What representatives of the beautiful gender men prefer to take in his wife? Freedom-loving with Western perception of life or modest women (let's call them east) with a flexible temper, brought up in the spirit of humility and respect for the spouse, how would he be? From whom men do not leave: having self-sufficient, intellectual career or priest, cozy, domestic women, a family hearth?

Consider the stereotypical schemes of interpersonal relations of the same woman. What do men love most of all? Of course, a woman who gives his beloved fullness and the joy of life, inspiration and love, the latter that is impossible without intimate relationships. How do representatives of different female types behave in this sensual sphere:

The representative of the Western type will not respond to the reciprocity of sexual needs of her husband, if it is not in the mood, the eastern woman (even if it is not located to joy) will always conquer the sensual attractions of the narrowed. What if he does not stand before the temptation to fall into the sin of adultery?! Now it is not necessary to persuade non-religious girls with breasts for a long time, only amendments. Then even if it is indirectly, but the wife who has refused in sex, will be to blame in the perfect sin of her husband. Of course, people who have consciously entered the path of faith, often spiritual practice (prayers, post and work on Nafs through restrictions) produce immunity on carnal temptations, in contrast to ordinary ordinary people. But the man remains a man, even if he is ascetic and its physiology has a strong influence of the sexy instinct of the male, the implementation of which is important for a full healthy life. And the more understanding in this regard the spouse treats a man, the more she harmonizes sensual relations. So teach oriental girls.

The next difference between these women with different globalism in views on family life:

Representatives of Western type seek to achieve heights in professional activities, but their family often goes into the background (as it is not enough for it), the Eastern Type spouse, brought up in the spirit of family values, mainly worries the well-being of her husband and if suddenly work is infrinent The interests of the beloved, then she throws her in favor of family happiness.

The eastern woman is more important to support the implementation of ideas, hobbies of the spouse, and not realize their own desires. Western women think other categories, for example, "you can go hiking into the forest, I am not interested in me, I will go to the mountains." Flexible in the relationship Eastern woman will not come out of the house, without asking for the husband's permission, when self-sufficient Western can and not report where it was and what did.

A modest eastern woman will not open for everyone to review its charms, which belong to only one man - her husband. Western tries to please all men, and the half-way body in the summer with lust will inspect everyone who wishes.
If Western women can go, both their own way and with her husband, then the eastern only follow the path with his spouse, inspiring him to accomplish the feats.

On the Internet in forums, you can often find reviews on the eternal burning topic: What kind of woman is good for a man? Here is what the representatives of strong and weak gender are written:

- "Men like all and gray illiterate mice, and bright, talented, educated women, and those who have their own opinion, and those who think as much as the husband will allow. The main thing in the relationship is compatibility. You do not have all men under one comb whitening "!

- "I like universal women who contain: and authority, and humility; Power and softness, ice and flame, Madonna and Vadunitsa. I can't endure the power .... but the submission should be in moderation. "

"The woman should behave so that the man felt like a man." This is the main thing. As for those who are stealing excessively, there are also no such respects, they can also begin to break, however, this action begins much later than in relations with "emotionally unstable ladies." Its only, as the household thing will be perceived. "

- "Real women will not fade, but they know how to silent. When you need to, stick to your husband, they enjoy the process of donation of their love, from what makes their batch happy, not consisting. Such girls are drawn, for they know how to file themselves, they know the price, but do not hang price tags for men and themselves. Do not "bring out the brain", but create a relaxed atmosphere in the house, peaceful, instead of a cry, will prefer a conversation on calm colors and without reproaches, and any rudeness "

- "I like the submissive, but not scored! It is impossible to make a woman like selfish personality. "

- "No matter how strong a woman should sometimes pacify your dust and give a man to be a man, even if you know or know how he is. If he is so strong, then this will emphasize your femininity, if he is weak and uncertain in himself, it will spur him to action and give confidence. "

"And if a man is a man in a skirt, then the submission will not bring happiness to neither her nor her husband."

- "Not necessarily a woman to be a fool, weak and nothing capable. But sometimes the ability to "endure the brain" can be tasteful on other people, staying for his man gentle, calm, loving creation capable of equipping life as it likes (it is not necessary to poison the cozy nest - some men like life, complete adventures - Next to Such a woman is active and creative will be able to turn around the coil). "

- "The displacement generates apathy and indifference. The apathetic lady rarely has an interesting and challenge beauty. Rather, it looks like a stirberber-slave saucer. Such a woman personally bother me very quickly. "

- "I love Muslims for their purity and not spoil. For me, they are very distinguished girls. Well done, Muslims, keep it up. No Muslim girl will change her husband. And you have no conscience at all. Today I will marry one, and tomorrow I sleep with another. "

- "Muslim-Opening woman, not that ours, she is reasonable, patient mother who teaches children a good and protects from bad. She's a decent wife, belongs only to her husband and is decorated only for him, and he meets reciprocity, does not change her and respects her, and what about us? The husband walks, the wife is also not lagging behind, the mother material is material, parents teach children to drink alcohol. "

- "I do not like the submissive women who run to fulfill everything you can't say. But too strokes are not good too. When a woman is too submissive, interest is involuntarily to her. But too raining, it can also be tired. Morals, everything should be in moderation. "

And now I want to finally say about what advantages are decorated with a Muslim woman and make it attractive in the eyes of a man. Contrary to the established stereotypes about the stupid and scored believer, Islam never suffered the dignity of the woman, on the contrary, raised her, respecting her personality and the right to development. The national customs, the mentality of Asian peoples and the remnants of the past, who do not have anything common with religion, do it miserable in the eyes of the non-Muslim public. Therefore, Muslim can be a progressive personality (in accordance with the times), freedom-loving and at the same time wisely modest, with a karamic temper of God-fearing believer. It can be intelligent and educated, self-sufficient, but at the same time appeals with a spouse, a cozy homemade woman, with all its achievements of the coastal family hearth, raising children and a reading husband who loving his wife, giving him due, as the head of the family.

21-03-2017, 09:22

What are fraught with popular marriages with Muslims lately.

Modern girls are increasingly choosing for marriage Muslims. It must be said, in many ways it is due to the reception of certain information about Muslim men, but it is important not to be misleading, as this information is not always complete and reliable. The charter of the permissiveness of the Christian religion, which young people relating to this faith are fully enjoyed, the Christian girls begin to argue about as follows: the concept of the family from Muslims is holy, alcohol cannot be used - this is enough enough to rush in search of a man who profess the Koran.

To become happy in such a marriage, you need to be ready to many nuances that will present life in the Muslim family. And for this you must first learn to learn more about all the customs of this religion and try to try on them on yourself - is it possible to endure all this, and at the same time become a happy wife.

The very first question that occurs in such cases: Do you need to change religion if you need to do after the wedding? The answer is unequivocal - no. The wife may be a Christian, but at the same time she should know that she will no longer be able to educate his child in Christian customs. Hijab wear not necessarily wear.

It is just worth it to keep in mind that if the wife has a different faith with her husband, most often begin to misunderstandings of various kinds, leading to the divorce. The marriage is similar to the boat, whose rings should work in one direction, and otherwise it will not be. Although, it is worth mentioning that there are rare happy marriage, when the husbands allow the Christian wife to visit the Church to Sunday on Sundays and even held the icon in the house, it still happens that husbands allow wives not to wear a handkerchief and use cosmetics, but at the same time they will see On strangers, and if you do not refuse to drink.

According to ordinary Muslims, marriage must be concluded not only in the registry office, but also in the mosque, then it will be recognized and Muslim society and the Most High. During the registration of such a marriage, the woman will have to say Shahada. Some, by the way, are so penetrated during her teachings and pronunciation, which is accepted with Islam over time. But it happens on the contrary - the father teaches the Son Muslim custom, and the mother of Christian is as a result of solid disputes and discords in the family. An important point: if the wife is a Christian, then when divorced, it does not have the right to take the child with him.

There is even an option, a little similar to our civil marriage, only on a Muslim manner - without a hike to the registry office, the marriage is in the nearest mosque. For the rite you need two witnesses and imam. But these are very fragile marriages, almost all of them disintegrate in the first two years. True, children stay with her mother, but the father, at the same time, they do not know. Therefore, such a marriage can be called, rather, an adventure from which it is better to refrain. It can be said that Muslim Men "invest" in what they love, that is, they have plans for the bride. Although, sometimes, these plans are reduced only to the rapid "official" access to intimate relations, which can be obtained by such a pental marriage.

Do not forget that Muslims are allowed to have up to 4 wives. Of course, so much "second half" is far from every Muslim family. Moreover, according to the laws of Islam, all wives should be kept in the same conditions and to receive the same gifts in value, and this happens quite considerable for her husband.

We give some useful tips that can help when choosing whether Muslim marry is married.

Please note, under what circumstances you met a future husband, and how he behaved at the same time. For example, familiarity in frivolous circumstances - whether it is the beach or a nightclub, in 99.9% of cases will not lead to anything good.

Hurry in this case, also not the best assistant. If your choice fell on a Muslim fiancé, do not be afraid to pull the time during which you can weigh all the "for" and "against", to explore the future spouse and the customs of his family. Do not rush, sowing head, to a new religion, and then regret the broken life. A durable and strong family is obtained only if people are suitable for a decision to make marriage weigly and calmly. Useful custom - engagement, yes, Muslims, he also has.

Acquaintance with the family of the bridegroom is one of the most important prebrid stages that should not be neglected. First, the groom will receive the blessing of the parents, secondly, you can draw conclusions about his family and upbringing and predict further behavior as your spouse. Well, and third, you will see how his relatives belong to you. If they consider you someone else's - it is worth thinking as you should think, as a rule, when parents are against the choice of the Son, they will do everything to break up with an objectionable bride (or even his wife). Here you need to pay attention to how the future spouse looks at such an attitude towards his bride.

Customs, customs and once more customs. Explore the most as follows the traditions of religion and family your chosen one. Otherwise, unpleasant surprises in the future can not be avoided.

Language training is a granted fact with which you have to come to terms - you are not going to talk all my life in different languages. We will have to learn to begin the most frequently used phrases, and then the entire language is completely.

Try to choose the groom approximately equal status with you, in any case, if you have already achieved something in this life, and your future husband is not yet, then that then do not tear your hair from the annoyance that he gave him all the cost and, In accordance with his customs, they left after divorce with nothing, do not neglect this moment.

Of course, it will be necessary to issue all the necessary documents in accordance with international legislation. Indeed, in different countries there are different laws, and if you are citizens of different states, then all your documents must comply with their laws.

Take conclusions from your chosen one's behavior, his relationship to religion and compliance with its prescriptions. When a man comes against the customs of his country, it is unlikely that he will be a worthy husband and the keeper of his family. While the humilman, honoring the Most High and observing his commandments, can become a good satellite of life. It is worth arming the Quran and to check the behavior of your groom with written in the Holy Book.

Modesty - the command of Allah

"Each religion has its own feature, and the peculiarity of Islam is modesty." This statement made by the Prophet Muhammad (may Allah bless him and welcomes) about 1400 years ago, today it remains no less relevant than in those days. The Prophet (may Allah bless him and welcomes) lived in difficult times when slavery flourished, debauchery and drunkenness, when it was possible to mock the poor women with impunity, and the rich could live, satisfying their whims and completely discarding Morality. And nothing of this did not cause much condemnation.

Long before the revelation of the prophet (and he bless him Allah and welcomes) and his like-minded people loved for nobility. The nicely sent to the Koranus called Muhammad (may Allah bless him and welcomes him) and his associates (may Allah be pleased) to show other people that compassion, generosity, courage, modesty and patience - the quality necessary for the right lifestyle.

Modesty is such an imperceptible quality that, perhaps, few people pay great attention to him. What are modest people? They are humble and try to stick in the shade, not wanting to attract too much attention to their person. When they are praised, they are embarrassed and sincerely believe that they do not deserve praise, since they only fulfill their duties and seek to earn the contentment of Allah Almighty. They can not tolerate when they are trying to put on comrades or make attention to the center of attention, to set off.

Modesty also includes shame and restraint. She is not inherent in people seeking to emphasize their physical advantages. Nowadays, when young women walk through the streets in clothes covering a little more than their underwear, and it is considered normal when the whole lifestyle calls a woman to look so sexually attractive as it can, when a girl or woman is disappointed from That not everyone turns the heads in her direction, women who do not take all of this and do not want to behave in a similar way, are considered very strange.

This is a regrettable case of discrimination, because there are actually many girls and women, modest by nature, not wanting to expose themselves at all and not experiencing any unpleasant feelings from the fact that they do not attract lustful views.

Wearing a hijab - one of those moments that, oddly enough, society made a problem for girls and women who accepted Islam and decided to change their clothing style, as well as put on a handkerchief. Ironically, these modest and shy women are forced to feel very awkward, when, changing the former habits, turn out to be the subject of close attention of the public. When you put on hijab, it often causes underwent glances (especially from those people who knew you before), questions, why do you consider yourself "better" or "more saints" than others, or why did you decide to resemble the Arab or Pakistanque.

Muslim men often do not think or do not want to think about it. For a man, there is no similar requirement for clothing and head covering. I think that a new man would have experienced something like this if it was necessary to go to work in long white clothes, which Arabs wear.

However, in Islam there are modesty prescriptions related to men. Once I had to experience an unpleasant feeling when I flew by plane from Damascus. All men on board were Muslims, with the exception of a couple of Western tourists. These men had shirts unzipped to the belt, and shorts. They, most likely, did not realize what reaction would cause their appearance among them, or did not worry about it. In fact, Muslim men must dress modestly, that their clothes do not attract attention to their sexuality, as well as in all clean.

Muslim clothes are not punishment and not a test, but the ability to look noble and feminine, without causing the desires of the flesh. "Covered women" are not necessarily innocent girls. Among them there may be many families, and women who married more than once.

Hijab is not a manifestation of false modesty, but he carries a certain message to people: first, that the woman decided to submit God's will in every aspect of his life, and, secondly, that she wants her to be appreciated for her character and good deeds. , not for the fact that it is beautiful, slim and sexy.

Modesty also implies the simplicity and lack of aspiration for luxury. A woman can be fully covered, but at the same time dressed in a cloth with a screaming pattern or pattern, as well as sparkling by jewelry, gold and pearls. Allah gracious will judge the woman not for her clothes, but for her intentions (niyat) and for the way of life she leads.

But in any case, the clothes should not be tight, transparent and should hide women's charms. The main requirement for women's clothing should be modesty. As for the style, color or other qualities, here the choice of women is not limited to anything.

There is no need to remind that modesty should manifest itself not only in clothing, but also in behavior. We must experience a sincere desire to do good with the sole purpose - to save the content of Allah, not seeking material benefit or popularity.

Modesty, simplicity and faith go hand in hand. A few years ago, I was friends with Muslim from Pakistan. Once he asked me to bring him Jeans from the UK. When, along with jeans, I also brought a shirt, he was almost offended. "Why did you do it?" He asked, "after all, I already have two shirts!" He immediately gave one of his shirts to man more poor than he. I will never forget this lesson. It was one of those moments that contributed to my appeal to Islam.

I received from this person and another lesson. It flew off a button, and I expressed a desire to sew her. It caused a light reproach from his side, because thereby would deprive the means of one poor man living on the same street. He earned the living with small repair of clothing, including the sewing of buttons. Is it possible to compare such a simple and modest Islamic lifestyle with what is happening among some rich Muslims now?

Modesty and sincere humility is a gift from Allah, and people who have these qualities are blessed. They are like light in the dark and the source of hope that people will become perfect.

A modest person leading a simple lifestyle makes senseless arrogance and pompousness of others. With his example, he shows that there is something better than the unrestrained desire for luxury, sexual uteuham and the desire to take a high position in society.

Gleae Varis Maxud.

Chastity

While Islam does not welcome the refusal of the permitted, he also warns believers about the inadmissibility of the crime of the boundaries established by Allah. So, Islam categorically prohibits adultery. In the Quran it says: "And do not close to adultery, because it is an abomination and a bad road!" (17:32).

One of the most important tasks of ethics of sexual relations in Islam is to help a man or woman to save chastity. For this purpose, certain rules have been established that each Muslim and Muslims should adhere to clothing. In the Qur'an there are Ayat, having this meaning: "About the Sons of Adam! We sent to you the robe that would cover your abomination, and feathers. And the robe of God-fearing is better. It is from the signs of Allah, maybe you remember!" (7:26).

Thus, the best protection of the believer from abominations is the robe of God-fearing. It is how it first of all allows him to keep it chastity despite the fact that in modern society the virgins and the virgin are considered something like deviations from the norm, while the most perverted types of sexual relations are becoming increasingly acceptable. However, it is not necessary to adapt to the "Standards of the Company" by the price of refusing to prescribe their faith. After all, the Qur'an says: "It is only Satan, who makes his terrible loved ones. But do not be afraid of them, and fear me if you are believers!" (3: 175).

Any Muslim and any Muslim must be guided by the examples given in the noble Quran. One of these examples is Maryam (peace to her), which is devoted to a separate sura (Sura 19). About Mariam (peace) is also mentioned in other terrains, for example: "and the one that retained its modesty ... and we breathed into it from our spirit and made it and her son's sign for the worlds" (21:91).

Quran contains similar examples for men. It provides a story about Jusuf (peace to him): "And he seduced by the one, in the house of which he was, and locked the doors and said:" Look here ". He said:" Support Allah! After all, the Lord my wonderful made my stay. Truly, they will not be happy unrighteous! "(12:23).

Koran prescribes "sweeping his eyes and take care of his members" both believers and believing women (24: 30-31).

The family in Islam should have, including the material basis: "And let those who do not find the possibilities of marriage will be abstained until they enrich them Allah their generosity" (24:33). This may lead to difficulties in the sexual area in young men who are not ready for marriage due to lack of funds. The best tool in such cases is the post, which is said in the Hadith of the Prophet (may Allah bless it and welcomes): "It is reported that Abdullah, and he will be pleased with Allah, said:" [Once, when] we were together with the Prophet (yes Allah bless him and welcomed), he said: "Let the one who can [marry] marries, as it best contributes to the wagging of the eyes and protect the genitals; the same who can not marry, should be fast, for the post for him [ will be similar to] housing "(sahih al-Bukhari, 878 (1905)).

Prof. Hassan Hasout

Virginity

One of the prescriptions that should be guided by the choice of the future spouse is virginity. Aisha (may Allah be pleased with her) once asked the Prophet (peace and blessing of Allah): "About the Messenger of Allah, if you found a place in a pasture, where someone had already visited you, and the place where no one came out where Would you pass your camel? " He replied: "Where no one has been." Then Aisha said: "I am that woman, which no one has touched" (al-Bukhari).

However, this does not mean that it is impossible to marry a woman who was previously married. All wives of the Messenger himself (may Allah bless him), except for Ayish, were married before they became his spouses.

Sometimes virginity is associated only with anatomical feature of a woman, has never entered into sexual intercourse (the presence of virgin splava). At the same time, virginity is primarily moral meaning.

Virgitsa possess special advantage, as mentioned in the Quran: "Maybe his Lord, if he gives you a divorce, will replace him with his wives with the best than you, who made himself, believers, pious, appeal, worshiping, pilgrimage, widows and girls" ( 66: 5).

Paradise is described in the Quran: "We have created them with creation and made them virgins, husband lovers, peers, - for the Lord of the right side" (56: 35-38); "There are modestworks that neither man nor Ginny touched them (55:56).

At the same time, as already mentioned, the obligation to keep her chastity lies not only on women, but also on men. In the Jewish and Christian tradition, there was an unfair approach: from a girl or her parents demanded an indispensable provision of evidence of its indispensability.

In Redeanoniasonia it is said: "If anyone takes his wife, and will go to her, and hens it, and will raise vicious things to it, and it will let her loudly Glevo, and say:" I took this wife, and entered her, and not I found naughty, "then the father of the Schroeksians and her mother would take it and will lead the signs of the Nizhnya to the elders of the city, to the goal; and the father of the Otrokovitsa will say to the elders: my daughter I gave my wife to my wife, and now he hated her, and now he Early vicious things on it, saying: "I did not find your daughter with your daughter"; but here are the signs of the Naughty of my daughter. And they spread the clothes before the elders of the city. Then the elders of that city will take her husband, and will punish him, and will put on him a hundred Sikley Silver pencils, and will give away the father of the sortie for the fact that he let the thin Glevo on the Device of Israel; she will let him go to his wife, and he cannot divorce his life for his whole life. If it is true, there will be true, and there is no virginity , then let the side of the father of her father lead to the doors , and residents of the city will bother her stones to death; For she did an effort to Israel, the irrevocating in the house of his father; And so Evil evil from the environment "(Deuteronomy, 22: 13-21).

At the same time, medical studies show, blood is not always distinguished during defloration. This may be associated with the anatomical features of the virgin splava. In addition, the Piere may be damaged or stretched as a result of certain types of sports activities (for example, cycling or horse riding). There are also some, although rare cases when a girl is born without a virgin splava.

Some scientists argue that all of the above is found not very often. But even if it is so, what humiliation may experience an innocent girl accused of committing adultery! In some cases, the dispute may resolve the medical examination of his wife, confirming the presence of a virgin splava. There is also a practice adopted in some countries when the bride places the fiancian of a kind of "certificate" - a certificate from the gynecologist. However, many Muslimians consider such a procedure of humiliating. The best way out is the manifestation of God-fearing and confidence in each other.

There are no requirements similar to expressed in Deuteronomy, nor in the Koran, nor in the Khadisakh of the Prophet (and bless him Allah and welcomes). Moreover, in some regions, the practice of hanging the sheets after the first marriage night is condemned by Sharia. This is an unacceptable ancient remnant that should be eradicated.

Husband should be remembered that defloration is a rather painful procedure. After the marriage night, take a break before the subsequent sexual intercourse so that this pain does not repeat again. Otherwise, unsuccessful sexual experience can create emotional and physiological problems in a woman in the future.

Mufti Ibrahim Desai (Mufti Ebrahim Desai)

Dr. Shahid AThar

The robe of God-fearing

One of the irony of the modern world is the attitude towards a female head desire in different cultures. In some cases, the head shawl on the head of a woman is worshiped as a sign of holiness, when Catholic nuns are put on, and in others, it is being subjected to brave, as a sign of oppression, when Muslim women are put on with modesty and piety.

Today, some European countries make significant efforts to legally introduce a ban or restriction on the wearing headscarfs of Muslims. Such legislation undermines the basis of tolerance and equality in society, which fights for pluralism and freedom of religion.

Currently, France is considering the possibility of a complete ban on wearing headscarves in schools. In the two lands of Germany, a bill is proposed that prohibits wearing heads in general education institutions.

This article is devoted to the Hijab, the piety of the head of the head of Muslim women, as well as the comparative study of the Jewish-Christian tradition of wearing female hats.

Some in the West consider the head scarf, which traditionally wear Muslim women for considerations of piety, the greatest symbol of oppression and dependence. Let's see how the case is in the Jewish-Christian tradition, and we will try to establish the historical truth.

According to Rabbi Manheim M. Baraer (Professor of Bible Literature at the University of Jesus Navina) in his book "Jewish women in Rabbian literature", leaving people, Jewish women on tradition covered their heads, often closing the whole face and leaving only eyes open. He quotes some of the famous ancient rabbins who said that "she does not fit the daughters of Israel to walk with a uncovered head", and cursed those, "who will allow his wife to walk with a uncoated head ... And a woman who opens his head for decoration, will be plugged in poverty. " Jewish laws prohibited the scratching of grace for someone or reading a prayer in the presence of married women without a handkerchief, since the unaccepting of the female head was considered as nudity. Dr. Breezer also mentions that "in the era, Tanama's head uncovered by Jewish was considered a riding shamelessness. If her head was uncovered, she had to pay 400 tsuzymes for this offense."

Dr. Breier explains that the scarves of the Jews were not always considered only a sign of piety. Sometimes the handkerchief symbolized a special position in society and wealth than piety. The scarf personified the dignity and superiority of a hurried woman. He also personified the unavailability of a woman as the sacred ownership of her husband.

The handkerchief emphasized the sense of self-esteem and its social status. Lower level women often put on a handkerchief to impress accessories to a higher class. The fact that the handkerchief was a sign of noble origin, it was the reason that in ancient European society it was forbidden to wear easy-to-wear behavior. However, public women often wore a special head scarf to look more respectable. Jewish women living in Europe continued to wear scarves until the XIX century, when their lives became more closely associated with the surrounding secular environment. The external pressure of the European lifestyle in the XIX century made many of them go outside with a uncoated head. Some Jewish women considered more convenient to replace the traditional scarf on a wig as another form of head cover. Today, many Jews do not cover their heads, with the exception of those cases when they go to the synagogue. Some of them, for example, belonging to the sect of Hasidov, still use wigs.

What can I tell about the Christian tradition? It is well known that Catholic nuns cover their head with a scarf for hundreds of years, but that's not all. The Apostle Paul in the New Testament made several interesting comments on the wearing head of the handkerchief by women: "I also want you to know that every husband is the head of Christ, the head of the head - a husband, and Christ head is God. Every husband, prayer or prophesy with a covering head, cares His head. And every wife, praying or prophesy with an open head, caresses his head, for it is the same as if it were around. For if the wife does not want to be covered, then let it stand; and if his wife is ashamed to be sliced \u200b\u200bor engaged , let him get covered. So, the husband should not cover the head, because it is the image and glory of God; and the wife is glory to her husband. For no husband from his wife, but a husband from her husband; and not husband is created for his wife, but a husband for her husband. Therefore, the wife must have his own sign of power on her head, for angels "(1 Corinth. 11: 3-10).

The argument of the Christian Apostle Paul in proof of the need to carry the handkerchief with women is that the handkerchief symbolizes the sign of the power of the man, which is the way and the glory of God over a woman created from and for a man. Sv. Turtullian in his famous treatise "On the obligation of wearing scarves for virgins" wrote: "Young girls, you wear your shawls on the streets, therefore you must wear them in the church, you carry them to strangers, then why don't you wear them Before your brothers ... "There is a law among the canonical laws of the Catholic Church that demands that they cover their heads in the church. Some Christian denominations, for example, Mennonites, force their women to wear a scarf and to this day. The reasons why we need to wear shawls, in accordance with the opinion of the leaders of their church, are that "the head cover is a symbol of subordination of women to men and God," which corresponds to the statement of the Apostle Paul in the New Testament.

From the foregoing it follows that the wearing of a head-up woman is not a sign of exclusively Muslim religion. However, Islam applied it to her duty. The Koran prescribes believing men and women to lower the gaze to the ground and keep modesty. The Holy Quran impresses believing women in the duty to close the head, neck and chest: "Tell the believers, so that they would have walked their eyes; they would have kept themselves from the sensual wishes: this is the greatest cleanliness for them. God knows their business. Tell me also believers to They walked their eyes; they would have stored themselves from sexual wishes; only those of their outfits would be shown, which were superimposed on their chest covers ... "(24:30, 31).

The Holy Quran clarifies that the handkerchief is an integral part of the decency: "Prophet! Tell your spouses, your daughters, wives of believers: they would have covered their own whether they would cover their own: with such a lower, they will not be recognizable and therefore will not insulte. God - forgive , Mercy "(33:59).

In this whole essence. Piously prescribed a woman for her own protection against insults, or, simply speaking, piety is protection for a woman.

Unlike a chalk in the Christian tradition, Hijab is not a sign of the man over a woman. Hijab is not a sign of luxury or the differences of some married women of noble origin, unlike a handkerchief in the Jewish tradition. In Islam, Hijab is a sign of piety, which emphasizes the integrity of the person's personality. Quran makes focus on protecting women's reputation and prescribes severely to punish men if they falsely blame the woman in sinfulness: "those who will slander on married women and will not present four witnesses, punish them to be eighteenty blows and never allow them to testify as well-known people, Excluding those that are shown and remedy. God is forgiving, merciful "(24: 4, 5).

Some people, especially in the West, ridicule the argument of piety for protection. Their argument is that the best defense is the spread of education, civilized behavior and restraint. Agree to this. But this is clearly not enough. If "civilization" is sufficient protection, then why are women living in North America, do not dare to go without escort on dark streets or even through empty car parking? If education is a solution to the problem, then why is our universities have an "accompaniment to home" service, intended mainly for students? If restraint is the answer to the burning question, then why in newspapers reported daily on cases of sexual harassment at work?

In the list of those who were attracted to justice for sexual harassment over the past few years, maritime officers, managers, university professors, senators, supreme judges and even President of the United States are held.

Here are just some statistics that have been published in the Brochures of the Female Affairs Department of the Royal University of Canada:

q. Canada, women are subject to sexual harassment every 6 minutes; Each 3rd woman in Canada was sexually having to at least once in life;

questionating 4th resident of Canada is under risk to be raped or has been subject to unsuccessful attempt to rape at least once in life;

questioning the 8th woman in Canada will be sexually having to visit college or university.

The study found that 60% of Canadian students who would have begun to make sexual proximity to girls if they knew that their attempts would remain unpunished.

To stop constant violence against women, it is necessary to produce radical changes in the social and cultural life of people. Culture piety is extremely necessary: \u200b\u200bmodesty in clothing, in a conversation, in the habits of both men and women, in other respects. Sad statistics makes thinking. Single women are horses of this lightman. In essence, we suffer all. As Jebrran Khalil Jebrran said: "... the receiving strikes differs from who considers them."

Society, like France, which expelled young women from schools because of their aspiration to wear pious clothes, ultimately, it just hurts himself. This consists of one of the bitter irony of the modern world - the attitude to the same thing of the female headdress in different cultures varies significantly. In some cases, a handkerchief on the head of a woman is worshiped as a sign of holiness, when Catholic nuns are put on, and in others - the brave sign as a sign of oppression, when Muslim women are worn for reasons of modesty and piety.

Sharif Abdel Azim.
doctor of the Philosophy of the Royal University,

Relationship between men and women in society

In Islamic society, spirit reigns both individual and collective responsibility in front of Allah, outlined borders for human behavior. In pursuance of this principle, Islam takes strict measures to comply with the purity and integrity of its members and institutions, especially families. Recall that Islam protects the honor and dignity of a woman and demands that they treat it with respect. Its sexuality should in no way be operated, and it is impossible to treat it as a "object of sex"; It should be treated as a person, whose sexuality is not the subject of her relationship with anyone, except for her husband. He not only has the exclusive right to the sexual accessibility of his wife, but also should not share with any other man's beauty and female attractiveness. The same rule applies in the opposite direction as the exclusive right of his wife for sexual relations with her husband, with the exception of a polygamic marriage, when every wife has an equal right to her husband in all aspects. Being based on these general rules, Islam established some principles for regulating the relationship between floors and control the sexual behavior of Muslims.

The first of these principles is a ban on the free communication of men and women. Such always believes if only it does not pursue important and legitimate goals, but it is just for fun or pleasure from the company's diverse. For this reason, in many countries of the Muslim world of school, colleges, hospitals, public transport have special branches for women and men.

Houses are often built in such a way that a visitors' male meets and escorts a man in a living room, and a woman at this time performs homework in a daily dress, and the visitor does not see it and in no way causes it any inconvenience. Similarly, a woman has a circle of their friends, and they are not found with members of the male family.

The separation feature between the permissibility and incorrectness in the communication of people of opposite floors is publicity. In other words, to meet and communicate a man and a woman, theoretically capable of marrying, it is allowed only in public, if there is a training, professional or working need to. They can communicate as a person with a man. As a man with a woman, they can communicate only if they intent to get acquainted with the aim of subsequent marriage. If there is no such intention and suggestions, their communication with each other as a man with a woman's sinful woman.

The second principle is that if such communication still occurs, both men and women must adhere to life in their speeches, views and behavior. Obviously, a woman either can be a business and purposeful or must be all explicit and implicit ways to show their sexuality in communicating with a man. The last Muslim women are not allowed. Men should be the same restrained, not to watch purposefully and with interest on women's charms, not to be with a woman playful and "friendly located", not allow any physical contact, and to communicate in a straight and strict manner.

The third principle, regulating the relationship between the floors in Islam, states that a man and a woman who are not married or in close relationship is not allowed to stay with each other alone. In the famous Hadith, the Prophet (may Allah bless him and welcomes) argues: "He who believes in Allah and on the last day, should not be alone with a woman otherwise, as in the presence of her Mahrama, for the Satan will be the third." As eloquently, it is said about what is happening between a man and a woman who remained alone, when the consciousness of their sexuality is sinking, affecting their relationship and forcing them to feel in relation to each other, what they should not feel, perturbing their internal equilibrium And purity and leading them to a possible sin. Thus, even when Muslim or Muslim meets with its future marriage partner, Islam prohibits them to stay alone, so that there was no temptation and the opportunity for bad deeds.

The fourth principle is that Muslim must hide attractive forms of their body from a man with a strict apparel. In the family circle, she can dress freely and decorate themselves. Moreover, Islam encourages it in this so that it is attractive for her husband, because her beauty is designed for him. She is also free to do it, being among other Muslim women in the absence of men. But outside your home, as well as in the presence of men who are not marsham (even at home), she is obliged to wear a hiding apparel, so that everyone who sees her understood that she is a decent, modest and honest woman and in no way seeks to demonstrate their sexuality .

Complete Muslim woman, wearing modest clothes, symbolizing her femininity, but hiding her sexuality, deserves respect for men.

The Islamic concept of femininity can be best understood precisely in such a context. Respect and status that the Muslim woman uses is determined not to her physical attractiveness and participation in social life on a par with a man, and her piety and the desire to hide their beauty and sexuality, their female charm and keep them for the man with whom it is married . In fact, Islam instructs Hijab not only to protect society from the negative action of uncontrolled sexual attraction and protecting the honor and dignity of a woman, but also to neutralize her sexuality so that the woman is positive, constructive, and not malicious power in society. Thanks to her humble dress and the respectfulness, men may relate to it as a person, and not as a sexual object, that is, its value for society is determined not by its physical attractiveness, but solely with its human advantages. Therefore, becoming older, Muslim and does not lose its value as in his own eyes, and in the eyes of society, that for Muslims the value of a woman, as well as men, increases with age as they accumulate wisdom and life experience, not decreasing with fading Youth and beauty. For a Muslim woman, a source of public respect and status is its character and personal qualities, its modesty and dignity, piety and education and her role of his wife and mother, and not sexual attractiveness and relaxed communication with men.

Islamic doctrine, therefore, inspires both women and men, a strong spirit of shyness, restraint and modesty in the presence of representatives of the opposite sex (and of course, if we talk about modesty, then in the presence of the same sex), which is a very solid obstacle for obscenity. Conscious Muslim also scrupulously, as well as his Muslim sister, refrain from everything that can lead it to forbidden, and from what can humiliate him in his own eyes or in front of his Lord; His clothes and manners indicate that he has self-esteem and deprived of unworthy intentions and desires. In short, chastity, modesty and purity are not just external restrictions established by religion, but rather internal qualities that cherishes and seeks to preserve as a genuine Muslim and sincere Muslim.

From here it becomes clear why Muslims are generally difficult to get used to modern Western customs. Conscious Muslims arriving in the countries of the West or living there, often to the depths of the soul amazing the complete absence of shame and modesty, since society does not condemn illegal sexual relations. They regard the open demonstration of the body and causing sexual behavior as manifestations, degrading human personality. They are also very sad for the fact that in Western society, a sexy background can be viewed in a variety of cases of communication between a man and a woman, witnessing what they often have to be. For example, it is visible in communication between the teacher and a student, a doctor and a patient, the head and its secretary, between neighbors, friends and even relatives, which manifests itself in obscene jokes, compliments, pattering on shoulder and constant hints of a sexual nature.

Among the Muslims, with the exception of some others living in the "Western" spirit and some other, mostly confused with the right path of young people, such behavior is truly rare. The relationship between the men and women who fear of Allah and strictly observe his limitations are built completely differently. Compliance with these restrictions makes both a man and a woman to understand that their relationship should not even be a hint of sex; Any hints of this kind are perceived as a threat and the greatest insult and make further communication for the forbidden and impossible. For conscious Muslims, attention from the representative of the opposite sex (excluding his own spouse), manifested through free conversation, compliments, playfulness, ambiguous comments, all kinds of touches (including handshakes and patters on the shoulder) and everything else having a sexual attack is offensive , humiliating and very believed.

Summing up, let's say that Islam considers sexual attraction a very influential element of human nature, which is manifested at the slightest convenient case. If there are no principles and limitations similar to those discussed above, there is no certainty that it will not be outside the pervolored. This attraction naturally will look for ways of free manifestation that we are watching in Western society. Conscious of his strength and constant presence in any situation of free communication of a man and a woman alone, Islam prohibits such communication, because much more effectively, as, however, and really, to prevent the temptation, rather than count that people themselves can resist him while The circumstances are favorable.

Islam also insists that a person has the right to have a spouse belonging to him only, that is, that, the body of which the eyes or hands of others did not enjoy the body. He fully rejects the view that the criterion of the true and false is accepted by the feelings of people in relation to each other or the pleasure received from communication, as well as the admissibility of the prevalence of an unbridled desire to satisfy animal desires. Moral and spiritual damage caused by people to themselves, and consequently, the society when they neglect the vital necessity of a person clean and integrity, following the blind physical aspirations, can not be assessed by anyone, except for Allah, who unequivocally and completely banned this and notified us about terrible punishments for this in the future life.

understanding questions

I am going to Moscow for a long time. I am young and not married. What should I do?

In any case, anywhere you need to be a God-fearing. If you are afraid that you can get in Moscow in great sin, then you are extremely undesirable to go there. Our prophet taught us how to act in such cases: "Who can, let him get married, and who can't, let him observe the post." Therefore, if you are still forced to go, I will comply with and ask the Most High Allah forces, patience and protection from sins. Let the god budget and strong Iman accompany you.

Can a unmarried woman meet with a married man (if they love each other very much), or must you collect all your strength and give up these relationships? I do not know what to do in this case. I understand everything, I know that it is wrong, but you will not order the heart ...

Muslims should not build their relationship in a similar way. In the event that it is difficult to abandon such meetings, you must conclude anyone. And the fact that the man is married is not an obstacle to marriage.

I am very in love with one married female Christian. She constantly admits to me in his feelings, I answer her that I also love, so as not to injure her, although it is not. How to act in this case?

First, you must stop lying to her. Allah speaks in the sacred Quran: "And who will deceive - will come with what he deceived, on the day of the court. Then everyone will be delighted with any soul that she acquired" (3: 161). Secondly, you need to stop with it at all any communication, otherwise you are at risk of taking serious sins.

When I was 18 years old, I loved my colleague. I just lost peace, despite the fact that he was older than 3 years old, has a wife and 7 children. Soon we got married. At that time I was engaged, but I refused to my former bridegroom. His spouse did not interfere with us, as it lives in another country.

We have been together for 3.5 years. Our relationship is no longer a secret. His son even works with us. However, a new problem arose.

In connection with my work, I have to communicate a lot. Our company was going to purchase their products from one Pakistani firm. I met the head of this company. Starting to correspond on the Internet, we have become best friends as a brother and sister. I told him all about my life.

Soon he began to show a sympathy for me, because of which we had a serious conflict. But he did not leave me, even called my husband and his son. This guy does not want to recognize my marriage with an adult man who already has one wife. He claims that I should not be the second wife, as it is a sin, and I wanted to come to pick me up. He is also very pretty for me, moreover, I think I love him. All this gives me huge suffering, I feel guilty.

On the one hand, we live with my husband in accordance with the Sharia. I am very admiring them and think that it is not entitled to bring him offense. After all, I do not even have the right to desire any relationship with another man. I also respect his wife, who has a big heart, having resigned by the fact that he is married to me.

On the other hand, a non-native young guy who loves me very much and worries me, ready to endure everything. He even began to learn Russian for me. He advised me to contact my problem to Alim. I believe that I make sin, even communicating with this guy.

To date, I do not know what to do. However, I'm sure I won't be able to leave my husband. I guess I go crazy.

A young man who offers you to leave a legitimate spouse, launched Shaitan. This person did not have the right even to offer married him. Such people Sharia calls confused.

In Hadith, it was said that the person who separated spouses would be one of those who even sit down from the Prophet (peace and blessing) on \u200b\u200bthe day.

I loved and love one Muslim woman, I wanted to marry her. She loved me very much too. Unfortunately, it came to oral sex before making marriage in Sharia.

However, she recently left, and we have not seen one and a half months. After arrival, the girl announced that he was married to another Muslim. At the same time, she said that he did not like him and that if he knew about our relationship with her, it would not marry her. Should I tell him about what was between us, so he did not be deceived?

You shouldn't tell anyone about your relationship with this girl. On the contrary, you need to hide what was, for Allah will hide the shortcomings of the one who hides the mistakes of the other.

At the same time, if we are talking about a vicious girl who does not regret the deed and leads a slutty lifestyle, then in case you ask for its shortcomings, you can get married on it, you can tell him about what happened. At the same time, it is necessary to pursue the goal to protect the young man from the error, that is, so that he does not suffer from such a woman.

Will marriage be a valid if intimate relationships took place before the wedding by ignorance?

Such a marriage will be valid. In addition, people guilty in such a sin must be repeated before Most High and ask him for forgiveness.

Does the Shariyate allow the hymenoplasty (recovery of virginity)?

According to Islam's norms, it is unacceptable to perform an operation to restore the virgin splava. In the overwhelming majority of cases, this is done in order to introduce a future misleading husband. In Hadith, it is said: "Who is lying to us - that is not from us."

Virginity is not a prerequisite for Sharia marriage (nicknames). The presence of sexual relationships of the girl before the adoption of Islam cannot serve as a reason for reproaches to its address. It has the right not to talk about the cause and circumstances of what happened. By the will of Allah, if a Muslim who has once become cold, sincerely repent, then she will find their happiness without resorting to the unauthorized.

Is communication with representatives of the opposite sex on the Internet?

The admissibility of communication of this kind depends on the topics discussed. It is permissible to talk about Islam, about religious duties and rules (even with women consisting of marriage). In addition, it is allowed to discuss the necessary issues of life, etc.

Forbidden for discussion with representatives of the opposite sex, which are not close relatives (Makhram), are all topics that can lead interlocutors to sin.

I am Muslim, Tatarka. I am 18 years old, I study in the first year of the university. I recently met a young man, Muslim, he was 28 years old. He was never married.

In our relationship there are not even conversations about the forbidden. We just meet, go to the movies. But it turned out that my parents against our relationship with him. There are many reasons for this, first of all its age, as well as my youth.

Thanks to this young man, I started making Namaz, although not five times a day. Nevertheless, when it is possible, I try not to miss prayer, especially in the morning. Help, please, I advice. How should I do in this situation?

The fact that this person taught you to make Namaz cannot serve as a basis for the actions prohibited by Allah. Young people who are not married, is forbidden to communicate and even more wish to go to the movies. If you love each other, seriously look at the relationship with this person and want to marry him, you must remember that everything happens according to the predetermination of Allah. Therefore, if you are prescribed to the Almighty, then no one can prevent this. Maybe your parents today oppose your relationship, but then change their mind and come to another solution.

In the Holy Hadith, it is said: "The one who loves anyone and hiding his feeling will preserve the chastity, manifesting patience, will be forgiven the Most High for his sins and will enter the paradise."

For all your time, do not stop hoping for the mercy of the Most High and ask him for help in this matter.

Can an unmarried girl acquaint his sisters with brothers in faith only for marriage?

Maybe, especially in the conditions of Russia, where it is very difficult to find a believer satellite or life companion. Communication between men and women, young men and girls maybe "in the necessary and forced situations just like between people."

Canonical warning enters into force when communication becomes "communication between opposite sexes." Those who wish to enter into marriage can communicate and look at each other as representatives of different floors, but as soon as they understand that in this acquaintance there is no prospects for the marriage union, they need to hint at each other and stop communicating, so as not to get beyond the borders of sin and in The same time to give others the opportunity to get acquainted with the intention of marriage or marriage.

Shamil Alautdinov

Is it possible to get a woman with men by the hand? If yes, then who should be the first to stretch your hand?

A woman can be adopted by a hand with close relatives, with whom the marriage (father, son, brother, etc.) is prohibited, but it is forbidden to be forbidden. The first hand stretches the younger.

When we go in urban transport, especially - at peak hours, men and women are forced to cuddle towards each other - so tightly that there is no free space between them. Will a person be responsible for being in such a situation?

Sheikh Ahmed Kutti, Senior Lecturer and Specialist from the Islamic Institute of Toronto (Ontario, Canada) writes about this:

"In such situations, first of all, it is worth searching for alternative opportunities that would allow you to avoid close physical contact with representatives of the opposite sex. Think, for example, can you change the opening hours, route or travel time (avoiding the hour of peak). If you can afford that -Lo from this, then do this.

However, if you do not have such possibilities, it is permissible to use the transport, but you should try not to focus on the opposite sex representatives. For this, think about something abstract, resort to zikru (remembering Allah). Try to achieve this condition in which you will not feel the difference between the neighbor (neighbor) standing next to you (neighbor) and the subject of furniture.

If you have done everything that depends on you, thereby fulfilled our religious debt, and leave the rest of the Most High. The Quran contains ayat with this meaning: "Allah does not impoverish anything except for it" (2: 286). Our task is to exercise God-fearing.

Ask for help from Allah to avoid temptations. Remember: "And whoever relies on Allah, it is sufficient for that" (65: 3).

To be continued

Love and sex in Islam: Collection of articles and feet. - M.: Publishing House "Ansar", 2004. - 304 pp.

Of course, with our mentality, Islam is unlikely to be friends. But the history and rules of Muslims can be interesting to everyone, at least because of the big differences from the obstacles that are familiar to us.

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Islam is the youngest of the three Abrahamic religions, which appeared on one and a half thousand years later, Judaism and six centuries later than Christianity. This religious version was created by Arab from Clan Kurayshitov, a resident of Mecca Mohammed Ibn Abdallah.

Mohammed was born in 570, left without his father before his birth, he lost his mother at six and led the sad life of a orphan. Some relatives took care about him, and in general, no one had no special case before him. He did not receive any education, did not learn, read and not learned, did not become good warrior, but he became a merchant. Soon the pretty and modest young man noted the rich widow of the Hadija, who was over his fifteen years older. She sent a matchmaker to Mohammed, and he, naturally, did not hesitate for a long time. So he received at his disposal not only the means, but also, apparently, a reliable friend and the counselor. With Hadiji's life, he never changed her, always treated his wife with love and reverence.

When Mohammed was forty years old, he said that Archangel Gabriel began to be, and transfer the words of the Lord. Messages were mainly a rather naive retelling of the Old and Partly New Testament (the benefit with Judaism and Christianity Arabs were very well familiar), were fertilized by Eastern eloquence and deep-minded reasoning about the topical events of the then Mecca. These words Mohammed conveyed fellow citizens - the Quran was created. The fellow citizens naturally raised Mohammed on laughter at first, then when the prophet of the serving of them, kicked him out of the city. But with this they were late: by that time Mohammed managed to collect enough supporters around him.

I must say, the prophets in Mecca was then a lot. There was no own full religion from Arabs, they believed who was much more, and in the Kaaba temple there were more than three hundred statues of a wide variety of gods. At the same time, the Jewish and Christian influence in the last centuries was more and more took over the top of her net paganism, so that those who wanted to bring order here abundantly.

But Mohammed turned out to be the most eloquent, persistent and talented. After a series of bloody skirmishes with the Meccans, he returned to the city by the winner, let all the bullies left for the knife (he did not like his gloomy poets), surrounded himself a crowd of fanatically loyal supporters, married nine (according to other information - by 11, 18 and even 25) Women and girls from the most influential clans and began to build a new society.

He rules, exterminating enemies and delighting fellow citizens, all new prescriptions and laws, which were a bizarre combination of traditional Arab standards, the laws of Moses, the requirements of the sanity and personal preferences of the Prophet (for example, he was incredibly squeaming and choppeden, so that personal hygiene became one of the most important Components of Islam). In 632, Mohammed died, creating a powerful Islamic community by that time. To the Koran (texts dictated directly by Mohammed) was added Sunna - memories of the words and actions of the prophet, recorded from the words of his relatives and loved ones. Both of these sources are considered the basis of Islam.

At the moment, approximately one and a half billion Muslims live in the world.

Is Islam only religion?

Islam is a set of ideas about the world, state and social device, legal system and a reference book of ethical norms. No religion in the world, even Christianity, never regulated so powerfully social life and the state system. Therefore, the opponents of Islam always indicate its dangerous feature - the unpretentiousness remains a clean faith, an particular idea that can take care of any environment and adapt to it.

Unfortunately, any real Muslim must agree that the most proper lifestyle at any time is the installation of half-blooded Arabs of the VII century, since no modernization and reformations in Islam are provided: the Quran and Sunna are given once and for all, they can be tried to interpret On the new way, but you can not argue with them.

They have a book that is the only law for them. And if the law says that anyone who spreads Hulu on Islam must die, then European civilization can only bury the Teo Van Mogs and to hide the Salmanov Rushdi, condemn the Danish cartoonists and send complaints of Petitions to Iran on how bad to hang out small children on Lifting cranes.

Moderate Muslim can not be. If he is moderate - he is not a Muslim. The one who refuses to throw stones in the adultery violates the direct order of the Prophet, and do not forget that "Islam" means "obedience."

What is impossible to Muslim

1. There is a pork, as well as meat of any predatory animals and birds

All other livelies can be, but only provided that it was not killed by a current or a club, and the name of Allah was not killed by pronounce. But there is a reservation: there is no sin on a person, if he does not know that he accidentally ate the animal not put or wrongly killed.

There is a special Hadith al-Bukhari, who says that the Muslim should not ask the inners about the origin of the meat submitted to him, just whisper to himself "Bismillahi" and there is anything with a calm conscience. Therefore, if a Muslim sits at the table, it is not necessary, even from the best feelings, with the scream "It is impossible to you! There Pig! " Pick out of his mouth sausage or kelid. After such awareness, he will already be forced to eat exclusively with all the radister, looking around you.

2. Drink wine

Mohammed did not immediately inform compatriots about the full ban. At the beginning of his creative activity in the early sus, he only hinted on the undesirableness of his consumption. But, established in Medina, he already called any intoxicating drinks with "abominating Acts of Shaitan" in full voice and put an absolute ban on them. His statement is known that the first drop of wine is ruined by a person, and for a long time, Muslim alcoholics were filled with a vanka, demonstratively pouring the first drop of wine from the charm and with a calm soul consuming everything remaining. But the theologians of the Middle Ages condemned this custom.

Now in most Muslim countries, the sale and consumption of alcohol is completely prohibited. Drugs, as those relating to "intoxicating", too.

3. Watch on the female body, excluding the face and brush hands

If only this woman does not have his wife, sister, daughter or mother.

4. Visit the public bath and wear shorts

Not only a female, but also a male body (though, just from the navel to the knees) is considered "ARRAT" - forbidden for others, if only this person is not your blood relative. It is impossible to look at this obscenence categorically, and you need to hide the subsemore soda from prying eyes.

5. Hold dogs

Their saliva, wool and footprints are recognized as unclean, ockering and man, and clothing. Since each Muslim is obliged to pray five times a day, staying in the "unknown" form, the dog of the house, naturally, indicates that its owner can only be a fear, whose prayers are invalid: after all, microparticles of saliva and wool cannot be avoided. Therefore, in Sharia for the maintenance of the house of dogs, it is quite possible to be in prison on charges of "insulting Islam".

In Iran and Saudi Arabia, for example, regularly conduct raids by catching secret dog lines. And in the UK, police dogs have to wear rubber boots if their work is required for the inspection of mosques or Muslim apartments.

6. Marry pebents

It is advisable to marry Muslims, but men marriage are also allowed with representatives of the "people of the book", that is, with Jews and Christians (a Muslim woman can go out only for Muslim). Atheishers and tongues of Muslim wives can not.

7. Play gambling

They are also satanic abuse, insulting Islam. At the same time, it is not only about the money game (naturally, any casino and lottery in Islamic countries are prohibited categorically). Often, games in which you can play without money are on the analysis of the laws - for example, backgammon or chess. For their occasion, spears still break, while in most countries they are not prohibited - provided that the players are not late for Namaz, "not too hot with the game" and do not play during the sacred month of the post - Ramadan.

8. Give money in debt under the percentage

On this topic, the Prophet, who was injured at one time from the greed of the Bimodavtsev, spoke categorically: those who give money under the percentage will burn in the fire with a restless. In this regard, the modern Islamic banking is an incredibly confusing thing, where it is customary to consider the lender by a trading transaction, where all bank depositors are trading parties sponsoring specific operations in equity participation and where the trait itself will be broken, trying to disassemble some of the participants Wakhatalia He has the right to pick up in hell, and who still managed to stay clean before the requirements of Sharia.

9. Wearing Silk Clothes, Gold and Silver

The prophet's words are given in Sunna that Silk, Silver and Gold is "Haram" (forbidden) for men, His Ummah (women of these excesses are allowed, provided that they will not "confuse foreign"). Persdet and Muslim Rings can wear only steel, gold and silver lighters and handles, he also has no right to use.

10. Rip the eyebrows

Moreover, "the one that tries" should be subjected to a strict "exhortation" from her husband.

11. Launching the armpits

But the armpits and pubes are definitely necessary to shave (or epilac) at least once in forty days - both a man and a woman. And who does not do this, that big sinner.

12. Picture people

The image of "idols" in all seven were considered as an act blasphemy, since, first of all, the man is trying to cuddle God in this way, and secondly, it will begin to still pray for this nasty - otherwise what was it to sculpt it?

Mohammed persistently demanded that all the statues obtained from military prey could certainly cut off their heads. So sculptural art, a clear case, did not fit in the Arab territories. For one day, Mohammed allowed Muslim children to play with toys like people and animals (and here the little Muslims were lucky much more than small Jews, which are deprived of this pleasure). Thanks for it, you need to say the nine-year-old wife of the Prophet Aisa, who moved to the house of his elderly husband, along with all his dolls and the "horse with wings", which was especially humming Mohammed.

But with painting everything is more complicated. Portraits of real people, historical persons, as well as painting "with shadows", which creates a relief likeness of reality, are strictly prohibited. Flat images of imaginary people are more tolerant, animals are allowed, but not too desirable, and landscapes, vegetation and geometric ornaments can be drawing without any restrictions.

13. Stay alone with a woman if she is not his wife or relative, or touch her

This ban is especially decorated with the life of a modern Islamic megalpolis. The fact that stadiums, cinema halls and public transport must be strictly divided into women's and men's parts, has long been not subject to discussion. Now, the possibility of introducing individual sidewalks for persons of different sexes is performed. Visiting stores, bazaars and all sorts of public events is incredibly dangerous in the sense of desecrating the opposite sex.

On the stadiums and women's restaurants you can simply not let, but, for example, when in some regions of Pakistan for women made forbidden urban markets, even among the most god-fearing segments of the population began to be timidly, but protests. Many noisy merry merchants and the famous Fetwa of the Egyptian theologians of Al-Azhara by attached and Abdel Majdi Abdel Kadera, according to which a woman can work with a man in one office only if she feed him at least five times, thus becoming his milk mother .

Egypt, as one of the most secular states with the Islamic population, often faces the fact that modern realities correlate poorly with the requirements of Islam, but even there the idea of \u200b\u200bmaking officials to allow their male colleagues did not seem like a stupid joke - they were seriously discussed a few months.

14. Adopt children

The complex position of orphans in Islam is explained by the fact that the once Mohammed decided to marry Zeynab - a very attractive young lady, on which his adoptive son of Zeid was married. From the point of view of the Arabs, such a marriage would certainly be bleast mixing, as on the daughters, even divorced, it was impossible to marry, as Mohammed himself reported to that repeatedly. I had to Archangel Gabriel to deliver a special report to the Prophet, which said that Orthodox could not be other sons, except for blood. Therefore, the adoption of Sharia does not recognize.

Syrota can be taken on education - provided that the child leaves the former name, the family does not pretend to be his parents, and he himself is not their heir. But even such a form of guardianship in Muslim families is difficult, since before the boy from six years his guardian will have to appear only in the Hijab, which is very difficult at home, and will not have the right to touch him, and the father should not have one In the room with her pupil.

And this is not a complete list of prohibitions with which Muslim business is forced to deal

Islam is the religion of the regulations, which does not consider below its dignity to intervene in the most insignificant, it would seem that the little things of a person's life - from cleaning the nails to the pattern on the pillows. And in those countries where the state is not separated from the mosque, non-compliance with this regulation can lead to a very tragic consequences for the breath.

In Sharia, there is a concept as "Hudud". It is punished for crimes against morality, public order and for non-fulfillment of religious duties. Violation of any of the above prohibitions and hundreds of other similar similarities is always a reason for Hudud, depending on the zeal of religious authorities and ships in the city where a person lives.

Punishment in Sharia, alas, also borrowed from the times of Mohammed. In addition to quite modern fines and prisons, Islam's criminal law is eaten by corporal punishments, cutting off parts of the body and very sophisticated mortal executions like dropping from the cliff and crushing the stone wall.

Islamic split

Think that all Muslims are hot like-minded people, not worth it. Like any body, Islam still keeps the twigs (let him and forbidden to develop), two of which are already so powerful that they shared the Muslim world for irreconcilable parts: Sunnites and Shiites.

Sunnites are nine out of ten Muslims. Their main difference from Shiites is that they do not believe in the spiritual superiority of Imams - the descendants of Mohammed, representatives of his kind. They also do not recognize the special position of the priests, limit the legal rights of theologians and are much more orthodox Muslims than shiites, preferring in any decisions to follow Mohammed's prescriptions and does not rely on their own conclusions.

Shiites believe that only imams can be spiritual leaders (Muslim community) in the divine law of inheritance - the descendants of the cousin Mohammed, Abutaleba. At the same time, they are much less orthodoxes than the Sunnis, the solutions of modern Imams in Shiites can practically contradict the prescriptions of the Quran and Sunna. Most Shiites live in Iran, Azerbaijan, Iraq, Lebanon and Yemen.

Women in Islam

With no matter how touched on Islamic sites about "our noble friends", "beautiful wives" and "delicate sisters", but even a superficial acquaintance with Islamic laws about women does not leave a stone on the stone from the faith in the fact that in Islam a woman at least In something equal to a man.

1. The girl gets less inheritance from his parents than a boy.

2. The girl can be married at nine years (although under pressure from the public in many Muslim countries, the marriage age is slowly raised). On nine years, it can be imprisoned and executed for crimes against morality.

The boy is legally considered a child until they achieve fifteen years.

3. The wife does not have the right to raise his hand on her husband, and the husband has the right to beat his wife (but not affecting the face and is not too cruel, so that there are no scars left, this is a literal instruction of the prophet).

4. A woman does not have the right to go outside without the resolution of her husband, father or guardian. Also without their permission, it has no right to work or learn.

5. A woman has no right to host guests at home without a husband's resolution (even if it is her parents).

6. The wife has no right to refuse her husband in proximity. Husband, if he is angry with his wife, has the right to "take her away from bed."

7. A man can have up to four wives and, moreover, concubines from among his servants. A woman can have only one husband.

As for the fact that the crimes against morality are more often executed by women, then it is necessary to understand the nuances of the Sharia Justice. The fact is that the prophet immediately gave several instructions on adulterers. In one case, he just offered to keep them under house arrest. In the second, he said that one hundred pleti would be sufficient punishment for sinners. But there is a hadice, which tells how Mohammed ordered to bury a man and a woman who had repeated in adultery, and beat them with stones. This divergence of many centuries occupies the minds of Islamic theologians, and in different countries there are different punishments: somewhere executed only married adulterers and their lovers, somewhere - and unmarried.

But the fact is that to condemn the suspect in this crime, four witnesses are required, which would have been confirmed that they saw adultery with their own eyes. Since with such a number of witnesses committed rarely, a man is quite simple not to admit that he was engaged in illegal sex. And even if the woman points to him, the court will not accept its testimony into account. Women did not help: too often, they are issued by the physiological features of the body - the absence of virgin splava or pregnancy from unmarried.

Than Islam differs from Christianity

He who answers "everyone" did not guessed. But there are three main provisions on which Christians and Muslims will never find a common language.

1. Christians believe in the Trinity, and Muslims - in a single God. Christian stories about the fact that the Trinity is a single creature, Muslims will mark as a lie of the pagans, which are not enough that they believe in the three gods, so also quite earthly woman Maria also torment in the divine pantheon to suck.

2. Jesus Muslims respect as a prophet, but no more. Allah can not be any sons - only slaves, which we are all.

3. The idea of \u200b\u200boriginal sin, on which Christianity is practically founded, deeply alien to Muslims. We all, from their point of view, are made quite white and fluffy and "go," already independently as they grow up - who is what is much.

Treason in Islam - mortal sin. Chastity and honor women protect. Women's reputation is of great importance. For the accusation of treason, irrefutable evidence is needed. In Islam, speculation and slander are one of the destructive sins.

In many countries of the world, where a woman has equal rights with a man, Muslim traditions equate to despotism in the family. But is it really? Caring for the spiritual world of a person in reading the laws of the Quran and fear of Allah. Muslims are raised to show respect and take care of their honor. They carry customs into society, making it cleaner and noble.

What consequence is a betrayal in Islam? Is Muslim husbands so despotic? In the countries of Sharia, the traditions are adhered to this days and honor. Children raise show respect and obedience to the elders. Grafted values \u200b\u200bChildren carry in adulthood by passing the younger generation.

Woman in Islam plays a special role. She must be a submissive spouse, raise children and keep a household. Be prudent, do not provoke the appearance of other men. For disobedience, the spouse has the right to beat his wife. In other words, intense the Quran is said: a man is dominated in the family. Allah gave him this advantage. Married should not "make sorrows from the hut." If the faithful comes to the spouse, will be beaten. In this way, the husband teaches a negligent satellite. The spouse must show humility and obedience. Almighty allows easy beating without breaking bones. Rassowing wife is the only way to the peaceful settlement of the scandal. Muslim will forgive, because a woman is weak creation.

Knowing the hot blood of men, Allah created laws protecting a weak floor.

It is impossible to just blame the woman in treason. The fact of the Socia should see and confirm four witnesses.

If a lie and a woman is not guilty, the false witnesses will be punished with a leaf. In the future, such candidates will no longer be considered as understood. The corresponding punishment will suffer people who slander a virtuous woman. Even if the husband found the wrong one in the arms of the other, he is obliged to provide trial witnesses. Or did he decide to blame his wife to divorce? Then the retribution will not make himself wait. The court will sentence, and the punishment will be guilty. A truly religious person will not be so good to blame a woman.

It should be clarified that the followers of the prophet is forbidden to spy with each other. Excessive suspicion of sinful. She can push the believer to rapid acts. Address of his wife in Islam is extremely rare. Muslim will not allow to gossip about the spouse. For such a misconduct, he has the right to attract intruders to answer.

A believer Muslim should not keep distrust and suspicion in the soul.

Husbands believe their wives and protect them from slander - this is the truth of the Islamic faith.

If a man decided to divorce, accusing their spouse in treason, without providing a single fact, there will be no execution. Perhaps the behavior of a married provoked to the adoption of such a decision. On this occasion in the Quran it is said about the patience of the spouse and its condescension to the second half. One God is known that a person is good. And if the wrong spouse is sent, it may be given for spiritual perfection.

Address of wife in Islam Theme for reflection. Unfortunately there are husbands that use "treason" as a cause for divorce. Some modern Muslims hiding behind the Quran are divorced with boring women, finding more young ones. But even if the betrayal happened, the Prophet tells to forgive and accept. Moreover, look for the cause of infidelity follows. For treason, severe punishments are provided. But to bring them into execution we need specific evidence.

Allah showed care of a woman, created laws, following which the strong floor produces an excerpt and generosity. All this refers to really religious Muslims. Spouse rules over his wife, having this right. Some men, hiding behind the law, are creating inconsistency. A woman can simply score with the stones, only her husband will declare treason in all. For happiness, Sammood happens extremely rare. In Islam strictly adhere to the rules.

The question arises: if a man did not bring witnesses, perhaps the dissolution of marriage? Yes, in the presence of a mufti or judge. It is desirable that the process takes place in a designed place. At the same time, a certain wording of words is pronounced, combined with special hand movements. After the procedure, the judge declares the cancellation of marriage. A similar divorce does not provide for punishment. From now on, a man removes the obligations to provide a former spouse. Upon completion of the process, a woman remains all that she belonged and was presented.

Treason of her husband

Muslim countries are allowed to have several wives. But if it is polygamy, not adultery. Although the connection with the Investers is not a sin.

In the Shari'a countries, the prophet Muhammad is a model for imitation. The Koran is described the life of the prophet, which, according to various sources, had from 9 to 21 wives. That is, Muslims allowed polygamy. In various Islamic countries there are clarifications about this. For example, in Saudi Arabia, a man may have the number of wives that can provide. The head of the family is obliged to supply his wife and children with everything necessary for life. If the financial condition of Mr. is not stable, then you will have to be content.

A man plays a major role in the family and in society. Following the teachings of the Quran, he without a branch of conscience can turn the situation beneficial for himself. In Islam, false is not considered a sin. In order to avoid quarrels and maintaining a marriage, the spouse can lie to his wife, not afraid of anger of Allah. In prayers and repentance, a man will take sin from the soul. An interesting fact - prayers pass 5 times a day. Treason her husband in Islam is the same mortal sin. If he committed adultery, some prayers will be little. Wine guilt will help sincere regret and repentance.

Holy Scripture admits a lie to achieve goods. Do not listen to sweet words from extraneous or strangers, they provoke to sinful fall. It is cool easily, wash off a shame difficult.

What makes his wife suspecting her husband in betrayal?

According to Muslim laws, the spouse must pray for the soul of the sinned husband. A man who violated vows loyalty understands the essence of the situation, but cannot refuse temptation. The faithful and loving spouse will help her husband to return peace in his heart. Wisdom should be shown and save the family. With love and care she will give the power to her husband to grow spiritually and be a decent Muslim. It happens the man stumbled and sincerely repent of what happened. Almighty will hear his prayers. A realized guilt must redeem the sin of good deeds and prayers. Having spent strength to strengthen the family, the culprit can deserve the forgiveness of Allah.

What if the husband changes constantly? If the victim does not want to divorce, you need to gain strength and patience. It is better to do it, to pay attention to appearance. Smart, well-groomed lady is able to awaken outward feelings.

Adultery out of marriage

For treason in Islam, people who did not consist in marriage bonds are punished. Muslim girls, entering into marriage, should be immaculate. If the virginity is broken, the young wife is discharged into the house of the Father, where she is prior to the sentencing. The death penalty will comprehend the maiden and her seducer. The Koran is punished for slander on an innocent young man. By accusing without the evidence of a virtuous young man, the conspirator will be beaten with a lamb.

Over the centuries, Muslim traditions remain unchanged. A woman does not leave the house without escort. By doing so, the lady will not provoke an incomplete act of God and will not give rise to foul language.

In the modern world, the accusation of infidelity is considered by the court in the presence of four men. Witnesses must have an impeccable reputation. They are interrogated separately if their readings are confused, instead of witnesses they become suspects. If, at the end of the investigation, their wines will be proved, the respondents will receive 80 shocks. In the event that the husband did not arrive at the court, he will also suffer punishment.

Betrayal is always pain, the pain of loss of something special. Some adapt to live with this feeling, others will never resign with him. Just learn to appreciate what is given over and do not forget that lose much easier than finding.