The first periods are always a little scary, and the prospect of telling your mom about them is even scarier! But do not forget that menstruation is a completely normal and natural part of any woman's life: your mother once experienced the same, and her mother too. Even if you are nervous about the upcoming conversation with your mom, there is not the slightest reason for fear or shame. Most likely, one day, looking back, you yourself will be surprised why there were so many worries about this!

Steps

Part 1

Find out what regular periods mean. The menstrual cycle is the monthly process that your body prepares for pregnancy. At the very beginning of the cycle, the body produces a large amount of estrogen, due to which the inner layer of the uterus swells with blood and mucus. At the same time, the ovaries release an egg. If this egg is fertilized with male sperm, it will attach to the thickened wall of the uterus. But if the egg is not fertilized, it is destroyed and rejected by the body. At the same time, the excess inner layer of the uterus leaves, and all this happens in the form of menstruation.

Replenish your supplies. All girls have their own preferences when it comes to feminine hygiene products. The best way to find out what works best for you is to try all the means! Means for the menstrual cycle are sold in pharmacies, supermarkets and online stores, and if you know where mom or sister keeps her funds, you can always borrow them a little, until you talk to mom (most often women keep their funds in the immediate vicinity of the bathroom or toilet: in the closet, cabinets next to the washbasin, and so on). There is a wide range of hygiene products on the market. Most of them are disposable, but there are also reusable products.

Control soreness and PMS. Premenstrual syndrome is a term used to describe a range of symptoms that women experience in the days or even weeks before their period begins. The exact reason for this has not yet been identified, but it is believed that PMS is caused by hormonal and chemical changes in the body during the menstrual cycle. In addition, it can be influenced by dietary habits and the level of vitamins in the body. Responses vary from person to person, but symptoms often include depression or exaggerated emotional reactions, cramps, fatigue, headaches and abdominal pains, bloating and tenderness in the chest area. Cramping pain in the lower abdomen is also common, as it is caused by contractions of the uterus.

Prepare to talk to your mom. If your period starts, the main thing is to stay calm and not panic! All this is in the order of things and does not represent anything special, as well as talking about it with my mother. Give yourself some time to get used to the new state of your body. Don't worry if you don't feel ready to talk to your mom about this yet. This is your body and your choice.

• Make sure you feel calm before you go to talk to your mom. If you need to help yourself relax, choose what helps you the most: take a bath, take a walk, read a book, take a nap, take a few deep breaths, or whatever.
• Think about what you want to say to your mom. Try throwing in a few paragraphs or questions, or even rehearse your words.
• If you're still not ready to talk to your mom about this, ask your school nurse, doctor, teacher, or any other adult you trust to answer your questions. Sometimes it's much easier to first talk to someone close to you, whom you trust, then talking with your mom won't seem so difficult.

Part 2

Talk to your mom in private

1. Invite your mom to talk in private. Choose a quiet time when you and your mom can sit and talk to each other. Don't be afraid! Try not to think too much about this conversation in advance, just speak as it is. Don't forget: this is your mom; no one in this world loves you more than she, and she understands perfectly well what you are experiencing. Start a theme the way you like best. Do you want - to start sing or dance, you want - start by saying that you are embarrassed, but you need to talk to her. If you find it difficult to find words, say something like:

   • "Looks like I started my period."
   • “Let's go to the store together. I need to buy feminine hygiene products. "
   • "It's hard for me to talk about it, but I started my period."
   • “I don’t know how to say it, but“ it ”started ...”

2. When you're together, start talking about it casually. You can start a conversation with your mom about this topic any time you are alone, especially if the “let's sit and talk” format seems too intimidating. You can say this on the way to school or to music lessons, while watching TV, on a walk, or even when she came to your room to say good night. Anytime you are around. Just in passing tell your mom that your period has started.

   • If you feel uncomfortable talking about the main point right away, smoothly bring up the topic by asking her how old she was when she started her period.
   • If necessary, screw your news during a conversation on a completely irrelevant topic. Talking about something completely different, you will feel calm and comfortable, and then you will mention yours.

3. Passing the shelves of feminine hygiene products with your mother in the store, deliberately stop in front of one of them. A joint shopping trip is a great opportunity to let your mom know about your periods without really talking about it. Take her to the feminine hygiene shelf and tell her that you need one of these. It's also a great time to ask her for advice on how to use it better. She, in turn, will guess that this is how you are trying to inform her about the beginning of her period.

4. Ask questions. The beginning of your menstrual cycle means your body is going through a series of changes. Ask your mom all your questions. This is a great excuse to get closer to each other, and perhaps she has a lot to talk about with you.

   • If you are comfortable enough, talk to her about a healthy attitude towards sex.
   • Find out if she has a hygiene preference, if she has pain during her period, and how she copes with PMS or soreness.

"I dream of a future in which menstruation is not a curse, not a disease, but a natural change in a girl's life."

0:11
Period. Blood. Menstruation. It's indecent. Secret. Hide. Why?

0:23
A natural biological process that every girl and woman experiences every month for about half of her life. The phenomenon is so significant that the survival and reproduction of our species depends on it. But this topic is considered taboo. We are uncomfortable and ashamed to talk about it.

0:46
When I had my first period, I was told to keep it a secret from others, even from my father and brother. Then, when we got to this chapter in biology textbooks, our biology teacher skipped it.

1:03
Do you know what I understood then? I realized that it was very embarrassing to talk about it. I was taught to be ashamed of my body. I have remained in ignorance about menstruation for the sake of decency.

1:17
Studies in various parts of India have shown that three out of ten girls do not know what menstruation is when their first period arrives. And in some parts of Rajasthan, the rates are incredibly high - 9 out of 10 girls don't know about it. You'd be surprised that most of the girls I spoke to who didn't know about their periods when they first had them thought they had blood cancer and that they would soon die.

1:47
Personal hygiene during menstruation is a very important risk factor for developing genital tract infections. But in India, only 12% of girls and women have access to the use of personal care products during their periods. If you count, 88% of girls and women use unhygienic methods for their periods.

2:08
I was one of them. I grew up in a small town called Garhwa in Jharkhand, where it was considered a shame to buy even sanitary napkins. And when my period started, I started using rags. After each use, I washed them and used them again. But in order to keep them, I had to hide them in a dark, damp place so that no one would know that I had my period. The constant washing caused the rags to become rough and I often had rashes and infections because of this.

2:39
I used them for 5 years until I moved out of that town. Other problems that I had with my period were social restrictions that were imposed on girls and women during their period. I think you all know them, but I will list them for those who are not in the know.

3:01
I was forbidden to touch or eat pickles. I was not allowed to sit on the couch or the beds of any of the family members. I needed to wash my sheet after every period, even if there were no stains on it. I was considered "unclean" and was forbidden to worship or touch religious objects. You can see signs outside the temples that prohibit girls or women with menstruation from entering.

3:28
It's funny that most often the oldest woman imposes these restrictions on the younger girls in the family. After all, they grew up accepting these restrictions as the norm. And in the absence of interference, this myth, this false concept, is passed down from generation to generation.

3:50
Over the years of my work in this field, I even came across cases when girls had to eat and wash their dishes separately. They were not allowed to take a bath during their periods, and in some homes they were even isolated from the rest of the family. Approximately 85% of girls and women in India follow at least one restriction every time they have their period. Can you imagine what happens to a young girl's self-esteem and self-confidence? The trauma suffered negatively affects her personality, academic performance and every aspect of growing up in her early years of personality formation.

4:32
I have adhered to all these prohibitions and traditions for 13 years, until a conversation with my partner, Tukhin, changed my ideas about menstruation forever. In 2009, Tukhin and I completed our design studies at the university. We fell in love with each other, and I easily discussed periods with him. Tukhin knew little about them.

5:02
He was amazed when he learned that girls have painful cramps and that we bleed every month.

5:10
Yes. He was shocked when he found out what restrictions are imposed on women and girls during their periods by their families and society. To help me with my cramps, he decided to learn more about menstruation on the Internet. When he shared his findings with me, I realized how little I myself knew about menstruation. And many of my beliefs turned out to be false.

5:37
And then he thought: if we, such educated people, knew so little about menstruation, then millions of girls are also in the dark. To study, in order to understand this problem better, I spent a year researching the lack of awareness about menstruation and the causes of this phenomenon.

5:58
It is generally believed that ignorance or misconceptions about menstruation are purely rural, but in my research I found that the same thing happens in cities. It also happens among educated urban dwellers. In speaking with many parents and teachers, I found that many of them wanted to talk to girls about their periods even before their menstrual cycle began. But ... they themselves did not know how to do it. Since this topic is taboo, they felt embarrassed and ashamed talking about it.

6:37
Today girls start their period in the sixth or seventh grade, but our educational program only tells them about it by the eighth or ninth grade. And since it's taboo, teachers skip the topic anyway.

6:55
School doesn’t give girls this knowledge, parents don’t do it either. Where should they go? Two decades ago and now, nothing has changed. I shared this with Tukhin, and we thought: what if we could create something that would help girls learn about menstruation on their own, something that would help parents and teachers to calmly talk about it with girls?

7:28
In the course of my research, I have collected many stories. Stories about the experience of girls during their periods. These stories would arouse curiosity, interest in girls, they would talk about menstruation in a circle of close friends. This is what we wanted. We wanted to interest them so that they would want to know more. We wanted to use these stories to tell girls about their period.

7:56
So we decided to create a comic book where the characters would play these stories and tell girls about menstruation in a fun and exciting way. To show girls at different stages of maturation, we have three characters. Pinky, who hasn't had her period yet, Gia, who starts her period in the course of the story, and Mira, who already had her first period. There is also a fourth character, Priya Didi. With her help, girls learn about different aspects of growing up and personal hygiene during menstruation.

8:31
While making the book, we made sure that these illustrations do not raise questions or any objections, and also take into account cultural differences. During sample testing, the girls really liked the book. They were passionate about learning more and more about periods on their own. Parents and teachers were comfortable talking about periods with girls who read the book, and sometimes even boys showed interest in the book.

How do I tell my boyfriend that I'm on my period? A question that makes you worry, embarrass not only teenage girls, but also young girls. Despite the sexual liberation of modern society, menstruation is still a taboo topic for some of its representatives. How to behave, where to start a conversation?

The physiology of the female and male body is taught by adolescents in the senior classes of secondary schools. Together with girls, young men receive minimal knowledge about the natural processes in a woman's body, get acquainted with the concept of menstruation. In the conversation of girls, from time to time, the topic of menstruation skips, there is an active discussion of pads, tampons, and problems with well-being. At the same time, the guys become casual listeners, they also receive information in this way. When the time comes for the first sexual experience, both partners already know what menstruation is. Therefore, the topic with critical days will not have to be inflated.

Why do difficulties arise?

For adult women, the situation with menstruation does not cause any inconvenience. They just talk about it to their partner openly. It is more difficult for girls to tell about menstruation for guys, since the response in adolescents may not be entirely adequate. This is what the female sex is afraid of. However, it is much easier to start a conversation about menstruation if there is mutual understanding, trust among partners. It's okay if the guy does not get what he wants, he will wait a few days. On the contrary, she herself will surely appreciate his respect for the body of her beloved. At the end of the critical days during sex, the girl will reward her beloved in full for the days of waiting.

The first love, which is often accompanied by the first sexual experience, is not always reciprocal. Some guys just enjoy women's trust, dating a girl just for the sake of sex. In such situations, menstruation always causes irritation, discontent and other negative reactions in the partner. If menstruation unbalanced the guy, he began to be offended, angry, you need to reconsider your attitude towards him, open your eyes to what is happening. Accept the truth, no matter how bitter it may be.

How do you tell a guy about your period?

Usually the need for such a conversation arises in a situation where a guy hints with words or actions about sex. A confident girl will simply say: “I can't, I have my period! Sorry! Very sorry!" Or this option: "I have critical days, I'll have to wait a bit!" Further events will develop according to several scenarios.

1. The guy will stop caressing, will treat the situation with understanding.
2. He will say that he is not afraid of blood, menstruation does not bother him. Will continue to insist.
3. Offer alternative sex.

How to behave further to the girl? Every woman's period
proceed in different ways. Someone does not even notice them, they feel good, no problems. Others suffer from abdominal pain, weakness, bleeding. In the first case, the girl may succumb to the temptation to agree to sex. Moreover, if the first or last day, blood in a minimum amount. In this case, it is worth worrying about observing strict hygiene of both partners before and after intercourse. If these conditions cannot be met, sex will have to be abandoned. You can not make love with severe abdominal pain, bleeding. The answer must be categorical - "No!" Well, and about alternative sex - oral, anal, it's up to little. Consent should be mutual, no violence against oneself.

Hints work too

You can notify the guy about the current situation long before he begins to actively act. Just say on the phone that you are not feeling well today. This will be followed by the question: "Why, what happened?" Answer: "Critical days", "Women's problems", "Monthly". This question is closed. The guy will already be informed before the date starts.

Another option is to accidentally show him a pad and tampons in his purse. The guy will either understand everything in silence, or start the conversation himself. In this case, you only have to confirm his suspicions.

If it's too awkward to talk, you can wait for active action. When the guy goes to caress, he will feel the presence of a pad, a tampon in his panties, this will become clear. However, in this case, the reproach may follow: "Why didn't you say?" All that remains is to smile, shrug.

Menstruation is a natural process in the female body, there is nothing shameful about it. All adult men understand this, and young men must also enter the situation. To have sex during critical days or not is a purely individual question. Sexual intercourse should not cause discomfort to either man or woman.

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Today, many women find it difficult to talk about menstruation, despite the fact that society has long been free to discuss any problems. When it comes to menstruation, girls feel uncomfortable, nervous and try to speak quietly, because all over the world there is an opinion that menstruation is always dirt and a bad smell. Menstruation is a familiar week for every woman and should not be ashamed of. It is difficult to talk with the opposite sex about critical days, but if a relationship with a man is expensive, then it is worth talking about menstruation. And that's why most girls ask themselves the question: "How do I tell a guy that I have my period?"

Guys of different ages need a special approach, and sometimes girls behave too loosely with inexperienced partners, which confuses the latter. This conversation is necessary so that the guy does not take offense that the girl avoids sexual intercourse or behaves aggressively towards him. A guy needs to be ready for the period when his beloved will have critical days.

Conversation with a young guy

Before you start talking to your boyfriend about your period, you need to consider the length of the relationship. It is easier to share personal problems with people with whom the girl has known for a long time. It is worth considering the possible reaction of the guy. If in the past he had to embarrass a girl or he shared similar questions with his friends, then you should refrain from talking about menstruation.

There must be a reason why a girl wants to tell her boyfriend about her period. She should ask herself the question of whether this somehow affects their relationship, whether she can restrain her emotions and not be angry with the guy. If the answer to these questions is yes, then the conversation is definitely worth having so that the young man knows that he is not at fault for what is happening.

An inexperienced partner should be careful and gentle about their periods. When talking, you need to explain that once a month, girls have abdominal pain and sudden mood swings. Teenagers especially should not talk in detail about female physiology, especially using scientific terms or euphemisms ("guests have arrived from Krasnodar", "red days of the calendar", "the Red Army has come") - the guy will not understand this, you need to talk to him very simply and at ease. Some experts advise not to report blood loss, but this depends on the degree of trust in the young person.

It is important to remain calm and kind during the conversation. Rudeness and aggression will make the guy feel guilty for what he is not to blame. Many girls are angry because their lover does not know about their periods, and this often offends guys.

Negative emotions will not help bring a young person up to date, so you need to relax and not allow emotions to get out of control for a while.

There is nothing strange if a guy is embarrassed and avoids continuing the conversation, you should not be offended. For young and inexperienced guys, this topic is very delicate, as for many girls. But if the partner begins to behave rudely and says hurtful words to the girl, it is necessary to put him in his place and explain that menstruation is not a vice, and it indicates good health.

If during a conversation a guy wants to learn more about menstruation, but the girl is embarrassed to tell, you should invite him to familiarize himself with the information on the Internet.

How to deal with an experienced partner

It is easier for an adult guy to tell him about his period, especially if he previously had a relationship with a girl who probably told him about critical days. It is advisable to know in advance what should be said to the guy, to prepare for the conversation. It is not uncommon for girls to start worrying and stammering, finding the right words with difficulty. During a conversation, you need to feel confident and not shy. Psychologists say that by discussing such topics, couples become closer, their trust in each other grows.

There are several ways to report your period:

1. To put it bluntly, without describing the details of menstruation, one phrase is enough for an experienced guy to understand everything.
2. It is allowed to use euphemisms, even such a phrase as: "I have these days" - will give the guy enough information, and he will not need clarification.
3. If a girl and a guy have a long relationship, they should come up with code words that will indicate the onset of menstruation.

It is especially important to tell your partner about your period if your girlfriend and boyfriend are already having sex. Sexual intercourse is not prohibited during menstruation, although it is considered dirty and sloppy, so the guy may be against it. Equally important is the attitude of the girl herself to having sex during this period. If touching irritates her, then it is better to wait until the end of the critical days and refrain from intercourse.

Sex can be replaced by kissing, hugging, or other sexual pleasures. The main thing is not to do what you don't want to do. It is easier for an adult partner to explain that during this period there are some restrictions in sex. Many couples prefer not to wait until the end of their period and continue to have sex calmly, since during intimacy, the girl feels less pain that she experiences during her period.

During sex, you need to continue to protect yourself. Menstruation is not a guarantee that a girl will not get pregnant. The sperm remains in the woman's body for 3-7 days, so there is a possibility of fertilization of the egg (especially with a short menstrual cycle or hormonal disruption). Using condoms will also prevent infection: during menstruation, the risk of transmitting viruses increases, as the volume of fluid that comes into contact with pathogenic microorganisms increases.

Periods are normal

If, after all, at the thought of telling a guy about menstruation, a feeling of fear and shame arises, then this indicates that the couple does not have a sufficiently trusting and close relationship. A girl should think about this and why she is still afraid to talk about her period.

Children grow up, every day parents have to solve new problems in relation to education. At a certain moment, mom and dad understand that it's time to explain to the offspring what menstruation is. Parents may even argue when deciding which of them should initiate a conversation on a sensitive topic. How to explain to a child what menstruation is and at what age do you need to start a conversation?

When to start a conversation?

Sometimes parents delay the time of the conversation, believing that the child has not yet reached sufficient maturity. When to start a conversation? Is there a universal age at which it is imperative to talk to your offspring? It turns out that every child can be ready to perceive this or that information in due time. There are several factors to be guided by:

• A girl's period can begin at 11 and even at 10 years old, so you need to talk with her in advance.
• It is worth taking a closer look at the child and assessing how much he or she shows interest in “forbidden topics”.
• Sometimes the offspring himself begins to ask questions about the physiological characteristics of women and men. If he is over 8 years old, then it is quite possible to begin to answer his questions in detail.
• If the son's classmates do not hide their interest in gender issues and relationships between girls and boys. Such conversations sometimes arise in a children's company, adults can witness jokes on this topic.

Parents themselves can feel the time when it is necessary to delicately tell their daughter about the stages of the girl's growing up. The boy will also need this information, he must certainly know that girls sometimes feel unwell, and this is one of the reasons why they should not be treated rudely.

Preparing for the interview

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Some parents just have to start a conversation, the words come to mind. Others find it difficult to choose phrases, especially when the question concerns sensitive topics. If you consider yourself to be of the second type, it makes sense to prepare for the conversation with the help of the materials at hand:

• Look for special literature that explains in an accessible language how menses (regulations) in women go. It could be a children's encyclopedia, a magazine for parents. You can read the material and present it to the girl with your own comments. In addition, she will be able to subsequently read this information herself, view pictures and photographs, if questions arise.
• It will be great if we can find video materials on this topic. You can watch a movie or even a cartoon with your daughter, answering her questions during the plot.

If the upcoming conversation seems very difficult for mom, she can glean information in a book for parents

Basic concepts

How to structure a conversation correctly? How to tell a girl about her period so that she does not feel disgust and does not get scared? What is worth talking about right away, and what is left for later? First of all, you need to think in advance about the structure of the conversation, and then the order in which it is best to present the information. We propose to build the stages of the conversation in the following sequence:

1. Girls are little women. First, you need to remind that any girl will grow into a woman who can become a mother in the future. Women have reproductive organs that allow them to bear a fetus - the uterus, ovaries. The girl has the same organs, but they are still small and grow with her.
2. Preparing for future motherhood. At the onset of a certain age (11-14 years old), the girl's body signals that it is entering a new stage - preparation for future motherhood. The girl begins to menstruate. It should be mentioned that bleeding occurs in almost all women, there is nothing terrible or shameful in this process.
3. Hygiene. Separately, you need to talk about the fact that during critical days you need to observe hygiene especially carefully. During this period, the pathogenic microflora is easier than usual to reach the internal organs, which leads to diseases of the genitourinary system. The gaskets must be changed regularly and do not neglect the water procedures.
4. What is PMS? This terrible abbreviation, which almost everyone knows about, stands for premenstrual syndrome. It is imperative to warn your daughter that during this period she may have mood swings, she may cry for no apparent reason or feel offended and lonely. The main thing that a girl should know about is that this condition is temporary, it will certainly pass.

We strive for dialogue

It is not enough to give a general outline of your period; it is important to wait for questions. If the daughter or son asks nothing after the story, most likely, the child is not ready to discuss this issue with the parents. There may be several reasons: the daughter already knows a lot from communication with classmates, or she does not trust her parents and is embarrassed to speak on intimate topics.

Both options require careful consideration. What if the offspring does not make contact? It is worth waiting a couple of days after the conversation - it may take a teenager time to comprehend the information, and a little later he will come to his parents with his questions. If the child continues to be silent and does not return to this topic, then it is necessary to act. Try to talk again, ask what worries him and what he knows about "critical days".

Maybe someone has already provided the teenager with distorted information and he believes that it is embarrassing to talk about it. You need to try to find out what the offspring is afraid of, what exactly he already knows. It is very important to clarify to him what is true and what is fiction.

It happens that the conversation does not work out - do not give up. Any conversation is better than keeping silent and ignoring the problem.

If the child is not ready to make contact, there is no need to insist, it will be possible to talk later

Questions to be answered

Since it is rather difficult to tell your daughter about her period with all the details, it is worth preparing for the conversation in advance and thinking about how to answer questions that may arise during the conversation. Often, a teenager is curious about how painful critical days are, how many days do they last, and what to do if they start unexpectedly? If a boy is growing up in the family, it is also necessary to talk with him about this topic, but the conversation can be shorter and more general. We will try to answer the most common questions children have about menstruation.

Does your period hurt?

The girl may worry that the bleeding is accompanied by pain. It must be explained that usually the regulation is painless, only at the beginning of the cycle discomfort can occur in the lower abdomen. However, each girl experiences her own feelings and some complain of abdominal pain, upset stools, dizziness. It is also worth talking about the fact that before menstruation, the breast swells and becomes painful.

For some women, menstruation is painful, but you should not initially scare your daughter with this.

How much blood flows out?

It often seems to girls that the blood from the vagina is flowing; this picture is especially frightening for those who are afraid of its appearance. Mom should answer this question in order to talk about regulations based on personal impressions. The bleeding is usually patchy, often quite thick. In some women, the discharge may be scanty, in others it may be profuse. At the same time, the blood that leaves is already "used" and it is not required for the vital activity of the organism. Everything in the human body is thought out and arranged in the best way. Instead of the lost blood, new blood is generated, which is a natural and even beneficial process.

Sometimes a girl is worried about whether it is possible to lose a lot of blood during critical days. Of course, situations can be different. During this period, you should not expose the body to active physical activity, so as not to cause bleeding, but you should not spend the whole day in bed. You need to lead a normal life with some restrictions.

Pads or tampons?

If the daughter's age is approaching the cherished 11 years, she is increasingly looking forward to her first menstruation. It's time to prepare a supply of sanitary napkins or tampons with your mom. What is better to use? This issue is controversial today. Some gynecologists are inclined towards pads, others are not so critical and fully admit the idea that a young girl can use special tampons. We want to emphasize the aspect that tampons are rather difficult to insert, and pads are more comfortable and easier to use.

If we consider different types of hygiene products, then the pads are the most convenient to use.

You should also prepare for the fact that questions may relate to conception, contraception, intimate relationships between a man and a woman. You should consider in advance how much information you can give your daughter or son, depending on their maturity.

Forewarned means everything is in order!

It is not enough to tell that menstruation occurs in almost all women; it is also necessary to explain to the daughter how they pass in adolescents. It is necessary to warn her that at the beginning the cycle may get lost, and menstruation will be uneven. On the website of Dr. Komarovsky there is information that in the first year after menarche, the cycle can be from 20 to 90 days. Cycle installation can take six months, even a year or two, you should not worry about this. In order to estimate the number of days between the regulations, you need to keep a calendar. It is enough to buy the girl a small copy and ask to mark the dates in it when her critical days begin.

Sometimes a mother thinks that her daughter is just a child and is not interested in the opposite sex - even in this case, it is worth the first to touch on the topic of a possible pregnancy. Explain that menstruation means the possibility of getting pregnant, but by no means does it mean that the body is ready to bear a child. A girl who has already started her period should be responsible for her body and her life.

Early pregnancy is rarely desirable, so it is better to talk with the girl in advance about this topic.

What is not worth talking about?

You can talk about the regulations in your own words, and you can also build a conversation according to your own ideas. However, you should not scare the child and tell the young girl about any complications that are quite possible:

• It is impossible to limit the time of the onset of the first menstruation (menarche) by a rigid framework. A girl who did not have a period at 13 will think that she has any abnormalities. Better to wait a bit and consult a pediatric gynecologist.
• You should not prepare your daughter in advance for the fact that her periods are painful, otherwise she will build up fear in herself while waiting. Also, one should not attach too little importance to them, saying that menstruation passes imperceptibly. This process is physiological, it is worth preparing for it in advance, but not giving up your habits.
• You can't talk about menstruation as if their onset is something embarrassing, which should be kept silent. On the contrary, monthly menstruation is a normal process that happens to every woman. At the same time, you can only talk about them with close people, without bringing intimate details to the public.

Talk to your child frankly to prepare him for new circumstances. You should not postpone the conversation indefinitely, because it is better if the girl finds out about her period from her mother than from someone else. Such conversations strengthen relationships, help parents better understand their child. It is very important not to lose contact with him, especially on the verge of a difficult and interesting adolescence.