Desperate to start a full-fledged family, many come to the idea of ​​whether a single woman can take custody or adopt a child. The process is not easy. However, family law in Russia always acts in the best interests of the child. The main thing is that a woman can provide for the baby, bring up, take care of his all-round development.

Who will be refused?

According to the current legislation, they will not be able to issue an adoption:

• incapacitated citizens;
• persons deprived of parental rights;
• disabled people of the 1st group;
• patients with an open form of tuberculosis and oncology in stages 3-4;
• have no permanent income;
• people without a fixed place of residence;
• convicted of serious crimes.

If a woman does not fall into any of these categories and has Russian citizenship, then adoption or adoption is possible. There is also a chance to establish guardianship over the child.

What is the difference?

The adoptive parent:

• is legally the de facto parent;
• brings up a child free of charge;
• it is checked by the staff of the guardianship department on an irregular basis;

• caring for a child temporarily;
• receives cash payments for work;
• reports annually.

Before making a choice in favor of custody or adoption, a woman needs to consider all aspects and make an informed decision. It is impossible to be mistaken here, because you not only get rid of loneliness, but also give the opportunity of a new life to the little person.

What should be done to start the adoption procedure? Write an application to the guardianship and guardianship authorities at your place of residence. In the absence of experience, it is better to seek the help of a lawyer.

Documents for submission for consideration

Attached to the application:

• autobiography;
• certificate of salary and position held from the place of work;
• medical report on the state of health from a state medical institution;
• certificate of ownership of the living space;
• a certificate from the Department of Internal Affairs about the absence of a criminal record;
• the passport.

Within 15 days from the moment of filing the application, the specialists of the guardianship department will check and draw up an opinion on the living conditions of the future adoptive parent. If it is positive, then it will serve as the basis for registering a single woman as a candidate. Otherwise, after 5 days, they give an answer explaining the reasons for the refusal and return the documents submitted for registration.

When adopted child selected, you need to apply for adoption in court. It is considered at a closed meeting with the obligatory participation of an employee of the guardianship authorities, the prosecutor and the teenager himself, if he is over 10 years old.

What nuances are important to know?

V Russian Federation there are no restrictions on the age and sex of children who can be adopted. But there is one prerequisite. The age difference between you and your child must be more than 16 years. Otherwise, it will be refused. For example, is it possible for single girls under the age of 30 to take care of teenagers? It is impossible if they are not relatives. When adopted by a single woman, this rule is strictly observed.

It must also be remembered that a child who has turned 10 years old must give permission for adoption in the presence of a judge. The consent of biological parents is also taken into account, if they are alive and have not been deprived of their rights.

In case of a positive decision of the court, the fact of adoption must be registered with the registry office and the corresponding certificate must be obtained. If a woman for any reason has not submitted an application within a month, the document is drawn up on the basis of a court decision.

For three years then representatives of the guardianship department check the living conditions of the children from time to time. A woman who has adopted a baby should remember that if certain norms are not followed, they can be taken away.

Attention! Due to recent changes in legislation, the information in this article may be out of date. At the same time, each situation is individual.

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Unfortunately, nature has not rewarded everyone with parental happiness, and the percentage of childless (not willingly) parents remains very high in our country. Tired of fruitless attempts to give birth to a baby, one day mom and dad decide to adopt. And, despite the fact that this procedure is not simple, children and parents still find each other.

What is the order of adoption in our country today?

Do you have the right to adopt children in the Russian Federation?

Any adult understands that the adoption of a child is an extremely responsible step. And desire alone, of course, is not enough - you will have to run a lot to various authorities, collect a solid package of documents and prove that it is you who will be able to give a happy childhood to a particular baby.

True, not everyone will be allowed to become an adoptive parent yet.

Adoption is prohibited to persons who ...

• According to the court they were declared incapacitated or partially incapacitated.
• Due to the improper fulfillment of all the duties assigned to them by the Law of the Russian Federation, they were removed from the duties of guardians.
• They were deprived (limited) of parental rights by the court.
• They do not have a permanent place of residence.
• They live in premises that do not meet either sanitary or those / rules and regulations.
• They live in hostels or in temporary buildings, as well as in private houses that are unsuitable for living.
• They were already adoptive parents, but the court canceled the adoption on the basis of their guilt.
• Have or have a criminal record (including unexpunged / outstanding).
• Have less than living wage(by region).
• Are in same-sex marriage.
• Are citizens of a country where same-sex marriage is permitted.
• Not trained adoptive parents(note - carried out by the Guardianship authorities).
• Not married.
• Are US citizens.

They are also unable to adopt a child due to health problems and have diseases present in the list approved by the Government of the Russian Federation (note - Decree No. 117 of 14/02/13):

1. Diseases of an infectious nature.
2. Tuberculosis.
3. The presence of malignant tumors.
4. Mental disorders.
5. The presence of injuries / diseases that caused disability of the 1st and 2nd groups.
6. Alcoholism, drug addiction.

Requirements for prospective adoptive parents - who is allowed?

• Age - over 18 years old, legal capacity.
• Officially registered relationship (residence in civil marriage- obstacle to adoption). It is also permissible for a baby to be adopted by a single citizen (in particular, by one of his relatives).
• The age difference with the baby for a single adoptive parent is at least 16 years. Exception: adoption of a baby by a stepfather (or stepmother) and valid reasons established by the court.
• The presence of a permanent place of residence (and the right of ownership of housing) that meets the requirements of the guardianship authorities for the residence of the child.
• Eligible income (approx. - above living / minimum).
• Successfully completed foster parent training.
• Voluntary consent to the adoption of a baby by both adoptive parents, issued by a notary.
• No previous convictions (reference).
• Absence of diseases, which are contraindications (see above).

Preemptive right (according to the Law) to adoption - from the relatives of the baby.

In certain cases, the Guardianship authorities may require allocation of a separate room (regardless of the footage) for the adopted baby, if he ...

1. Disabled person.
2. HIV infected.

A complete list of documents for the adoption of a child

All citizens of the Russian Federation who have decided on adoption must come to the guardianship authorities (according to their place of residence) and provide the following documents:

• First of all, a statement in the form.
• A short autobiography of each.
• Certificate of income from each.
• Documents for the apartment: property certificate, an extract of their house book, F-9, a copy of a financial personal account, a certificate of compliance of housing with all standards (approx. - sanitary and technical).
• Certificate of no criminal record.
• Certificates (with stamps and signatures) on special / forms from the AIDS center, as well as from venereal, neuropsychiatric, tuberculosis, oncological and narcological dispensaries, on which the conclusion of the medical / commission is recorded (+ certificates from a neuropathologist and therapist). Validity period - 3 months.
• A copy of the marriage certificate.
• Everyone's civil passport.
• Housing inspection report (note - drawn up by the Guardianship authorities).
• Characteristics from the place of work.

Adoption of the children of your spouse

In this case the list of documents is no different , but the whole procedure is easier and faster.

Adopting a child from a maternity hospital

It is worth noting that it is almost impossible to adopt a baby directly from the hospital. Precisely on refuseniks - the most serious line of adoptive parents , in which future guardians will have to stand.

The adoption scheme is traditional, and only spouse's notarized consent (-gi).

Adoption of a child from the Baby House

Usually come here kids up to 3-4 years old - foundlings and refuseniks, crumbs who were taken from asocial families, and babies who were assigned there for a while at the request of their parents.

Traditional list of documents + consent of the (written) spouse .

Adoption of a child by a single person

Yes it is possible!

But considering the application and conditions that you can provide the baby, the Guardianship authorities will more closely ... The refusal (if this happens) can be appealed in court.

The list of documents is the same.

Step-by-step instructions for adopting a child in Russia - where to go and what do you need?

First step - visit to the guardianship authorities(approx. - at the place of residence). There the parents-to-be will be consulted on all issues and will prompt what they cannot do without.

In the same place, the adoptive parents write statement, in which the request for adoption is expressed, and submit all the required documents. Of course, you need to apply personally - mom and dad (and with passports).

• Employees of the guardianship authorities draw up an Act, according to the results of the study of the living conditions of the adoptive parents (its validity period is 1 year). It takes about 2 weeks, after which the adoptive parents are issued an opinion (adoption is possible or impossible), which becomes the basis for future mothers and fathers to be registered as candidates for adoptive parents. The official refusal of the guardianship authorities in adoption (that is, the conclusion that the candidate cannot become an adoptive parent) is valid for 2 years.
• Next is the choice of the baby. In the event that the adoptive parents at their place of residence have not chosen the crumbs, then there is an opportunity to contact other guardianship authorities to obtain relevant information. After receiving information about the child from the Guardianship authorities, future parents are given a referral (validity period - 10 days), allowing them to visit the baby at his place of residence. Information about the selected baby is provided to specific adoptive parents and cannot be reported to any other citizen.
• The adoptive parents must notify the Guardianship authorities about the results of the visit to the baby and inform about their decision. In case of refusal, a referral will be issued to visit another selected baby. At least once a month, adoptive parents must notify about the appearance of new children's questionnaires that correspond to the wishes of future parents.
• If the decision is positive (if the adoptive parents decided on adoption), they submit an application to the court. (note - at the place of residence of the child) and within 10 days notify the Guardianship authorities. Documents to statement of claim attached in accordance with Article 271 of the Code of Civil Procedure: a statement, marriage certificate, honey / conclusion (note - on the state of health of the adoptive parents), a document from the Guardianship authorities on registration, income certificates, a document of ownership.
• The court session is held behind closed doors. After a positive decision is made, the child is recognized by the court as adopted, and the court decision contains all the data about the child and future parents that will be required for state / registration of adoption.
• With the application and the decision of the court, the adoptive parents register the fact of adoption with the civil registry office (note - at the place of the court's decision). This must be done within 1 month.

Now adoptive parents can pick up the baby by presenting a court decision and their passports at the place of his location.

Within 10 days from the date of receipt of the court decision, the established parents are obliged to inform (note - in writing) the Guardianship authorities , in which they are registered, about the court decision.

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But in the case when it has already been appropriated, the probability is significantly reduced, unless the child is born by the woman herself.

The guardianship authorities issue a resolution before the court, which establishes the advisability of adoption based on the interests of the child himself.

Legally, single mothers are on equal terms with single women. That is, there are no restrictions on status, and the answer to the question - can a single mother adopt a child - yes.

The Board of Trustees pays attention to the following factors:

• whether there is a personal living space;
• what is the area of ​​housing;
• whether there is a permanent place of work;
• if force majeure arises, who will look after the child;
• in the case of an official marriage, how this process will be reflected on the child.

You will have to explain each point and provide documentary evidence. At the same time, the fact of having experience in raising a child will not be taken into account.

About the status

The status is granted based on the absence of the father. This fact must be reflected in the child's birth certificate. The column that dad fits into should be empty. And if the father is included in the document, then only on the basis of the mother's words.

The status is confirmed, which is drawn up in the process of obtaining documents for the child.

It should be borne in mind that divorced women are not single mothers. And also if the father is entered in the certificate and this fact is legally confirmed, the status is not assigned.

How to get a?

The status of a single mother is reserved for those who have children and the fact of having a father has not been officially confirmed. That is, when native dad does not officially recognize the child.

But it should be borne in mind that if the child was born within 300 days after the divorce or death of the husband, then the status is not assigned.

Must be obtained from the registry office. On its basis, a certificate confirming the status is issued in social protection. In the future, it is used to register benefits and benefits.

Privileges

Single mothers are entitled to many benefits in different areas:

Benefit category	Description
Labor	· Status is not a reason for refusing employment; The employer cannot oblige for additional working hours, work on weekends and holidays, business trips without the written consent of the employee; · The employer, on the basis of his desire, cannot be a woman raising a minor on her own.
Taxation	Relies on every minor child.
Health care	Eligible for free drugs or reimbursement.
Utility	There is no payment for garbage collection for a child under 3 years old. Subsidies are possible in case of having the status of a poor or large family.

As for, a single mother is entitled to compensation payments only in some regions of the country. But the benefits of single women for adopting children are mandatory.

So, according to the Federal Law of the Russian Federation No. 349, adoptive parents have the right to receive certain types of benefits and allowances:

• RUB 8,000 is a one-time payment presented when the child is handed over to an adoptive parent;
• monthly allowance for the care of children under one and a half years.

According to the state, the state provides a payment in the amount of 100,000 rubles if:

• the adopted child is disabled;
• a child over 7 years old;
• the child has a blood relationship with the adoptive parent.

Also in some regions monthly payments are provided.

Legislation

To understand the question of whether a single mother can adopt a child from an orphanage, it is necessary to study the legislation.

Let's consider 5 main regulatory legal acts:

Chapter 19 of the RF IC	Regulates the main issues related to the adoption procedure.
Article 127 of the RF IC	Defines the category of citizens who cannot adopt a child: · Incapacitated; · Deprived of parental rights; · Have serious health problems; · With a low level of material income; · Without a permanent place of residence; · With poor living conditions; · Convicted of causing harm to health or committing an atrocity against a person's life.
Chapter 29 of the Civil Code of the Russian Federation	Regulates the procedure for considering the issue of adoption in court.
Article 125 of the RF IC	Determines the order of the adoption procedure.
PPP RFN8 from 20.04.2006	Serves as a guide for the judge in deciding on adoption.

Can a single mother adopt a child?

A woman who is a single mother can have no restrictions on gender or age.

The main criterion is legal capacity, majority and age difference with a child of at least 16 years.

From the hospital

There are no legislative restrictions to. But it should be borne in mind that in order to formalize the adoption of a newborn, you need to wait a long time for your turn.

It is permissible to contact the guardianship authorities of another district if there are no babies where the woman lives.

If it is possible to find a child, then the guardianship will provide all the information, and only then it will be possible to see the baby.

From the orphanage

If you want to take a baby, you must start the procedure by collecting documents. The guardianship authorities will visit the prospective adoptive parent for 2 weeks in order to check the conditions. Then, a protocol is drawn up for the court.

In case of a positive decision, the guardianship authorities will offer to look for the child in the database of orphanages.

If a positive decision is made, then the adoptive parent is issued a certificate, which should subsequently be applied to the registry office to issue a new document for the child.

Registration procedure

The registration procedure in 2019 has not changed from the 2019 procedure. Necessary:

1. Collect documents.
2. Explain the reasons for the adoption.
3. Confirm material wealth.

Per last years the number has increased greatly. Professionally successful, educated women prefer to experience the joy of motherhood by following the path. On the this moment many unmarried women want to raise a child in the same way as married women.

Unlike the happy ones married couples, single women without a husband face a difficult process that will take a lot of time and money. At the same time, they feel free and strong.

Potential moms want to maintain their single status for the duration of the entire adoption process. It must be remembered that before taking a child from an orphanage, everything should be carefully weighed. This article answers the following question: is it possible for a single woman to adopt a child?

Who can take a child for adoption: conditions and requirements

The decision to adopt a child by a single woman is a serious matter. Probably, before its adoption, the fairer sex had already made attempts to become a mother. For example, she resorted to IVF, artificial insemination, treatment of infertility using folk methods.

Since all of the above methods were unsuccessful, it was decided to adopt the baby. For many women, adoption is considered the only chance to find a family and happiness.

Unfortunately, unmarried ladies rarely hear praise for their natural desire to know maternal happiness by adopting an orphan. Many critics accuse the ladies of selfishness. They are convinced that the fairer sex will not be able to raise a child who was previously abandoned by their parents without the support of their spouse.

To make adoption possible, the girl will have to mentally prepare for possible difficulties. Lonely women, if they think about adopting a baby or not, it is only because they are worried that they will not cope with upbringing, they will not be able to become good mothers.

Often, it is not even the financial situation that interferes with taking the child, but personal complexes. At the same time, public opinion has a great influence. As noted earlier, many condemn the desire of unmarried women to become mothers to adopted children. However, such fears are characteristic not only of single women, but also of married women.

What does Russian legislation say in this case? Is it possible to adopt a baby to single women of the fairer sex? The answer to this actual question can be found in the Family Code of the Russian Federation. More on this in article 127. It lists all persons who cannot become legal adoptive parents.

Unfortunately, they cannot take a child up:

1. or citizens with limited legal capacity;
2. those who have previously been or have been removed from the duties of a guardian, adoptive parent;
3. people who have been diagnosed with one or more serious diseases included in the list of contraindications for adoption, confirmed by the Government of the Russian Federation. It should be noted that the list of these ailments was expanded back in 2013. Therefore, it is recommended that you familiarize yourself with the updated version;
4. it is not allowed to adopt children to those persons who do not have a permanent source of income. As you know, he must provide the baby with decent living conditions. For this, the subsistence minimum established on the territory of Russia is sufficient;
5. citizens who do not have a permanent place of residence cannot apply for the adoption of a specific child;
6. people living in a dwelling that does not meet the established norms and requirements cannot apply for adoption. Unsatisfactory living conditions are a good reason for refusing a potential adoptive parent;
7. persons who have a conviction for a crime against a person of an intentional nature.

As can be understood from all the information set out above, the legislation of the Russian Federation does not prohibit adoption by single men and women.

As practice shows, when deciding on the issue of assigning them the status of an adoptive parent, the specialists of the guardianship authorities look more closely to single candidates than to married couples, but the adoption procedure takes place exclusively within the framework of the current legislation.

First of all, a woman who is not married should contact the guardianship and guardianship authorities at the place of residence. It is a government agency that helps people adopt a child.

In 2013, on the territory of our country, the main functions of the guardianship authorities began to be performed by the departments of social protection of the population. Employees of this structure preliminarily consult with a potential adoptive parent. They familiarize him with the procedure, ask about the reasons for this decision, give a list of required documents.

Can a single woman in Russia adopt a child?

A woman who is not a member of legal marriage, has the right to become a foster mother only if she does not fall into the category of persons who are prohibited from adopting children.

How can an unmarried woman adopt a child?

After consulting with the employees of the guardianship and guardianship authorities, a package of required documents should be collected, they are as follows:

1. a statement of desire to become a foster mother;
2. a candidate for adoptive parents;
3. certificate from the place of work, which shows the position held, monthly salary;
4. characteristics from the place of work;
5. a copy of a document that confirms the ownership of a particular living space. This is very important, as it is necessary to show the guardianship authority that the child will not live in a rented apartment, but in his own. This can be a purchase agreement;
6. a candidate for adoptive parents;
7. a certificate stating that an unmarried woman has no criminal record.

According to the existing procedure for the adoption of a child, the specialists of the state institution carefully consider the submitted documents. They will definitely go to inspect the living quarters in which the adopted baby will live. An act is drawn up only based on the results of the inspection.

There are times when a representative of the fair sex, having found a site about children in need of adoption or guardianship, and the child she would like to take into the family, applies with the appropriate application for the adoption of a particular baby.

Can the guardianship and guardianship authorities refuse a woman without a husband?

As noted earlier, the main reason why a woman without a husband is refused adoption is the failure of a potential mother to comply with the requirements of the law. For example, if she does not have a sufficiently comfortable, spacious, comfortable home.

Or if the lady does not have a stable income and does not have a permanent job. In some cases, a refusal may be received due to other serious circumstances.

For example, before placing a woman in a queue, she will be checked by various commissions. Individuals from them are employees of various social services. If a single mother, according to her personal characteristics, arouses any suspicions or doubts among specialists, then they have the right to refuse her.

However, such reasons for refusal are not officially fixed. legislative framework... Therefore, they cannot be applied in this or that case. This also applies to cases where the child is claimed by a woman without a husband or a married couple.

The presence or absence of a legal spouse in this case does not matter. This is not a mandatory requirement for the adoptive parent, so this factor cannot affect the success of the procedure.

Can a single man apply for an adoption?

Today, not only a single woman, but also a man can adopt a child. Despite the traditional concept of a husband, wife, and children family, adoption professionals are beginning to accept single men as potential candidates.

The most important thing is to weigh everything carefully. In addition, you need to familiarize yourself with the basic requirements for applicants. If a representative of the stronger sex has no criminal record, he occupies a good position, has a stable income and good conditions residence, and also owns real estate - he can become a candidate for adoptive parents.

One of the most frequently asked questions, which the mainstream media for some reason ignore, comes from women and sounds almost always the same - "I'm not married, I will be allowed to adopt"?

They write very, very different women, very young and mature, successful and still supported by their parents, careful housewives and decisive business women. The answer to this question, if taken only from a legal point of view, is very simple - yes, you can.

Mother and child. Illustration http://www.tumblr.com

There are no legal restrictions. If a person has reached the age of majority, he can adopt a child. The only restriction that exists for unmarried adoptive parents is that the age difference with the child must be at least 16 years old.

But then there are a number of complications that are not at all legal. You can adopt, but what about then? There are difficulties imposed by life, its social laws, which operate regardless of legal norms and, alas, they are much tougher than the requirements established by legislators.

What you need to know

What do you need to know and understand in order for a family to take place, and for children and mothers to live calmer and happier? We will gladly share our experience:

First. Adoption (and by it we will mean other forms of family arrangement, if a child is accepted not as just being educated, but as a family member) is not a way to hide in the circle of my small family - “So I adopted and no one else is to me anymore needed! "

Quite the opposite: raising a child will require expanding the circle of friends, and you definitely cannot do without male support, especially if you plan to take a girl... Have you ever heard the expression "mama's daughter", no? And so do we! But on hearing "mama's son" and "papa's daughter", this is not accidental, this is one of the laws of nature.

At the age of a child over 4 years old, communication with meaningful child It is extremely important for adults of the opposite sex - it gives the child a model of male behavior, an understanding of how to communicate with men in the future. And neither the child's peers, nor your own grandfather will save you in this part - they have a different social role and age, and this matters for the child. Therefore, whether you like it or not, you will have to attend to providing a male social circle for the child.

Third. Your little family will need a lot of resources to make it happen. Perhaps even more than in a full family, which means that you should stock up on this in advance and create reserves - forces, finances and provide yourself with helpers. And you will also need to have a good rest and improve your health before becoming a parent of an adopted child.

Will the state help

A common idea that the state will help and Kindergarten that you can successfully adopt a child without stopping work is a pipe fantasy.

Firstly, all children are sick and children taken from institutions do not differ in good health. On the contrary, you will definitely have to spend a ton of effort and time on the child's recovery, and not only to run races to clinics and doctors. Many children, especially in children's homes, were deprived of the opportunity to normally be in the fresh air and move, which means you will have to do this with them.

And secondly, kindergarten will not save you in this either. A kindergarten for a child at a subconscious level is a complete analogue children's institution from where he was taken. After a long and difficult treatment, you would like to return to the hospital, no? And why then the child should want it.

Therefore, two options are possible - either the child will protest and by all means evade kindergarten, that is, to get sick, to fight with other children (because the orphanage taught them to defend themselves, for sure!), and neurotic phenomena from enuresis and tics to log neuroses can also begin, and most often it all occurs together. Or the child will accept his fate and will not protest, will easily join the children's team and consider that nothing has changed in his life, but then he will not consider you his family either.

As you can see, both options are lousy. Either an endless struggle with kindergarten and constant sick leave, which no employer likes, or "kindergarten is our home." Is this what you wanted? Therefore, you will have to forget about kindergarten for at least a year, and then everything will go on. In general, there are so-called "not garden children".

What is the most important period in adoption?

It is important to know that in case of adoption, the most important period will be the very first six months or a year, while adaptation is taking place, i.e. while affection is forming and adding up family relationships... In this part, no one can and should not replace mom.

Anyone can help - parents, girlfriends, neighbors, nanny. But leave them auxiliary work: buy, bring, prepare, cook, spend some time with the child. A nanny is a good help to a solo mom, but she should not become a mom substitute, but only a mom's assistant - no more.

Adaptation is an important and very difficult morally and physically period. The immune system during this period is working to wear and tear and often malfunctions due to overload, constant stress, which will not bypass anyone during adoption. You will not gather your strength, do not improve your health in advance and there will be no one to replace, support in a difficult situation - you may end up in a hospital bed at the most crucial moment.

We are all different and not perfect. We have a different attitude to life and different initial possibilities, but it is in our power to think about the future, work on ourselves, and make quite reasonable efforts to move the wheel of fortune at least one degree towards the success, harmony and happiness of your future family. And we wish you success in this field!

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23 comments

• guldana

  my husband and I adopted a child, then divorced my husband and did not have time for the child's documents. the child has a network of otsovy on her husband and a power of attorney is written in my name. Now I want to arrange a child for myself

• Dr. Lena

  I have a question. If anyone knows the answer, please tell me.
  If I adopt a newborn child as a single mother, and I do not want my child to know about it, then there should not be a pass in the column "father". And who can I write in the column father then? Can I write down a fictitious person and give my son a patronymic by his name? Or should the middle name still be my middle name? They say that there used to be a strict law on this matter. How is it now? And what was that old law? Where can you read it? I had a dispute about this - I decided to figure it out.

• Alexanre

  My God ... The family, as an institution of society, is destroyed systematically, and according to the law, and few people think about the fact that a “single mother” or “a single father” is, in principle, abnormal, and even more so to allow a single person who does not know how to adopt a child bring up! I'm not even talking about "non-traditional families". Values ​​are perverted, changed in favor of "population decline" and birth control. Young men and women do not want to create families, but everything is due to this so-called "propaganda of the normality of abnormality" protecting the interests of these. Who is to blame for the fact that people are placed in such socio-economic conditions? The state itself and its short-sighted policy towards the family! Because the laws are written by those who pay ...

  • Tatyana

    And yet, any child will be better off with a single mom / dad / same-sex parents than with orphanage, so if these people, who did not start a family for one reason or another, have the ability and desire to adopt a child, then why not.

    And I consider the creation of a family and a bunch of unnecessary, but their children, because “everyone does this”, an absurd and harmful activity for society, which ultimately makes everyone unhappy.

    • Galina

      Same-sex or non-traditional families are prohibited by law from adopting children.

      • Alena Andreychikova

        And thank God!

      • L Dovey

        There is no concept of "same-sex family" in the legal framework of the Russian Federation. People of the same sex cannot get married. But they can cohabit quite well, and since an unmarried person can adopt a child, then a same-sex family, de jure unmarried, can de facto adopt a child, and then bring him up together.

        What a nightmare, right? :) The clamps are cracking, horror.

  • Tanya

    And what about women who cannot have children? So I envy you that you are so straight all prolific and you can easily reproduce and you are a man and you can easily get married three hundred times. Everything in our country is decided by men. What to do ((
    Here you are one so awesomely normal and condemn all women who want to adopt a child

    • Maria

      That's it. And if it did not work out in a woman's life, there is no man and children, then why not adopt and give all the warmth to the child !?

  • Vladimir

    You are not a distant person.
    Talk about people who don't know how to raise children?

    And what about people who cannot have children at birth or after injuries?
    And if not once did women throw men after they found out that they could not have children, what should such people do?

    Do not judge and you will not be judged.

    Everyone wants to have a piece of happiness in their life.

    • Alexander

      Yes, the whole point is that "The road to Hell is paved with good deeds." First, they will allow the adoption of children by those single who from birth or due to illness cannot have children, and then laws will be adopted and all “full-fledged members of society” - takin like gays, lesbians, will start adopting children. You yourself are not a little far-sighted, but in other things ... We will wait and see

      • Vladimir

        I didn't say anything about gays and lesbians.

        I clearly expressed myself for physically sick people.

      • Elena

        Alexander, for now, in this situation you look no longer healthy than the others .. You are mentally immature and weak. No one is against a complete family, but I agree with all those who answered, situations are different. And I, for example, am more glad that I did not meet someone like you, one-sided and crooked in my views, than that I cannot give birth to a child, because I have not met someone like you.
        And, take care of your life, your own affairs, otherwise it seems that you have too much free time to discuss what no one asks you about, and your opinion is not interested.

        • Karina

          I fully agree with you.

      • Arina

        Your reaction is extremely strange. In my opinion, if there is an opportunity and desire to adopt a child, it does not matter what orientation the person has. The main thing is that he will give the child love and warmth.

        • Karina

          Well, the orientation is not important. Parents for the child are an example to follow. In my nightmare, I don’t want to see that same-sex marriages are legalized in Russia and such families are allowed to adopt children.

        • iolanta_kachaeva

          Arina, thank you for arguing your point of view!

      • Karina

        It’s normal that you raked women into one heap for health reasons or for other reasons that didn’t take place as a mother. And sexual minorities? Did you understand what you wrote yourself? Have you been to the orphanage many times? And I was. There, children dream of their parents. Even stroking them is enough and they immediately stick like kittens. And in general, a man by nature is not able to understand how a woman who dreams, but never becomes a mother, feels.

  • Tamara

    I'm sorry, of course, but what right do you have to decide that a single person cannot adopt because he doesn't know how to do it right? We have many families where children are raised by full-fledged families? 8 out of 10 are singles. And they grow up as red people knowing what family and love are. And this is a great opportunity to feel like a mother to those who, unfortunately, are not given by nature.

  • Oksana

    I fully support

  • Elena

    nonsense you write !!! how many unhappy families and how many lonely and contented people who are ready to share their love! the main thing is love, not a stamp in a passport or cohabitation

• Nadezhda Dudarenko

  Yes, I completely agree that after adoption the child needs the constant presence of the mother. From personal experience I know how scary it is for him to part, even for a minute, especially in the first years of life. I agree that these are not garden children. I adopted my boys. at two years old. From their birthday they were in the Children's Home. Two years without attention, love and affection, without knowing the world created a deficit of all this for them and they want to get everything that they were deprived of in their life. It happens that excessive activity is annoying, frightens some workers in kindergartens, schools ... They do not want to understand a child for whom the doors to another world, which he was deprived of for a long time, are thrown open ... You just need to be sympathetic to his manifestations of joy and cognition, to be at this moment an older friend who will understand and support ... to become an authority for him. My children and I have developed a strong affection and love, and mutual love at that.

  • Olga Golovanova

    Did your boys go to kindergarten in the end? Or are you one school with them? This is a very important question for me, I will be grateful for the answer.

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