There is no shame in this: we all make mistakes from time to time, so we have to apologize. Someone is born with this “gift”, and someone awkwardly mutters “well, you are… sorry, or something,” because they have no idea how to properly and effectively ask for forgiveness.

Why is it important? Because there is something worse than the guilt and shame we feel when we hurt someone. It is natural for a person to analyze his every step, this is called reflection. It is she who can subsequently develop anxiety, irritability and frustration. And being alone with these feelings is terribly disgusting. Moreover, they slowly but surely destroy your nervous system. And who wants to spend all their nerves by the age of thirty?

Of course, it's better not to offend people at all - then you won't have to apologize.

Unfortunately, this is not so easy, because sometimes we do it involuntarily and do not even know what exactly can hurt a person. So a sincere and effective apology is one of the most powerful tools in building relationships. And in order not to break the woods for sure, let's heed the advice of an expert. Professor of Psychiatry and Book Author On Apology Aaron Lazar suggested four steps that will almost certainly help resolve the conflict.

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PUT YOURSELF IN ANOTHER PLACE

Perhaps the most important element of an apology is fully accepting your guilt. This means that you need to understand what exactly is your fault, how it influenced the person, and how he feels now. In short, put yourself in the shoes of the offended.

It's complicated. Aaron Lazar explains: “Some people give up already at the first step, because they apologize incompletely (“ I'm sorry for anything ”), use passive constructions (“ mistakes were made ”), make the apology conditional (“ if mistakes were made ”), repeat “I'm sorry” instead of admitting what they are truly to blame or even apologizing for something else. "

Research confirms how important this step is in an apology.

So, instead of blurting out “I'm sorry-I'm sorry-I'm sorry-I'm sorry-I'm sorry!” A thousand times, think about what you are apologizing for and what the person feels after your hurtful words or actions.

EXPLAIN HOW AND WHY IT HAPPENED

After accepting the resentment and finding out its reasons, you can move on to the explanations. This is your chance to tell you how it happened. It is important not to start this part with the “but” conjunction: the explanation and acceptance of guilt are not mutually exclusive, they simply complement each other.

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TELL US ABOUT YOUR EXPERIENCE

And this is the part where you can finally say how sorry you are. Express remorse, shame, and humility about how your friend's resentment made you feel. Your words will help the person understand that you are talking to him sincerely and seriously.

WHAT WILL YOU DO TO IMPROVE THE SITUATION?

Making a change for the better and not letting it happen in the future is the final step in an effective apology that shows that you are determined to make amends. Always be ready to talk about what you are going to do next. “Next time I will help you,” “I will definitely keep my promise,” “I will try very hard,” “I will be more responsible and stop letting you down,” and so on, depending on the situation.

I'm sorry
You got all the bad things
I'm looking for the fifth corner
Wine does not give rest.

My behavior
It was ugly, I know
But believe me, I repent of him
I suffer in pangs of conscience.

My apologies
Sincere, from the heart,
Please accept
And at least write a line.

I'm sorry, please
Don't be offended by me.
I blame, believe me
Very much, do not hesitate.

I'll fix everything, I promise
Please don't be sad.
I feel so bad, I miss
Well, please, I'm sorry.

I want to offer my sincere apologies for everything that I have done and said, for everything that upset you so much. I didn’t want everything to happen that way, but what happened cannot be corrected, and only an apology can somehow smooth out the course of those events. I'm sorry, I'm sorry, please, that you had the opportunity to experience all those annoying emotions and feelings that definitely caused a number of doubts about my person. I, honestly, not on purpose, everything somehow worked out on its own, and it's already stupid to make excuses, but I'll try. Probably, the weather is to blame, or maybe some shifts in the atmosphere ... In general, I sincerely regret what happened and hope to receive your forgiveness. I understand, it's stupid to blame the weather, but it's a little easier than myself, although I blame myself no less. I hope for your good nature and that you will still be able to excuse me.

I'm sorry. No need, don't be angry
After all, people sometimes make mistakes.
I don’t sleep without you - at least don’t go to bed.
I strive for you with all my soul.

Forgive me, because I didn’t on purpose.
Probably just a bad day.
I'm lousy and sad without you
A shadow overwhelms me with sadness.

Forgive me, I promise you:
I won't allow this anymore.
I miss you incredibly
And every moment I want to be near!

I apologize today
I ask with all my heart and soul!
Accept the apology soon
I am ashamed of my wrongdoing!

This will not happen again
I swear to you today
I promise to change
And I, believe me, will change!

Don't be offended at me
Not from malice all this is me ...
After all, neither live nor smile
I can't live without you.

Excuse me kitty
Don't pout and forgive me.
I ask you seriously:
Let go of the offense.

And let's forget everything
And put our trust in love.
Despite these quarrels,
We will always be together!

Anyone can be wrong
Not on purpose, you know?
The word will fly out like a bird
And you can't catch it back.

I'm sorry, I'm sorry -
No excuse to be found
I'm sick without forgiveness
If you can, then I'm sorry!

I apologize to you
It's hard for me to realize
That there is so much pain, grief,
Sometimes I can cause!

Please don't be angry anymore
After all, dirty linen in the soul is terrible rubbish!
Let's put up with you soon
Today we need the world so much!

We had a bad day
We didn't quite understand each other,
The conversation was not the best.
We will have good science ...

Now I ask your forgiveness
Sincerely. I am ashamed of myself,
For words, for being rude, for behavior.
Sorry, don't be angry, please.

I'm sorry, please, I'm so embarrassed.
I didn't want to offend
But what happened happened.
Hope you can figure it out.

I'm sorry, I repeat again
I strive with all my heart to you.
You torment my soul with silence.
Please answer me soon.

Forgive me ... Everyone was wrong.
And I beg you, don't hold it back.
And my heart suddenly sank so hard
And pricks in the chest area.

It’s a pity that it happened,
But we can't turn back the clock.
And the memory has forgotten the worst ...
I do not want to lose you!

"Sorry!" - I just ask
I can not live without you!
With love we are so strong -
You can move mountains with love.

Forgive me ... Everyone was wrong.
I will remember the lesson forever ...

Please forgive me. I hope that all the wrongs I have caused will be forgotten like a nightmare; scatter like ash in the wind; will leave on their own way into the world of dreary sadness ...

Forgive me for everything. For what I have done.

After all, only you can forgive me.

I have loved you desperately all my life.

And know that I can’t stop loving.

Guilt is the thinnest thread that keeps me close to your resentment. This thread is extremely easy to cut. Scissor it with forgiveness, please.

Forgive me for everything. I so want a world that will envelop our hearts in a light fog of good. I humbly promise that I will never make you suffer anymore.

If you can't forgive me for everything you've done, I'll have to turn into a rose. Only then will I be able to grow near your house, occasionally admiring you. The heart cannot hold a grudge against a beautiful flower.

Forgive me for all. I'm just sorry.

After all, the whole world suddenly became my hell.

I pray - you don't need to be sad at all,

Let go of the grievances in the sky.

Sorry for everything I've done. I am so ashamed that shame, along with guilt, eats away at me from the inside, carefully approaching my heart. Don't let them do this - free me from them. Sorry…

Do not destroy my universe.

Forgiveness is part of fighting courage.

I love you, but I blame myself.

I'm sorry about what happened with you and me.

I am sending you a dumb prayer again -

Forgive me, forgive me for everything.

Forgiveness is part of the life of the path.

Do not destroy my universe.

Like a whisper in the middle of the night, my guilt quietly floats through the air, creating an echo of shame. Please forgive me.

My plea for forgiveness, like a light breeze, will gently touch you and fly away to

All grievances that were created from the matter of my guilt must leave your body and return again to your world of sorrow. Together we will help them make such a significant journey. I will ask for forgiveness, and you will forgive ...

Please forgive me for everything. Nothing is worthy of your tears and grief. You are the Universe, whose own world is so large that it does not fit in one head, but comes out in the form of goodness and love sent to people.

Forgive me my love.

I was wrong, alas.

My guilt is a nightmare

Comes into my dreams.

Give me freedom of thought -

Be able to forgive me.

Forgive me, please, forgive me.

I'm not worthy of forgiveness, but still.

Just let me bloom

And cover the bed with petals.

Sorry, my love. Life is sometimes so unfair that you have to share it with guilt. Please drive this unbearable neighbor out of my house ...

Like Omar Khayyam, we are sages of our own thoughts. We teach others to live the way they would like to live, even if they themselves did not succeed. I apologize for everything. I hope your inner philosopher decides if I deserve to be forgiven ...

Forgive me please, sorry for everything

Like the light of a lantern

Guilt blinds me.

I want to run away.

Forgive me for everything.

The wind brings sadness again.

I will not sleep without forgiveness.

I'm sorry, please, I'm asking you. Everything that has become between us in the form of my actions should be forgotten, like a terrible dream.

The forgiveness of my stupid actions is so far from me that I cannot even reach the ends of my soul. I pray you bring him closer!

Forgiving my stupidity, you will give me one more chance. I will become better and, like the sun, will illuminate the world of our friendship, making it unbearably beautiful.

You need to start making the world brighter and better small. For example, from one person. In order to give a person happiness, sweet, like cotton candy, you need to forgive him, relieving him of guilt. It's a hint…

Do not spoil our relationship with resentment. Let it dissolve like spring water in the scorching sun ... Forgive me, please.

Let's listen to Leopold the cat and start living together? You should not waste precious time on quarrels and resentments. After all, every day, like a snowflake, is individual and unique. Forgive me please.

Our quarrels are like football - we pass the ball of resentment to each other, but we just can't get into the gate of forgiveness. Score this goal!

Please forgive me.

I am very guilty.

Time I know

I can't get back.

I am helpless without you.

I need your love.

Please forgive me.

I will be faithful again.

Do you remember, we admired the flame of a candle and said that it was a reborn light of that first

Guilt is like the sting of a wasp - it reminds of old pain. Please forgive me for everything. Pull out that annoying sting.

I'm burning in my own guilt

And in the fire of your resentment.

Forgive me for everything

Make them quits.

I feel good with you.

I don’t want to part.

Just give me forgiveness.

Let me confess my love to you.

I'm sorry, I beg you.

I miss you.

I have become far from paradise.

I'm sorry, my dear.

Forgive me for everything that you have done. I hope that you will be merciful and allow me to enjoy our mutual love further. A love that has become for me like a light breeze in the middle of summer - so desirable.

Apology Poems

I ask sorry
And sincerely excuse me:
I won't be like this anymore
And I will forget the embarrassment.
Don't be angry with me -
Smile broadly!

I am guilty before you, I know that.
I only wish for your forgiveness
To make peace with you, to become closer,
And we will walk into the future together!

Forgive me, dear,
I know myself that I was wrong!
I'm dying without you
From great mental trauma.

Please excuse me
I don't know what happened to me
I will only please you
So that happiness settles in the heart!

It's not easy for us to admit mistakes
But life is one, and for this it is given,
To ask for forgiveness and forgive!
I hope for your forgiveness, sun!

I'm sorry I didn't mean to be a bore
Dig into the past, whine and blame.
Please let us forget everything
I so want to start all over again!

I understand: I will be sad for a long time,
But deep down, I still believe in a miracle -
I sincerely ask you to forgive me
And I promise: I will not do this anymore!

Forgive me, I am very sorry.
I know myself: I can be rude
But in my heart I cherish hope
Forgive me, even though you are very guilty ...

Like the April sun's modest rays,
My apologies to you is in a hurry.
And I'm looking forward to the first case,
To ask for reconciliation.

I'm sorry. Excuse me:
I am ready to atone for the blame
And reach out, of course, a hand
As the greatest friend!
Let's part with dignity:
Reasonable, honest and calm!

Forgive me, I beg you, for all the insults,
Sorry for the stupidity, I beg, forgive me!
Well, who knew that it would all come out like this,
Please, forgive me, let me into your world.

It was a misunderstanding
Try to understand me.
The usual dispute between generations,
Where both daughter and mother are right.

Please accept you, I apologize,
I regret my words
I'll do anything to deserve forgiveness
I will find the islands of your dreams!

Please, please, if you can -
For what has been done, forgive me soon!
You disturb your heart with insult,
And I didn't mean to hurt you!

Don't be angry, dear, and forgive me.
I didn’t sleep all night, dreamed, rushed about.
Forget all the bad things, let go of the insults,
You want me to stay with you!

Accept an apology
With a heartfelt promise:
Use skills
With all possible care!

You are kind, dear, very vulnerable,
I brought so much pain with me.
Forgive me, do you hear? I'm so unbearable
To see your eyes full of tears.

I'm sorry, I'm sorry!
I am very sorry!
Let me come to you
After all, I myself will not dare!

Forgive me for the quarrel!
I know the fault lies with me.
But let's forget our arguments.
I apologize to you.

Will never happen again
That for which you put me to death.
I want to make peace with you
And I hope you will forgive me.

Forgive me for all my words
Because your soul hurts so much
Resentment, I beg you, let go
What hurts worse than a Finnish knife!

Please, no, I beg forgiveness now,
After all, a stone lies on my soul!
Let's get things right again
May peace reign in our souls again!

Your heart is offended by me
A heavy stone lies on the soul.
I will allow myself one liberty:
I dare to ask for forgiveness.

Forgive me that it happened like this ...
Conscience tears my soul.
Give me just one sign
Forgive me, and it will instantly feel better for me.

I want to ask for forgiveness
For pain, insults, insults.
I ask you to forgive me
Without anger, revenge, condemnation!

Forgive me for the storminess of words
What sounded about yours then.
We will get rid of the shackles
After all, they received joy together.

Please accept my apologies
And for everything that happened, I'm sorry!
I'm in our relationship with you
I just want to bring good!

Forget grievances, all quarrels,
It's time to let go of the load of anger!
Without wasting words, conversations
Let's live in peace!

I want to ask for forgiveness
For insults, for everything that's wrong
It all matters
After all, it's no coincidence that we are with you,
I want to apologize to you
And tell you, "Please don't be angry,"
Anything can happen
And life can be unpredictable.
And now, speaking these phrases,
I feel lighter
I don't need anything else
After all, my heart is always with you!

My only fault is that I love.
I love you unrestrainedly and passionately.
Sometimes I don't recognize myself
And everything around me seems dangerous.

I tremble from fear of losing you.
And I do stupid things more and more often.
I apologize for this,
After all, you are my love, you are my happiness.

"Forgive me" is the main message,
I apologize to you!
Your forgiveness is my desire
After all, I carry a stone in my heart!

I am ashamed of an ugly act,
I won't do this anymore,
Forgive my character so arrogant!
Let's not litter our lives with resentment!

Everyone is wrong in life:
Sharp phrases and angry outbursts ...
Forgive my perky and quick-tempered disposition,
Sometimes my nerves let me down!

I ask forgiveness for all these words,
For every act that I hurt
After all, our love is certainly alive,
So, you have enough strength to forgive!

Let our quarrel dissolve
After all, there is no need for us to be offended!
I want to apologize now
And put everything in its place!

Let your sorrow recede!
The offense will go away soon!
Let the ice melt in your heart
To make your soul warmer!