the fear of losing a woman. And maybe power and unreasonable demand. If it is provoked by internal male problems, then, most likely, a person does not feel a special love for a partner, and the case is in his swollen egoism.

He is indifferent to the peaceful comfort of a woman and he is worried only about his own problems, often do not have a direct relationship.

If people do not know how to negotiate, and even worse, they begin to compete with each other and retract into a circulation of jealousy, then you can say in advance that such relationships will be doomed.

Types of men's jealousy

Trying to fight meaninglessly. She is experiencing any person. Just someone gives back to her, and someone will reasonably argue and weighed all their suspicions.

In addition, its presence gives a signal to another partner that he loves and necessary. In small doses, it is even useful for making feelings of special warmth.

But this feeling can manifest in different ways. Some men strengthen control over the woman, others seek to accompany her everywhere, and the third arrange the scandal, relying only on guesses and suspicions.

It is very important to be able to recognize the jealousness of the partner when he does not demonstrate it too clearly or in general hides. It is better to find out everything at once, then to deal with an accumulated rage overwhelmed volcano.

In this case, it should be alarmed if the woman notices that the man secretly searches her pockets, checks the electronic almost or even examines her pages in social networks.

He is too detailed in detail about colleagues and acquaintances, and perhaps he himself tries to get acquainted with them to enhance control.

He shows distrust or just refuses to believe when a woman says that her relationships with people wear a purely professional or good-neighborly character.

He is nervous and arranges quarrels due to late, days spent in the circle of relatives or even just sluggish conversation.

If the family often flashes scandals without a special reason, you need to think, is not jealous of anything.

Power and aggressive men may experience this feeling just because the woman is tired, does not want to go somewhere together or a long time sits on the Internet. They begin to suspect that if all the attention of the spouse is not given to him, it means that she has someone else.

There is such a category of men who have already walked to his wife, but even thoughts do not allow that she can answer the same. They do not give her enough time, but at the same time carefully monitor the spouse to do not find someone.

A person who has a mistress or regularly changes, unwittingly tolerates this model of behavior and other people. He thinks that you can not trust anyone and, first of all, my wife.

It happens that man originally does not like a woman, but already "introduced" her to his collection of victories and is afraid of losing his victim. He needs to constantly have a living confirmation of his irresistible, and the fact that the girlfriend was fascinated by someone else, puts a strong blow to his self-esteem and the reputation of Don Juan.

There are men who have a full spin in relationship. The woman loves them and proves it in every way. But deep insecurity, the fear of loneliness, and, perhaps, the previously experienced betrayal, make it extremely vulnerable. Such a person can arrange a partner scandal, even if she just talked warmly on the street with a chance to meet a classmate.

Influence of jealousy

Jealousy is particularly strong at the beginning and at the end of the relationship.

At first, the man is not sure of the feelings of a woman, he is afraid of rivals and does not know how events will unfold. Usually, when everything is settled and there are evidence of love, it calms down.

At the end of the relationship, the partner has already significantly cooled to a man and, perhaps, already affects other representatives of the opposite sex. But in the partner tells the instinct of the owner, it is not easy for him to teach himself to think that a woman will have to let go.

Therefore, if the relationship is still in the process of birth, it is better to immediately assess the consequences of life with the jealousness, as well as the degree of your patience and to sympathize with Him. If a woman can calm down daily, persuade and, perhaps, demolish the scandals from a scandal place, then, subject to strong attraction to his partner, he can overcome his jealousy.

Relations with such a man will require her very great responsibility. There should be a willingness to treat him with compassion, daily, the eradication of jealousy and confidence. Otherwise, it is not necessary to enter into a difficult link from the very beginning, as well as to draw a person to it, which, possibly, is already quite psychologically uncomfortable.

How to deal with men's jealousy

Before fighting the spouse, a woman needs to look at himself. As a rule, jealousy in an empty place does not occur. And only if she knows exactly what they should blame himself, you need to start fighting with a partner.

There are various methods for the eradication of jealousy. The first and home is to calm down a man, give to understand him that there is no one else and that the woman loves only him. It is better to learn how to create a feeling that he is the best and no one who does not exchange his beloved. Then the man quickly calms down.

In any case, a dialogue is required. It is necessary to talk again and again with a man in order to fully clarify the relationship. And only, if you can see that the problem finally enters the dead end, it is worth applying extreme measures.

In cases where jealousy is not justified, and to live near the person, it is experiencing, everything is more complicated, you can advise:

1. Do not file a man no reasons.
2. To try to acquaint him with each representative of the opposite sex, with which a woman is constantly communicating. Invite a partner with you to meetings where other men are present. If it is impossible, it is about them in detail about them about their families.
3. Do not hide your own jealousy so that the man understands the absurdity of this feeling and, on the other hand, would know exactly what is for his woman beloved and welcome
4. Allow a partner in reasonable limits to control the woman. He is pretty quickly convinced of the absence of rivals and calm down. If this does not happen, he will not be able to arrange scandals without reason.
5. Do not tell him about his former and current victories.

Jealousy is a very destructive feeling. She is able to destroy the most durable and hot relationships. She kills love. Fear and tension that constantly experiences a partner, sooner or later become unbearable and in man coming to life of the instinct of self-preservation or, in critical cases - destruction.

Therefore, it is better not to inflate this feeling, carefully addressing your man and realizing how he is bad at that moment. The man will be grateful for the card from his shoulders and will love his woman even stronger. The feeling of trust only will strengthen their proximity.

The most dangerous is to warm up jealousy in the partner, hoping to bind it more. Initially, it will be so, but then the girlfriend will quickly lose its respect, confidence, and for them and love. And who knows whether it will not be revenge on the desire to take revenge in the same way?

In the case when jealousy is caused by flames, features of psyche or alcohol abuse, requires revision of all obligations towards this person. It is worth understanding that there is no full-fledged relationship.

If love is still strong, then you need to fight for feelings by appeal to a psychologist or narcologist. If, there are no longer there, then it is better to part with the jealous.

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Nothing is so poisoning with a relationship with a loved one, like attacks of jealousy. Someone frankly admits that jealous, someone is jealous of painfully, but secretly. Not every jenerty considers jealousy with its disadvantage, but it is hardly a person who is a feeling of jealousy. If you are jealous and wanted to get rid of this litter of Noshi - listen to the advice of our consultant of the candidate of psychological sciences, director of the Flaviya Coach Center Lada Mikheyeva.

Text: Margarita Tsar

Rule first - "Love yourself"

As you know, jealousy is the nearest relative of the envy. Envy, in turn, a consequence of insecurity, doubts about their forces, low self-esteem. And here and to the complex of inferiority not far. After all, when you are jealous of your beloved to other women, to his friends, you are more worse than them. The time you spend on the groundless suspicions, in vain resentment and fruitless experiences, spend with benefit - work on yourself, Improve morally and physically, try to be confident, learn to love yourself. After all, if you do not like ourselves - what to love you for others?

Rule Second - "Love Beloved"

No, it is not a tautology. It seems to you that your jealousy is a natural companion of your great love. But it is not, jealousy - girlfriend of greed. It is a pity to share your beloved with the surrounding world, you would like to be the only object of his interests, focus on all his attention, all the movements of his soul. If your dreams come true, then you will get no wonderful, versatile, decent manAnd a toy, a robot with a single function - to be cleaned, holly, love one of you. Do you need such a zombie? Love is, first of all, respect. Respect your beloved, his interests, hobbies, quirks, weaknesses - take it all, then for jealousy there will be no place.

Rule Third - "No one belongs to anyone"

Very often, the jealies declare almost with the pride "I am the owner", bearing in mind that the loved one is "this is mine"! The sense of property can be experienced, but it is impossible to implement in human relations. Even the serfs and slaves did not humble with their position, and you want to be able to own a free, adult, sane? People themselves decide who they want to belong, no one is dominated over their feelings. No matter how beautiful you are, the world consists not only of you alone. And if a favorite person from all in the world voluntarily chose you exactly, it means that you are the best. What else do you?

Rule fourth "Trust without checking"

As the saying says, "who is looking for - he will find." Do not feed jealousy, do not incite its fire - do not look for evidence of the infidelity of your beloved person, do not follow him. Fucking his personal belongings, mail, sms messages, you humiliate yourself, your relationship, your love. A tolerate person seems suspicious - you will see signs of treason where they are not, in completely innocent words, things, actions. No trust no love. Trust your loved one - loving man Can not answer confidence in deception. If a man is constantly safely suspected, then you can, thus, you can inspire the idea that you can keep loyalty - the exercise is useless.

Returning from the maternity hospital, Mrs. Smith first wrapped, and then beat her husband, indicating that their newborn did not have the slightest similarity with her, but amazingly similar to the secretary of the spouse.

From the very beginning of the human existence there were two important feelings - love and jealousy. Two completely opposite qualities are eternal satellites of human relations. Even in the animal world there is a second. It is not known how about love, although the attachment between the female and the male is noted constantly, but the jealousy is always there. But what does it mean and why family relationship Does jealousy arise? A sign of what is feeling, is it necessary between a man and a woman and how affects the fortress of marriage?

There are folk sayings "If jealous - loves!", "The stronger love, the stronger and jealousy!", "Jealousy is the shadow of love itself!" etc. The poems, novels, treatises are devoted to this topic. Because of jealousy, war, conflicts, people killed each other. But how are the feelings are interrelated?

Correctly speak the people, that if jealous, it means not indifferent. It is worth understanding the types of jealousy a lot. Some guide this feeling towards another person because of selfishness, the second due to the fear of losing relationships. There is also a type of men and women suffering from mental illness. For them, jealousy is one of the forms of manifestation of the psyche disorder, and in a hysterical, dangerous form.

Can jealousy kill true love

Yes, unfortunately, this feeling simply destroys strong relationships. This is about:

• cynical;
• rough
• offensive;
• humiliating;
• baby jealousy.

As a rule, it is manifested after the official entry into the marriage union. It would seem that all is well, full idyll, the second half is not what he loves, but adores, but still there are the reasons for which jealousy and scandals arise. And they suffer from this "disease" both halves - both husband and wife. For such a person not fully fully and unconditional loveHe will continue to torment, trust will disappear.

An example - she was called by phone. And while the conversation lasts, pleasant, cheerful, it will rush out of the corner in the corner, and feel the alarm, fear, an explosion of emotions. "Who is there on the end of the tube, maybe this is some kind of designer with whom she wants to instruct me" horns ", or a girlfriend with which they agree to go to someone on a date." It is not enough that the jealous of the jealous of the terrible thoughts, he also arranges a surveillance for his wife, or controls her regime, limits contacts with friends, relatives.

The same thing happens with jealous. She is unbearable to ensure that the spouse communicates with former classmates, a cousin, girlfriends at the institute, employees on work. And just, she arranges "espionage" behind him, secretly stones him mobile phone, does not allow friends to relatives, etc. In short, it comes to the utmost marasmus. And what's the shame, the conversations in this situation will not help anyone. There is an internal problem that needs to be solved gradually. Perhaps need help an experienced psychologist, and even a psychiatrist.

After all, most often a person understands that he suffers from psychological illness, but nothing can do with it. But why does this ill-fated jealousy arise, and what is it - a sign of distrust or the most true love?

Common example from life. "Larisa K. Married about 3 years. With Igor, they got married in great love and dreamed of living their lives together. But about a couple of weeks after the wedding it was replaced. She could not communicate not that with friends and relatives of the opposite sex, but also with girlfriends.

He forbade her to attend parents, demanded that those came to visit them. But for some time there is no time, the mild and sociable lara stopped appearing at family celebrations, both in their relatives and close spouse.

The thing is that for her it was not a rest, but the test. Rather, she suffered after dinner. After all, it is impossible to spend time surrounded by people and do not communicate with anyone. It was worth her at least throw a pair of words with someone from acquaintances, the scandal was provided. No, Igor never swore before outsiders. But his nervousness was felt by everyone, tensions arose. And he composed anything, if only faster to retire from the celebration. The house began horror. Screams, Ore, accusations of infidelity, insults. On other days it was a golden man, but pathological jealousy He reduced all his efforts to "no". "

What is jealousy

Jealousy is a versatile feeling. She can, how to strengthen the marriage relationship, and completely destroy love.

Young people in the candidate-flower period do not give this sense of much importance. Moreover, "if he or she jealines, then, it really loves and is afraid of losing love." Agree, such a situation can flatter any person. The situation means that it makes no sense to be afraid to lose the second half. Since "she is completely under my control and watches, as not to lose me." That is, a guarantee of the strength of the relationship arises. But experts claim that falling on the "rod" of jealousy, a person risks losing freedom. And not ordinary, and complete.

From the very beginning to draw attention to the nature of the manifestation of the feeling. If these are attacks in which a person is not able to keep emotions - a doctor's assistance is needed, a psychologist. Another thing, if a person tactfully shows that he is afraid of losing you. The point is really in love. And the pathological jealousy is complete distrust. In his thoughts, he sees you in terrible angles changing, treacherous. Next, the attitude inside will deteriorate.

Only light jealousy and love can be combined in a normal person, and they will strengthen the marriage, will become an incentive to create a full-fledged family, the birth of children, etc.

The manifestation of feelings depends on the person himself, its character, temperament, education, mental state. If he is able to keep himself in his hands, that is, controlling jealousy - everything will be fine. After all, the majority of the planets are jealous, but not everyone knows how to curb quality. The ability to neatly express about his discontent is expensive. It is to such a gallant opinion, as a rule, the second half is listening.

Moreover, controlled jealousy is a plus in relationships. Let the beloved person know and sees that he is roads and do not replace.

If a person is not able to control himself - he is dangerous. In the rustling of jealousy, a tremendous number of grave crimes committed. Remember the story with the family of boa. "No one could assume that Irina and her spouse Alexey have problems in relations. Just a woman was silent and did not tell anyone how his husband got his jarny. It came to the point that they divorced, but continued to live in the same apartment. Two children were constant disassembly and humiliation.

It all ended the tragedy. Another quarrel former spouses I turned into a man's hands-preparing, which in a rummy anger simply strangled a woman. To hide your crime, he threw a message on the network that Irina disappeared. Crowds of volunteers fusified Moscow parks and Moscow region. And the husband folded his wife's body into the bag and left on the balcony.

It was a case in winter, stood a strong frost, and for this reason nothing gave the crime. Police examined the entire apartment and even went to the balcony. But they could not assume that a package with a body was lying in the corner. And only when a man decided to transport her to the forest and bury, the police found him surprise. They just asked to open the trunk, and there was the deceased Irina. "

Here is a clear example of what you can not connect your life with a person who is not able to control their feelings. And how it all started beautiful. Families pointed that once it was a beautiful and harmonious couple. Now the father is in prison, a wife in the grave, and children remained orphans and are brought up with the parents of Irina.

Why jealousy arises

Probably, many of us agree to consider in a person love is much more complicated than jealousy. The first feeling is often hidden, afraid to open. But as for the second, everything flies here with the coils. He fired - get scandal, reproaches. Unrestrained people as far as they tried, they cannot hide their discontent and certainly want to say about this in the second half. And judging by the above examples from the life of the Kabanov family, we understand that a light and flattering feeling can quickly turn into despotism and.

And sometimes permanent accusations of infidelity literally pushed a woman or her husband in the arms of another person. Why you need to constantly justify and listen to insults for what I did not. Since I was to blame, then in the case. Strange, paradoxical situation. But it is treason with another puts the point on family relationships. And even if the spouse or spouse is goodbye to betray, then there is no longer anything about the past confidence or sincerity. We now turn to a more detailed study of the main causes of jealousy.

1. Inferiority complex. If someone says that the jealous suffer from low self-esteem, it will be absolutely right. But it is worth noting that a person can feel his own inferiority of both consciously and at the subconscious level. Most often, this is manifested in the following moments: "He can find more beautiful than me," he pulls him on long-legged beauties, "" She can get carried away with a rich friend, "" Her strong men are attracted, beautiful, and I'm not like that "and T ..
2. Past life. If the second half had before that marriage, or a spouse or spouse had a long love connection, had lovers before marriage, then in family life With jealous, then the case will pop up conflicts. For example, a jealous husband will not miss the moment so as not to reproach the spouse in her lovingness and immediately remind you of her long connection with the former lover.
3. Participation of third parties. So people are arranged that they cannot not be justified about the family life of their buddies, friends. It is impossible to say that only female half is successful. Believe me, men either will not miss the opportunity to move the bones to the spouse of their close friend. Especially painful for her husband hear that his wife once met by some of them. Sometimes in retaliation for the fact that she did not let go of a fishing husband, insidious people can compose a story about her ugly behavior in his absence.
4. No less guilty of family labels due to jealousy and girlfriends. Someone can talk in three boxes only because he envies harmony in relations between a married couple. Well, how, my really does not work, it does not earn anything, and here you are doing like a dove, he makes her dear gifts, wears on your hands. Also, a man who could not arrange his family happiness could also create a goat against the loving couple. Not only envisteous, so much has accumulated so much anger for your fate that I want to make it all on my way. And what about, I do not want to be lonely and unhappy one, you need others to make a company in an eleceptible and offensive position.
5. Alcoholism. IN this case Attacks of jealousy and rage arise due to the effects of alcoholic beverages. Here you do not need any reasons that jealous everything has already painted in your imagination and is ready to pounce on your victim for no reason. It all starts with a small quarrel on the basis of drinking light beverages. Then the amount of alcohol increases, and the rage is sharpened. It comes to the point that the jealous of the scandals with enviable regularity. In any case, his booms begin to be associated with scandal, insults, humiliation, etc.

Types of jealousy

Psychologists conducted a mass of experiments and allocated 4 main types of jealousy, with which almost each of us faces. Or and worse, suffers from this psychological disease.

Tyranny. The jealousy of this species is characteristic of despotic, unrestrained, coarse and stubborn persons. Usually, such types are required from the environment too much, and it is impossible to fully comply. They do not cause any understanding, no regret, nor sympathy. They are not able to arrange a person to themselves and are ready to arrange a scandal, conflict at any time. To live with such a day hell. There will be no holidays, no celebrations, no weekdays without tears, offended and disappointment. Persons with these impartial traits of character never feel guilty, but only angry at those who surround them. As a rule, these are creative people - artists, singers, writers.

Low self-esteem. This type suffers in uncertainty in itself, is in constant anxiety, anxiety, suffering with dimming, weakness of character. They often plunge into longing, sadness, depression, and for this you do not need some worthwhile reason. They are waiting for trouble, and such a feeling that they attract them. The same in relation to the second half. Now and then they are waiting for them to "horns", they even think about how treason is happening. And by inertia, in every familiar of his wife or spouse, they see a potential Uhager, and even a real opponent, lover (mistress).

Jealousy facing. There is no behavior of a person who will not miss a single skirt (trousers). These people themselves are incorrect, walk to the left and right. And of course, they believe that their half suffers the same habit. Knowing how ugly to change, they are afraid to be a victim of the Aduiltra and become cuckold. That is, as they say, "judged!".

Jealousy grafted. Most likely, a person was brought up in a family where there was no sincere love and trust between parents. He absorbed as a sponge of a certain type of relationship, in which someone from the elders or both parents go to the left. And for him there is a stereotype - the woman is wrong with his husband (or dad is wrong with his wife).

It also has the meaning of the opinion authoritative peoplewho listened to a person from orphanage. It can also be parents, some of the close relatives. If Dad said all my life that "all the women ..." (you know what word), then the child has a concrete opinion about the woman and feel confidence in his beloved he will not be able to. In any case, for the formation of another, positive opinion will need to spend time, nerves and patience.

Jealousy adult woman. According to statistics, about 30% of cases of divorce causes a treason. And no matter how people argued, nor proved the opposite, mostly of the wines lies on them. Nature has created them polygamous beings.

Here you need to pay tribute - not only young, but the female gray men are not lagging behind in the amount of betrayal. You know such a term - "". So, now it has become a real science, the behavior of representatives of strong sex at the age of 40. They are fond of and, as a rule, young girls. Of course, experienced ladies approaching a certain age for her husband causes concerns. That family friend left the family, then the other. In this whirlwind of hobbies can get her husband.

What remains his legitimate wife? Stupid old age alone and suffer because of the betrayal of a person she presented her love, youth, best years Life. They built the future together, and all the laurels will reap the special, which will come to all ready. So the woman of Balzakovsky age looks at all potential mistresses of his spouse with anger and distrust. And, of course, she jealines him to each post.

Jealousy is solid. There is an alarm and anxiety based on the real state of affairs. It happens in life - she loved the other. Or he met the one about which he dreamed of all his life. Yes, before that, no one forced him to go with you under the crown, but an error occurred, a failure. Nobody wanted to do nobody. But to live away from your loved one - unbearable flour. It is necessary to talk, and seriously, open, not hiding "cards".

If there is strong love - you need to go to her, and not torture either yourself nor the second half. Why wonder the time to spend time. So the one who stayed alone with problems will be able to win time and maybe he will meet the true fate of his whole life.

It is important to understand that the main cause of acute jealousy is distrust, and not only to the beloved object, but also to itself. But do not forget that the second half can also give a reason to feel discomfort and feel the growing horns on the top of the top.

Famous psychologists in their opinion converge in one - jealousy - this desire to fully possess a person. And not only physically, but also morally, psychologically. There is a desire to control his thoughts, plans, dreams, and, of course, actions and actions. But so build relationships categorically impossible. Do not forget that your spouse is also someone's friend, brother, employee, boss, son, nephew, uncle, etc. A person should belong only to himself and enjoy what is cute and interesting.

Everything comes from childhood

These studies are more than depressing. The farther, the more divorces due to family treasures. If in former times, people tried to obey the rules of decency, they were afraid of condemnation from the outside, now complete freedom of action. Especially concerned about the behavior of young people. No, we are not Hangi and believe that young people have the right to proximity. But we are categorically against random sexual connections.

Whatever the film we did not look - everywhere everything ends with a bed. They still do not know each other, she is drunk, he is drunk - immediately went to the toilet nightclub and merged in ecstasy. Full loss of morality, no fears and fears for health. Even worse - people stopped being afraid to commit the sin of adultery. What kind of loyalty can we talk about if, before that, each of the couples or one of them constantly took into random sex.

There is such a thing - "erasing faces." If you constantly twist the bolt, then the carving will be erased, and in a person who changes the sex partner without stopping, the shame is erased, conscience, decency measures.

Everything comes from childhood. Parents need to be paid as much attention as possible to such issues as decency, reputation, authority, respect for others, purity of thoughts and souls. Only so you can bring up a person for whom sexual proximity will be something special and pleasant, and not an ordinary adventure, one of the sports. And there will be no aggressive jealousy in his life, the wishes to control their half everywhere and arrange her scandals about and without.

Hello, dear blog readers. Not so long ago, a client with a question of jealousy appealed to me. Her husband does not allow her to breathe freely, constantly checks it, calls it a hundred times a day, comes to work. A woman says that he can not breathe freely. And in such a pace, after all, it can get to the divorce. The topic of today's article: Men's jealousy, how to deal with it?

What does jealousy doing

Jealousy - the concept is quite extensive. Sometimes a light and relaxed jealousy brings some perchnow into relationship, so to speak. Many ladies express that they are nice if a man shows notes of jealousy. After all, it means that the girl is not indifferent young man. I have nothing against such a light shape.

But it happens that this feeling becomes aggressive, kills love, spoils relationships and generally poisoning life. Such a case is unhealthy and dangerous. Once my client came with a terrible bruise under the eye. It turned out that her husband hit her in the attack of aggression. I hope you understand what behavior is completely unacceptable.

Jealousy is a human loop. He constantly expects that he will betray that the beloved will find someone better that the wife will come that the girl constantly looks at other males and compares them. There is nothing healthy in such thoughts and correctly.

This happens in most cases due to the lack of confidence and respect between partners. Respect and trust Two main pillar of healthy and strong relationships in the family. I definitely advise you to read the article "". Like this simple and easy. The main thing is to work on yourself and be able to talk with my spouse.

Types of jealousy and their characteristics

A man who is inadequately jealous of his wife to each passerby has a conviction or concept:

• That he himself is not good enough for his partner to keep him loyalty
• It has its idea of \u200b\u200bhow attitudes in the family are arranged. For example, there is a persistent belief that all spouses change each other
• There is a socially generalized view of the type: all women of the verthvostka
• Worldview beliefs related to fantasies or treason fear

One of my client is very beautiful and successful woman. Her husband is not so successful in his work and was not particularly a pet among the girls. One of the problems in their family is his unfortunate jealousy. We started working on the confidence of the spouse, and after a few months, jealousy begins to become weaker. In the end, the spouse becomes confident, begins to trust his faithful.

If you notice that your faithful is jealous without a reason, does not give you freely sigh, carries out the hard control of your free time, then you should think about a joint campaign for family therapy.

Brad of jealousy. A man builds assumptions that are far from reality. More often it arises sharply. A person takes some scraps of phrases, imagining, invents unrealistic details about his partner. Arrange surveys, interrogations, torture your partner suspicion. In this case, only medication therapy in a psychiatrist, because Brad is not a verifiable correction.

Ultra-dimensional jealousy. Here we are talking On the features of personality development. A person is immersed in the experience of jealousy, becomes obsessed with ideas that the partner changes him. It becomes an important fact of treason, not a relationship, he ceases to worry about what is happening between them and partner is not afraid that the relationship will end. Everything stuck on the fact of treason or alleged treason.

Normal jealousy. It usually has some causes and foundations. For example, the behavior of a partner (a flirting or a girlfriend was noticed to behave non-peculiar to it) or an emerging correspondence with the opposite sex. The jealies tend to psychologically protect and for a long time may notice not to notice the signs that the partner is an intrigue.

In each case, it is necessary to understand separately.

In my opinion, women do unsure of young people. Therefore, in your power to help your spouse get rid of the complexes, make it confident and strong. After all, for everyone strong man It is a woman.

I think you will be useful to get acquainted with the articles "" and "". Remember that you can't change it without his desire. In your power, change the situation, your attitude towards your beloved person, make the circumstances so that the man himself began to change.

Opportunities for women

Tips for a psychologist regarding male jealousy Most often suggest that his wife needs to give a spouse confidence, to establish confidence contact with him and establish respectful attitude. Believe me, if you manage to do it, you will forget what is an undue jealousy.

It can be done much faster in the normal form of jealousy. The partner does not like this state himself and he is directly interested in the speedy resolution of the situation. For a normal jealousness, the relationship is in the first place and he seeks to save them, trying to resolve the situation.

Upgrade - the partner does not want to do anything, resolve the problem, discuss.
What if your spouse has this kind of jealousy? First of all, I recommend contacting a specialist. Because yourself you will not be able to keep calm and focus on solving the problem.

As I said above, a partner has a specific personality device and needs long therapy in order to deal with the picture of his world. And then develop his idea, change its concept, develop the weaknesses.

How to behave at the time of the hysterical outbreak of your husband? In no case do not respond aggression. Do not shout at him. Try to reassure your inner cry, breathe deeply. Your task is not to succumb to provocation. And when passions are going to solve this question from a specialist.

Can jealousy be justified?

Yes, dear women. Jealousy can be justified. It happens in one simple case. When the wife changed the beloved and he learned about it. Even if everything was improved, you went through it, continued to live on, the spouse will subconsciously wait for the repetition of such history. A man will begin to jealous, even if he did not do it before. After all, he has an unpleasant experience.

One of my friend said that she was tired of justifying the spouse for every second spent time without him. But she understands that herself is to blame for a spouse. After all, not every man will forgive betray, and if forgive, he will be jealous, ask many questions, forbid to win with friends men and so on.

Not every girl gives himself aware that after treason, the relationship can no longer be as before. And this is necessary to consider if you are going to change. After all, any situation in family life can be solved without betrayal.

Therefore, if you committed a similar mistake, but my husband forgave and decided to try to improve relations, be prepared for jealousy, to distrust and other problems. I considered the issue of relationships in a similar situation in the article ".

Remember that the hopeless situation does not happen. What is all in your hands and you are able to change anything.
Dear ladies, share your experience. Tell about the jealousy of your man. How do you fight her? What does the husband prohibit you? Why does he behave like this? Your story can be useful for others.

Best wishes to you!