Every person has a need to choose gifts. This event is not easy, because for many gifts folk omens impose restrictions. Hence, numerous questions are born, for example: is it possible to give candles?

There are several dark superstitions that forbid such wax gifts because they are associated with funerals. Although there is a rather funny sign that claims that candles give to a power outage. (I immediately recall another relevant belief: I washed the car - it started to rain).

In the past, craftsmen made candles by hand, and it was believed that evil person could deliberately speak his product during the manufacturing process. Moreover, wax is a specific material, a kind of sponge that can effectively absorb negativity, negative energy and bad information. And while burning, the candle is released from its unenviable "baggage", harming the people around. But at present, almost all candle production is automated and it uses not natural essential wax, but inert paraffin, which is not susceptible to external influences and conspiracies.

Therefore, the question of the appropriateness of giving candles is not particularly difficult for modern people. After all, the main "risk factors" have been successfully neutralized. A scented candle of an unusual design is a very cute present that gives home comfort and a particle of warmth. And it’s definitely a necessary thing in the household. It will be a wonderful attribute. romantic dinner. If you read a fairy tale to children by candlelight, then the house is really filled with miracles and a magical atmosphere that young and enchanted listeners will remember with gratitude for a long time.

Today, wax candles are a rarity, they are mainly found in the church. But in these cases, the unique property of releasing energy can be used for good. After all, wax can also absorb positive vibes, bright joy, peace. Some people specially store candles used during church sacraments, such as baptism or wedding, because during the rites a lot of positive energy was absorbed into them. In a difficult period, a person lights a candle saturated with grace so that it releases valuable “resources” of positive and helps to overcome adversity.

If you think about it, it's good that people ask questions like this: is it okay to present candles or other items that fall into the category of forbidden gifts? This suggests that they care about their loved ones and want to protect them from the harmful effects of bad omens. After all, the most important thing in our life is love and friendship, and no signs are terrible for true relationships.

Men should not give socks and shorts, and women should not give dishes and scarves. Why? Explanation - in ancient beliefs

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“My wife promised a gift for February 23rd. I just don’t have the patience to find out what color the socks will be this year!” This is a real life anecdote. Lovely ladies often prefer to leave their imagination on hairstyles and do not bother with gifts for the strong-sexed for Defender of the Fatherland Day. That's why they present men with standard "gentleman's sets" - socks, shorts, shaving foam. And whoever gives socks to her husband runs the risk of getting a set of frying pans on March 8! Isn't it time to break this "vicious circle"? Moreover, folk signs suggest that such gifts do not bode well. For those who listen to the wisdom of their ancestors, we decided to remind you what kind of gifts, according to legend different peoples, you should beware.

1) Clock.

Such a gift in many countries is not honored. The Chinese especially don't like it. They believe that the donated clock counts down the time until the death of a person. We don’t have such a gloomy superstition about watches, but still unpleasant: they say that a watch as a gift promises a quick quarrel.

2) Knives.

Among European peoples, it is considered a bad sign to give any piercing and cutting objects. Allegedly, they will bring misfortune to the house. We have the same interpretation of this gift from Western countries. But in Latin America, for example, a cutting object symbolizes the desire to break off any kind of relationship with the "gifted". Meanwhile, in the Caucasus and the Middle East, donating weapons is in the order of things. And such gifts do not bother anyone there ...

3) Socks.

It is believed that it is better for a woman not to give her husband socks, as he can leave home in them. However, some wives use this sign for their own benefit - they incite mothers-in-law to give socks to their sons so that their husbands get out of the influence of their mothers.

4) Handkerchiefs.

This sign is inherent only in Orthodox countries. They believe that giving a handkerchief is to tears.

5) Books.

Some say the book is best gift. And someone thinks that only if it is a gift to yourself. Or, at worst, an unmarried friend, relative. The main thing, according to popular belief, is not to a loved one. According to signs, giving a book to your soulmate is a parting.

Also, the belief says that you can not give books to married couples. Allegedly, this can provoke discord and betrayal in the family.

6) Pearls.

The message came from Ancient Greece where pearls were considered tears of sea nymphs. Now, superstitious people say that pearls as a gift are a harbinger of tears.

7) Mirrors.

Many superstitions are associated with mirrors in different cultures. No wonder they are often used for divination. Therefore, it is believed that donated mirrors can bring trouble to the house.

8) Dishes.

The most important thing here is not to inadvertently give cracked or chipped dishes. Allegedly, this can “break” the life of the recipient. In this regard, I would like to recall the tradition of breaking dishes at a wedding. It is believed that the newlyweds do this to leave all the hardships outside the new family.

If you still decide to donate dishes, then you need to put something inside. For example, a coin. Otherwise, they say, empty dishes can attract lack of money into the house.

9) Figurines of birds.

It is believed that figurines of any birds can bring anxiety and fussiness to the house. Therefore, if you decide to give some figurines, it is better to do without birds.

10) An empty wallet, bag or suitcase.

These gifts are good only if they are filled with something. It is advised to put a coin in a wallet, and even a candy in a bag or suitcase.

11) Animals or plants.

If you decide to give someone a cat, a dog (a parrot and others like them) or a flower in a pot, then be sure to ask for a “ransom”. Symbolic, of course. Let it be a small denomination, for example. Otherwise, according to popular belief, the “living gift” will not be able to find a place for itself in a new house - supposedly it will look for a way to the former owner.

12) Slippers.

The belief regarding slippers remained mainly in rural areas. It is believed that giving slippers is a long illness or even death. Superstitious people are especially bad at white slippers.

13) Jewelry from amber.

They say that such a gift for parting.

14) Caskets.

Superstitious people believe that if you present a box to someone, the recipient will later hide his thoughts from the giver.

15) Hair combs.

It is believed that such a gift will help others find out your secrets.

16) Gloves, mittens and scarves.

There is no clear explanation for this sign. They just say that such gifts can quarrel people.

17) Tie.

It is believed that the tie "binds" the wearer to the donor. There are even many love spells with ties. Therefore, you can give a tie only to a very close person.

18) Knitted things.

This sign applies only to unmarried girls. It is believed that giving your loved one something hand-tied before the wedding is a betrayal.

19) Underwear.

It is believed that underwear given by a wife to her husband can push him to treason.

20) Chains.

If suddenly the donated chain breaks (and no one is insured here), then according to popular belief, this can lead to a break in relations with its donor.

21) Towels.

It is believed that such a gift can bring illness to the recipient.

22) Pectoral crosses.

There is a belief that crosses can only be given at baptism. Otherwise, allegedly, a person transfers to the recipient a part of his “cross” - his worries, illnesses, hardships. Meanwhile, the church refutes such superstitions and does not oppose the donation of pectoral crosses in any circumstances.

23) Cosmetics for shower and washing.

There is a version that because of the donated shower gel, someone can “wash away” from your life.

24) Candles.

There is a superstition that candles are given for funerals. Alas, if you believe in omens, then you should refuse cute decorative candles as a gift.

25) Alcoholic drinks.

And this sign, perhaps, was invented by the Ministry of Health ... There is a version that a gift of alcohol can take away the health of the recipient. And here, unlike many of the previous paragraphs, you can catch at least some logic!

It is worth noting that almost any sign can be bypassed. To do this, you just need to ask the recipient for a symbolic "ransom" for the gift. Even a penny will do! And then it will no longer be a gift, but a purchase. And "gift signs" do not work on her.

WHAT TO GIVE?

Will take about good gifts, alas, less than the bad ones. But some of them can be taken into account.

1) Pillows.

Paired pillows received as a gift promise harmony and contentment to the whole family at home.

2) Carpet.

It is believed that a carpet as a gift will bring the recipient good luck in all endeavors.

3) Tablecloth.

A donated tablecloth will strengthen the friendship between the giver and the recipient.

4) Sunglasses.

If a man makes such a gift to his wife, it is believed that she will argue with him less. Because he sees the world through his eyes.

5) Pen.

Writing affiliation is advised to give bosses. They say that they will listen more to the donor.

BY THE WAY

Signs related to the method of donation

1) There is a version that money cannot be given after sunset. Allegedly, this promises a need not to the recipient, but to the donor himself. If there is a need to donate money in the evening, it is advised not to pass it from hand to hand, but to put it on the table so that the person can take it himself.

2) It is not good to re-gift gifts. And not only from an ethical point of view. According to popular beliefs, when re-gifting, the “energy of a thing” changes for the worse.

3) Do not make gifts through the threshold. It is believed that it is necessary to enter the house.

4) You can not give any presents before the person's birthday. If you have to congratulate someone in advance, you can pack a gift and give it to the birthday person on the condition that he unpacks the gift on the holiday.

5) As for flowers, the main sign here is to give them in an odd number. And lovers are also not advised to present bouquets of flowers. yellow color. It's supposed to be separation.

IMPORTANT

Concluding the conversation about signs, I would like to emphasize that the above is just interesting elements of the cultures of different peoples. And first of all, ours, of course. There is no scientific basis for all these signs. Therefore, to believe them or not is a purely personal matter. Most modern people consider signs to be a relic of the past. And we are sure that the main thing is to give a gift from the heart! Perhaps yes - this is really the most important thing, regardless of whether you believe in signs or not.

MEANWHILE

And what should not be given according to the rules of etiquette?

Some gifts should not be given not because of superstition, but for reasons of decency:

1) One of the main rules of etiquette in terms of gifts is to always remove price tags from any presentation. Otherwise, the recipient may get the impression that you wanted to emphasize the value of your gift.

2) It is also considered bad form to give someone hygiene products and cosmetics. First, you can not guess with the preferences of the recipient. And secondly, it can be regarded as an unpleasant hint of untidiness.

3) It is also ugly to give books with your own signature on the cover (only if you are not the author of the work). When presenting a book, do not dirty it. Better add a signed greeting card.

Do you believe in signs associated with gifts? We are waiting for your comments!

Our ancestors paid great attention to the gift. If they gave something, then this thing was not only useful, but also contained a mysterious meaning and purpose. Sometimes, they gave gifts that did not bring good to a person. Later, there were many signs that warned against a "bad" gift. Let's look at the most vital of them.

It is impossible to give an empty piggy bank and a wallet, otherwise the money will not be found. If you want to please your friend with a beautiful purse or a funny piggy bank, then don't forget to throw in at least a pretty penny. This will bring financial success to the owner of the gift.

The most common gift new year holidays are candles. But you should know that a candle as a gift - Bad sign. Our ancestors considered such a gift a harbinger of death. The same meaning is hidden in the donated watches. The ancient Chinese believed that if a person was given a watch, it would count the time of his death. You should not give mirrors, especially to new settlers. As you know, a mirror is a very mysterious and unpredictable thing. The donated mirror is a symbol of aging and death. Therefore, a person must choose his own mirror.

Many signs about gifts are associated with separation and parting. For example, a handkerchief as a gift promises tears. Sharp objects (knives, hairpins, scissors, etc.) should not be presented either, since they have the energy of destruction and can easily bring discord into a house.

Be careful when choosing jewelry as a gift. You should not give pearls - this is to tears.

Many women do not particularly bother in choosing gifts for their husbands and for every holiday, as a rule, they give them socks or underpants. Thus, they doom themselves to loneliness. After all, such a gift is a harbinger of male betrayal and separation.

Present alcoholic drinks also highly undesirable. This means that the giver takes away the health of the one to whom the drink is given. Another thing is if the giver and the owner of the gift drink alcohol together.

Our ancestors also believed that if you give a person a certain gift, then you can influence its owner. For example, if you give a person a tablecloth, you can be an invited guest in his house more often. By giving your boss a pen, you can influence his decisions. If you give a man a razor, you will somehow cut off (shave off) part of his success. If you give a box, then a person will more often share innermost secrets with you.

This list of signs is endless. Every thing from ancient times was endowed magical properties Therefore, the gift was chosen wisely. We still know the sign, according to which, in exchange for a donated animal or plant, you must give any coin to the giver. This will take away the energy of the giver from you and from the gift. In addition, this ransom will contribute to the fact that the animal will live for a long time and will delight its owner.

Nowadays, there are many exclusive decorative candles made of beeswax and artificial paraffin, which would become not only nice gifts but also interior decoration. Find out what candles you can give, if there are any special signs about them.

Is it possible to give candles made of wax?

Wax is a magical material that can absorb and accumulate any energy. It is wax candles that are used in various magical rituals; magical volts are molded from this material. Because of this, a negative attitude of the people towards wax candles developed, they became.

It is believed that it is impossible to give them because the manufacturer of candles can put negative energy into them. And as soon as the wax begins to melt, during combustion, everything bad that was contained in it begins to stand out.

Previously, women were engaged in making candles at home, and therefore, if a candle was given to a lonely man, then they tried to bewitch him in a similar way.

Psychics partially share popular opinion and its fears. They claim that you can quickly understand whether a gift is charged with good or bad energy. You need to light a candle. If she starts to smoke, crackle, the flame fluctuates, exudes bad smell, it may even go out for no reason - this is a bad sign, you need to get rid of the candle, take it to a wasteland and bury it.

A high, even flame, a pleasant smell indicate a gift charged with good energy. Such a candle will be very useful, as it is able to burn the energy debris in the room (anger, tension, hatred, envy). Light it during the illness of the recipient - this will speed up recovery, destroy fears and illnesses.

Church candles as a gift

One of the most controversial gifts ever.

On the one hand, lit candles are often used by sorcerers, and if a person brings church candles to your house, you won’t immediately determine whether he did something bad with them or not. Perhaps this person lit it in the temple, prayed all his illnesses and problems for her, after which he took it and brought it to you.

On the other hand, consecrated things bought in the temple are charged with very positive energy, which can influence a person for a long time. Such a large candle when burning will have a positive effect on the life of the recipient as a whole.

Therefore, it is safe to say just that such things should be taken from the hands of people whom you trust, and who definitely could not perform a bad ritual.

Modern decorative candles as a gift

The world does not stand still and in the twenty-first century paraffin, gel candles are popular, and wax candles are almost nowhere to be found. But does the negative sign apply to things made from unnatural, but artificial material?

Psychics claim that artificial material cannot adversely affect the life of the recipient. All due to the fact that it is impossible to “write down” a negative program on paraffin or gel. So the ancient superstitions regarding candles are relevant only for wax attributes.

It is best to present a gift to close relatives. Yes, and it is better to accept such a thing only from those family members whom you trust. If we talk directly about etiquette, then a nice present will be for the people with whom you are on a "short leg" and those who collect them. Since it is unlikely that your strict boss will appreciate a cute candle made in the form of some kind of animal.

Be careful with aroma candles. Some of them have such a strong smell that they can cause headaches, suffocation, even allergic reactions. Therefore, in order not to be considered a person who, with the help of a candle, caused damage and worsened the health of the recipient, approach the choice of a gift very seriously.

Candles for the family hearth

Often people adhere to a beautiful tradition, when the so-called “Family Hearth” is lit at a wedding. AT this case three candles are used in the composition (one large symbolizing the newlyweds and two thin ones indicating two families, parents), they are decorated with lace, ribbons, rhinestones, beads.

Usually they try to stylize the hearth so that in general the composition looks like a heart, rings, a house. It is very important that the candles of the parents are of the same color, size and shape, as they have made an equal contribution to the new family.

Therefore, if you are invited to a wedding, you can take the initiative and prepare such a wedding hearth for the young.

To date, most candles are made from non-natural materials, in factories, so such a gift can hardly be regarded as negative, cursed. However, if you do decide to give someone a candle, make sure the gift is relevant and desirable.