In order for your relationship with a man to be long and durable, teach it to take a date for work.

We understand it is possible for you it sounds strange, but nevertheless, this approach is very effective. And that's what he implies. It is imperative to teach his man to build plans in advanceIf he really wants to be with you - just as he plans his working day every morning.

And from here I form the seventh law:

In order for a man to learn in advance to plan a date with you, and not invited you to meet spontaneously, follow the principle: want to see me on Saturday- Call on Monday, Tuesday or Wednesday.But not later!

In the end, you also have other classes and hobbies! So, if your beloved beloved did not call your beloved before the evening - boldly build plans for the weekend. Even if he still will offer a meeting on Thursday - he can speak politely. This behavior on your part will give to understand the man that you are not going to wait until the last moment.

"Do not succumb to the temptation and do not agree on a date, even if you do not want to meet with my girlfriends or another man."

This rule is a clear and logical explanation. By how a man behaves in the process of courtship, it is possible to determine his behavior in marriage.Let's say if he calls you at the last minute to appoint a date - be prepared for the fact that family life It will be absolutely inattentive to you.

And you are not waiting for this from your marriage, right?

If you agree to the temptation and agree to a spontaneous invitation to a date, you will show yourself not in the very best light. It will solve that you are easily accessible that at any time you can use your weakness ... In this case, you can forget about the wedding!

"Spontaneity is not" Hi, don't you want to go to the movies today? " Such an invitation can be done from boredom or due to the fact that a woman with whom a man really wanted to be occupied.

He did not call you in advance, did not dreamed of you all week, did not imagine how cool to press you to my shoulder in the cinema. Your date for him is not something precious that you should plan in advance like a table in an elite restaurant.

Spontaneity is good, but it should manifest themselves during a date: for example, an unexpected journey to the beach after dinner. "

Remember: a man who seriously intends to marry you, will not postpone his invitation for a date until the last minute. He misses you too, is afraid to miss the opportunity to see you, to visit you, but he also respects your interests, your free time. Agree, it characterizes him as a careful, serious and caring person. But just such a man do you need?

"The time between dates with a man from which you go crazy may seem to be painfully long. But much worse to agree on a date at the last minute and make a man bored.

If you do everything right, he will definitely conclude that the only way to meet you at any minute at your discretion is to marry you! "

To be continued…

There are such situations in life when you agree to a date or assign it, and then unexpected events occur, because of which you do not want or can not go on a date. In this case, it is necessary to abandon the designated date, but so that the person does not hurt, and the date did not have to go against the will or coincidence. So how to cancel a date so that no one is offended?

How to cancel a date due to the circumstances

Unfortunately, to predict, what are you waiting for in the future. Life situations are impossible, and therefore each person may have a situation when you have to cancel a meeting (date) due to such life situations. If the date is not canceled not because you just changed my mind to go to the meeting, it is desirable, as soon as possible, as soon as you learned that there would be no dating, call and report that your date is canceled. At the same time, it is desirable not to lie and not deceive, name the reason, because of which your date is canceled, even if such a reason it seems stupid for you. We recommend reading

How to cancel a date due to the reluctance to go on it

If, assigning a date, in your heart I was languished in the need of this meeting, and in the end, you realized that you absolutely do not want to go on a date or maybe you were invited to a date more interesting for you, then in this case there is Two options how to cancel a date.

How to notify a date about cancellation

And so, you know exactly what reason you call your partner in order to cancel your date, but think about how best to bring this reason to him? Remember how you would not have been ashamed or scary, but if you want to save your relationship, maybe even just friendly, then notify about the cancellation of a date you only need to verbally, for example, by phone. That is, so that you are completely confident that your partner is notified of the cancellation of a date. After all, sending him a message, he can not read it, will come at the appointed time and the place and will wait you there, so it is very important to make sure that information about the cancellation of a date has reached your partner, and it is best to do it by calling him by phone . And only, if you get through and report on the cancellation of a date for any reason, it is necessary to send a message, for example, an electronic one and set out all the essence of your reason for the cancellation of a date. But, even by sending a message, try to get through to your partner and report on the cancellation of a date orally.

Perhaps the most serious offense that a girl is capable of acting is to cancel the appointed date. I happened to hear all sorts of options for these stupid fudges, which they try to justify their refusal, and in nine cases out of ten it is really just fiction.

So what? Applying the appropriate amount of determination, strength and psychological pressure, you can achieve that she still came to date, as agreed. In fact, everything is very simple. When she calls to cancel the meeting, which you have already agreed, ready to lay out our harvested stupid excuses, you just do this:

She: "Oh, sorry, but I can't come today. I need to meet a friend at the airport. " (Or; "I feel bad today" or some more such a lie).

You: "That is, if I understood correctly, you would like to come, but unexpectedly arising circumstances do not give you such an opportunity."

She: "Yes, that is how." (She must agree with this - after all, she will not say that she is simply uninteresting to meet with you. To say the latter, you must have some courage).

You: (without giving ways to departure) "So, if you want to meet, call another day when you can come."

After that silence. At the other end of the wire, the girl froze in thought - she driven into the corner and should call another day for a meeting, otherwise its falsehood will become apparent. Another option is to break with this girl, but at the same time it should experience the maximum embarrassment and discomfort, as far as the social framework allows. For example, a great way to make it feel absolute fool:

She: "Oh, I really can't at all, my parrot existential crisis, and I have to look after him so that he does not commit suicide."

You: "GM-M, I sit here, I hold the phone handset in my hands, listening to your speeches and realize that I do not understand what is happening now. I also know that I can take anything from you, even the most unpleasant, but the truth. I could not explain to me again what is happening. "

It is very important to say this last sentence with proper intonation and mood. It is important to say it so that it gives her such content "... and now tell me the truth." Believe or check, but in nine cases out of ten, the girl is confessed in deception. This is the moment when you calmly grab it warm!

You: "Well, imagine that I feel, having learned that you are afraid of adopting responsibility for your own solutions and should marry and lie?"

Oh, this is an approval of the battle! To lower the girl in the toilet to humiliate, almost just as great, how to score a goal in a serious match!

Okay, let's understand a little with the option when the girl first canceled the meeting, and then you pressed on her, and she called another day to meet. This option is at least better than just an untouched refusal, but I strongly recommend that you disagree to the day offered by it. It may be so that in response to your pressure, she just throws you a bone, so that you feel better, but even if she seriously offers another day to meet, and you immediately agree, it seems that you are easily accessible, and disappears The element of the struggle, it becomes unnecessary to seek you. In her eyes your attractiveness falls.

[If the girl refuses to you in the designated date, it means it either has a more attractive option, or it feats because of distrust of you. In any case, this means that she was not interested. Of course, in professional training, you can easily convince a woman by eliminating any of her doubts and bypassing all sorts of checks. But why deal with difficulties when they can be excluded? As the theater begins with hangers and seduction begins with acquaintance. If the acquaintance is bad, then there will be difficulty at the stage of a date, after which the difficulties will follow the stage of rapprochement. If you want from the first minute of seduction of the girl to act professionally, promptly and unmistakably, then you can learn this in real conditions on the practical pickup of the training of the Academy of Dating using special equipment.]

Here is the right way to appeal in this case. Suppose you agreed to meet on Saturday, and she calls you on Friday night.

She: "Sorry, but I can't come on Saturday. Friends come to me from the village. I wanted to meet. Maybe on Sunday? "

You: "5 Sunday I can not, I already have plans." (Even if they are not, and you want to meet with her - sorry teeth and refuse!)

At this point you have two possibilities.

• "Maybe on the other day, when will you be wondering?" Then politely say goodbye and hang up. Wait for two weeks, then call and agree on a specific meeting day. If she does not agree to the day offered by you or offer another, hang a piece of paper with her number and throw it into a trash bin. Move to the next candidate.
• "You know, I will tell you how it looks for me. It's just my style. When I appoint a meeting with someone, and this person cannot come, I give him to choose another deadline for the meeting. In general, if you want to see me, know that I also want to meet you. Call me, tell me when you can come and I will say: yes. "

Personally, I prefer the second opportunity. It is not so degrading and insulting as the first, but, nevertheless, very effective. When the initiative of the appointment of a new meeting is provided to her, you do not need to wait two weeks to call and find out whether it wants to meet or not or not (it is not necessary to find out this, but it is very difficult to maintain this type of discipline in itself, and I myself am not a lover Situations in which I can not find out to fully definitely.) You can safely assume that she is not interested in you, forget about it and provide her opportunity to pleasantly surprise you with your call. At the same time, you save an element of independence, you pass to her the most important message: i don't need you, I need you.

[Gragri Madison]

My theme of today's emotional post is certainly echoed in the hearts of all guys. Women's excuses from dates. Those are the most stupid, incredible, completely non-obvious reasons why they are scored to meet with you. And of course, effective methods Fight against them. Go!

First, let's decide with the concept. Under the female excitement, it is customary to understand any way to sleep from the meeting, transfer it for a certain period or simply stupidly without reason not to come.

I personally hate all these stupid reasons. Fair. Sometimes I want to scream, having received SMS-ku about "the plans changed, I can not". "Chicks. Damn, well, do not stupid! What kind of meeting with girlfriends ??? You have a girlfriends - stoppsot. And a guy - not one! "

But of course these are emotions that in our business only interfere - it is necessary to maintain composure. Recently, for example, I have the number of girls moving from meetings - quite high. That is why I decided to write a post about a topical one.

As happens: examples from experience

In my case, there are many reasons, and the main one - they are inconvenient to meet me when I suggest. Since over time everything is pretty tight, then I am released no earlier than 23 hours. In half blood test - not everyone can. In the morning to work. Or I appoint a date after 3-4 days. Also go out, as it is necessary to permanently warm up interest in your person, for which I do not have enough time.

As a result, I get it in full - 5 girls in the last week they will define accurately.

How it happens most often - negotiate with the girl about the meeting: in the evening at 23-00 let's say. In the afternoon I confirm - confirm. Some already go out here - Bla-blale plans changed. What if I did not call myself, I would never know about it.

Or an hour before the meeting comes SMS - Sorry, today it will not work out and then the excuse itself goes. After that, most likely the girl is completely jumping and you will not see her, if only not to make a good call. Those. Writing on the message site - "What didn't you come?" - Multiple efficient. We must call and reanimate interest.

And at the same time, what only they do not come up with an occasion not to meet. Consequently, go to the issue of Classification of otmazzok - Let's look at what they are at all. There is a lot of interesting observations.

Types of excuses

A fairly common excuse, which they are pushed to you during the correspondence - the state of health. What is usually the verb "okat". "I was punished a little ..."

What happens to them - a mystery. But some really chill, drink medicines and hot tea.

By the way, I was punished - it can also be monthly. Such that even the newsletter gives. Here is an example of a recent log, read below:

Next reason - came from another city Friends, girlfriends. Relatives with dogs, parrots, etc. With that, as a rule, girls work for cabbage for their guests - to take away from the airport to pick up the airport. About the taxi apparently their passengers never heard. Common topic: "To me from [insert the name of any city of Russia] comes a girlfriend for 1 day, I will be found with her."

Go ahead. Urgent unexpected affairs - work, study, etc. Arise at any time of the day and any weather. As if no one has canceled the fortification. If at 10 pm, they said to go to pick up documents - they ride.

Trips outside the city. This is already they ride themselves to the girlfriends who recently come for 1 day. Usually by car in the suburbs and neighboring areas. For some trunk to drag into Yaroslavl or Sergiev Posad for all weekend - I do not know. Apparently there are a lot of guys stupid at this time. Well, the cottage of course - where without it. Moreover, the cottage is even in the no-season - late autumn, in winter and early spring. Even grandmothers do not go there. And girls - easily.

Another very common cause is after work. "I'm not tired. I will help you tomorrow. " The fact that they go to work 5 days out of 7, and in the remaining 2 go to a tete in Kolomna, persistently ignored.

All sorts of parties, birthdays, bachelides, concerts, theaters and other cultural events. "A girlfriend called with you to the theater." I have sex to do you too, will call you with you ...?

Literally last week there was a case - they should have been met with a girl with whom already 2 times was transferred. The last time agreed hard - time and place no longer tolerate. I call her 3 hours before Svidanka: the phone is not available. Send SMS. An hour later, calls back from someone else's room and gives the following phrase: "I had money on my phone. And I accidentally hit the concert "

And it was on a weekday. On the back background, someone sings something - indeed at the concert. Just put the phone.

In general, this is the most common species, if you know some other things that I missed - write in the comments. In the meantime, let's find out - is it really excuses? Or do girls do not lie and really go to work, walk the girlfriends and walk in concerts?

Guys, you will be surprised. But it's true. All they say - in most cases are not lies. They really get tired after work, really meet friends and everything else from the airport. Women's logic is unpredictable, and planning for them is often very incomprehensible or just unnecessary.

How to be here - you ask. What really will have to put up and endure all these nonsense?

Nothing like this! We will not put together, but it was skillfully remedy all these excuses - yes. I tell how.

Methods to combat excuses

The most important thing is that it is necessary to understand: excuses arise only where there is little interest.

The golden rule reads: if the girl is very interested in you - it will find a way to meet, despite any obstacles.

If you are dynamized with a date - it means badly interested. In my case, for example, everything is absolutely the same - I have no special connection on the phone with those girls who scored from the meeting, did not create, just negotiating dates - there was no time for it. And the result was not the one that I need. An error that needs to be removed to do not encounter it.

If you are sure that there is a genuine interest, but the girl has real life circumstances, which in their personal opinion prevent your meeting, then your task is her personal opinion to change in their favor.

Here you have simple, but effective examples:

As I did: otmazka "I need to meet a girlfriend at the airport." My answer: "Ok, I'll go with you." If you have time - Going together, I am a road to the airport has become a real adventure, as a result, the girl got rid of the girlfriend very quickly, delivering her home, "she could not stay with me together.

"Okat". You: - Let me treat you. I will come to visit you with a jar raspberry jam and lemons. I will change cold compresses on the forehead and hold the hand, sitting at your bed. Indeed, agree.

"He comes to visit a friend-girlfriend" and I have a meeting with a friend in this weekend. Let's sit together somewhere somewhere, we are with you, and your friend - with my friend talk.

"I'm leaving for the weekend" Ask how it follows where it goes and why. And most importantly - whether she wants it. And tell her later that this weekend the last two days work is working a completely unique exhibition, which will then go to Paris and returns only in 2 years. And Yaroslavl and Dacha, as they stood in place, will stand. It also works, many girls intrigued change their plans.

If you still do not cancel the trip - be with it in touch during the weekend. I am with a single girl who for some reason left in the summer on the river to live 3 days in tents with friends, during these 3 days on the hour chatting on the phone before bedtime. The girl told me about what stupidity she made, agreed to go, and called my call the best event per day. On the day of her return, I deservedly remained at her night.

All sorts of parties and birthdays.Go with her. If she got to some event or just going to - offer her to meet him, after him or just tell me "Let me steal you half an hour. Drink coffee, chat, and then come back. Friends let you go - they will understand and will not be objected. " Works great. Most often, after meeting you, the girl return to where it was before, he won't want.

"Tired after work" And you tell her that you will not strain it, but on the contrary - create your communication atmosphere comfort, comfort and relax. Tell me, you know 18 simple and effective ways Remove fatigue in 4 minutes. The girl will ask "- is it like?", But you say that everyone will show when meeting. Review her in the fact that the meeting will return to her for her strength and will allow you to forget about fatigue.

Always remember that unconsciously reporting about your unexpectedly changing circumstances, the girl thereby checks how much you want to achieve it. And you grow greatly in her eyes, if in response to another excuse, manifest yourself as a real man, offering her decision.

This in which your concern will be felt - on the one hand, and the ability to lead along - on the other. Girls want their plans to gently, but confidently adjusted. They want a man to not give the opportunity to refuse to meet him. And they will appreciate your efforts!

Well, so that the chance to move the date is minimal, follow the row of simple principles.

Principles of communication that will help save interest and avoid excuses

• Assign a date at a convenient time. Optimally - in the evening from 19 to 22 hours
• If you can - Meet the next day or every other day after the first call
• If a date is postponed for several days - call girls again on the eve and take a date by phone.
• Do not just assign a date, but to intrigute it as follows in front of him - so that she just thought about how to meet you. "Sell" yourself so that the value of the date with you in her eyes has been bashing.
• If a date is just a few days later - you do not need 10 times on the day to write her messages before that, they will not bring you interest points. Better in the evening, call the girls once before she goes to sleep.
• Be sure to warn the girl that in case of change of plans, it should warn you in advance
• Clean the girl and specify - "whether in strength" - on the day of date. But not so that it sounded, as if you did not believe that this is what is happening with you, do not demonstrate the high value of your meeting. "Do you exactly come? Do not change my mind? " - I do not need such questions.

It should sound like this: "Hi, I call to clarify about our meeting today - you have everything in force? Great, I, too. Then we meet as agreed. Until". And that's it. As if business lunch with a partner was confirmed.

If the girl has already transferred a meeting before this is better confirmation from it to request an hour for 2-3 to the meeting. This is usually this time, code she finally decides for himself, you will meet or not.

Separately, I also want to say about such a otmazka, as suddenly appeared. Or simply changing plans without apparent need. An example of personal practice: the girl informs me that she did not sleep all night (tusiel with friends), and in the morning it was urgent to work in the weekend. And so it offers to transfer our meeting. What is the second time in a row - a friend came to her a day.

My reaction: OK, not a question, but I will be able to see it now not earlier than in 3 weeks. Question from her "Are you leaving?" "No" "Why then?" "Because I will be busy. And I do not like people who cannot plan their own time - as a rule in business, these are supposed. Until"

Of course I didn't expect such a reaction, she immediately takes another attempt to appoint a meeting for the near future, but it's not interested in me.

What exactly wanted to say with this example: always remember that your time is greatly valuable. If a girl thinks that he may first agree on a date, and then he abruptly cancel it without an explicit reason - let us understand that it is unacceptable for you.

If she considers it possible to disrupt the meetings, which you have agreed in advance - it means that it thereby demonstrates his disrespect. A specific promise "I don't care about the fact that you have allocated free time for me in your plans. Do not care how busy ". When this happens - shlute it with the forest. There were no second chances if there was no obvious reasons.

And I'll add a little more personal: when I just started writing this post - I was angry with those girls who merged, honestly. But in the process of writing reassured, a pragmatic analysis came to the place of emotions - and I realized that I just forgot to make those simple steps against the occurrence of excuses, which I myself described in this post. Everything, now I will correct-)) Learn on my mistakes, guys, it will cost you so expensive!

Remember - so that the girl learns about how cool you are, you must first give her the opportunity to meet you. After all, until it happened - she can only guess.

So do it so that she learned about this as soon as possible. And then let him calmly go to the girlfriend to Yaroslav. Although most likely just the same, then she does not want this yet - it also has you ... Successes!

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Unfortunately, for the female representatives, the cancellation of a date has not binding a whim. A thousand reasons may be found, why the girl changed his mind or could not come. The reasons are generally not important, there are both serious - changes in the plans, and simply - changed his mind. More important is the other: often the girl does not report about the change of its plans.

Why didn't the girl come for a date?

It should be borne in mind that women are very meticulous creatures. Before it goes somewhere, they will ask for ten times and clarify, and whether they should go there. I do not know where such intensity is taken from, it may not be possible to go in vain in vain. After all, in addition to the gentleness of the girl are very optional. And on the basis of its orientation, they believe that they can come in vain, if they are not asked a hundred times and will not be approved in the voice of a person, that everything is true. And could be a date! It would be so romantic ...

Guys are somewhat different. Of the principles: agreed, it means everything in force. Why clarify 10 times. And typical situations occur when the guy called the girl by phone yesterday, agreed on a date the next day. And when the next day came, repeatedly not phoned, goes to the meeting. Naively poured that the girl, the same assembled and adequate.
In the men's world, the agreements relate much more seriously.

Come on before a date

Nothing like this! New day for a woman is new life. All yesterday's contracts remained yesterday. For a girl in this matter it is always so. But the woman will well remember everything that was in the past. And if your feelings have cooled to her or simply not so acutely manifest, it will surely remind you with words: "But before you ..." However, this earlier and yesterday never belong to the first and second dates.

We must respect your time. Never go to a meeting with a girl, previously not phoned on this day. Or, as a last resort, without receiving an affirmative SMS.
Better to phoned before a date and find out that everything is in force.

With the SMIS, however, it does not work very well, because it shows your uncertainty. You're not sure if she is ready to go with you today and therefore ask such a non-explicit way. For a girl, this is not an explicit way! She will look at SMS, remember that yes, it seems someone called yesterday, thinks that she is lazy to answer and forget.
Something so lazy to go somewhere, with some incomprehensible guy ...

Another thing is a phone call. It would seem that absurdity, the question is the same, but the psychology is fine. It may not answer for an example, and if you took the phone, I confirming your presence, the chance of it is greatly increasing.

Case of life

If you ask the girl why she did not come on a date, she often does not know. These are so strange. I had a case, after the first date. Passed a couple of days and I agreed with her for the second date. An hour before the meeting, she wrote to me that she was tired at work and could not meet with me. And I already arrived in place! Surprisingly, the situation was repeated in a few days. This time, about 20 minutes remained when he received SMS from her that she could not see himself today, wrote in an excuse that he was now met by chance of a relative.

I did not answer anything. I just sank hands from such a relationship. Looked at SMS with a lost mood and deleted the room.

A week later, the girl was announced and no matter how he did not offer to meet. Say that I was surprised to say nothing. It was not even surprised by her appearance, and the proposal to meet, which followed without any hint of apologies.
When she herself calls and pretends that everything is fine.

Of course, I spoke to her very hard on this. She promised that she would come. And so what is strange, then when I slept with her and we sometimes met, I asked her, what the hell was there. She replied: I don't know myself.

Another lesson that was made from this story that when the girl wants no extraneous affairs to be distracted. She will sleep for a couple of hours, but will come for a lot of kilometers to the guy. Actually so then it was with this girl.

The resulting inclusion situation is largely an exception. Often, if the girl is dynamite, then hope and expect that the next time will be a date - there is a waste of your energy. Will be fine. In the meantime, throw it out of her head at all. If the girl did not come to a date, warning of course about it in advance, the second time I call her no earlier than in a week. Because in a good way, she is free to offer a meeting.

If the girl did not come for a date and did not report on the change in his plans. Or put you before the fact that it will not come when you have already been on the spot. In this case we are erased by the girl's number. She as a person is not worthy of spending you on her time.
Damn it! I already melted everything! How can you not?

And so that there are no situations when you came, but there are no girls. Always need to be phoned before the meeting. If the girl does not take up the phone and she can not be called on the day of date, then we postpone the current meeting in your thoughts. Such a simple principle guided by the girls themselves will save you a bunch of nerve and add confidence, calm and self-esteem.